Why do older men become bi-curious?

[cuckoldbill]

Growing up in the Midwest as I did in the 70s, things were very repressed. Gays were "fags, queers, hermaphrodites" and if anyone thought you even LOOKED less than 100% straight you were in danger of a beating.

Fast forward to California in 2016, and 40 years of marriage - I have many gay/lesbian friends, and the proliferation of M-t-F transgender images has altered my tastes. If I were to become widowed or divorced and start dating again, I would certainly consider a transgendered person as a possible spouse. (I'm so used to being married that I'd want to go that route. No time for fooling around.)

Does that make sense?

Yes it does. Perfect sense. One of the things I have learnt here on lit is the number of straight, even macho , guys who once they get into their late 50's suddenly start thinking about cock. It is a lot more common than I expected.

 

[bear175]

Yes it does. Perfect sense. One of the things I have learnt here on lit is the number of straight, even macho , guys who once they get into their late 50's suddenly start thinking about cock. It is a lot more common than I expected.

In my early teens, I played a bit with guys, then women became my only interest. But when the sex drive of my s/o dropped to zero, my interest in men surged up.

 

[cuck72]

getting off on cock in mouth

For me, 63 now, the cock sucking thoughts came earlier . I NEVER thought of sucking a guy in my teens or twenties . I married 21 , then started having these wife sharing fantasies , never heard of cuckolding back 40 years ago. But then I seen this porno , I was like mid 30's where this husband was staring at this other guys cock as he fucked his wife. The guy was thinking to himself , if my wife enjoys sucking that guys cock , and a lot of women do, hummmm.

That did it , I started looking at this one friend I was hanging out with a lot , we would be drinking and he'd be drunk telling me how this slut sucked him good the other night. He was one of the guys I fantasized about fucking my wife. Then I started to take peeks at his bulge in his jeans, and thought of being that girl sucking his cock.

We would be out having to piss from the beers and I started looking over at his big cock hanging out pissing. OMG I was going home jacking off thinking of sucking this friends cock. So these cock sucking thoughts started for me in my 30's . I love the wife's pussy and fantasies of being her cuckold , BUT a cock sucking cuckold now. I'd say half the time though I get off on gay porn.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

Seems as if all the main reasons have been mentioned and agreed upon

 

[luvbottom]

luv to slowly pull down his zipper and put my hand on his bulge. Pull his shorts down one leg at a time and start to jerk his cock off. Want to read more?

 

[cuck72]

luv to slowly pull down his zipper and put my hand on his bulge. Pull his shorts down one leg at a time and start to jerk his cock off. Want to read more?

OH YES

 

[cuckoldbill]

luv to slowly pull down his zipper and put my hand on his bulge. Pull his shorts down one leg at a time and start to jerk his cock off. Want to read more?

Yes please

 

[amysboytoy]

And here I thought I was the only one. Having been on Lit for a couple of years now has shown me that I'm not alone in my thinking. I realized at a young age, (mid 1970's), that I was "different". I liked women's clothes. I experimented some but like others, that was a time that it was very, very taboo to be labeled as fag, queer, etc. As I have aged, I find that I love to dress in women's clothes, mostly underewear, and I have come to really enjoy the whole gay, bi, cuckold scene. I might add that there was never really a lack of sex from my then wife. I have just always enjoyed cock. Alas, I live in too small of a city to be able to act much on it.

 

[cuckoldbill]

And here I thought I was the only one. Having been on Lit for a couple of years now has shown me that I'm not alone in my thinking. I realized at a young age, (mid 70's), that I was "different". I liked women's clothes. I experimented some but like others, that was a time that it was very, very taboo to be labeled as fag, queer, etc. As I have aged, I find that I love to dress in women's clothes, mostly underewear, and I have come to really enjoy the whole gay, bi, cuckold scene. I might add that there was never really a lack of sex from my then wife. I have just always enjoyed cock. Alas, I live in too small of a city to be able to act much on it.[/QUOTE

Although a lifelong cd my cock fetish only really came to the fore in my late 50's. Thankfully my wife supports my dressing and we enjoy some wonderful "girly" times together. Like you I live in a small town which makes it very difficult to indulge my cock fetish

 

[nkdoldman]

Agreed!

I also usually prefer a smaller cock. 5 to 6 inches is ideal for me, but I also sucked a guy once who was smaller than that, maybe 3 or 4 inches fully erect and I loved that too. With smaller cocks, its a turn on to be able to deep throat and it's also not so difficult to maneuver it in your mouth.

I think the reason I also enjoy my friend with the huge 8" cock is because I'm in a completely submissive relationship with him. I go to service him and he takes control. My cock looks tiny next to his and for some reason it really turns me on.

