Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

I've been having sex with men, in a sporadic fashion, since I was twenty. Never actively sought it out, just took some opportunities along the way, and never considered myself bisexual, because my homosexual and bisexual experiences accounted for a slim portion of my history, and what I typically respond to in men is what I perceive to be feminine qualities. However, I've become more open to men as I've gotten older, and I think it has at least a little to do with the fact that I no longer feel so much like I'm in competition with them--I see them more completely as human beings and actually like them more. And yes, the taboo of it has declined so drastically in recent years--with so many people willing to talk about it, opportunities arise much more easily.

 

[Willingcuck]

BI SIde

I spent many years in the locker room trying not to look at other guys cocks. Some to see if they were bigger or just longer or thicker. Finely at age 45 while in a hot tube an older man, one of the guys I had checked out climbed in and said you have a nice one too. Taken a back I just said Hugh. His reply was don't worry about it we all do, check out the competition. Pretty well ended the conversation until I was about to leave and he asked if I would like to get coffee.

Over coffee he confessed like me he was always looking at cock as well as pussy. It was not until 3 years ago he met a bi couple who introduced him to cock sucking. Found he liked it straight off just as much as he enjoyed eating pussy. Anytime I liked he would be happy to show me the ropes.

I took him up on his offer, after all once would just be an experiment. Well I have been sucking cock for 5 years now. And, still enjoy pussy.

 

[Cabeza]

I don't know if I'm "older" (40) and I had some bi experiences when I was younger, but I definitely find myself getting more and more turned on by men/cock as I get older. Maybe it's letting go of youthful taboos?

 

[Highlife5588]

I don't know if I'm "older" (40) and I had some bi experiences when I was younger, but I definitely find myself getting more and more turned on by men/cock as I get older. Maybe it's letting go of youthful taboos?

I think you are right about letting go!

 

[yukonnights]

I don't know if I'm "older" (40) and I had some bi experiences when I was younger, but I definitely find myself getting more and more turned on by men/cock as I get older. Maybe it's letting go of youthful taboos?

I think you are right about letting go!

The word that comes to my mind is: confidence. At some point perhaps everyone just says; Fuck it! I'm an adult and if they don't like it then too bad. That's hard to do at 18 or 30...but it is also worth noting that it is getting to be less of a taboo as every year passes

 

[MatureSensualBottom]

In my case it was something I had always craved, but my upbringing meant I had not been brave enough to go with my feelings and true desires. Until that is in my mid 40's and the realisation that you only get one shot at life and I needed to feel those feelings...explore those desires and thank goodness I did!

 

[dacoach44]

OK, kids

The word that comes to my mind is: confidence. At some point perhaps everyone just says; Fuck it! I'm an adult and if they don't like it then too bad. That's hard to do at 18 or 30...but it is also worth noting that it is getting to be less of a taboo as every year passes

I found sissies at 69; love it, date them but also have been with a lovely dame for 3 years, who has NO idea I prefer sissies, CD's, T girls, for sex. I am not giving this up, and as we know, there are many reasons one cannot check this out until later in life. To top it off, I am not really gay; dont go to gay bars, etc.

 

[BattlingSoul]

BI is just the next level of your sex drug, being straight don't do it for you any more so now you need a new, different, HIGH...

 

[Imaverycuriousguy]

I may agree

BI is just the next level of your sex drug, being straight don't do it for you any more so now you need a new, different, HIGH...

Thought provoking and i think that may be a part of it for me. Married almost 35 years and we would change things up to keep the spark flying.....I told her two years ago about my bi-curiosities and we added some more flying sparks to our play....haven't crossed the line but that may be the next thing for us.

In my confession t her I told her about my school boy experirnces

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

BI is just the next level of your sex drug, being straight don't do it for you any more so now you need a new, different, HIGH...

My cock says I want to suck cocks.

 

[dacoach44]

Reminds me of African Queen

Thought provoking and i think that may be a part of it for me. Married almost 35 years and we would change things up to keep the spark flying.....I told her two years ago about my bi-curiosities and we added some more flying sparks to our play....haven't crossed the line but that may be the next thing for us.

In my confession t her I told her about my school boy experirnces

When Hepburn bawled out Bogie; as she poured out his rum, "All you think of is your selfish pleasure." Yes, bi is fun, once you have got money, house, car, kids,and wife figgered out.

Pity the man who abandons his duty to family for his pleasure.

 

[Bigspurt]

It hasn't happened to me but I think that older men want to get off and realize it is alot easier to do so with a like minded guy.

 

[yukonnights]

BI is just the next level of your sex drug, being straight don't do it for you any more so now you need a new, different, HIGH...

