Gay/BI One night stand, or affair?

[mtsnowrider]

my first time with another guy turned into a 7 year FWB relationship mostly thanks to his patience with my inexperience and nervousness (though my enthusiasm might have helped.) Since then I've had a few widely spaced one-offs that have never come close to being as enjoyable. I was spoiled and now my expectations are unrealistic

 

[sarod]

I have only been with 4 guys. 3 were blow and go, never seen them again. The other one was a 4 year affair with a good friend, it only ended because he move 1500 miles away!

you have a beautiful cock!!!

 

[SPARTAN047]

Nearly all were ONSs.

 

[HenryApril]

All my gay sexual experiences have been one form or another of one-night stands. If I were not still married to the mother of our children, however, I would definitely seek a male life partner.

 

[trinething1ns]

I have had an ongoing FWB arrangement with a best friend I’ve known most of my life. It’s just always been there. He used to use me like a human fleshlight until after college and now the roles are reversed.

 

[easyoff]

Only once did I have a one night stand, when his partner was out of town.

 

[Jacktrew]

As for M/M sex, I've only ever had one night stands with strangers, and I've never seen them again. This seems the best way to avoid complications, and having to make explanations or excuses. Also, that means nobody else will ever know what the 2 of us did that night. And I can hide remorse or shame, if I feel any. Plus there's no emotion or attachment to it, it's just sex and satisfaction, nothing more.

I've fantasized about cousins or co-workers who I suspect are gay, or my wife's gay friends, but I never acted on it. Too close, and I'm afraid a gay affair with someone I know would never remain a secret.

What's your experience?

Same. I don't play close to home. Another advantage of random"ish" encounters is sometimes that anonymity allows you both to push boundaries that some of us won't be honest with real partners.

Case in point, just got back from a business trip, met a guy off of double list and we had successive encounters over the week that escalated as we got more comfortable with each other.

A major disadvantage of a close relationship near your "real life" is if it goes south; it has the real potential to destroy you personally and professionaly. Again the guy I met up with last trip is the Vice President of regional sales. Most of his coworkers and clients would be uncomfortable if his exploration of Golden showers was public.

 

[Markymark6698]

Had plenty of one night stands find them more exciting and erotic not really knowing the guy. xx

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I have only been with 4 guys. 3 were blow and go, never seen them again. The other one was a 4 year affair with a good friend, it only ended because he move 1500 miles away!

Oh, I love the "blow and go" reference. Other than my "affair" with my Personal Cocksucker years ago, all of my other Gay experiences have been the "blow and go" type in ABS video areas - they would blow me, greedily swallow my cum, and then go.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

That sounds perfect, I would love to have a guy friend I go shooting and fishing with that at the end of a long day you can build a camp, sit round the fire and talk about old girl friends, fantasies and desires. Get hard and stroke each other.

I like the part where you're "shooting" together.

 

[Uncut1969]

Fwb to get comfortable and easier to let guard down and enjoy

 

[magic_rat]

I've never had a relationship with a man. That's not what I'm looking for. When I'm with a man its purely about the sex. I just want to suck cock, then be held down and fucked.

 

[woman_inside]

I had a somewhat regular male fuckbuddy, and of course ONSs with men, but I've never been in a relationship with a man.

 

[drobert44]

college was 90% one night stands or cursing the trails. until I meet someone that showed and told me where to go for safer connections. This was the late 80's and early 90's. throughout college I was never in a "long-term" with another guy. I went straightish until my first marriage ended. I plied my knowledge at the sex toy shops and porn shop. Then I meet a married guy whos wife was into his Bisexuality. that was the longest M/M I ever had.
Jump ahead to the present day. I reconnected with guy I meet in late 2019... he's in the same situation...loving but sexless marriage. we have really good thing, though we don't meet much because real life gets in the way. There is very little sneaking around, we have so much in common. Hunting, fishing, we both like to and out of necessity have work on cars..truck and equipment. so we have some good excuses to get together...add in we have some of the same kinks

Sounds great!

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I've never had a relationship with a man. That's not what I'm looking for. When I'm with a man its purely about the sex. I just want to suck cock, then be held down and fucked.

I had a Personal Cocksucker. Yes, it was purely about sex, although my "relationship" was that he and I were close personal friends.

 

[CousinB]

I’ve had a mixture of one night stands with strangers usually in a hotel room. Most of the sex was good, intense and usually over in 45 minutes or less. And in most cases, I never saw the dudes again.

The benefit of these encounters was, I got to experience lots of different men in terms of shape and sizes of their cocks. I’m now 63, there is no question, sucking cock is my favourite sex act to perform. And if we were both into it, I was begging him to fuck me. Usually I had no regrets who I had a one night stand with, but I did once. That guy was rather large and smelly despite us taking a shower…..I ended up getting crabs from him….which was a nightmare!!!! Now I am way more cautious who I suck and fuck on a one night stand.

But, fortunately I’ve been in a few relationships with a man. For years, I was bi and married to a woman. Now, I’m single and gay.

My FWB relationship have been the best! I’ve been able explore my “gayness” with these men, it’s been fun, sexy and kinky! My wish is to find a loving gay partner and be in love!

 

[Curious_2]

Good morning...... Wood

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

Yes I’ll take some please

 

[Curious_2]

Yes I’ll take some please

Most definitely doll

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

It’s more of a “we” sitch tonight

 

[bigsexybna]

Trying to set up the one night only hookups is hard. A lot are flakes and others look nothing like there pics.
A couple of times I got lucky and a random turned into a FWB.

 

[JoeSmith2022]

I had one guy I was blowing on a regular basis, everyone else has been a one and done.

 

[OddLove]

I've never had a one night stand, I'm terrified of accidently inviting a dysfunctional unhinged closeted gay/bi dude who can't handle his post nut shame into my life. It's scary to think about. There's a lot of guys who are gay/bi when they're horny, and they kind of have a gay fetish, but after they cum, they're a straight guy who's disgusted by what he's done. If a dude wants to fool around with me and he's closeted, I want prove he's not going to act weird after. Like bro, cum in this glass first. If you still want to suck my dick after that, then we can have fun casual sex whenever you'd like. But for me, that scenario would only work if they were into BDSM. Like wanting to be a Sub or Dom.

 

[CousinB]

I’ve had a number of one night stands with guys that I have met on Grinder or Scruff or Gay Cruiseline, it’s always a risk picking up a guy you don’t know. If possible, I would rather go to a gay bar and then met someone.

Fortunately, I’ve never an issue….but I’ve had a few close calls. I’m 5’7” blonde blue eye 150 pounds guy.

I am very masculine outside the bedroom but in the bedroom I am a complete gay bottom submissive faggot. Some men were more aggressive towards me and I did have a slight moments that i thought I might be physically harm. But, thankfully nothing happened.

But, many times I have guys enjoy getting their cocks suck and fucking the hell out of my ass, after they came, they quickly left. I think guilty feelings of being gay hit them. I have slept with straight men, bi men and gay men. For me, I prefer totally gay men like me because they are comfortable being gay.

But of course, my problem is, I am a sucker for a hot man….straight or bi and gay!!! lol!

 

[Jander1]

I've had just a few experiences with guys in person. At this point, I want an occasional FWB situation. Seems like a lot of fun.