Male sub thread

[SweetDommes]

Of course, we didn't go with any of his ideas. We thought that our version of denial was most appropriate.

 

[NYCgirl26]

bump

 

[Megafurvert]

Of course, we didn't go with any of his ideas. We thought that our version of denial was most appropriate.

well it looks like i'm not the only one who has come w/o permission!!! i feel his pain Miss Karen and Holly as i did it three time during my vacation to NY to see Mistress!! lets just say that my ass was soundly abused as punishment..... EACH TIME!!!! M'lady is just TOO good sometimes!!!

 

[msboy8]

humble question

pardon my imterrupting Mistresses and Masters....

i was a little confused by Nightsfire's post on page one
he said "I am a male sub and I am proud, my mistress is harsh yes but fair.... "

Where i was trained, all subs refered to themselves in lower case. There were also some other basic rules, but the choice must be with the Domme/Dom. i cannot participate IRL, but would serve you wonderfullly on-line if chosen. i am a 42 y/o straight male, unless my Mistress wants me to be BI...

 

[Limbhugger]

Well I suppose do as your told, but I find the whole capitalization thing boring and over done. There's nothing wrong with it but it my mind it is uneccessary.

In casual chats it can be different than in posts. I can assure you, if I do not capitalize "dominant" in referrence to Wife or say Shadowsdream, it in now way means I'm taking away from their stature.

But then I've never understood OL play so what do I know.

Welcome msboy.

 

[msboy8]

Thanks for the welcome Limbhugger, may your toys always arrive lubricated...

 

[Limbhugger]

Thanks for the welcome Limbhugger, may your toys always arrive lubricated...

Ha! Indeed.

 

[sifer]

You know there are not right and wrong ways of mastering or submitting with the Safe, Saine, Consentual context just different.

We are here to have a good time, talk, share, and support each other.

Big letters, little all symantics. My way, her way, his way, our way. Just do what feels good.

Welcome msboy8.

Hi all.

 

[M'lady&kitten]

You know there are not right and wrong ways of mastering or submitting with the Safe, Saine, Consentual context just different.

We are here to have a good time, talk, share, and support each other.

Big letters, little all symantics. My way, her way, his way, our way. Just do what feels good.

Welcome msboy8.

Hi all.

Well said

 

[MissTaken]

Re: humble question

pardon my imterrupting Mistresses and Masters....

i was a little confused by Nightsfire's post on page one
he said "I am a male sub and I am proud, my mistress is harsh yes but fair.... "

Where i was trained, all subs refered to themselves in lower case. There were also some other basic rules, but the choice must be with the Domme/Dom. i cannot participate IRL, but would serve you wonderfullly on-line if chosen. i am a 42 y/o straight male, unless my Mistress wants me to be BI...

Hi there, msboy.

There are many protocols that work well in an online chat room environment. Here, we prefer not to engage in those protocols. We all enter the forum on equal footing with regard to input, discussion and sharing of BDSM topics. If we were to mandate or encourage the whole caps thing, we would likely have less serious and insightful discussion and more role play. That isnt' to say it is strictly forbidden on the forum, but most of us here are more interested in what you think, not upper and lower case.

There are times that some submissives are required to use the protocols with their Master or Mistress. That is more of a personal choice.

However, even in my brief and infrequent exchanges in other on line places, it never felt proper for me to extend that degree of respect to someone I did not know and who may simply be playing.

So, enjoy the forum and don't worry about protocols. We are about discussion and yes, some silly fun but not about hooking up or creating online role plays.

 

[nekos]

hi every one, im kinda new around the lit boards. i have been lurking for a while but haven't posted much until a few days ago.
also i didn't read all the posts so forgive me if im repeating something that has all ready been said.

i don't think a lot of male subs post much more then a wanted add because it seems like DOM woman are next to non existent, and when you do find one they are either looking for women only or want $500 - $900 an hour.
i gave up on trying to find a dom woman. it just seems like a waste of time.
< im not into the lifestyle thing either. i guess that makes it even harder >

 

[MissTaken]

Hi nekos!

Welcome to the forum.


Funny that even when I was submitting, I felt like the Dominants that were comparable to what I was lookign for were non existant or taken.

It can be frustrating on both sides of the fence I guess.