It hasn't happened to me but I think that older men want to get off and realize it is alot easier to do so with a like minded guy.

I think both of these comments make a good point about how each person views their bisexuality. Perhaps for some, it is a rational choice to engage with another of the same sex with the goal of experiencing excitement, or a commitment free sexual release, etc. Whereas, for a different person the desire is born of true attraction to the same sex. Really, it is impossible to fix any one reason why older men might engage in same-sex-relationships since every person is very unique in their reasons.

Perhaps a second question might actually add more light to the first one:
When was the first time you had any same-sex thoughts/desires?

I would propose that those with early life thoughts/desires reside more toward the gay end of the spectrum...whereas those older folks with first time thoughts/desires are more to the heterosexual side of the spectrum.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

It hasn't happened to me but I think that older men want to get off and realize it is alot easier to do so with a like minded guy.

A lot, lot, lot easier.

Now if I was running a strip club girls might be easier than guys.

 

[scott6251]

In my case it was something I had always craved, but my upbringing meant I had not been brave enough to go with my feelings and true desires. Until that is in my mid 40's and the realisation that you only get one shot at life and I needed to feel those feelings...explore those desires and thank goodness I did!

yessss

 

[Duncan113]

I wonder if it's a drop in testosterone levels as we age ?

I have wondered this, too, especially because, less well-known, is that we simultaneously experience a rise in estrogen level (women experience the reverse shift in the ratio between the two sex hormones, which is why they become hirsute in middle-age.)

It does seem to be a universal. There is also the simple factor of boredom. As generally will happen with one's masturbation fantasies, the mind grows weary of the "same old" fantasies and starts searching for fresh material. Taboo fantasies like homosexual experiences are of course particularly powerful stimulants.

Finally, as someone else said above, although this is a more recent phenomenon, there is the effect of online porn. If you're bombarded with certain images for a long enough time, they'll eventually have an effect on you.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Some

are certainly having an effect on me.

 

[Mqoi]

Interesting conversation. My first sexual experiences were with other guys and then on and off with guys as opportunities arose. But when I'm married, I don't tend to step outside of that. I still like to check out the menu, but don't order from it. But over the past several years, sex has left my marriage due to my wife's declining health. So I'm looking at the menus even more now.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

Interesting conversation. My first sexual experiences were with other guys and then on and off with guys as opportunities arose. But when I'm married, I don't tend to step outside of that. I still like to check out the menu, but don't order from it. But over the past several years, sex has left my marriage due to my wife's declining health. So I'm looking at the menus even more now.

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[cuckoldbill]

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Great, hot selection of bj videos. Thanks for posting them

 

[Seafoamzone]

Older, 49, Married male myself and like many others here my sexual activity with the wife is gone due to her health problems. I have always enjoyed anal stimulation and have had some great experiences over the years but I didnt indulge my Bi side until I was about 47. I enjoy sucking and getting fucked and will sometimes top if the mood is right. Not really attracted to me per say, just the raw sexual energy.

 

[bottomshooter]

I still don't know why but I am having a lot of fun, and orgasms, exploring it!

 

[SexyLitForAll]

Interesting conversation. My first sexual experiences were with other guys and then on and off with guys as opportunities arose. But when I'm married, I don't tend to step outside of that. I still like to check out the menu, but don't order from it. But over the past several years, sex has left my marriage due to my wife's declining health. So I'm looking at the menus even more now.

Same here...sex has not left my marriage, but those younger men...my, It's hard to just look, as I recall my younger days as one.

 

[AzHiker1021]

Started for me, in my late 30's, when my marriage was falling apart. We had been together 15 years and I honestly had no reason to look outside of my marriage before that point.

I started looking around because I needed some relief. I found a friend, a guy, who took care of my needs a few times - after all the soon-to-be-ex-wife wasn't doing it. And since it was a buddy, she wouldn't ever dream that I was getting some on the side.

After a few times with him, I took him in my mouth for the first time. It was really fun, and from there I let him top me. Twice. But he seemed to get really clingy and I wasn't ready for that.

Once the marriage was over, I was back to women, but now I'm drifting back to the bi-side. This time I don't have a "significant other" so I have nothing holding me back from really finding out what I enjoy.

So I don't know if it is because I am older, or because I am at a place in my life that I can have new experiences without hurting anyone, but I'm really enjoying my outlook right now.

 

[tonycurinmass]

Also, it seems that women do seem to lose a lot of the drive as they get older. How often does the wife have a headache, or she's tired, etc? Have you ever let any of those excuses stop you from having sex? I know I haven't!