where are all the bi or bicurious women?

[bequ23]

If 4 is easily go one way or the other, I would probably be a 3 right now because although I would love to be with another woman, I never have. I'm nervous about a first time, but looking forward to it, too.

There are hets who adamantly say they are 1's and les and gays who adamantly say they are 7's. I think they are just fooling themselves and no one is a 1 or 7. What do you think?

 

[kellyweaver40]

Newcomer

I'm new to this forum but hardly new to bi. I have been married for 16 yrs and bi before that. I have one partner and we don't get into dildos or anything like that. We are into loving each other in a tender understanding way. The hubby was told about us before he and I married, so there were no surprises.

 

[MrsConfused]

I love it!

I was married some time ago. Husband was a real dick. I am now divorced and have been seeing a wonderful lady before and since. I still have a thing for men, but nothing can beat another woman's touch.

 

[nici]

If 4 is easily go one way or the other, I would probably be a 3 right now because although I would love to be with another woman, I never have. I'm nervous about a first time, but looking forward to it, too.

There are hets who adamantly say they are 1's and les and gays who adamantly say they are 7's. I think they are just fooling themselves and no one is a 1 or 7. What do you think?

A 3 would pretty much float emotionally and sexually either way. A four might have some problems (like being very selective) with het relationships, yet feel emotionally comfortable with a larger amount of women and able to express herself more openly and deeper to a woman.

Ones and sevens do exist. However, most have had some form of traumatic experience in which cognitive thinking became intuitive thinking.

In theory, there is though no queer gene, but rather bisexuality is a composite of instinctual behaviors that function two fold. The primary function is to allow us to evaluate ourselves comparatively to others of the same sex and co-exist with them in social relationships. (Ever hero-worshiped some one of the same sex as a pre-teen?)

Since these behaviors also overlap into our sexuality, and we are social animals from instinct, we are bisexual with a primary sexual need to procreate. As we grow older, our primary heterosexual instinct takes foreground as intuitive social behavior develops further and becomes dominantly controlled by our learned and cognitive thinking processes.

Since each of us has our own unique genetic bild, we each start out on the scale differently. As we develop, our learned and experienced behavior changes us, so development either increases or decreases tendencies.

Absolutes, also Zeros and Eights also exist, but since what we see and feel as sexuality is also a part of our social instincts, these absolutes have little or no social instincts and are deviant in nature. Quite often, these deviants become study cases for criminal psychologists and pathologists.

Just guessing, I would say that many straights could be classified as 2s and many gays as 6s. It is not a question of never feeling any desire or admiration for the same sex (or opposite sex) at all, but rather… we just do not want to go there. It is not worth the effort. Amongst the lesbian community you will often hear the say, “A good dick is just too hard to find.” Most lesbians are bisexuals (3s to 6s), just for political, emotional, or social reasons, heterosexual behavior just is not worth the effort. The same holds true for straights. What little there is is not worth the problems.

For me, admitting my bisexuality was a Pandorian box with a lot of pain and heartbreak. I would have had things a lot easier if I had just stayed lesbian. I know swingers seem to function happily as bisexuals, but swinging has also its innate problems. Straight or queer is just so much easier.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we all are (more or less) bisexual; it is other things that are brought into the equation that have or should have more importance. Are you in a monogamous heterosexual relationship, and your bisexuality is not so extreme so as to hinder your sexual expression to your SO? Is monogamy even a question? Oh there are so much more factors and questions, once you have opened that box. Sometimes I’m glad I did. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t.

 

[Sweetlilnaughty]

curious...

Hey
I am bi curious myself...I admit it is hard to find people to talk about this with offline. I'm up for a chat with anyone bi, straight, or curious.

 

[shortnsassyc]

Bi-curious and recently dumped. LOL. Not sure if now is a good time yet to explore it, depending on my ex and if I can get him back.

I can relate! I have found that turning 40 (I'm 42 now) opened a lot of doors for me sexually. I just have not been able to find a woman to explore with...

 

[Alexandra1979]

I can relate! I have found that turning 40 (I'm 42 now) opened a lot of doors for me sexually. I just have not been able to find a woman to explore with...

Thank you, sugar. I'm 28 myself and want to explore this with him if I can, but I will at some time try it at least once. One way or the other.

 

[Filly Gal]

Utterly wonderful thread!!

 

[Alexandra1979]

A 3 would pretty much float emotionally and sexually either way. A four might have some problems (like being very selective) with het relationships, yet feel emotionally comfortable with a larger amount of women and able to express herself more openly and deeper to a woman.

