Would you introduce your partner to Lit?

[Cama de Rosas]

now there's an idea............
however, I think we're hijacking this thread, lol.

maybe we should start a "group hug" thread!

Good point - I'm sure the mystery person would come and spank us for that if she wasn't hiding...

At least it keeps it up near the top though - all the responses to it seem to be negative - no-one saying they think it's a good idea to introduce someone.

Any takers? Helloooooooo?

 

[higherlevel4u]

Good point - I'm sure the mystery person would come and spank us for that if she wasn't hiding...

At least it keeps it up near the top though - all the responses to it seem to be negative - no-one saying they think it's a good idea to introduce someone.

Any takers? Helloooooooo?

If I thought for a moment that my partner was at all receptive to the idea, I would introduce her ..... but I know her so well, that I know she wouldn't want to .... I think most people should know their partners well enough to know whether or not they would be receptive ..... so really it doesn't seem too much of a problem ..... the only issue I could see would be if you didn't trust your partner ..... and you were worried that they might meet someone online and begin an offline relationship .... but that is opening another can of worms involving trust and personal insecurities .....

Oops .... am I getting a little too deep here for the PG?

 

[babydoll2u]

If I thought for a moment that my partner was at all receptive to the idea, I would introduce her ..... but I know her so well, that I know she wouldn't want to .... I think most people should know their partners well enough to know whether or not they would be receptive ..... so really it doesn't seem too much of a problem ..... the only issue I could see would be if you didn't trust your partner ..... and you were worried that they might meet someone online and begin an offline relationship .... but that is opening another can of worms involving trust and personal insecurities .....

Oops .... am I getting a little too deep here for the PG?

nope......

 

[Cama de Rosas]

If I thought for a moment that my partner was at all receptive to the idea, I would introduce her ..... but I know her so well, that I know she wouldn't want to .... I think most people should know their partners well enough to know whether or not they would be receptive ..... so really it doesn't seem too much of a problem ..... the only issue I could see would be if you didn't trust your partner ..... and you were worried that they might meet someone online and begin an offline relationship .... but that is opening another can of worms involving trust and personal insecurities .....

Oops .... am I getting a little too deep here for the PG?

Deep is good. (Leave. It.)

But maybe you just might not be sure how they'd react. Maybe you know how they'd react to some things (she said he read the stories on Lit) but aren't sure how they'd react to you personally posting here?

If it was an issue of trust, then you're going to find out one way or another ya know?

Go deeper. This is interesting.

 

[DLL]

Deep is good. (Leave. It.)

But maybe you just might not be sure how they'd react. Maybe you know how they'd react to some things (she said he read the stories on Lit) but aren't sure how they'd react to you personally posting here?

If it was an issue of trust, then you're going to find out one way or another ya know?

Go deeper. This is interesting.

well lets just say lit can be a dangerous place ...example i like so and so...so and so likes me we chat more and more ..hey lets talk on the phone...ooo i like your voice he likes mine.. lets meet perhaps... we do it goes well...and we decide to keep meeting behind the backs of our SO... what????
like this hasnt happened???
believe me if Higher was in NY we would have met for tea..i am sure of it

 

[Cama de Rosas]

well lets just say lit can be a dangerous place ...example i like so and so...so and so likes me we chat more and more ..hey lets talk on the phone...ooo i like your voice he likes mine.. lets meet perhaps... we do it goes well...and we decide to keep meeting behind the backs of our SO... what????
like this hasnt happened???
believe me if Higher was in NY we would have met for tea..i am sure of it

Good point. I guess each person has to know how far they will go...then life never works out so clean cut does it? But as I said before, if you go with the theory that one should know one's partner well enough to decide, then presumably you also know if they can be trusted? Although, again, not always this clean cut.

On a side note, maybe we should volunteer Higher to be the first test subject for human cloning...we could make a fortune in very satisfied female customers meeting for 'tea'

 

[DLL]

Good point. I guess each person has to know how far they will go...then life never works out so clean cut does it? But as I said before, if you go with the theory that one should know one's partner well enough to decide, then presumably you also know if they can be trusted? Although, again, not always this clean cut.

On a side note, maybe we should volunteer Higher to be the first test subject for human cloning...we could make a fortune in very satisfied female customers meeting for 'tea'

well tea would be tea i happen to like higher ...but attraction is a funny thing and you are right you never know what might happen when after months of flirty chat two shall meet...
but arent you a bit curious about anyone on lit and would want to get to know how they like their tea???

 

[Cama de Rosas]

well tea would be tea i happen to like higher ...but attraction is a funny thing and you are right you never know what might happen when after months of flirty chat two shall meet...
but arent you a bit curious about anyone on lit and would want to get to know how they like their tea???

