What's the worst PM you've ever got?

[NastyNyx]

Possibly the one I just got from this guy lol

 

[jason28053]

Possibly the one I just got from this guy lol

I got the same!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Someone attacked my character, which I felt was unwarranted and off-base. But his opinion meant a lot to me, so his comments cut pretty deep.

 

[ericrodman101]

Worse than the plain rude, nasty and unfriendly ones, are the ones where you propose meeting up and they string you along until the message to clinch the deal, and you never hear from them again. Only happened a couple of times - it's not like I'm a slut or anything!! And it's not necessarily me who's proposed the meet. But I've got to time, date and hotel with one potential jerk off buddy who disappeared off the face of the earth, and with another similar who then said he couldn't meet up because his wife wouldn't approve. Duh!

 

[SkyeGirl32]

Ones that they act like they’re “nice” but when you set a boundary, suddenly they show their true colors. I’m quick to judge? No - you’re quick to lecture and hate it when you get called out for your crap. Stop trying to act like you know it all. It’s not a turn on like you think it is…

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Ones that they act like they’re “nice” but when you set a boundary, suddenly they show their true colors. I’m quick to judge? No - you’re quick to lecture and hate it when you get called out for your crap. Stop trying to act like you know it all. It’s not a turn on like you think it is…

Oof- this is such a common occurance all over the place. I haven't had to set and enforce many boundaries with lit dudes (thankfully) but have had my fair share of knob jockey interactions out there in the ether. Ugh. Those people are the WORST. Sorry you collided with them.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Worse than the plain rude, nasty and unfriendly ones, are the ones where you propose meeting up and they string you along until the message to clinch the deal, and you never hear from them again. Only happened a couple of times - it's not like I'm a slut or anything!! And it's not necessarily me who's proposed the meet. But I've got to time, date and hotel with one potential jerk off buddy who disappeared off the face of the earth, and with another similar who then said he couldn't meet up because his wife wouldn't approve. Duh!

This post really broke my heart a little.
I want you to know you deserve so much better. What cowardly behavior

 

[SkyeGirl32]

Oof- this is such a common occurance all over the place. I haven't had to set and enforce many boundaries with lit dudes (thankfully) but have had my fair share of knob jockey interactions out there in the ether. Ugh. Those people are the WORST. Sorry you collided with them.

Due to things in my past - I have had to set boundaries with some -- which most are fine with... But at this one, at least he just showed his true colors early on, so I didn't waste too much time on him. It was just annoying - like dude... No.
Instead of saying sorry and that he won't do it again, he tried to act like I was the one being unreasonable, and then buckling down on his position which only pissed me off.
JUST stop... And now you're blocked.

It did make me mad, but also made me laugh as it was just ridiculous!
And men think that this sort of behavior makes women want them?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

And men think that this sort of behavior makes women want them?

I don't think that's it.
Once their ego is bruised (perceived or real, it doesn't matter) they lash out so that they don't have to sit with the discomfort that another person won't bend to their will. It's a dehumanizing experience on both ends.

Poor coping skills are UGLY in adults.

 

[SkyeGirl32]

I don't think that's it.
Once their ego is bruised (perceived or real, it doesn't matter) they lash out so that they don't have to sit with the discomfort that another person won't bend to their will. It's a dehumanizing experience on both ends.

Poor coping skills are UGLY in adults.

That's true too.

And then they learn that if they do it enough most will bend to their will.... not all, but most will. So they keep doing it. And it just gets truly ugly.
*sighs*
And how dare people tell them that how they're behaving isn't cool at all. (Sarcasm) Especially if said behavior has a potential to be triggering to others.

It definitely does get ugly!
I wish that people had better coping skills.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

I got one from someone I’d messaged with for a couple times — this was when I first joined Lit. He sent me pictures of other women he’d messaged with before. Needless to say I blocked him. What a creep.

 

[Apisto42]

I thought you liked that kind of thing? You’re such a prude.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I got one from someone I’d messaged with for a couple times — this was when I first joined Lit. He sent me pictures of other women he’d messaged with before. Needless to say I blocked him. What a creep.

I once got a forward of an intimate photo that was sent to someone.

It really changed the way I thought of the person who shared it with me. It's really not okay to share those things, even with trusted confidants. It's the equivalent of gossip and it's poor form.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

I once got a forward of an intimate photo that was sent to someone.

It really changed the way I thought of the person who shared it with me. It's really not okay to share those things, even with trusted confidants. It's the equivalent of gossip and it's poor form.

It’s a huge breach of trust. And it showed me I had zero interest in continuing to talk with him.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

It’s a huge breach of trust. And it showed me I had zero interest in continuing to talk with him.

I agree completely. I expect more from people if they're going to get access to me.

 

[mickyp123]

I got one from a guy who thought I was female, 1 exposed nil research and 2 gave me a more accurate account of his true personality 3 Also gave me an insight into what females have to put up with

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I had one from someone who was nice and friendly in the beginning...until I said I didn't just share pics with someone unless I feel 100% comfortable. He spoke to his friends who said I was a man because I wouldn't share. I noped out of that pretty hard.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

I had one from someone who was nice and friendly in the beginning...until I said I didn't just share pics with someone unless I feel 100% comfortable. He spoke to his friends who said I was a man because I wouldn't share. I noped out of that pretty hard.

I had similar but mine was regarding a face pic, the guy then proceed to create a "female alt" to try and convince me he was legitimate.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I had similar but mine was regarding a face pic, the guy then proceed to create a "female alt" to try and convince me he was legitimate.

I think it was also a face pic but I didn't get a follow up from an alt.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that shitshow

 

[SinfuIDreams]

I think it was also a face pic but I didn't get a follow up from an alt.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that shitshow

I'm glad you didn't get a follow up from a alt left me feeling a little distrustful of other genuine people.

It was a few years ago now not long after I joined hopefully both of those accounts have now turned to dust.

 

[SkyeGirl32]

Not necessarily a PM but I just had yet another guy from here basically tell me that I was the problem. and he doesn't like feeling this way... because I don't put him first over everyone else. As if I'm supposed to just drop EVERYTHING and talk to him whenever he wants me to... HELL.NO. I'm so over men who think it's okay to tell me that I'm the problem. Feels like crap. Thanks dude... I really appreciate it. *Sarcasm*

(Those weren't the exact words he used, but that was basically what he was implying... "I was too busy for him and he doesn't like feeling this way")

 

[Karabare]

Not necessarily a PM but I just had yet another guy from here basically tell me that I was the problem. and he doesn't like feeling this way... because I don't put him first over everyone else. As if I'm supposed to just drop EVERYTHING and talk to him whenever he wants me to... HELL.NO. I'm so over men who think it's okay to tell me that I'm the problem. Feels like crap. Thanks dude... I really appreciate it. *Sarcasm*

(Those weren't the exact words he used, but that was basically what he was implying... "I was too busy for him and he doesn't like feeling this way")

stomping his widdle feets probably

 

[Karabare]

I had someone tell me they "weren't a fan" after I called out a problematic situation he was talking about. Now all I can do is laugh about it.

 

[SkyeGirl32]

stomping his widdle feets probably

Right? Throwing a toddler level temper tantrum. Such a turn off.

 

[pandaburr]

I really havent had any bad ones since the last one I mentioned months ago but I'm sorry for the experiences some of you guys have had :/ People can suck.