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Why do older men become bi-curious?
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There is something to that, Samday. I'm pretty sure that sex is not meant to be a solitary activity, so when married partner interest isn't more or less the same one the partner with higher interest is going to start considering what the alternatives might be.
I was wondering the same thing
Agreed! My wife's sex drive waned long ago, and I found that finding a female sex partner was just too much trouble (in more ways than one.) There are plenty of guys looking for sex, and only sex, with other guys. Usually they just want to give or get a blowjob. No muss, no fuss!
And as I've gotten older I've found that there are plenty of other married guys around my age that really want a fishing/hunting/camping/motorcycle/etc... buddy with benefits.
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His profile says he is a lawyer. That may answer the question.
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Everybody is entitled to their preferences. When I hear other gay guys start getting "politically correct" about doing it with any male to prove your not a bigot, I like to remind them that is SO convenient to hind behind lack of attraction to an entire 50% of the population because of an "orientation" while demanding others keep that attraction open to the 50% that you claim you must be attracted to. In my mind it is 100% total BS...
That being said, some of what you said doesn't make sense. What is a "male odor"? While I may not have as much experience with women, I cannot imagine that much difference between the genders. We are all human beings -- we crap, piss, fart, sweat, etc. No one's waste smells more like lilac's based on their gender, race, religion, etc. What matters is hygiene.
Yes I recall as a kid that some boys didn't like to shower, but I would think most adults interested in m2m sex aren't looking for a boy in age nor immaturity. Sure, if you are going to get on at 5 pm with a female office secretary its probably going to be a lot cleaner sex than with an auto mechanic getting off work at 5 pm, but if you like the guy, you can always ask him to shower first. Most likely he wants to anyway after a hard day's work.
Now, when I was younger and out and about I didn't seek out uncircumcised men because seeing and smelling Parmesan cheese once was enough to make me throw up. It really is sickening, and even some of the nicest, kindest, cleanest uncut men don't realize that you probably need to clean it more often than just the times you take a piss. Folded over skin can get smelly pretty quickly. I would assume women sometimes have to deal with the same thing sometimes in their folds down there. In fact, a gay guy that used to be married told me that his wife was a bit overweight and was prone to similar affects and yeast infections because she didn't clean herself often enough.
Another thing that bothers me is cultures that are less into bathing than we are here in America. I think there are lots of very hot looking European men. I've been to parts of Europe, and some of the experiences of just being around Europeans were frustrating. One Italian man was so handsome, and dressed so nicely with his hair slicked back and even a bunch of flowers probably for his wife. However, he smelled like he hadn't bathed in a month. His photo would have looked nice in any ad for suits, but his smell ruined everty thing. It wasn't a male smell it was a MAL-smell (mal meaning bad in latin -- ie malaria literally means bad air since early on they thought it was the air and not the misquotes causing it.) That isn't to say that all Europeans are that way. Simply, the human body sweats; it needs to be washed frequently (soap and water EVERYWHERE) -- regardless of your cultural norms. Now it has been said that perhaps one of the reasons we survived past the cave man age was that animals noticed that we stunk -- obviously not like a sunk, but still a distasteful smell. Sometimes after my experiences, I prone to agree with that theory!
Now as to a man sticking his thing in strange men's asses, unless your going to propose marriage to him, what difference does it make? Make him wear a condom with you. Your concern shouldn't be HIS health, but YOURS. You're not giving him your virginity, so don't expect him to give you his. Wear protection, and be done with the worry.
Seriously, when I hear all these complaints about fears of m2m sex by guys who want to try it, I think why? Why not just give it up the thought all together? Spending days, months and years obsessing about something your are afraid of just isn't mentally healthy. I've been doing gay sex now for 35 years now, and no I do NOT have AIDS. Of course, I've been monogamous for about 15 or so years now. That being said, I'm really not into lollipop sex. Likewise, I do not really care for mutual j/o as I only I know how to please myself that way. I love to fuck. If there were a male convention where the types of men I find attractive all swore on a stack of Bibles never to bend over again, I'd be tempted to go for str8 sex. (People always think if you drop anal sex, all the rest is safe. I guess they never bled after flossing or brushing, nor ever had cut on their fingers. Simply put the more partners you have the more risk.)
