Male sub thread

[Netzach]

cbt is about the only thing i won't do for my Masters. too much can be damaged too easy. that's my line. ain't crossin it even for the Masters i love so much. a good smack on a hard cock or pain/pleasure or denial torture is ok. but no piercing, no clamps, no really tight ball binding. there's pain then theres destruction

I hear your concern there, being mean to the equipment was hard for me to entertain as a Top simply because I was afraid of damaging. Education and going light are key.

I do clamps on the skin, there's no potential for damage from a clothepin on the foreskin or the scrotal sac unless you plan on ripping it off, even then a tiny skin tear is the worst I've ever inflicted with a loose enough clamp.

I do short-term ball binding. Duration seems to be more an issue than tightness, and I'm very VERY conservative about tying the nuts TO anything! That's where I draw the line, I've seen too many scenes with the potential for a slip or fall or even a slip of a spreader bar to cause serious damage. If I tie a cock to anything it's only with the body fully grounded and prone.

Piercing is specialized, and it's one of my most favorite things to do, so piercing dick came naturally as an interest. Basically, avoiding veins and not going too deep are key, and being familiar with piercing other body bits is de rigeur as a start.

I'm not trying to change your mind, I know that pussy torture is certainly not on MY personal list of things to do, and if CBT isn't for you, that's great.

There are ways to do it safely though.

And I personally never hit a hard cock with anything more evil than a medium tap of a pencil, hand, or crop-end. It doesn't take much to get the reaction you are looking for and you don't want to risk damaging the tissue by bending.

 

[gregor2001us]

quote for the day

A thought for you today

"To your desire and need I answer...bring on the fiery pace, my mind will speed along besides yours pushing you past your fears and break the chains of doubt"

Very nice thought Satin Kitty 69!! Full of meaning and can be interpreted in a number of ways...thought provoking...and for me pretty arousing as it stands.

gregor

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

Re: quote for the day

A thought for you today

"To your desire and need I answer...bring on the fiery pace, my mind will speed along besides yours pushing you past your fears and break the chains of doubt"

Very nice thought Satin Kitty 69!! Full of meaning and can be interpreted in a number of ways...thought provoking...and for me pretty arousing as it stands.

gregor

I'm glad you enjoy it. I love how one set of words can paint so many different images, some about life, some about play, that are unique to each reader.

I still a runner and a coach, a friend encouraging m with life and my work, two partners growing close and more in love as their trust grows, a sub teaching their Dom/me to enjoy their play, a Dom/me gaining the trust of a sub and exploring their limits and pleasure over new horizons...

What do you see?

 

[gregor2001us]

What do you see?

A couple in love, fitting together like lock and key,
the sub needing to be pushed into new sensations,
the dom accepting the challenge,
the dom taking the sub into areas that taste of fear and excitment,
the sub yielding to the situation accepting the fear and sensation,
and going to places not reached before.


Or skiing (or some other physical activity) with someone who takes you on a new trail or at a new speed that you haven't done before and you accept the risk and push past the fear to find that you have grown and learned you can do more than you thought.

But it could also be amental challenge or stressful situation where you have someone encouraging/pushing you to go further and faster than you have in the past.

Basically for me it talks about a number of situations where a mentor/lover/dom/instructor pushes you to reach beyond yourself.

But I can't say it as well as the words you offered. For some reason I find them very compelling and rich in feeling. Fun to re-read and ponder the feelings they raise!

gregor

 

[sifer]

CBT and me

I personaly enjoy CBT verry much, bindings apropriate smacking, light wipping, etc.

Yes Real pain is an indicator of something wrong but with experience you learn the limits. Especialy with cbt if the pain is no loger were it looks like it should be its too much

Color is a good indicator for binding, purple may look good but its time to give some slack.

CBT is 90% mind fuck 10% action.

Turning over your jenitals for tourcher is complete submition, like a dog exposing its belly, trusting in that the dom will not actualy injure you beond repair or agreement for that matter. Its all about trust.

Piercing. not for me.

