What is your definition of "bisexual"?

[Stella_Omega]

Looking for a fight, girlsmiley?

I don't blame you, life kinda.. sucks at the moment.

But go find someone bigger to take on. Bullying isn't real useful inside the village walls, so to speak-- aim it at the assholes outside, and give Hottie a chance to find her comfort zone. She wasn't propositioning you, anyway.

 

[Sasha25]

I had a hard enough time (and still do) trying to figure who and what I want and need, I can't really be bothered by what others want and need. Each person is their own.

What I dislike greatly, is anyone who pushes their "self" into my face. It isn't just sexuality, but any aspect of self and belief. I'm more than willing to accept anyone who has taken time (days, months, years, decades) to finally accept themselves and be comfortable. I don't need to justify myself to you to gain your approval. I'm starting to feel like the word "queer" is the only one that really makes any sense to me.

However, it's easier just to say that I'm Sasha, and not have to worry about labels. Labels can be attacked, and are often attacked from many sides. It's harder to attack a name, and that's the best things that defines us. Our names.

I am who I am, and that is hard enough to accept.

 

[girlsmiley]

Looking for a fight, girlsmiley?

I don't blame you, life kinda.. sucks at the moment.

But go find someone bigger to take on. Bullying isn't real useful inside the village walls, so to speak-- aim it at the assholes outside, and give Hottie a chance to find her comfort zone. She wasn't propositioning you, anyway.

No, actually, seems like HM came here for a fight.

And it's so fucking obvious how close you two are, isn't it?

We're getting compared to racists and being told we're discriminating and opressive, and here you are saying, "she wasn't propositioning you anyway"

Fucking grow up. I don't have to take this shit.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I had a hard enough time (and still do) trying to figure who and what I want and need, I can't really be bothered by what others want and need. Each person is their own.

What I dislike greatly, is anyone who pushes their "self" into my face. It isn't just sexuality, but any aspect of self and belief. I'm more than willing to accept anyone who has taken time (days, months, years, decades) to finally accept themselves and be comfortable. I don't need to justify myself to you to gain your approval. I'm starting to feel like the word "queer" is the only one that really makes any sense to me.

However, it's easier just to say that I'm Sasha, and not have to worry about labels. Labels can be attacked, and are often attacked from many sides. It's harder to attack a name, and that's the best things that defines us. Our names.

I am who I am, and that is hard enough to accept.

Concise...very well put. (And also part of the reason I self identify as QUEER) but honestly, I think the thread starter just wanted our definitions of the word BISEXUAL. It's just...I saw the words~ oppression, prejudice~ and went a little hay wire.

I have got to learn to stay on topic...

 

[Sasha25]

I guess my point was that it's obvious each person is going to have a different definition for bisexual. I have some acquaintances who identify themselves in that way, because they have attraction to both men and women.

A point I've made to such friends is that having such a label defines gender as one side or another, which anyone looking at this thread and others would immediate say that it's not that simple. I think bisexual is an inadequate term, regardless of the definition.

I do like arguing semantics on occasion, but I have been attacked for it.

 

[Stella_Omega]

No, actually, seems like HM came here for a fight.

And it's so fucking obvious how close you two are, isn't it?

We're getting compared to racists and being told we're discriminating and opressive, and here you are saying, "she wasn't propositioning you anyway"

Fucking grow up. I don't have to take this shit.

And I called her on her wrong language.

And you're right, you don't have to take any shit.

 

[Nina327]

what is my definition of bisexual...

Fuck if I know... I ripped off all my bumbersticker lables years ago.
I know I like dick and pussy... I'm attracted to both sexes. thats all the definition I need in my world.

I like my primary relationship to be with a male and i like secondary relatioinships with women. plural women...
I do not want a primary relationship with a woman.
does that kick me out of the bi club, not by my definition but does by others definitions.
Ive been labled as simlpy bi-curious because I dont want a long term relationship with a woman. i ripped that label off to. I'm not curious, I know for a fact women are soft and yummy and I dont always want them around. So its not a curiosity.

Theres my two cents... spend it as needed.

 

[BiBunny]

It's not people's personal preferences about bisexuals that are offensive. It's the assumptions about bisexuals that are.

I don't think I'm going to waste any more time banging my head against the wall here. It's only giving me a headache.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

what is my definition of bisexual...

Fuck if I know... I ripped off all my bumbersticker lables years ago.
I know I like dick and pussy... I'm attracted to both sexes. thats all the definition I need in my world.

I like my primary relationship to be with a male and i like secondary relatioinships with women. plural women...
I do not want a primary relationship with a woman.
does that kick me out of the bi club, not by my definition but does by others definitions.
Ive been labled as simlpy bi-curious because I dont want a long term relationship with a woman. i ripped that label off to. I'm not curious, I know for a fact women are soft and yummy and I dont always want them around. So its not a curiosity.

Theres my two cents... spend it as needed.

Fucking epic!!

*nods*

 

[Nina327]

Fucking epic!!

*nods*

**

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

It's not people's personal preferences about bisexuals that are offensive. It's the assumptions about bisexuals that are.

I don't think I'm going to waste any more time banging my head against the wall here. It's only giving me a headache.

BB...I do get what your saying. Always have. For the most part, our ideas concerning sexuality are the same. BUT I haven't really seen anyone making an assumption (in this thread) concerning bisexuality. I have seen Gold Star lesbians declaring why they wouldn't be with a bi female. Their right but not really in keeping with the thread starter's intent. (Just as my going off the deep end had nothing to do with HM's intent)

I just think this is one topic that women will never see eye to eye on...as every one's personal definitions (of themselves, of others) never freaking match up.

*head shake* Sorry your head is tired of dive bombing the wall.