M2m sex was always lacking in spectacular enjoyment until I got to top my first man. I'll never apologize for wanting to be totally engulfed inside a man. There will never be a more intimate, intense way of becoming one with another man than when you are inside him. Being inside a man is the closest thing to heaven on earth -- especially if the man your inside gives a damn about you and you about him. Bottom men are angels, and if there were more of them, there would be no more wars. God bless each and every one of them!
I also usually prefer a smaller cock. 5 to 6 inches is ideal for me, but I also sucked a guy once who was smaller than that, maybe 3 or 4 inches fully erect and I loved that too. With smaller cocks, its a turn on to be able to deep throat and it's also not so difficult to maneuver it in your mouth.
I think the reason I also enjoy my friend with the huge 8" cock is because I'm in a completely submissive relationship with him. I go to service him and he takes control. My cock looks tiny next to his and for some reason it really turns me on.
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I'm bi . My buddies know that. They also know I'm theirs . They are all hung nicely. I like that
I have topped once before and really enjoyed it, but it was a unique situation. I was in Hawaii at the time for a convention and I had a hotel on Waikiki beach. If you have ever been to Waikiki after dark, you know that hookers are every ten feet and they are beautiful hookers.
Anyways, I was super horny one night and decided to walk the strip. It was like being in a candy store. I was bi-curious at the time, but I still find women sexy too and I was doing my best to not walk around with a hard on. If you haven't been, they walk around in practically nothing and so many of them have porn star bodies. They aren't shy either, if you're a guy walking by yourself they are going to approach you and they talk dirty. I remember two ladies that approached me who asked if I would enjoy it if one of them sucked my cock till I was hard so I could fuck the other in the ass... mmmm... memories.
Anyways, the hooker that caught my eye that night was gorgeous. She was wearing a fish net type dress (see through) with a thong and tiny bra that barely covered her nipples. She was a slender Asian girl with dark skin, black hair, and nice b or c sized breasts.
She had initiated conversation as I walked up and I stopped to talk to her. She was quick to ask if I was interested in taking her to my room and got real comfortable with me. She grazed her hand across my crotch and moaned, whispering in my ear "mmmm... I would love to suck your big cock." I'm sure that's her move for every guy and it worked. Yes, this was out on the street. It wasn't super crowded, but we certainly weren't alone.
Anyways, she kept talking dirty saying things like, I'm going to really enjoy fucking you, I can't wait to taste your cock, etc... then she got real close, sucked on my ear and whispered that she wasn't like most girls and that she was going to give me the best sex of my life. While saying that she had grabbed my hand and put it against her cock. That's right, her cock.
At this point in my life I had already explored a little with guys, so instead of shocking me, her cock excited me. Even if I weren't bi, I feel like I would have fucked her, she was so sexy. I smiled at her and asked if she had a room (I didn't want to walk into the Marriott with her and have any co-workers see us together).
Anyways, she took me to her room, a cheaper hotel a few streets over. She stripped down as soon as we got to the room and started jerking me until I was hard. It didn't take long as soon as I saw her sexy body with a tiny dick between her legs. I'm telling you that you would never know she was a man with clothes on or maybe you could if it wasn't dark and you didn't have several beers in you. She put a condom on me and started sucking me.
She asked if I was ready to fuck her and then got on all fours on the bed... such a sexy image that I have burned in my memory. She put some lube on my cock and then rubbed her ass with some. Her ass was so smooth and hairless. I pressed the tip of my cock against her hole and she pushed back on me. My cock slid right in and she moaned. I started playing with her cock as I ducked her and she got a semi but never got hard. I only lasted a few minutes. The sex was amazing. She was very vocal and did a lot of moving with her hips. She would look at me over her shoulder and talk dirty.... so hot.