 

[Limbhugger]

hi every one, im kinda new around the lit boards. i have been lurking for a while but haven't posted much until a few days ago.
also i didn't read all the posts so forgive me if im repeating something that has all ready been said.

i don't think a lot of male subs post much more then a wanted add because it seems like DOM woman are next to non existent, and when you do find one they are either looking for women only or want $500 - $900 an hour.
i gave up on trying to find a dom woman. it just seems like a waste of time.
< im not into the lifestyle thing either. i guess that makes it even harder >

Hello nekos and welcome. Dominant women are far from non-existent. A little harder to find than males maybe but they are most assuredly about. But I do understand what you're saying.

But I offer you this, giving up on finding one is like saying you're giving up on finding love or making new friends. Love and freinds come along naturually. They just sort of happen. Don't get discouraged. Keep an eye out for munches in your area, etc. But never give up. Just be patient and see what comes along.

LH

 

[SweetDommes]

i don't think a lot of male subs post much more then a wanted add because it seems like DOM woman are next to non existent, and when you do find one they are either looking for women only or want $500 - $900 an hour.
i gave up on trying to find a dom woman. it just seems like a waste of time.
< im not into the lifestyle thing either. i guess that makes it even harder >

In our search for boys, we have discovered that we are far outnumbered by submissives who are looking for us ... and as a couple who are lifestylers and not interested in contracts, tributes, or part-time subbies, we have had a TON of trouble finding boys who fit what we were looking for ... However, after just over a year of searching, we luckily found one boy who fits what we want/need. We know that others have searched for longer and/or are still looking ...

I guess my basic advice is - don't give up, just try other places. It's not easy from either side of the search, but I promise you that there are people out there who want the same as you - you just have to keep looking until you find them.

 

[nekos]

But I offer you this, giving up on finding one is like saying you're giving up on finding love or making new friends. Love and friends come along naturually. They just sort of happen. Don't get discouraged. Keep an eye out for munches in your area, etc. But never give up. Just be patient and see what comes along.

im not really giving up, just not exactly looking for it. to me BDSM is nothing more then a game. yes it is a turn on , but it's not needed. it's something to do for fun. i have some very unpopular views on BDSM life style. and it's hard to find women that share the same or similar views. most are either all for the 24/7 thing or think it's degrading and nothing more then abuse. for what ever reason, it seems like there is no middle ground. i guess that is the reason i have basically given up looking and just hope when i find some one, they enjoy playing around with it as a fun thing to do every now and then.

 

[Limbhugger]

im not really giving up, just not exactly looking for it. to me BDSM is nothing more then a game. yes it is a turn on , but it's not needed. it's something to do for fun. i have some very unpopular views on BDSM life style. and it's hard to find women that share the same or similar views. most are either all for the 24/7 thing or think it's degrading and nothing more then abuse. for what ever reason, it seems like there is no middle ground. i guess that is the reason i have basically given up looking and just hope when i find some one, they enjoy playing around with it as a fun thing to do every now and then.

Nothing wrong with that. I wouldn't say just because you don't want it to be a 24/7 thing means it's unpopular at all. Lot's of folks only indulge on occassion. To each their own. Whatever works for you works for you.

 

[MissTaken]

im not really giving up, just not exactly looking for it. to me BDSM is nothing more then a game. yes it is a turn on , but it's not needed. it's something to do for fun. i have some very unpopular views on BDSM life style. and it's hard to find women that share the same or similar views. most are either all for the 24/7 thing or think it's degrading and nothing more then abuse. for what ever reason, it seems like there is no middle ground. i guess that is the reason i have basically given up looking and just hope when i find some one, they enjoy playing around with it as a fun thing to do every now and then.

It is difficult to find people who share your view of BDSM, for sure.

Now, here is a secret not ever posted here.....
scooter and I met on strictly vanilla terms. I had given up in manner of speaking.

Then, the relationship evolved into what it is now.

All things happen for a reason.

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

It is difficult to find people who share your view of BDSM, for sure.

Now, here is a secret not ever posted here.....
scooter and I met on strictly vanilla terms. I had given up in manner of speaking.

Then, the relationship evolved into what it is now.

All things happen for a reason.