I agree completely. In my case, I, like you seem to be, cannot easily move a large cock around in my mouth. One that is 6" or smaller I can easily move around in my mouth, deep throat, and lick to cumming, which is the most 'fun' for both parties. I also cannot/will not do any anal, although some have tried that without success. No problem for me as I find I have absolutely no interest in doing it. Not into me or me into anybody else. Sometimes though it is difficult to have the other party agree to not even try.

 

[lithos43]

Several replies mention cross dressing with wanting to suck cock. I'm one of those. I wear panties every day (my wife knows and goes along) and sometimes stockings. I fantasize constantly about taking a long, smooth cock in my mouth. And as others have mentioned, I'm in no way attracted to men, only with what they have between their legs. A conundrum, as they say.

I'm retired, love my wife of many years, and if I could change one thing about her, it would be that she had a cock. And if she did, she'd wake up every morning with my mouth on her. Kinda crazy, huh.

 

[thistlemad]

it occurs that it is simply that as we get older (I`m 54), we become more confident as regards our own sexuality AND our own mortality!!
Simply put, do we wish to go meet our maker with so many "what ifs" on our minds?

 

[saintcero]

older bi-curious

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[ScottMtl]

In my early teens, I played a bit with guys, then women became my only interest. But when the sex drive of my s/o dropped to zero, my interest in men surged up.

interesting how that is ~ heard from many in the same situation

 

[Shavedallover]

I got a late start. No regrets. I'm bi and love it.

 

[dacoach44]

Same here

interesting how that is ~ heard from many in the same situation

Wife ran out of steam. Then, I found Lit, began reading crossdresser stories; found myself hard as a brick reading a forced femme story. Love it.

 

[curiousdreamer51]

Wife Helps my Urges

Several replies mention cross dressing with wanting to suck cock. I'm one of those. I wear panties every day (my wife knows and goes along) and sometimes stockings. I fantasize constantly about taking a long, smooth cock in my mouth. And as others have mentioned, I'm in no way attracted to men, only with what they have between their legs. A conundrum, as they say.

I'm retired, love my wife of many years, and if I could change one thing about her, it would be that she had a cock. And if she did, she'd wake up every morning with my mouth on her. Kinda crazy, huh.

My wife loves my oral talents. Many times she cums multiple times and then becomes too sensitive and slides her hand diwn to keep my tongue away from her pussy. She will then tease my lips with her index and middle finger. I will open my mouth and suck then in and pretend she has a small cock as I Bob up and down and swirl my tongue around her fingers. It seems to get her turned on and she curls the other fingers up into her pussy and starts grinding against my mouth as I suck. Many times it brings her to another back arching, sheet grabbing and moaning orgasm. Makes me incredibly hard! I wish sometimes it was a real cock!

 

[bicurnow]

My wife loves my oral talents. Many times she cums multiple times and then becomes too sensitive and slides her hand diwn to keep my tongue away from her pussy. She will then tease my lips with her index and middle finger. I will open my mouth and suck then in and pretend she has a small cock as I Bob up and down and swirl my tongue around her fingers. It seems to get her turned on and she curls the other fingers up into her pussy and starts grinding against my mouth as I suck. Many times it brings her to another back arching, sheet grabbing and moaning orgasm. Makes me incredibly hard! I wish sometimes it was a real cock!

Only sometimes?

 

[susurrus]

So many that post here orient to an oral solution for their curiosity. I can accept some oral activity as preliminary action, but my goal is to be mounted and fucked.

I want to feel knees spreading my legs apart, thumbs spreading my ass cheeks apart. I want to feel a hot rod line up against my hole and demand entry. I want to feel the full power of a cock thrust into me while balls slap against my ass. I want hands holding my hips while I am being bred. I want my bowels painted white with his seed and I want to feel my sphincter clinch to recover after he withdraws.

I am not a sissy, a cross dresser or a sub. I am a bottom. Am I alone with this desire? Are there no others like me?

No, you are not alone in not being a sissy, etc. It's just that the folks who are seem to be much more vocal about it, so it just appears that with bi curiosity comes a desire to be feminine. There are plenty of us who just want to broaden their sexual horizons.

 

[krissive69]

So many that post here orient to an oral solution for their curiosity. I can accept some oral activity as preliminary action, but my goal is to be mounted and fucked.

I want to feel knees spreading my legs apart, thumbs spreading my ass cheeks apart. I want to feel a hot rod line up against my hole and demand entry. I want to feel the full power of a cock thrust into me while balls slap against my ass. I want hands holding my hips while I am being bred. I want my bowels painted white with his seed and I want to feel my sphincter clinch to recover after he withdraws.