Sorry hon, didn't mean to imply anything improper

And there are a number of people I'd like to whip up a storm in a teacup with

 

[Guest]

well lets just say lit can be a dangerous place ...example i like so and so...so and so likes me we chat more and more ..hey lets talk on the phone...ooo i like your voice he likes mine.. lets meet perhaps... we do it goes well...and we decide to keep meeting behind the backs of our SO... what????
like this hasnt happened???
believe me if Higher was in NY we would have met for tea..i am sure of it

Dll I actually agree with you. HoweverI do believe Lit can be form of escapism for many people. Perhaps not looking to actually have affairs yet we would be unrealistic and naive to say we are not *looking*....so the question is would we want our partners doing the same thing most people if they are truly honest would say no. My partner isnt interested in Lit he knows I have pics he knows I have friends yet he has made the choice not to be part of this. Although he does have a good ol moan about how much time i spend here

Yes DLL you are correct Lit can be a dangerous place..and often fantasy supersedes reality. It depends on the individual. I can be flippant however I am happy my partner is not interested in Lit...this is my time I would feel I was being spied upon if my partner was here. Im not doing anything behind his back but I still feel the same.

 

[zukethecuke]

two cents worth

I haven't told my wife about Lit yet, and may not ever do so. I would certainly do so if I could be sure she'd enjoy reading -- and maybe she would -- but after all these years the one thing I know about her is that she's hard to predict.

I don't think she'd find any of my posts toooooo upsetting. She might find some of my PM's a tad over the line. I've never posted photos. She would, certainly, worry that an online relationship would become a 'real' (meaning physical -- we are all real, aren't we?) relationship. But she dithers over that from time to time anyway. She would be REALLY upset about how much time I must spend here when there's so much to do around the house....

 

[babydoll2u]

Dll I actually agree with you. HoweverI do believe Lit can be form of escapism for many people. Perhaps not looking to actually have affairs yet we would be unrealistic and naive to say we are not *looking*....so the question is would we want our partners doing the same thing most people if they are truly honest would say no. My partner isnt interested in Lit he knows I have pics he knows I have friends yet he has made the choice not to be part of this. Although he does have a good ol moan about how much time i spend here

Yes DLL you are correct Lit can be a dangerous place..and often fantasy supersedes reality. It depends on the individual. I can be flippant however I am happy my partner is not interested in Lit...this is my time I would feel I was being spied upon if my partner was here. Im not doing anything behind his back but I still feel the same.

I agree with much of what's been said here.
interesting viewpoints........

 

[Cama de Rosas]

I agree with much of what's been said here.
interesting viewpoints........

They are aren't they Babydoll? And I find myself agreeing with everyone, even if their ideas contrast with each other.

Everyone and every situation is different I suppose.

 

[babydoll2u]

They are aren't they Babydoll? And I find myself agreeing with everyone, even if their ideas contrast with each other.

Everyone and every situation is different I suppose.

yup yup, me too. funny...

 

[Cama de Rosas]

Dll I actually agree with you. HoweverI do believe Lit can be form of escapism for many people. Perhaps not looking to actually have affairs yet we would be unrealistic and naive to say we are not *looking*....so the question is would we want our partners doing the same thing most people if they are truly honest would say no. My partner isnt interested in Lit he knows I have pics he knows I have friends yet he has made the choice not to be part of this. Although he does have a good ol moan about how much time i spend here

Yes DLL you are correct Lit can be a dangerous place..and often fantasy supersedes reality. It depends on the individual. I can be flippant however I am happy my partner is not interested in Lit...this is my time I would feel I was being spied upon if my partner was here. Im not doing anything behind his back but I still feel the same.

Sxy, I think a lot of people's partners probably moan at how much time Lit can take up! It has a very strong pull sometimes!

It's good (I assume) that your other half knows, but isn't interested. That means you truly aren't doing anything behind his back, but don't get that spied on feeling. It would be odd, never knowing if they would pop in to somewhere you were chatting, especially if they were someone who wasn't comfortable about it.

Personally I wouldn't have a problem with my partner doing any of the things on the threads that I do - I trust him implicitly, and am actually probably more forgiving than he has ever put to the test (don't think I'll tell him that though - wouldn't want him testing the limits )

 

[Guest]

Sxy, I think a lot of people's partners probably moan at how much time Lit can take up! It has a very strong pull sometimes!

It's good (I assume) that your other half knows, but isn't interested. That means you truly aren't doing anything behind his back, but don't get that spied on feeling. It would be odd, never knowing if they would pop in to somewhere you were chatting, especially if they were someone who wasn't comfortable about it.

Personally I wouldn't have a problem with my partner doing any of the things on the threads that I do - I trust him implicitly, and am actually probably more forgiving than he has ever put to the test (don't think I'll tell him that though - wouldn't want him testing the limits )

Hi Cama...its not that I dont trust him hell he would never cheat ...its more a privacy issue. I have a partner however I am still entitled to privacy . He is a member of other sites I wouldnt dream of joining them why..for the same reason. Lit isnt about sharing..this is my time my precious freetime & this is how I chose to spend at least some of it..or hell alot of it hehehe.

The whole point of the thread is wether we would introduce our partners to Lit or not. I would say yes I tried to and yes Im glad he decided not to. I think its wonderful that you personally have such a strong relationship however in reality that is not the case for alot of people on Lit. Alot of people have partners who are narrow minded and would never accept their partners playing on here its that simple.

