What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[LikeableMe]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

No.
Yes, but they’re wrong, or want something.
If one is lowest, I’ll go with that.
I’ve only ever considered one man sexy, it was because I fell for his personality and the connection. Those are what made him irresistibly sexy to me.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

Not really. There was a time when I felt I was in years gone by. (Typical long dishwater blond hair, blue eyes, good build)

Yes, I'm told I'm sexy. Mostly by people who've never seen me, so it must be based on other things, and its much appreciated.

1-100 I'll say a 30 maybe?

Personality, and sense of humor, those are tops for me. A nice figure (I like curves) helps but isnt critical.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

- Not particularly.
- Historically it has happened. But recently it's not been so often.
- Deacon's gotta score higher than me, so I'll put myself at a 23/100.
- Attitude and enthusiasm count for a lot. Sexiness also tends to only happen for me within an emotional connection, so that's got to be there as well.

 

[ydahecnot]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

Not particularly.

Some have here, not so much IRL

Anywhere from 30 to 50

Smart, sense of humor, inventive, likes spending time

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I'm curious about how many of you let Lit into your real life. Like your family or friends know about lit friends?

My husband and a few close friends know about Lit and about my friends here. Other friends and some family know that I have friends in different parts of the world whom I have met online.

I’m nosy about the people who are on Lit who say they are “happily married”. Are you really?

I guess that depends on their definition of "happily married" and their assessment of the current state of their marriage. I believe that the definition will be a bit different for every person. I also think that the definition can change over time.

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

About 60% of the time, I do. I think sexy is as much an attitude as anything else.
Some do.
On average, I'd say a 50... and I don't think that I am sexier than Fara, so I think she scored herself too low.
Intelligence - both intellectual and emotional. Humor. Quiet confidence. A curious and adventurous nature.

 

[saustin5432]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

I have to caveat this....physically:
- I think I'm pretty average
- On occasion
- Whatever comes out to the average....that's probably me
- Their ability to channel some of their attitude and internal sexiness outward. I find there are some people that just exude sexy and it really has nothing to do with their looks relative to some manual of levels of sexiness. Confidence in their body goes a long way. If you know you're sexy, I'm probably going to see it.

non-physically;
- I think I'm probably above average, if there were ever a way to express a lack of confidence in my own self assessment.
- Yes, but only those that I have some chemistry with. I'm sure I'm the antithesis of sexy for some people.
- Definitely in the 90th percentile...but again, only those that experience me would know it.
- Intellect, ability to carry on a conversation. Knowing the meaning of ensorcelled without looking it up, lol. Nothing is sexier than a quick wit behind a bright smile.

 

[saustin5432]

All good no worries. No "fuck off" coming from me haha. I was the one who said it for all the world to see.

I am sure you are right, in everything you say. But, i dont mean to speak for anyone else but i dont think i am the only one in this situation, the right thing to do isnt necessarily the easy thing to do. Should we tell each other exactly how we feel? Absolutely!!! Would that be better for all in the long run? For sure it would!!! Is is going to happen??? Doubtful, because it would be hard...

Thanks. I'll let you know when I become a licensed therapist...until then, I should probably not give advice.

 

[saustin5432]

I'm simply too lazy to multi-quote...but there is a lot of poor self-assessment going on here. You're all sexy in my book and need to give yourselves more credit. Own your brand of sexy and bring it to the world!

 

[Daisy_Love]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

Ahaha, nope, it makes me laugh just thinking about it.
They do but I tend to take it with a pinch of salt depending on who’s saying it.
Hmmm I’d say definitely on the low side in general but at times *wiggles eyebrows*
The person as a whole, the whole package as it were, genuine, intelligent, open, empathic and that something that you can’t quite put your finger on but every time you see them, hear them etc your whole being just wants more.

