Male sub thread

[Satin Kitty 69]

Satin Kitty 69, I am restless now. Have you a cure?

I have a few ideas how to make you even more restless, but release will be a long wait. Some how I don't think you mind

 

[msboy8]

OOooooohhhhh! I await your every command and am moaning in anticipation....

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

OOooooohhhhh! I await your every command and am moaning in anticipation....

I sent you a PM

 

[MissTaken]

SK and Hugger have convayed the feelings of most of us here but from your reaction I think we may wish to explain why they have.

Some people feel that if you arn't 24/7 or living the life style you are not realy into bdsm or D/S and will put down anyone who does not meet thier idea of a "true dom/sub".

I and most of the others here (in my opinion) feal differently. We recognise that each persons "perfect relationship" is just that, a reflection of the persons individuality.

Many of us have had bad eperiences with individuals or groups that "know the real way to do bdsm". Because of this we tend to get a little over zellus about expressing that your lifestyle is just that and whatever you feal is the right thing for you is.

So welcome to BDSM talk.

Yep, if it feels good do it.

And don't judge me by what feels good to me!

 

[sifer]

Most happy to have been of assitance.

I am a proud trisexual I will try anything once and if I think I like it I will try it again and again.......

 

[msboy8]

Question

Meaning no disrespect, what exactly is a Trisexual, sifer?

 

[lizzie anne]

males?

male subs...

okay, i am male, despite the fact i am transitioning male to female.
but i am still all bio male inside, and if i can be of any help here, i will be very happy to do what i am allowed to do.
thank you
lizzie

 

[Tom Bishop]

subs

I am talking to anyone who thinks a sub is below them I run a crew of men who would take your soul and use it for a footballl but I also have a friend that I will suck and serve for ever . I f he wants me to serves his friends I will if he wants me to be his whore I will I just want to please him and that is what makes me and him happy.....
Thank you
BJ Bishop

 

[msboy8]

Thank you for your sincerity, Tom. You are no less a man because of your sexuality.

 

[SweetDommes]

Re: subs

I am talking to anyone who thinks a sub is below them

We have actually been dealing with this very thing Tom - we have aquaintences that feel that a sub is a sub is a sub ... and that all subs are their version, which is slave - no free will, no free expression, no nothing just property, and we took exception to that because our boy is not our slave, he is our equal, we have all just chosen that he will serve us. That does not make him any less of a person, it does not make him any less of a man ... In our opinion, at least, being able to admit what makes you happy and having the courage to go out and get it makes anyone 100s of times the "man" that the guy we were dealing with who thinks that subs are sub-human.

 

[sifer]

Re: Question

Meaning no disrespect, what exactly is a Trisexual, sifer?

It actualy started off as a joke. "try"sexual, will try anything once. It seems to fit me well though as I am BI and willing to give most things (within physcal posibilitys) a try.

 

[msboy8]

Thanks Sifer. Makes sense. Stay hard...

 

[lizzie anne]

equal?

in the very sense that i am an equal mature middle aged adult?.....
yes!.....but as to equal per se as domme slave?......no!
She is to be above me, in that sense....or it wouldnt BE domination for ME here.
what others do is cool for them.....just wont work for me is all.

and She does recognize real life things,.....that anyone needs for daily life.....yes yes yes...........

just the domme/slave thing to me is a whole different ballgame for me....

later folks
lizzie

 

[lark sparrow]

How about "equal, but different"... very different.

 

[SweetDommes]

How about "equal, but different"... very different.

That's pretty much what we mean. In our opinion, we cannot truly be dominant without someone to dominate - so without a sub, we are not Dommes. That makes him just as important as we are.

 

[Tom Bishop]

Being Sub

I am a sub because in real time I have been a boss for so long I like to give control to someone else .
My boss cock as I call him Is a lot younger and smaller and shyer but he knows how to make me happy and that I like
being sub just makes me happy when I am with him
BJ Bishop

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

Equal, but has given over control and responsibility...