 

[Cama de Rosas]

Hi Cama...its not that I dont trust him hell he would never cheat ...its more a privacy issue. I have a partner however I am still entitled to privacy . He is a member of other sites I wouldnt dream of joining them why..for the same reason. Lit isnt about sharing..this is my time my precious freetime & this is how I chose to spend at least some of it..or hell alot of it hehehe.

The whole point of the thread is wether we would introduce our partners to Lit or not. I would say yes I tried to and yes Im glad he decided not to. I think its wonderful that you personally have such a strong relationship however in reality that is not the case for alot of people on Lit. Alot of people have partners who are narrow minded and would never accept their partners playing on here its that simple.

Hi yourself

Wow, do you think so? I don't know what to say to that! I like your viewpoint though - as I said, you're not hiding anything from him, but have ended up in a good position for you both. Seems to me that you are one of the people that does have a strong relationship

And yes, I guess it is a lot about having something that is just yours. And the effects of Lit can always be shared with the other person

 

[Guest]

Hi yourself

Wow, do you think so? I don't know what to say to that! I like your viewpoint though - as I said, you're not hiding anything from him, but have ended up in a good position for you both. Seems to me that you are one of the people that does have a strong relationship

And yes, I guess it is a lot about having something that is just yours. And the effects of Lit can always be shared with the other person

Exactly Cama you summed up pretty much what I was saying. Lit is for me not to share...my partner has his own *things* he does online. Yes the effects of Lit can be shared wether he is actually on Lit or not hehe.

Yes if you have such a strong relationship that you both feel you can play openly on Lit then definitely you must have a very strong relationship. The weakness of human nature is jealousy this often has nothing to do with insecurity its about valuing someone you care deeply for. If you are never jealous complacency can set in. I defy anyone that doesnt feel a twinge of jealousy watching their partner be intimitate or say sexually intimate things with another even if it is just *cyber* intimacy . This is prob why Lit wouldnt work for the majority of couples.

 

[babydoll2u]

Hi Cama...its not that I dont trust him hell he would never cheat ...its more a privacy issue. I have a partner however I am still entitled to privacy . He is a member of other sites I wouldnt dream of joining them why..for the same reason. Lit isnt about sharing..this is my time my precious freetime & this is how I chose to spend at least some of it..or hell alot of it hehehe.

The whole point of the thread is wether we would introduce our partners to Lit or not. I would say yes I tried to and yes Im glad he decided not to. I think its wonderful that you personally have such a strong relationship however in reality that is not the case for alot of people on Lit. Alot of people have partners who are narrow minded and would never accept their partners playing on here its that simple.

BINGO.... mine didn't

 

[Guest]

BINGO.... mine didn't

So sorry to hear that babyD ...some people have partners that will just never accept *playing* on a site like this because that is what we are doing here. My ex would have burst a blood vessel if he knew I was on a site like this. Just depends on your partner I guess.

 

[higherlevel4u]

believe me if Higher was in NY we would have met for tea..i am sure of it

DLL!!! How could you suggest such a thing?? I truly am shocked .....








You're damn right we'd have met for tea ....

 

[higherlevel4u]

People, listen up! The following is a comment from the sponsor of this thread, and is NOT from me ....just so there's no misunderstandings here ....


Wow! I came back and read all the comments here last night - so interesting. There seems to be such a wide range of views and experiences.

Thank you all for sharing some very helpful and in a number of cases deeply personal issues. You all have my (anonymous!) gratitude.

Well, I told him last night what goes on here and that I'd love for him to come along. (Now, don't get me wrong, he's far from shallow ... but I think the fact that I was naked and practically purring may have helped somewhat ...) and as I should have trusted he would be, he was fine. Not as interested as me maybe, but happy to let it be and maybe take me up on my challenge.

So thank you again, and if that's you reading honey, you're an angel!

Let's keep these comments going though - I still find this a very interesting topic here at Lit.

 

[DLL]

DLL!!! How could you suggest such a thing?? I truly am shocked .....








You're damn right we'd have met for tea ....

Good Morning Higher..
shame on me for suggesting that....



but it would be fun seeing how you like your t and a

 

[higherlevel4u]

Good Morning Higher..
shame on me for suggesting that....



but it would be fun seeing how you like your t and a

You shameless hussy .....

 

[babydoll2u]

People, listen up! The following is a comment from the sponsor of this thread, and is NOT from me ....just so there's no misunderstandings here ....


Wow! I came back and read all the comments here last night - so interesting. There seems to be such a wide range of views and experiences.

Thank you all for sharing some very helpful and in a number of cases deeply personal issues. You all have my (anonymous!) gratitude.

Well, I told him last night what goes on here and that I'd love for him to come along. (Now, don't get me wrong, he's far from shallow ... but I think the fact that I was naked and practically purring may have helped somewhat ...) and as I should have trusted he would be, he was fine. Not as interested as me maybe, but happy to let it be and maybe take me up on my challenge.

So thank you again, and if that's you reading honey, you're an angel!

Let's keep these comments going though - I still find this a very interesting topic here at Lit.

GOOD for her! I'm so happy that she had a much more positive outcome!
hooorraayyy!!!!!

 

[DLL]

You shameless hussy .....

thats MS. shameless hussy