Ones and sevens do exist. However, most have had some form of traumatic experience in which cognitive thinking became intuitive thinking.

In theory, there is though no queer gene, but rather bisexuality is a composite of instinctual behaviors that function two fold. The primary function is to allow us to evaluate ourselves comparatively to others of the same sex and co-exist with them in social relationships. (Ever hero-worshiped some one of the same sex as a pre-teen?)

Since these behaviors also overlap into our sexuality, and we are social animals from instinct, we are bisexual with a primary sexual need to procreate. As we grow older, our primary heterosexual instinct takes foreground as intuitive social behavior develops further and becomes dominantly controlled by our learned and cognitive thinking processes.

Since each of us has our own unique genetic bild, we each start out on the scale differently. As we develop, our learned and experienced behavior changes us, so development either increases or decreases tendencies.

Absolutes, also Zeros and Eights also exist, but since what we see and feel as sexuality is also a part of our social instincts, these absolutes have little or no social instincts and are deviant in nature. Quite often, these deviants become study cases for criminal psychologists and pathologists.

Just guessing, I would say that many straights could be classified as 2s and many gays as 6s. It is not a question of never feeling any desire or admiration for the same sex (or opposite sex) at all, but rather… we just do not want to go there. It is not worth the effort. Amongst the lesbian community you will often hear the say, “A good dick is just too hard to find.” Most lesbians are bisexuals (3s to 6s), just for political, emotional, or social reasons, heterosexual behavior just is not worth the effort. The same holds true for straights. What little there is is not worth the problems.

For me, admitting my bisexuality was a Pandorian box with a lot of pain and heartbreak. I would have had things a lot easier if I had just stayed lesbian. I know swingers seem to function happily as bisexuals, but swinging has also its innate problems. Straight or queer is just so much easier.

I guess what I am trying to say is that we all are (more or less) bisexual; it is other things that are brought into the equation that have or should have more importance. Are you in a monogamous heterosexual relationship, and your bisexuality is not so extreme so as to hinder your sexual expression to your SO? Is monogamy even a question? Oh there are so much more factors and questions, once you have opened that box. Sometimes I’m glad I did. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t.

Interesting. Exploring the bi and poly things in a "between" stage for my relationship with my ex, before we become a couple again. If poly doesn't work out, however, it's back to strict monogamy and the bi thing will just be a nice memory as long as I am with him. If it does work out, however, well, we'll see. What we do know now is that we want to be together, so my primary practical lifestyle is still straight. I hope that clarifies what I said earlier. I want to explore my bi side, but no cheating or double standards if we should happen to resume our past arrangement.

 

[curiousru]

Definitely bi, but I haven't had a real experience since I was a teenager - very limited and it was years ago. I love being with my guy, but I want to feel a woman. Online just isn't the same, but it's hard to know where to go to meet someone, you know?

 

[nici]

Interesting. Exploring the bi and poly things in a "between" stage for my relationship with my ex, before we become a couple again. If poly doesn't work out, however, it's back to strict monogamy and the bi thing will just be a nice memory as long as I am with him. If it does work out, however, well, we'll see. What we do know now is that we want to be together, so my primary practical lifestyle is still straight. I hope that clarifies what I said earlier. I want to explore my bi side, but no cheating or double standards if we should happen to resume our past arrangement.

Makes sense.

You said poly relationship. Would that be then a poly V triad or a menge de trios polyamorous situation?

 

[Alexandra1979]

Makes sense.

You said poly relationship. Would that be then a poly V triad or a menge de trios polyamorous situation?

Actually, neither. I guess that I confused you. The V thing wouldn't work because Chris and I both think it smacks of a double standard, and the menage a trois might or not work in time, but only once (and IF) we find a gal who is acceptable to both of us and wouldn't try to undermine our relationship. And it would have to be a gal, since Chris is straight and I'm the bi one. In the meantime, I actually meant finding discreet women for both of us to explore. I don't think that the traditional swingers' scene actually works for us, and Chris has agreed on that one; we've talked the past day or so and have both agreed that there is too much emphasis on the swapping deal.

What we are considering is finding discreet women who are interested, by looking in the right circles (personals, lesbian scene, friends of friends) and not worrying too much about if the women are gay, bi, or straight. The ones who are bi will be fun for both of us, the straight ones Chris can fuck while I watch, and the lesbian ones I can fuck while he watches. If one of the bi gals show enough interest in us and vice versa, we will discuss it, assuming that we haven't decided to revert to monogamy before we can meet such a gal. That is still up in the air, depending on how well it works out. My bad.

