….pick up younger woman at a bar, what makes older men attractive to younger woman

[v_indigo]

The age gap can be whatever you think. If you’re an older guy, what has worked for you? If you’re a younger woman, what would/could/has worked for you?

Older man who may be getting released back into the wild soon and have no idea what I’m in for…..

Well, I’d suggest not going out looking like a predator trying to score a younger woman. Because that’s a lot how you sound with this. What the actual fuck is wrong with men as they get older?

 

[dasgoodshit]

there are apps now for young girls to report guys who appear threatening.

What does "threatening" mean? That a guy is flirting with you that you aren't interested in?

 

[shizzz]

Well, I’d suggest not going out looking like a predator trying to score a younger woman. Because that’s a lot how you sound with this. What the actual fuck is wrong with men as they get older?

Regret is the problem. Time spent betting on something that didn’t work. It all ends and we look back. Time is a bitch and we missed out. Not predatory, just regret. The age thing is all about fantasy really. But I never said an age. It’s been real interesting to see the assumptions made here

 

[v_indigo]

Regret is the problem. Time spent betting on something that didn’t work. It all ends and we look back. Time is a bitch and we missed out. Not predatory, just regret. The age thing is all about fantasy really. But I never said an age. It’s been real interesting to see the assumptions made here

no, but you made it explicit that you wanted a younger woman, which is creepy.

 

[JBoy1952]

Look rich.

LOL

 

[JBoy1952]

I dated an older guy in college. When we met, I was 19 and he was 48. We dated for about four years, but only because he was very wealthy, and I needed money for college. He was an attractive, wonderful guy, but we had very little in common. I lived in the young-adult world, and he lived in the middle-aged world. Without the money aspect, I wouldn't have had any interest in him. Given our age difference, I couldn't see him as a long-term relationship, and if I just wanted sex, there were far better options.

So to answer your own question, put yourself in her position. Why would she be interested in you? There may be plenty of reason, but you need to decide what that is and be prepared to present your case.

Good luck!

Coming from an older man, "put yourself in her position" is foremost in understanding any results. Good answer! My experience has been that it may get some one night stands, or even a blowjob at the bar, but it would be her reaction to personality and her curiosity that even gets that far. But as you say, a sugar-daddy relationship can go longer when she has dependent needs.

 

[ericalauren]

I don’t appreciate it when older men chase after teenagers and young adult women. I’m a survivor of CSA, and I know damn well that these men would go younger if they could get away with it. Date people around your own age.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I've always been puzzled by the slur that's intended by being friendzoned. If you use teenage slang, invented by young girls, tired of being pestered by a variety of men, then do so. It was always intended as girl-speak language to express their exasperation and, if it quickly leaked into common parlance, then SFW?

Maybe I'm being cynical but I feel like "friendzoning" has a lot to do with guys who think of "friendship" with a woman as a strategy for getting into her pants. For them "just friends" is failure because the friendship was only ever a stepping stone.

If the offence is indignation "I'm not that kind of guy, honestly I just wanted to be friends" then don't blame the woman - blame other men for pushing women into a sexualised corner and provoking an understandable reaction. Don't use your indignation as another stick with which to beat her, just move on - hold up your open hands, smile and step back.

I remember one case among my acquaintances where the woman basically told the guy "I like you but I don't think we're going to be more than friends". He was cool with that, she was so surprised that he genuinely valued the friendship for its own sake even after being told he wasn't getting laid that she changed her mind about the "not getting laid" part.

On the OP: I've known a few men who ended up in happy relationships with younger women (and vice versa), and I think the common thread was that they weren't looking specifically for younger partners. Age-gap relationships can work, but somebody specifically seeking an age-gap relationship is a bit of a red flag.

 

[JBoy1952]

I have been pleasantly surprised. I am in my early 70's, a widower (2 years), and since I have come back to life after, I have been with two women in their early 50's, one in her early 40's (married), and a 24 year old (took her to Vegas, thank god for Cialis).

and condoms?
Tell what you think is the reason these women were attracted to you enough for sex.

 

[JBoy1952]

I don’t appreciate it when older men chase after teenagers and young adult women. I’m a survivor of CSA, and I know damn well that these men would go younger if they could get away with it. Date people around your own age.

I agree with you. Women I seek for actual sex are within the "senior" class (over 55) to older than me. On the other hand, for sexual fantasy purposes (not considered dating), such as in a forum like this, I certainly will not turn down flirty or suggestive young women who enjoy turning on old codgers like me.

 

[JBoy1952]

I know a woman who went through college with an older 'sponsor'. After graduating she moved on and I asked how the breakup went. She said he was sad but not surprised, as though they both knew the arrangement was financial. But as she said, never undervalue teen ass in the hands of an older man.