My sub and my love are the same person. D/s is only a portion of our play, and it developed slowly over the last year and a bit. It can be hard to find someone willing to try D/s if they already had negative pre-existing opinions of it. If he had told me that he wanted me to be his Domme I likely wouldn't have had only the negative common depiction of it in my mind. Rather it started with me leading and pushing his boundaries a little, over time I took on more of the control and responsibility. There are times that I still refer to it as "completely leading" due to some of the negative connotations still ingrained in my mind, but those have definitely faded for the most part.

Good luck nekos.

I'm happy for you MissTaken & your scooter.

 

[nekos]

Nothing wrong with that. I wouldn't say just because you don't want it to be a 24/7 thing means it's unpopular at all. Lot's of folks only indulge on occassion. To each their own. Whatever works for you works for you.

i don't think my views are unpopular because i am not into the 24/7 thing . after really thinking about it . i shouldn't have even said that.
i tried for almost an hour after my last post to explain what my views were. every time i typed something i would contradict myself,or it just didn't make sense. i am not sure if I even know what my views on this are anymore.
lol i think i ended up confusing myself even more then i was before !
i guess i just have a lot of learning to do.
i have trouble understanding and some times accepting why some one would do some of the things involved with BDSM.
i think that's where my unpopular views came from.

 

[Limbhugger]

i don't think my views are unpopular because i am not into the 24/7 thing . after really thinking about it . i shouldn't have even said that.
i tried for almost an hour after my last post to explain what my views were. every time i typed something i would contradict myself,or it just didn't make sense. i am not sure if I even know what my views on this are anymore.
lol i think i ended up confusing myself even more then i was before !
i guess i just have a lot of learning to do.
i have trouble understanding and some times accepting why some one would do some of the things involved with BDSM.
i think that's where my unpopular views came from.

Breathe...lol. Just relax friend. D/s is not a one-size-fits-all glove. It is something that each of us makes our own and in our own way. It is YOURS to do with what YOU want. You can grow within it or just find that spot that makes you comfortable.

There is a ton to learn and explore here. Keep an open mind and take from here everything you can. It doesn't mean it is right for you but it will open you up to the way others incorporate D/s in their lives.

You've got a good start going so keep reading and jumping in! And if you ever just have something you want to ask, feel free to PM me. I try to be open and honest.

Hugger

 

[msboy8]

I've even less then a 24/7 sub. I am a sub just in cyber. I just can't/won't get in volved in anything In Real Life. That does not mean I am less sincere or erotic.

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

I've even less then a 24/7 sub. I am a sub just in cyber. I just can't/won't get in volved in anything In Real Life. That does not mean I am less sincere or erotic.

You are very right.

I think Limbhugger's point (please correct me if I'm wrong) is that D/s is a broad term that describes many forms and levels of commitment, types of play and so on.

Cyber, occassional, and 24/7 fit with some peoples needs and desires but not with others.

 

[sifer]

SK and Hugger have convayed the feelings of most of us here but from your reaction I think we may wish to explain why they have.

Some people feel that if you arn't 24/7 or living the life style you are not realy into bdsm or D/S and will put down anyone who does not meet thier idea of a "true dom/sub".

I and most of the others here (in my opinion) feal differently. We recognise that each persons "perfect relationship" is just that, a reflection of the persons individuality.

Many of us have had bad eperiences with individuals or groups that "know the real way to do bdsm". Because of this we tend to get a little over zellus about expressing that your lifestyle is just that and whatever you feal is the right thing for you is.

So welcome to BDSM talk.

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

SK and Hugger have convayed the feelings of most of us here but from your reaction I think we may wish to explain why they have.

Some people feel that if you arn't 24/7 or living the life style you are not realy into bdsm or D/S and will put down anyone who does not meet thier idea of a "true dom/sub".

I and most of the others here (in my opinion) feal differently. We recognise that each persons "perfect relationship" is just that, a reflection of the persons individuality.

Many of us have had bad eperiences with individuals or groups that "know the real way to do bdsm". Because of this we tend to get a little over zellus about expressing that your lifestyle is just that and whatever you feal is the right thing for you is.

So welcome to BDSM talk.

Thank you sifer for clarifying!

 

[msboy8]

Satin Kitty 69, I am restless now. Have you a cure?