What's the worst PM you've ever got?

[tallladiesman]

It may have been said earlier but the worst PM is definitely Boris Johnson
Messy hair, a blob of custard and totally useless and dishonest

 

[Anastasia1999]

I was accused of being dishonest by someone who was spreading untruths about me on the forum

 

[ydahecnot]

*note to self: leave out the “friends using you” part next time

 

[Mei5ter]

Some dude telling me what a good cock I had and wanting me to tell him how I'd like to use it on his "wife"... ugh... too much, that was when I realized it was a small sample of what women here have to put up with.

Yep. I've had that.

Isn't it strange how these people's 'wives' never send these PMs themselves?

 

[MedicalMuse]

An out of the blue message about choking me while fucking me. just no.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Him: "do you want to be raped in real life?"
Me: "no, but thanks for offering!"
Him: "ok"
Me: went back and removed CNC from my siggy

 

[AmberLGreen]

I have to say, I don’t get PMs like this. I normally get very nice ones where they call me “Miss Amber”, they talk to me about a variety of topics, always ask how I am, what I have been doing. Normally really pleasant.

 

[EmberCD]

How do all of you respond, or what action do you take when you get these creepy, disturbing, or flat out threatening messages?

 

[jason28053]

Wow you ladies really have to put up with some shit. I’m surprised any of you have DM’s open.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Like a couple of silicon packets swinging in the breeze...


(I had to seriously consider whether that was broadcastable )

What are you trying to say about my meat curtains?

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Wow you ladies really have to put up with some shit. I’m surprised any of you have DM’s open.

I take them with a grain of salt and a dash of humor. One guy started the PM with how he would crawl on top of me, etc... like just jumped straight into an RP. My response was something like "gasping in surprise, my knee forcefully slams into your cock out of surprise". He replied back and apologized and then we actually had a decent conversation. I took the opportunity to tell him his opening line was a very, very bad idea.

 

[Anastasia1999]

How do all of you respond, or what action do you take when you get these creepy, disturbing, or flat out threatening messages?

There is only one correct way to deal with them, and that is to report them.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Wow you ladies really have to put up with some shit. I’m surprised any of you have DM’s open.

The better question is why isn't our safety prioritized?
We deserve to exist in this space, too

 

[jason28053]

Why should we close them? Most people here are fine.
To ignore it protects the aggressor.

Good point, I guess just block?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

How do all of you respond, or what action do you take when you get these creepy, disturbing, or flat out threatening messages?

Nothing, until today, where I created the forum to talk about it and let the guys see what their peers are up to.

 

[jason28053]

The better question is why isn't our safety prioritized?
We deserve to exist in this space, too

You absolutely do!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

*notes. Get to know them first

That's actually solid advice.

Some of us are totally down for these discussions.

With consent!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Men: please turn off your problem solving brains and avoid giving us suggestions.
Instead, listen. Learn. Trust us to know how to take care of ourselves.

 

[jason28053]

That's actually solid advice.

Some of us are totally down for these discussions.

With consent!

Thanks for this forum @aussiegeekygal

 

[Whiskeyjack]

For a long time I was afraid to PM anyone for any reason, in case I'd be thought of as just another randy perv. I didn't know the bar was so, so, so very low.

 

[jason28053]

I sometimes do, too. OR… I get pissed instead of scared, but there have been online into RL threats stemming from here, and also, many people are triggered by this and shouldn’t have to deal with it.

Why?

So he moves on to the next?

So how do you respond?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

For a long time I was afraid to PM anyone for any reason, in case I'd be thought of as just another randy perv. I didn't know the bar was so, so, so very low.

I get that.

This doesn't just affect the women. But it is the women who have to deal with the violence

 

[Chillygirl]

I’ve gotten a few of the “jump right into what I'm going to do to you“ messages. I’m pretty blunt in my replies and that usually ends the conversation.

I’m somewhat flattered I turn you on but that doesn’t mean I’m going to fuck you...you’re not entitled to anything.

 

[Chillygirl]

I don’t think it’s about us turning them on, but, yes, you hit the nail on the head with entitlement.

Oh I’m sure I’m just another pair of tits and not a human being.

 

[Mei5ter]

This predates my time on Lit, but happened on a similar site.

I got a random PM from someone claiming to be female and asking for a cum tribute. As I didn't even know what they looked like, let alone actually knowing them personally, I thought that was fairly ambitious. But they had helpfully attached a pic, which probably dated from the 1980s to judge by the hair, and seemed to think I would want to print this out and cum on it.

The coup de grace, however, was their final request. Having cum on this picture, would I please mail the stained paper to an address in the US? And that is why, when I politely declined this uniquely resistable offer, it was on the logistical grounds that sending bodily fluids internationally would violate Customs laws.

(edited just to make absolutely clear that while I did make the comment about Customs laws, the bigger issues were that: (a) I don't do cum tributes and (b) this was some creepy weirdo sending pics of someone to random strangers, including me, and asking them to cum on them. Which is pretty fucked up. I really, really hope that is now very, very clear indeed, but I fear it wasn't from my original post) .