I am not a sissy, a cross dresser or a sub. I am a bottom. Am I alone with this desire? Are there no others like me?

this.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

Wife ran out of steam. Then, I found Lit, began reading crossdresser stories; found myself hard as a brick reading a forced femme story. Love it.

I think that is a common theme. I absolutely love women. Nothing comes close. Love everything about them. Wife has very low sex drive. So infrequent sex leaves me to take care of myself. I think it's a mix of what you are exposed to and what feels most comfortable.

So the more I watched porn the more i searched out more extreme fetishes. This is very common. You get bored with one type and move on and up the fetish scale. That led to femdom, big cocks etc.

The other part that is interesting is in a weird way I feel far less guilty looking at a big cock vs looking at a gorgeous naked woman. Just my only personal rationalization i guess.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

No, you are not alone in not being a sissy, etc. It's just that the folks who are seem to be much more vocal about it, so it just appears that with bi curiosity comes a desire to be feminine. There are plenty of us who just want to broaden their sexual horizons.

True...

 

[Mr. Briggs]

So many that post here orient to an oral solution for their curiosity. I can accept some oral activity as preliminary action, but my goal is to be mounted and fucked.

I want to feel knees spreading my legs apart, thumbs spreading my ass cheeks apart. I want to feel a hot rod line up against my hole and demand entry. I want to feel the full power of a cock thrust into me while balls slap against my ass. I want hands holding my hips while I am being bred. I want my bowels painted white with his seed and I want to feel my sphincter clinch to recover after he withdraws.

I am not a sissy, a cross dresser or a sub. I am a bottom. Am I alone with this desire? Are there no others like me?

That is one hot damn post

 

[none2_none2]

So many that post here orient to an oral solution for their curiosity. I can accept some oral activity as preliminary action, but my goal is to be mounted and fucked.

I want to feel knees spreading my legs apart, thumbs spreading my ass cheeks apart. I want to feel a hot rod line up against my hole and demand entry. I want to feel the full power of a cock thrust into me while balls slap against my ass. I want hands holding my hips while I am being bred. I want my bowels painted white with his seed and I want to feel my sphincter clinch to recover after he withdraws.

I am not a sissy, a cross dresser or a sub. I am a bottom. Am I alone with this desire? Are there no others like me?

Sexuality varies from person to person. You shouldn't feel alone. I started doing gay sex when I was 21.5. At first I felt like maybe homosexuality was about having a life of miserable or unfulfilling sex. I really didn't care for a cock in my mouth. I disliked getting fucked. No one can jack me like I want because their had isn't the same as mine. Likewise, receiving oral sex is pleasant -- just like a foot rub may feel pleasant, but it was never orgasmic to me.

Then about two years into it, a guy finally let me fuck him. For the first time, I realized how wonderful m2m sex could be. I didn't know if I was cumming/peeing or dying, it was just so intense. It was like the 4th of July, Christmas, and my Birthday all rolled into one intense half hour.

Sadly, I suffer with ED now (probably from diabetics), and the pills cause side effects. Still, in my nature, I need a man's ass. Lollipop play won't cut it; I need a man's ass. Since I cannot do it, I fantasize about it all the time. Luckily once in a while my partner will let me play with him knowing that I cannot get it up/keep it up. There is nothing closer to heaven on earth than experiencing a man's orgasm while your cock is inside him, and if he cares for you, it is that much hotter.

If my partner were to die, and suddenly there was a miracle cure for my ED problem, I'd have a hard time finding a compatible partner. So many are hooked on oral or j/o. Perhaps it is from the fear of AIDS, and other STD's. I could never partner up with someone who didn't love their ass played with. I would think it would compare to being married to a woman who was frigid. My thing was never about banging an ass until it was warn out, but to stay "connected" as long as possible with another man.

While I always fantasize about literally breeding a man, I am not desiring to feminize him. In many ways a bottom can be considered the better, and bigger man. He's risking everything -- risk of being seen as less a man for letting another man in, risk of a disease (even with condoms they can break), risk of having an "accident" and being considered disgustingly dirty. For a man to give you his ass despite all those culture taboos is the most touching gift he can give another man and courageous. That is why I consider bottoms like angels on earth. If there were more bottoms in the world, there would be much less male aggression. Plus how could we ever have another war if there were more bottoms? I know I could never even hit a man who was so kind to me -- let alone point a weapon at him.

Bottoms rock!

 

[monanympho]

I actually asked this question to a 46 year old man I was with recently, who has gone bi now. He has been married for about 18 years now. He explained that it was because there is a strong urge to try something new sexually after 40, something like a mid life crisis of sorts...the urge is to do try something before you grow too old and see life fading away - his trigger was demetia setting up in a friend and his own failing vision.