Oh, and we will probably do some MFM threesomes, too, but that's not really a bisexuality issue, since Chris wouldn't be doing anything with the other guys.

 

[explorrgrrl]

somewhere dead center

I've been with my husband for 20 years and love him to death and I still fantasize about women a lot.
I've slept with plenty of guys but just one woman and not the one I was in love with. It was fun anyway, even though I did all the work and she had all the orgasms. Then she decided she couldn't/wouldn't do it again. Oh well, she was pretty young.
Someday I'll do it again. Until then, there's literotica.
It's all about the person to me. I fall dead center on the sexual continuum.

 

[Dumpling]

I was married some time ago. Husband was a real dick. I am now divorced and have been seeing a wonderful lady before and since. I still have a thing for men, but nothing can beat another woman's touch.

Looks like your keeping pretty busy Sweetie
coz you havent posted & you Mail Box is full
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[softlips777]

I'm curious

I had a few fumbles, i guess you would call them, with other women when I was younger (32 now), and then got involved in a long term relationship with a guy which ended a short while ago.

I've always known I was as attracted to women as I was to men, just never really had the confidence before to pursue it.... sad really cause I had some nice opportunities!

My fantasies usually revolve around women and I look forward to chatting with some of you and exploring my options!!

Soft

 

[dreamcatcher45]

Im married, 4 kids, in mid 40s now, and im not sure if its a hormonal thing or not, but all i can say is i dont think ill rest till im with a woman. Its all i fantasise about, i dont even look at men anymore(except my husband).

 

[canagal]

It seems that i have a little bit of all of you on this thread somewhere inside me. As well when i turned 40 i was wondering what it would be like to be with a woman, hence i am on lit. Luv to read the stories

 

[FlightyBird]

Definately bi here. I haven't had a lot of experience with other girls, but what I have had... well, I definately want more. I'm in a position where I'm pretty sure I'll be single soon, so who knows what'll happen.

 

[explorrgrrl]

when i am braver

I will find a curious girl here and we will explore more. Pussy tastes good.

 

[Kiandra]

Just on the no cheat/cheat/play question. Who thinks it is cheating to explore while with a male?

I am a free spirit in I tell my partners I am bi and if they dont like it then bye bye, I tell them my gfs are my fun and if I CHOOSE to share them with him then he should consider himself lucky. If I dont then he better not complain.

Not to rub his face in it either, but if I visit a gf and we have siome fun then I dont think it matters

 

[thewhitester]

am a 29 year old married bi woman, have had a few experiances with my friends daughter behind my husbands back.

 

[nici]

Just on the no cheat/cheat/play question. Who thinks it is cheating to explore while with a male?

I am a free spirit in I tell my partners I am bi and if they dont like it then bye bye, I tell them my gfs are my fun and if I CHOOSE to share them with him then he should consider himself lucky. If I dont then he better not complain.

Not to rub his face in it either, but if I visit a gf and we have siome fun then I dont think it matters

You do tell them in advance that this is going to happen, so cheating (by definition) is not a part of the equation. He can either accept or not.

Do you also tell your girlfriends the same?

I can't accept the thought that "it doesn't matter". Everything matters, somehow.

 

[Alexandra1979]

Just on the no cheat/cheat/play question. Who thinks it is cheating to explore while with a male?

I am a free spirit in I tell my partners I am bi and if they dont like it then bye bye, I tell them my gfs are my fun and if I CHOOSE to share them with him then he should consider himself lucky. If I dont then he better not complain.

Not to rub his face in it either, but if I visit a gf and we have siome fun then I dont think it matters

If he did the same with another woman or man, and told you in advance like that, would you deem that cheating? Whether you were included or not? I am leery of double standards, that's why I ask.

 

[misspihla]

Im 24 years, very bi and single. I have experience of both sexes and I cant say I would really have preference. Or maybe at the moment I would rather have a girl for serious relationship...

And my 2 cents to the cheating thing is: I have a relationship with a person not with a gender. If I would get my partners acceptance to do something then it would be another thing, but I dont think I could accept having my partner doing other people so I would never expect anything.

 

[lindahotstuff]

I'm in my 40s, married and bisexual. I love cock but I also love the sensual touch of another woman. Both together if I can get them .. I enjoy being the meat in the sandwich for a married couple who both want me