I think that's the appeal to older men - they're revisiting their youth by dating a much younger woman. Dreaming as usual.

Not knowing what you consider "a much younger woman" the older man might be "dreaming" about, my Dad married my mother when she was 21; he was 32. They were married for over 50 years before he passed away. After he died, my mother told me that "sex was very important to him". Apparently, my younger Mom took very kindly and was very accommodating to that perspective. Dream on , Dad. I am my father's son-- LOL

 

[JBoy1952]

Honestly, just be yourself.

I guess what I am trying to say is that back in my nightclub days, if I was going to a nightclub with girlfriends, you can bet we were hoping to meet guys. But none of us were hoping to meet an older guy. Why would we?

You brought back a memory...
Back in my very early 20s, when I was in the military, a single buddy of mine in his later 20s and I went out to a night club that had a band. A table with two attractive looking women (that we found out later were early 40s) were not seeing any action and all the younger women were constantly on the dance floor. So, we asked them to dance. They agreed, then invited us to their table. We talked, joked, laughed and danced quite a bit on the way to closing out the nightclub. Progressively, during slow dances, this "older woman" was pressing against me and I was getting aroused by it. She knew it too. My friend told me the woman he was dancing with was really coming on to him and he was going to see if she would take him home with her. When the night ended, that was going to happen. The one I was with asked me if I could drive her home since her friend was going "for breakfast" with my friend. Of course I obliged her.

This may be the story I write first. But there were "older women" looking for men in this case, and they left with two men young enough to be their sons. Go figure. Oops---edit. I was young enough to be a son. My friend's "companion", though was still significantly older.

 

[JBoy1952]

If only I could have been so eloquent.

Give yourself credit. You've been very eloquent.

 

[littlecordelera]

What does "threatening" mean? That a guy is flirting with you that you aren't interested in?

Depends on what state you live in. Where I live, "threatening" means "to cause someone to feel at risk of bodily harm."

 

[JBoy1952]

I could not tell, but now I am extremely curious as to what it is and why wouldn't want to say. Was it a fuck machine?

That's a pretty imaginative question.

 

[littlecordelera]

Give yourself credit. You've been very eloquent.

Thank you.

I think much of what is being discussed is about older guy/younger woman as a general dating relationship. But the OP specifically asked about picking up younger women at a bar - what works, what doesn't.

Picking up women is strictly about sex, so what works for older guys?

Be a really hot older guy.

 

[JBoy1952]

The first thing you do… is disregard advice from women on this topic. You don’t ask a fish how to catch fish.

If you only knew what the fish wanted, you'd likely catch more fish.
Certainly asking an older male what makes him attractive to younger women, he'll claim it's the perceived size of his dick he lies about, what he promises her that he lies about, or for simply TREATING HER like a fish by dangling his worm in front of her.

 

[Britva415]

Any angler will tell you you have to "think like a fish."

 

[stickygirl]

Jeez, too much with the 'how to catch a fish' analogies! I can't even

 

[dasgoodshit]

That's a pretty imaginative question.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/how-do-you-make-a-fuck-machine-out-of-a-recip-saw.1591590

 

[v_indigo]

Jeez, too much with the 'how to catch a fish' analogies! I can't even

The thread was only somewhat creepy until "Don't listen to women".
honestly, y'all sound like straight up predators.

 

[JBoy1952]

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/how-do-you-make-a-fuck-machine-out-of-a-recip-saw.1591590

I don't remember the poster that my response to you applied to ever indicated she was involved in converting reciprocating saws to fuck machines. That's why it was imaginative.
My SO, in a swinger campsite get together about 15 years ago, was fucked by a recipro saw that hurt her so much she was out of commission for a few weeks. It is not recommended any woman submit herself to any machine like that.

 

[stickygirl]

The thread was only somewhat creepy until "Don't listen to women".
honestly, y'all sound like straight up predators.

Yea, there's a lot of it going around.
Did you have an alt?

 

[marriedbigrl]

The first thing you do… is disregard advice from women on this topic. You don’t ask a fish how to catch fish.

Worst advice ever, and why the fishing analogy doesn't work.

1. Fish can't talk.
2. Fish don't want to be "caught". Women(for purposes of the analogy) might, depending on the situation.
3. Women can empathize where fish can not. While we will certainly defend our own and give bad advice if a guy is a creep, we will absolutely give good advice to decent men.

 

[marriedbigrl]

You sound like a nutcase and a perfect example of why my advice is correct.

I’m going to toss you now as I have full confidence that you’ll never say anything I’d regret missing. Off you go.

Oh what do you know, he is actually a troll or an incel! PLEASE block me, as I know you'll be sad the rest of your life being an asshole!