More rablings from the peanut gallery.



Gregor

Love the image.

 

[MissTaken]

Re: CBT and me

Turning over your jenitals for tourcher is complete submition, like a dog exposing its belly, trusting in that the dom will not actualy injure you beond repair or agreement for that matter. Its all about trust.

Piercing. not for me.

Thank you, sifer,

That about sums it up for me.

That he trusts me so implicitly as to offer all of himself to me, is a very strong indicator of the level of our commitment to one another, imho. Of course, how we live our D/s is by now means a measure by which to judge how others choose to live theirs.

 

[Megafurvert]

ok i need a big favor people..... i'd really love it if someone could PLLLLLEEEEEAAAAASSSSSEEEEE give me a couple of pointer as far as relaxing during anal play....... i'm starting to get into it w/ M'lady but i still get a little nervous about her playing w/ my ass. i love it when she plays w/ the bud but for some reason i just get REALLY up tight about her being in me!! does anyone have any tips for me to relax w/??

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

ok i need a big favor people..... i'd really love it if someone could PLLLLLEEEEEAAAAASSSSSEEEEE give me a couple of pointer as far as relaxing during anal play....... i'm starting to get into it w/ M'lady but i still get a little nervous about her playing w/ my ass. i love it when she plays w/ the bud but for some reason i just get REALLY up tight about her being in me!! does anyone have any tips for me to relax w/??

Some suggestions you can try:
- have her tease your bud untill you push onto her finger, and you cause it to slide inside
- you could try your own finger inside (if you are her are comfortable with that idea)

Questions:
- is the tightening due to nervousness?
- what are your nervous about (more percisely)?

 

[Megafurvert]

i get preety lose (bad term) when she plays with the bud but the moment she tries to push in i clamp down. i think i may be a little nervous about the type of sensations that i'll feel.... we've gotten preety far once and it felt GOOD but i still felt REALLY weird.... i couldn't decide how the sensations felt other than that i felt good and strange at the same time!!

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

i get preety lose (bad term) when she plays with the bud but the moment she tries to push in i clamp down. i think i may be a little nervous about the type of sensations that i'll feel.... we've gotten preety far once and it felt GOOD but i still felt REALLY weird.... i couldn't decide how the sensations felt other than that i felt good and strange at the same time!!

I can take a bit of time to get used to a finger sliding in what is normally just an exit. Try where you at the one pushing the finger in or pushing back against the finger, and just try to relax and enjoy once it is in. Just hold it in place while your body and mind become more accustomed to the sensations.

 

[Megafurvert]

thank you very much.... i try those just as soon as i get the chance to be in M'lady's arms again !

 

[Megafurvert]

anyone have any other suggestions... i'd like to get as many as possible!

 

[infinityoverzero]

Lots of lube is always good. Also, when you (or your Lady) slip a finger in, don't go too deep right away, give yourself time to adjust.

 

[Megafurvert]

the lube part we know.... but we'll take it even slower than we were and see how that works.... thanks!!

anyone else... these are great!!

 

[sifer]

The anal invasion

Taking your time will undoubtedly help, another thing would be destraction.

If all that is going on is her fingers and your ass that is all that is on your mind.

You eating her, her blowing you, or a good stroking of your cock are usualy good distractions.

Sence you have time before you are together again playing with your own ass will help you emotionaly ajust to the feelings.

Good luck

 

[waterkemist]

Mega's rosebud

Give her some latex gloves to wear. They really cut down on the yuck factor. And they are much more hygenic. You may be tense because of that.

I know the latex gloves make it easier for me to relax back there.

Are you concerned you may have to poop in the middle of a sex time? Pressure back there might make you think you have the urge. If you are using a lube with glycerine in it, be aware that glycerine is the active ingredients in suppositories.

By the way, those same glycerine suppositories are very inexpensive and if used an hour or two before you and your gal get hot and bothered, they can help with getting the last part of the rectum clean. Some people just use a plain warm water enema rinse.

