What's the worst PM you've ever got?

When I first joined under my old profile, I had a male send me a series of stories containing fantasies about me and in the final one he gave very specific details about how he was going to kill me. It was absolutely terrifying!
I wonder if it's the same dude that I had 😬
 
When I first joined under my old profile, I had a male send me a series of stories containing fantasies about me and in the final one he gave very specific details about how he was going to kill me. It was absolutely terrifying!
Seriously WHAT THE FUCK is wrong with people...?
 
When I first joined under my old profile, I had a male send me a series of stories containing fantasies about me and in the final one he gave very specific details about how he was going to kill me. It was absolutely terrifying!
That is disgusting and terrifying.
 
When I first joined under my old profile, I had a male send me a series of stories containing fantasies about me and in the final one he gave very specific details about how he was going to kill me. It was absolutely terrifying!
Woah!! That’s crazy and so not okay and I agree with others - so terrifying!! 😠😳
 
Ooft. You haven't even been a member of Lit for that long. That really sucks!

Of course, it isn't a surprise, but there are definitely people around that you can form a more genuine connection with. There's a few threads for bisexual/pansexual women and lesbians - BY bisexual/pansexual women and lesbians - and they might be environments that help keep your faith in Lit. You might have seen already!

Stay strong, sister!
You'd think. But sadly guys will still wander into those threads offering to "change" the women. "I bet I could make you want dick" :rolleyes:
 
I thing "worst PM" can be categorized in lots of ways.

The most obscene PM I ever got was from a stranger describing how he wanted to r@pe and murder me on a truck stop bathroom floor and break my glasses. The glasses thing seemed a touch too far.

The most upsetting was from someone I considered to be a friend. She'd been told some twisted truths by someone who didn't like me and basically detailed all the ways I wasn't who she thought I was and how much she didn't care for how I conducted myself on Lit. That one hurt a lot and still does.

But the worst are still the "Hey" "Sup?" "Wanna chat?" messages because they are just a waste. Getting a PM is always a little exciting, and then to get that in return. Boo.
 
I thing "worst PM" can be categorized in lots of ways.

The most obscene PM I ever got was from a stranger describing how he wanted to r@pe and murder me on a truck stop bathroom floor and break my glasses. The glasses thing seemed a touch too far.

The most upsetting was from someone I considered to be a friend. She'd been told some twisted truths by someone who didn't like me and basically detailed all the ways I wasn't who she thought I was and how much she didn't care for how I conducted myself on Lit. That one hurt a lot and still does.

But the worst are still the "Hey" "Sup?" "Wanna chat?" messages because they are just a waste. Getting a PM is always a little exciting, and then to get that in return. Boo.
The glasses were a bit much? I’m thinking it was all too much πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ
 
I thing "worst PM" can be categorized in lots of ways.

The most obscene PM I ever got was from a stranger describing how he wanted to r@pe and murder me on a truck stop bathroom floor and break my glasses. The glasses thing seemed a touch too far.

The most upsetting was from someone I considered to be a friend. She'd been told some twisted truths by someone who didn't like me and basically detailed all the ways I wasn't who she thought I was and how much she didn't care for how I conducted myself on Lit. That one hurt a lot and still does.

But the worst are still the "Hey" "Sup?" "Wanna chat?" messages because they are just a waste. Getting a PM is always a little exciting, and then to get that in return. Boo.
PLP that is horrible. So sorry you and a lot of others get so bad Pm's
 
Anything by @HoseLover00.

I swear the guy forgets he has already violated my inbox, runs through an unabridged list of Litsters, and - *plink* - it's HotBrand's turn again.

Every time, I try to bat him away with put-you-down-gently quips to disarm him with harmless, not-interested, thanks-but-no-thanks humour.

Every time, I know he's fapping anyway.

Regardless.

I remember joking about emailing HR because the Vaseline they sent me to avoid chaffing (apparently, I work with no pants on, according to HoseLover00) means I keep slipping off the chair, and what an inconvenience it is to my work-life balance if I can't even maintain my balance in work.

He just continues, without batting a proverbial eye, while undoubtedly still batting his metaphorical eye. He doesn't even register what I said ... let alone why I said it.

There's something really depersonalising about that. It doesn't matter what you say or do, you're the target of that dick beating. You're almost an incidental witness to it. He's invoked the idea of you and he wants to get off on it. You don't get to say no because he doesn't need you to say yes. He just wanted you to know you're there. Regardless.

... your consent is not optional; your consent is not needed ...

It's supremely disappointing, y'know? I don't even know if I can articulate it well. It just ... yeah.
 
To add to the pile β€” I just had someone who I thought was decent basically tell me that what I’m doing is wrong, and if I β€˜don’t let down the walls, nothing good will happen’. And basically kind of felt like he was making me feel like the abuse I’ve lived through thanks to my exes…. Was my fault because I’m as the one who was attracting and choosing them, when I never once even tried to find them…. So now abuse victims are to blame for the fact that their abusers were abusive…. THAT IS ON THEM! Not us! >.< *sighs* I’m just done for today. :(

OH Yeah, and don’t forget β€” choosing to read into what I had said and acting like I said something I didn’t and then saying it like it was fact. Don’t put words into my mouth that I did not say!! I’m so pissed off right now.
 
To add to the pile β€” I just had someone who I thought was decent basically tell me that what I’m doing is wrong, and if I β€˜don’t let down the walls, nothing good will happen’. And basically kind of felt like he was making me feel like the abuse I’ve lived through thanks to my exes…. Was my fault because I’m as the one who was attracting and choosing them, when I never once even tried to find them…. So now abuse victims are to blame for the fact that their abusers were abusive…. THAT IS ON THEM! Not us! >.< *sighs* I’m just done for today. :(

OH Yeah, and don’t forget β€” choosing to read into what I had said and acting like I said something I didn’t and then saying it like it was fact. Don’t put words into my mouth that I did not say!! I’m so pissed off right now.
And then he tried to backtrack…. No β€” one does not get to mansplain that how I’m dealing with my trauma is wrong… I’m so over men right now… -.-
 
Grrrrr.
The backtracking, mansplaining, doubling down that happens drives me bonkers.

Fucking egos.
same!!! Plus the fact he felt the need to send me a message warning me not to respond - so be got the last word - as he was totally nice to me and I wasn’t but if I responded β€” he’d go off on me. -.- I. HATE. MEN. SOOOO. FUCKING. MUCH!! -.-
 
The women keep trying to E-Bone with me, I'm not a piece of meat, I'm a person dammit !!

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It sounds like you need to set up a ticketing system for them.

"Number 36, please step forward!"
 
The worse pm I received was a response to a question I made to someone I was already talking to. I had come across a response of his in a thread that made me wonder whether I misunderstood what he said so I asked him in private and he got defensive about it so he sent me this very long message telling me I was never to contact him again and a bunch of other things which included that I wasn't smart or literate enough to even talk to him πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
 
The worse pm I received was a response to a question I made to someone I was already talking to. I had come across a response of his in a thread that made me wonder whether I misunderstood what he said so I asked him in private and he got defensive about it so he sent me this very long message telling me I was never to contact him again and a bunch of other things which included that I wasn't smart or literate enough to even talk to him πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Sounds like he did you a favor.

But how horrible for you to try and get a diatribe in response. Ugh.
 
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