What's the worst PM you've ever got?

[FunLi]

For the past four years, he has been Lance so maybe he has changed or maybe people have stopped reporting him or maybe he isn’t the alt that you think he is.

I always give people a chance, no matter what history I may be pre-warned with. My interactions with him, though very limited, have been respectful.

It takes a lot for me to be offended from a message, this is Lit after all. When men relay their fantasies, though unwanted on my part, I’m sometimes impressed and other times I roll my eyes and move on.

I’ve only received one message that creeped me out, which is when a guy that I’ve never interacted with before randomly PM’d me asking if I lived alone. That’s just not a way to get my attention in a positive manner, haha.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I always give people a chance, no matter what history I may be pre-warned with.

Same. I've spoken to Lance. I definitely didn't have anything remotely related to what's been outlined here. It's amazing to hear such diverse opinions of certain people.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

A few years ago some people in a clique decided I was an asshole. So, as they chit chatted in threads about my being a dick, some of their male harem decided to let me know what the women "all thought of me" as a way to curb my behavior. Only I was never told what asshole thing I had done. Just that I ought to stop. The three or four guys sticking up for their women-folk at my expense...made me feel special...

 

[Disguised]

I have occasionally received PMs here. Quite strange

 

[Disguised]

I meant to mention ...

If you're curious, I joined the board but soon lost interest because it was too political for my liking. I do still enjoy some of the writers here though, so I still drop by from time to time.

 

[HotChef1970]

In the past when I used to post in ampics I had weirdo PMs from a guy who despite me telling him I was 100% straight he kept on insisting on trying it on with me, he quickly got blocked. I did toy with the idea of playing with his mind but then I realised that he was probably only going to get off on it so I didn’t bother.

believe it or not guys do actually get pervy/full on pms from women too, including the female version of the “unsolicited dick pic”, I’ve had a couple of those too.

these days fortunately I don’t get many or any pms, probably because I’m not around here that often these days and even if I do get them I don’t reply unless it’s someone I know

 

[Drillerbm]

"I only got terrible PM’s when I was PiccoloGattino and it was because of my ad. I got rid of my ad and they went away."

1badkitten
Youd think your current username would attract more PMs than your old one. Lol

 

[HotBrand]

One "new PM" that springs to mind:

"My dick is already hard. Make it harder."

... like ...

 

[latino_88]

One "new PM" that springs to mind:

"My dick is already hard. Make it harder."

... like ...

I got “are you hard or soft?” Just like that, out of the blue!

 

[Sundayschild]

I've not had a bad PM here. Had lots from guys, and since I used my current signature I have only been mistaken for a lady a couple of times. Sure, I get a few requests to discuss things I have no issues with, but nothing I've been shocked or disgusted with.

 

[y=mx+b]

Back when I was less reticent and more open to sharing my imagination I'd receive PMs from women wanting to be cut, or somehow, in some way physically detained against their wishes and abused.

Some taking what I had written and going beyond it. Seemingly in an attempt to express how depraved they/their imagination is. And many of those attempts succeeding farther than what one would suspect.

 

[NinjaPanda]

Can someone send me a bad pm so I can post it here? Lol

 

[pandaburr]

Honestly, I haven’t gotten that many bad ones but someone mentioned here recently asked me how young my boobs are and it gave me weird vibes.

 

[ydahecnot]

Honestly, I haven’t gotten that many bad ones but someone mentioned here recently asked me how young my boobs are and it gave me weird vibes.

Sounds as if you were accused of implants

 

[pandaburr]

Sounds as if you were accused of implants

I didn’t think of that but how bizarre if so

 

[cheekygirl75]

I haven’t gotten many awful ones, and have deleted all of them. The most annoying wasn’t graphic at all but someone being too persistent… luckily he left me alone after only a couple of messages, unlike with Rainshine

 

[Jakevillines]

Men: please turn off your problem solving brains and avoid giving us suggestions.
Instead, listen. Learn. Trust us to know how to take care of ourselves.

See, I think that you should…

 

[Moochienanu]

Back when I was less reticent and more open to sharing my imagination I'd receive PMs from women wanting to be cut, or somehow, in some way physically detained against their wishes and abused.

Some taking what I had written and going beyond it. Seemingly in an attempt to express how depraved they/their imagination is. And many of those attempts succeeding farther than what one would suspect.

I’m feeling called out here.

 

[PattiJolene]

Back in the day when l was posting thong pictures more often then usual...
This was the first yr or so after l joined. He basically said l was a F...king whore and l should be ashamed of myself, a married woman showing her ass off for the world to see....He words were much more abusive and it upset me a lot. l had responded with a message something like, Take it easy...have you ever gone to the beach? Lots of women wear this type of bottom or less. I didn't think my photos were distasteful and lt was harmless. I was only having a bit of fun. Oh no this guy just kept firing the pm's so l blocked him and didn't sign on the site for about a month. l was afraid for some reason...lm not sure why but he hit a nerve.
l reply to all messages good or bad....but this one was one l should have ignored. l have never had anyone talk to me like that before. It was an eye opener for me.