All that preparation sounds like a lot of work, and some people may think of it that way, but the pay off can be fantastic. Once she gets past the second ring of muscles, about an inch in, it is clear sailing right up to your prostate gland. If she points her finger up to the base of your cock, she will soon be amazed at how much pre-cum will ooze out of you. Some gals like the control feature of this play. Some guys like the submission part of this play.

I know it makes me so hot that I squirm around and twitch until I finally cum. Tell her not to worry though, most likely you will be ready to go again in about thirty minutes.

Into "truth or dare" games? Let her dare you to keep her finger inside you rubbing your prostate for a couple minutes after you have cum. Even if she slows down for a while, that is when the intensity overwhelms me and I have a difficult time being coherent.

That is when she turns her rock hard stud into a quivering mass of jelly. Wish I had a better way to describe it, but I'm still very new writing anything about sex.

Hope this helps.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[slapshot52]

FemDomme

Just found this literotica site. Female Domination stories at <http://www.thevalkyrie.com/library.html> hope I got it right. Stories of strong Women and Amazon Warriors. Good Female Superiority site put "elisesutton" in your browser. Ive had a few Female Domination relationships. From what I have read and experienced you have to be interested in the same activities and what kind of relationship. A professional Mistress, a loving Domme, a 24/7, what BDSM activities, willingly serve or be constantly punished. One Women I knew just wanted to take nude pics. of a man, being in complete control of the photo session, another liked to have a man masturbate for Her and control when and if he could orgasm. I had a great "straight" activities time with a Dominant Woman. Also Female Domination activities: having me nude around the home, masturbation and orgasm control, oral worship of Her were great. Being under Her control and at Her feet was so natural. I love serving a Loving Domme. Where it broke down was She really enjoyed hurting during more intense play, I just couldn't respond to it. We had to go our separate ways. Making a connection, though not easy, is worth the effort, nothing so natural as serving a Dominant Female. Just some of my thoughts.

 

[MissTaken]

Welcome to the forum, slapshot.

We have many good stories here at lit, although I have heard the FemDom stories generally run toward the punishment aspect of male submission.

If anyone has a favorite lit story, feel free to post a link here. That might give us all food for thought.

 

[Satin Kitty 69]

Welcome to the forum, slapshot.

We have many good stories here at lit, although I have heard the FemDom stories generally run toward the punishment aspect of male submission.

If anyone has a favorite lit story, feel free to post a link here. That might give us all food for thought.

2 of my stories include female directed/leading but I'm not sure if they qualify as FemDom...I wouldn't mind your opinion on them. They are written from the guy's perspective.

 

[Megafurvert]

thank you all sooooo much for all the great and helpful advice!! i've actually taken notes on most of what was written and i think it will help alot!!!

 

[Ms_Kat]

To relax

Try using a lot of lube and a slender vibrator - the vibrations naturally help you relax. Also try a butt plug, again with lots of lube and a gentle insertion. They make very slender toys that can fit in without hurting. Try a few and enjoy yourself.

Hugs,

Kat

 

[MissTaken]

thank you all sooooo much for all the great and helpful advice!! i've actually taken notes on most of what was written and i think it will help alot!!!

I can only add one thing. There are times when it helps to take a deep breath upon entry. Relax with the breath, focussing on her and her pleasure, and don't think about your own.

And you have recieved lots of good advice from there.

 

[sifer]

Back to the world of subbing.

What is your favorite kink. Bindings, CBT, Humiliation, Feminisation, etc


Mine are bindings and CBT Good thing because I woul just look stupid as a woman.

Ahh to be completely emobilized to have my cock and balls bound titely and to be held on the border of pleasur and pain for hours.

 

[slapshot52]

FemDomme stories

Thank you Miss Taken and Satin Kitty 69 for the welcome. For stories try <http://www.thebarnyard.net> the Elise Sutton site is: <http://www.elisesutton.homestead.com/Main.html> She is a Female Supremist with many interesting views on this special Female/male relationship. Also has real life stories and questions and answers. All good info and free.