 

[BiBunny]

BB...I do get what your saying. Always have. For the most part, our ideas concerning sexuality are the same. BUT I haven't really seen anyone making an assumption (in this thread) concerning bisexuality. I have seen Gold Star lesbians declaring why they wouldn't be with a bi female. Their right but not really in keeping with the thread starter's intent. (Just as my going off the deep end had nothing to do with HM's intent)

I just think this is one topic that women will never see eye to eye on...as every one's personal definitions (of themselves, of others) never freaking match up.

*head shake* Sorry your head is tired of dive bombing the wall.

*Huggles Luna*

I was flouncing, but I don't think saying hi to you counts as head-banging.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

*Huggles Luna*

I was flouncing, but I don't think saying hi to you counts as head-banging.

Ooooh BB snuggles...

Thanks pretty. I needed them.

 

[Nina327]

ya know..
I have my theories, just like everyone else.

You are either a resident of Lick-a-chick or a visitor.

I can see why some residents only date other residents. Stability. plain and simple.
Visitors come and go... I myself like to cum and leave.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

ya know..
I have my theories, just like everyone else.

You are either a resident of Lick-a-chick or a visitor.

I can see why some residents only date other residents. Stability. plain and simple.
Visitors come and go... I myself like to cum and leave.

And again...fucked up wording for a damned good idea.

And you wonder why I wanna fuck you until you can't breathe, move or cry.

*nods*

 

[Etoile]

Biphobia does exist, and it has nothing to do with who you would or wouldn't sleep with.

HM, I'm sorry you encountered such hate here. We're supposed to be a supportive community.

I have no preference for one poster over another, but I'm really disappointed by what this thread, which had a lot of potential, turned into.

 

[Nina327]

Oh heck yes it does. I think as much or more than homophobia.

its like.. Look.. I didnt ask you into my bed, nor did i ask you to rate my sexlife, or even try to understand it... just go sit in the corner with the other god fearing pod people and dont think about where i'm thinking about putting my tongue.

 

[Nina327]

And again...fucked up wording for a damned good idea.

And you wonder why I wanna fuck you until you can't breathe, move or cry.

*nods*

why do you think i dangle the carrot in front of your face.. *grins*

 

[Safe_Bet]

Biphobia does exist, and it has nothing to do with who you would or wouldn't sleep with.

HM, I'm sorry you encountered such hate here. We're supposed to be a supportive community.

I have no preference for one poster over another, but I'm really disappointed by what this thread, which had a lot of potential, turned into.

Where was the hate expressed here? I see some strong opinions all around but I don't see anybody hating on HM.

Fill me in please.

 

[girlsmiley]

Where was the hate expressed here? I see some strong opinions all around but I don't see anybody hating on HM.

Fill me in please.

That's what I was thinking! I thought I was being hella supportive!

The thread is good. It gives some insight into the complexities.
We've done the sexual identity thread before and that had a happy ending.
Well, mostly happy ending. Stella was just as condescending in that one! (You know I love you Stella )

Nothing worth a damn is ever easy.

 

[Etoile]

Where was the hate expressed here? I see some strong opinions all around but I don't see anybody hating on HM.

Fill me in please.

Happy to do so.

Honestly, I don't think she knows what she is.
On the first page she's talking about how "Men are good for a fuck now and then, women are where my heart lies for relationships"
But when I say you fuck men, ooh, she wants to get all angry and shit!

Puhlease.

If you can't stand the heat, get out the kitchen!

No, actually, seems like HM came here for a fight.

I consider questioning someone's sexuality and intentions to be hateful. The whole thread has contained a lot of drama directed at HM and her questions, and that's fine, but these statements - particularly the bolded line - are just shameful. Questioning someone's sexuality who is not questioning it themselves is rude and - yes - biphobic.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'm with Amy, I see no hate.

Look why should lesbains muzzle their voices either?

Someone came up witha good word the other day: "monosexual" those are the Kinsey 0's and 7's-- the "never ever touch the wrong sex with a barge-pole" types, the Gold Star lesbians, Gay men, and, yes, hets.

There are Monosexuals and Bisexuals... and queers, I guess.

 

[Etoile]

That's what I was thinking! I thought I was being hella supportive!

The thread is good. It gives some insight into the complexities.
We've done the sexual identity thread before and that had a happy ending.
Well, mostly happy ending. Stella was just as condescending in that one! (You know I love you Stella )

Nothing worth a damn is ever easy.

The bolded part - you're kidding, right? I am honestly not sure.

The thread does show a lot of the complexities, but unfortunately it does it with a lot of invectives and angry language.

That's pretty much all I have to say about the matter.

As for my definition of bisexual, I don't have one. I recognize the commonly accepted definition, yes, but I prefer to let individuals tell me what their sexuality means to them, rather than define other people in my own way.

That's about it from me on the subject.

 

[girlsmiley]

I consider questioning someone's sexuality and intentions to be hateful. The whole thread has contained a lot of drama directed at HM and her questions, and that's fine, but these statements - particularly the bolded line - are just shameful. Questioning someone's sexuality who is not questioning it themselves is rude and - yes - biphobic.

Seriously? Hate?
HM came here asking what we thought bisexual meant. She brought up the fact that fucking men is ok and identifies as a bisexual - THEN says lesbians have a problem dealing with her sexuality and she really just wants a relationship with a woman. Huh.
Next thing she's getting her twat in a knot because I pointed out what she said herself. ie fucking men.
Her comments are all over the place, that's why I asked what the???

And like I said before, ANYONE can judge, but only SHE knows.

You're welcome.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sometimes when you're trying to figure shit out, your comments do go all over the place.

They just do.

No matter how confusing that is to some one else.