 

[Orchidea73]

Of course, now I struggle with the construct of marriage. Why do we need a contract with someone we love that usually leads to extra hurt when it doesn't work out. Why can't I love you, desire you, cohabitate with you, have and raise kids all without the moral guardrails that were frankly developed out of organized religion and converted into a government contract. I probably should get off my soapbox. Sorry.

Because it has its benefits for people and the society as a whole. It is not about love but it regulates duties and responsibilities, among other things, and rightly so. It's an institution as there are many that we have created as a civilized society. Not to mention that many people do want to put an official seal, so to speak, to their bond. And there is nothing wrong with that.

I am saying this as a person who never wanted to marry myself. But I do appreciate the institution and see the goodness in it.

 

[Orchidea73]

Ahaha, nope, it makes me laugh just thinking about it.
They do but I tend to take it with a pinch of salt depending on who’s saying it.
Hmmm I’d say definitely on the low side in general but at times *wiggles eyebrows*

STFU! You are sexy as hell. Annnd you should know it.

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

No, not even on a good day.
Some on here have, but they honestly don't know what they're talking about.
1
Their personality, imagination, how they act and treat others.

 

[AveryElle]

I feel like, with e-boning (what a term...), the question on 'is this cheating?' can very much be viewed as relative, with not just 'do I think it is?' but also 'does my in-person partner/s think it is?' being important factors.

Yep. And many people are in denial about what their real life partner would say or do if they discovered what was happening behind their back.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I'm simply too lazy to multi-quote...but there is a lot of poor self-assessment going on here. You're all sexy in my book and need to give yourselves more credit. Own your brand of sexy and bring it to the world!

STFU! You are sexy as hell. Annnd you should know it.

My thoughts exactly! Thank you both for saying it.

 

[CleverCowardice]

Do you think you’re sexy?

No, Definitely not.

Do others tell you you are sexy?

Not very often, but it has occasionally happened. And, like the asshole with poor self-esteem that I am, I'm immediately suspicious whenever some says or even implies that I'm sexy. Is she being sarcastic? Is it pity and she's merely trying to give my confidence a little boost? Does she just say that shit to everyone, in which case it has no meaning or value? Is she deranged? If someone finds me sexy, there has to be something wrong with them. I'm fine with that - I'm plenty fucked up myself - but I really need to know the why; I can't accept it if I can't make sense of it.

On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you?

Depending on how I feel about myself at a given time, somewhere between 5 and 20.

What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

There are a million little things that I find sexy, but specific characteristics? Wit, playfulness, compassion, honesty, the ability to laugh at oneself, a smutty mind and an open heart, just a smidge of shyness and awkwardness. Ultimately, though, it's all about the chemistry.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I’ll answer my own questions here.

Yes I think I’m sexy. This wasn’t always the case.

Yes, others have told me I’m sexy. It’s because of this that I’ve learned to embrace my sexiness and not dismiss it when someone tells me.

Depending on the day, it can go as low as 40 or as high as 90.

To me, sexiness is all about confidence and chemistry.

 

[AbsintheFather]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

I can relate to your answers.

Being a part of this community has definitely made me feel moreso. I think it's given me more sexual knowledge and confidence and that's been good for me.

Sure, I mean that's part of what this site is about. I think we all build each other up (with a few notable exceptions ) I think openness is sexy, and we have a lot of that here.

Depends on the day . . . a range of 30 to maybe a 60 on a good day.