 

[HotBrand]

Back in the day when l was posting thong pictures more often then usual...
This was the first yr or so after l joined. He basically said l was a F...king whore and l should be ashamed of myself, a married woman showing her ass off for the world to see....He words were much more abusive and it upset me a lot. l had responded with a message something like, Take it easy...have you ever gone to the beach? Lots of women wear this type of bottom or less. I didn't think my photos were distasteful and lt was harmless. I only having a bit of fun. Oh no this guy just kept firing the pm's so l blocked him and didn't sign on the site for about a month. l was afraid for some reason...lm not sure why but he hit a nerve.
l reply to all messages good or bad....but this one was one l should have ignored. l have never had anyone talk to me like that before. It was an eye opener for me.

Bloody hell. I'm so sorry!

 

[PattiJolene]

Bloody hell. I'm so sorry!

Thank you

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Wow you ladies really have to put up with some shit. I’m surprised any of you have DM’s open.

I was just engaged in a discussion relating pms, blocking etc last week. There is the obvious that why should we need to block messages of course, but I see a much bigger issues with both. Pms are the best warning indicator. Most people don't bring the creepy or crazy all out in public. It comes to your pms, and they seem fine on the boards. If I don't have the flag, I don't know to modify how I interact with them. The most concerning are rarely first contact, it is an escalation. Ignoring the warning does not help the situation. The next issue is real women have received credible threats. So, guy finally gets too creepy, blocking him may set him off and how can I decide if a threat is credible, and how to handle it if I don't even receive the threat. If someone is going to threaten me, I want to get it so can correct assess and determine how to proceed.

Back in the day when l was posting thong pictures more often then usual...
This was the first yr or so after l joined. He basically said l was a F...king whore and l should be ashamed of myself, a married woman showing her ass off for the world to see....He words were much more abusive and it upset me a lot. l had responded with a message something like, Take it easy...have you ever gone to the beach? Lots of women wear this type of bottom or less. I didn't think my photos were distasteful and lt was harmless. I only having a bit of fun. Oh no this guy just kept firing the pm's so l blocked him and didn't sign on the site for about a month. l was afraid for some reason...lm not sure why but he hit a nerve.
l reply to all messages good or bad....but this one was one l should have ignored. l have never had anyone talk to me like that before. It was an eye opener for me.

first, I am sorry he successfully chased you away. Honestly, I thought having wife in my name was what was triggering these guys. I've always engaged them though and not ignored, because the "woman" part really gets under my skin. I want a logical justification why they aren't also messaging the married men showing their ass how they are fucking whores, should be ashamed etc. I asked all the men, they never get these. I will say I've never gotten any answer that makes sense, nor gotten them to see their double standard, so I am not sure if it was the satisfying solution, but I have gotten a couple to block me as I continue to argue their double standard and explain why their wives left them for better men (ok I don't know that the bitter divorce is true, but It really feels like I might be being used as a surrogate for their rage at their ex) I do think blocking me counts as a win. Well except one dude who kept unblocking me just long enough to rant, then block again before I could respond, over and over. I am curious, if you remember his user name, can you pm me? I really want to know if it is one of the men who did the same to me.

 

[Nevyn_Black]

Not sure about the other en, but I am thinking that I might never PM anyone, ever again. Just in case. Just to make sure I'm not bothering her in any fashion. Even a politely worded, unsolicited PM is a bad thing. Men should just stick to themselves until invited.,

 

[HotBrand]

Not sure about the other en, but I am thinking that I might never PM anyone, ever again. Just in case. Just to make sure I'm not bothering her in any fashion. Even a politely worded, unsolicited PM is a bad thing. Men should just stick to themselves until invited.,

Yeesh. Sorry, friend, but I don't think the answer is: "all (cis) men are predatory."

It's just a valid point that men can be very intimidating. It's true. It doesn't mean you are a sex pest and it's not a personal attack at you because you have a penis. Throwing your hands up and saying "well, I can't/won't do anything then!" isn't a great response. It just suggests you can't handle how horrible it can be - but it's not about you. It's about the victim of this abuse. Not you.

I think the most important thing is just to listen to these experiences. Some of them are really quite scary and it's so important to really hear that.

Men should just stick to themselves until invited.,

You don't need to White Knight and step aside because men are bad. That wording suggests, to me, as if women need to be protected and it's your behaviour that protects them. That's so problematic, if so. You're not their saviour. These are just valid comments because it's fucking horrible and they deserve to be heard, with their voices, from their experiences.

Just acknowledge that, if you PM someone, it's a real person who might not know you, has no reason to trust you immediately, and has a few reasons to not trust you.

 

[Taegul]

I had a woman once PM me just to chat. She didn't even want to cyber. Can you believe that shit? I'm a cyber stallion fuck machine, sweetheart. I ain't got time for that Sesame Street G-rated how's the weather crap!