So, yes I like to top too, but my thing is very feminine and slender guys and I don't come by that often in my discreet encounters. If I could meet another shemale I would be in heaven.
When I suck guys or bottom, I like big manly guys. I wouldn't want to top any of them. I like for them to be the big strong man and take control of me.
I'm bi . My buddies know that. They also know I'm theirs . They are all hung nicely. I like that
You are a lucky man!
I think for me, I'm pretty much the one in control in my life. I feels so good sometimes just to give up that control and do someone else's sexual bidding.
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We know how much work women are; and, they want to own you. I love a sissycock. Have tried to be gay without much luck. But CD's, T girls and etc. are so fun to date. They can switch from guy to girl mode in a heartbeat.
Sometimes, in a challenge to perversity, I will suck a cock while jerking myself to orgasm. Women are predictable and dangerous and expensive; men are not.
We know how much work women are; and, they want to own you. I love a sissycock. Have tried to be gay without much luck. But CD's, T girls and etc. are so fun to date. They can switch from guy to girl mode in a heartbeat.
Sometimes, in a challenge to perversity, I will suck a cock while jerking myself to orgasm. Women are predictable and dangerous and expensive; men are not.
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I must agree ...
I must agree with you Bill. It is fab that so many of us mature guys are acknowledging our desires to suck cock or otherwise engage in m2m sexual adventures. It is not likely that I would turn down an otherwise acceptable buddy because his cock is too big, but I would prefer a nice 6 inch, or less size. It is just that there is so much more that I can do with it.
I must agree with you Bill. It is fab that so many of us mature guys are acknowledging our desires to suck cock or otherwise engage in m2m sexual adventures. It is not likely that I would turn down an otherwise acceptable buddy because his cock is too big, but I would prefer a nice 6 inch, or less size. It is just that there is so much more that I can do with it.
Yes yes and yes. Giving up the control and letting someone else have their way with you is the biggest turn on for me.
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Lack of sex with my hot wife certainly wasn't what turned my thoughts to sucking cock. It just seemed to happen. One day looking at porn sites I found myself beginning to linger over pictures of cocks and started to wonder what it would be like to suck one. Maybe watching my wife enjoying sucking cock added to my interest
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I agree , when we had a friend over I was watching those 2 for awhile. Interesting and made me hard
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Dude you look good! And sucking a cock is sweet!!
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I'm in somewhat the same situation. My spouse's lack of enthusiasm/contribution/willing participation in our sex life has been a large contributing factor to my interest in pursuing sex with other men. Other than the lackluster sex, our marriage is exceptionally good.
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Times change
Growing up in the Midwest as I did in the 70s, things were very repressed. Gays were "fags, queers, hermaphrodites" and if anyone thought you even LOOKED less than 100% straight you were in danger of a beating.
Fast forward to California in 2016, and 40 years of marriage - I have many gay/lesbian friends, and the proliferation of M-t-F transgender images has altered my tastes. If I were to become widowed or divorced and start dating again, I would certainly consider a transgendered person as a possible spouse. (I'm so used to being married that I'd want to go that route. No time for fooling around.)
Does that make sense?
Growing up in the Midwest as I did in the 70s, things were very repressed. Gays were "fags, queers, hermaphrodites" and if anyone thought you even LOOKED less than 100% straight you were in danger of a beating.
Fast forward to California in 2016, and 40 years of marriage - I have many gay/lesbian friends, and the proliferation of M-t-F transgender images has altered my tastes. If I were to become widowed or divorced and start dating again, I would certainly consider a transgendered person as a possible spouse. (I'm so used to being married that I'd want to go that route. No time for fooling around.)
Does that make sense?
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