What makes a person sexy? Ummm . . . a playful, knowing, self-confident disposition. The ability to laugh and tease. Eye contact and a smile. A mutual desire.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Some days I do. It depends on so many different things though. I think it has a lot to do with those I've surrounded myself with also. Positive people, help me look and feel positive. One friend of mine years back. ALWAYS made me feel sexy. The positive energy just flowed.
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On here. Yes. But I take that with a grain of salt. In many cases, a female only has to appear to breathe, to be told she's sexy.
In real life. Barely ever. Besides my husband. He still says it a lot.
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
I would have to go with the middle ground of 50. Just because some days I feel it. Some days I don't.
But like the person above me (who is currently Rainshine, but could change by the time I hit send) We are our own worst enemy/critic. Rainshine is beautiful inside and out, and almost everyone (I say almost cause I haven't seen a million Lit users talk to her) tells her how beautiful she is, tell her how wonderful she is, tell her how beautiful her voice is, but she still looks in the mirror and doesn't see what they say. That I can understand. But it is still hard to see our own beauty. We look in a mirror and only see the faults. Yet we'll excuse those same faults in other women, and tell them how beautiful they are. We are broken and flawed.
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?
Honestly. Humor, personality, confidence. One thing I love about the online world, is the chance to possibly get to know a person for who they are, more than one they look like. My physical characteristics have changed so much as I age.
I want meat on the bones. I like dark hair, light eyes. Nice legs, I love nice arms (to wrap around me) I think more now about the lasting stuff vs stuff that changes over time.

Each day things change. So this can be a super tough question.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

- Intellect, ability to carry on a conversation. Knowing the meaning of ensorcelled without looking it up, lol. Nothing is sexier than a quick wit behind a bright smile.

Damn! Had to look it up. Would you consider my GRE verbal score in lieu?

 

[AngelicaS1780]

On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
I would have to go with the middle ground of 50. Just because some days I feel it. Some days I don't.
But like the person above me (who is currently Rainshine, but could change by the time I hit send) We are our own worst enemy/critic. Rainshine is beautiful inside and out, and almost everyone (I say almost cause I haven't seen a million Lit users talk to her) tells her how beautiful she is, tell her how wonderful she is, tell her how beautiful her voice is, but she still looks in the mirror and doesn't see what they say. That I can understand. But it is still hard to see our own beauty. We look in a mirror and only see the faults. Yet we'll excuse those same faults in other women, and tell them how beautiful they are. We are broken and flawed.
Each day things change. So this can be a super tough question.

I am nosey if, in addition to being harder on ourselves than others, people might have reservations about saying that they think they are sexy because they feel it could reflect poorly on them, that they might be perceived as not being humble enough or realistic in their self assessment.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I am nosey if, in addition to being harder on ourselves than others, people might have reservations about saying that they think they are sexy because they feel it could reflect poorly on them, that they might be perceived as not being humble enough or realistic in their self assessment.

I think you’re right.

 

[AlexBailey]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

I'd do me. Yeah I'm sexy!

I'm kind of like licorice: some people don't like licorice but those who do often really like it.

Some say I'm sexy, others say I'm a freak - both are right.
For those who are into my 'flavor', I've probably peaked the scale at 91 at my best, more like low 80s these days. If they don't like 'licorice' it's N/A.
Sexiness comes in different blends of thoughtfulness, kindness, confidence, activeness, competence, sexual interest, creativity, intelligence... and while I'm a sucker for a hot athletic body, I've also known people who are out of shape but hot AF because of their attitude and other sexy attributes.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am nosey if, in addition to being harder on ourselves than others, people might have reservations about saying that they think they are sexy because they feel it could reflect poorly on them, that they might be perceived as not being humble enough or realistic in their self assessment.

You mean saying what is sexy about ourselves?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'd do me. Yeah I'm sexy!

I'm kind of like licorice: some people don't like licorice but those who do often really like it.

Some say I'm sexy, others say I'm a freak - both are right.
For those who are into my 'flavor', I've probably peaked the scale at 91 at my best, more like low 80s these days. If they don't like 'licorice' it's N/A.
Sexiness comes in different blends of thoughtfulness, kindness, confidence, activeness, competence, sexual interest, creativity, intelligence... and while I'm a sucker for a hot athletic body, I've also known people who are out of shape but hot AF because of their attitude and other sexy attributes.

Honestly. I wish I had this outlook.

 

[saustin5432]

Damn! Had to look it up. Would you consider my GRE verbal score in lieu?

We'd have to take it slow.

I probably did a bad job of saying "sexy" to me is so much more than looks or first impressions.