I have the greatest respect for any person I Domme for. They have been able to let go of the pressure to appear macho when that is not what they desire. As a individual they are equal to me and I treat them with mutal respect in all ways except one. In play I ask them to obey me always and in return I remove responsibility and control from them. They are free to feel pleasure, to pleasure as asked.

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

I think most Dommes/Doms are aware of this, but I wanted to bring it up as a discussion point.

Humiliation is not really apart of my play, except for the occassional use of names if so desired. Use of names is not considered humiliation by some but other do.

My only concern is that Dommes/Doms have to guard against allowing such names or their differential power in play to lead to a negative opinion of their sub. I think that the understanding of roles and responsibility allows for protection against this, but names and use of humliation has been shown to affect people's perception of others.

For most people this likely isn't a problem, but I wanted to see people's ideas and experience on this issue.

 

[lizzie anne]

name calling?


I think most Dommes/Doms are aware of this, but I wanted to bring it up as a discussion point.

Humiliation is not really apart of my play, except for the occassional use of names if so desired. Use of names is not considered humiliation by some but other do.

My only concern is that Dommes/Doms have to guard against allowing such names or their differential power in play to lead to a negative opinion of their sub. I think that the understanding of roles and responsibility allows for protection against this, but names and use of humliation has been shown to affect people's perception of others.

For most people this likely isn't a problem, but I wanted to see people's ideas and experience on this issue.
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ok, so i am an oddball, i apologize. just growing up, i experienced being called several negative names, not only school kids, but the ole' man too.
so i myself, have not been able to grasp that humiliation thing, i would resent anyone using any name but what i am given to use.
it would/does/ trigger old baggage and my temper....

i am told,......many people enjoy the humiliation thing,.....and for them its cool.
as to the statement of being careful that these ''pet'' names for subs do not get to be negative,..i have-to agree 100%.
there has-to-be 100% trust between 2 people at all........times.

just my 25 cents.
lizzie

 

[Limbhugger]

Hey lizzie,

Have a look at this thread...

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=223340

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

Re: name calling?

ok, so i am an oddball, i apologize. just growing up, i experienced being called several negative names, not only school kids, but the ole' man too.
so i myself, have not been able to grasp that humiliation thing, i would resent anyone using any name but what i am given to use.
it would/does/ trigger old baggage and my temper....

i am told,......many people enjoy the humiliation thing,.....and for them its cool.
as to the statement of being careful that these ''pet'' names for subs do not get to be negative,..i have-to agree 100%.
there has-to-be 100% trust between 2 people at all........times.

just my 25 cents.
lizzie

You are not an odd ball. I grew up in similar circumstances which is why I do not enjoy humilation (both using and recieving). I only use names when, as you mentioned, is done for the sub's enjoyment and doesn't violate trust. I have never used names to show my dominance, it is unneccessary, I only use them when it sparks a moan or sends a shiver of pleasure in them.

It is definitley 25, and not 2 cents.
Thanks Lizzie

 

[lizzie anne]

thank you

limbhugger,.........

thank you/ bless your lil heart.
lizzie

 

[Limbhugger]

Re: thank you

limbhugger,.........

thank you/ bless your lil heart.
lizzie

Hey I got a big......................................heart. lol.

You're welcome.

 

[Netzach]

I respect the kink when I respect the person. It takes a lot of guts to admit to wanting someone to call you names, spit on you, belittle you, it takes a lot of guts to admit that you can eroticize something that most people would just find weird.

I have a strange, intellectual warmth for the people I degrade. I understand them. To balk at it, to make a big deal about it...to me that's more insulting than delivering what's needed. When I do, I'm saying it's ok to want this weird thing, you're not going to self implode , and you and I are both strong enough to play with these loaded words and come out ok.

 

[sifer]

on the subject of names (humilliation)

As for me and the Mrs we do utilise Name calling. In this case she enjoys it, and I could live without it. With the trust between us and understanding it does not bother me. It does however excite her. Because of this I make an effort to incorperate it when I am topping (we are both switches) and when I am subbing it is acceptible to me for her to use this tecknik as I am aware it is part of the scene and not a true fealing.