Megafurvert
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we most definitely will!!!! thank you for all the advice you have given me.... and i'm happy that you have found a little boy of your own!!
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Surrender
I'm probably repeating what has already been said but I might as well provide my input. I've never had a D/s experience but I do have submissive tendencies. I like to make myself happy by making other people happy. It's a joy knowing I can give someone unconditional pleasure.
The idea of being naked and on my knees serving and obeying another person is a thrill because I can focus completely on giving someone else pleasure. Being used as a sexual plaything and being pushed to my limits is a way to completely trust someone else. There's no worry. I'm there to serve them and I trust they won't harm me.
I'm probably repeating what has already been said but I might as well provide my input. I've never had a D/s experience but I do have submissive tendencies. I like to make myself happy by making other people happy. It's a joy knowing I can give someone unconditional pleasure.
The idea of being naked and on my knees serving and obeying another person is a thrill because I can focus completely on giving someone else pleasure. Being used as a sexual plaything and being pushed to my limits is a way to completely trust someone else. There's no worry. I'm there to serve them and I trust they won't harm me.
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Re: Surrender
I guess that the same is true for me, only somewhat opposite in the action form it takes. I love to help someone find their true pleasure, to explore the desires that they were afraid to talk about, afraid to be judged negatively on. I tend to have a sense for when an answer isn't really the truth, and although I don't push or demand the truth, through time and slow steps the truth often comes out.
I am currently on trying to figure out who I am, I know that there really isn't a end point on the quest to know oneself. Similarily there isn't an endpoint, only a few dead ends, when learning about another person.
My desire to help, to pleasure is paired with my natural tendency to lead others where they want to go but could not walk alone. My lover has for so long been the sole focus of my desire to pleasure and to help explore. More recently through Lit I have met others who seem to find me. I have receive many odd PMs, from guys saying they only like girls and giving anal, which always makes me puzzle since most of my posts and profile don't fit with that idea. I always respond, knowing that there is more than what they initially sent, and that they are likely worried about being rejected or critized. I have been pleasantly surprised at the real reason for their interest in my writings and posts, never shocked...I think I gave up long ago the habit of seeing limit on what people enjoy and what the world has to offer. Each man I PM, email and/or chat is a unique person I wish to get to know better. I hold each secret, listen, and explore each desire through words and direction. Even after I turn off the computer I still wonder how they are feeling, and think about what they discovered or told me today.
Even in real life I tend to have a "its okay to talk to me" sign suck somewhere on me. I have yet to find it. I have had some surprising but fun and often eye-opening conversations with people who want to talk to someone. I love talking (as this post shows), and my favourite conversations are those that end only after you stop at 3 in the morning and woder where the time went.
Well...this is me...
Tommy4u said:
I guess that the same is true for me, only somewhat opposite in the action form it takes. I love to help someone find their true pleasure, to explore the desires that they were afraid to talk about, afraid to be judged negatively on. I tend to have a sense for when an answer isn't really the truth, and although I don't push or demand the truth, through time and slow steps the truth often comes out.
I am currently on trying to figure out who I am, I know that there really isn't a end point on the quest to know oneself. Similarily there isn't an endpoint, only a few dead ends, when learning about another person.
My desire to help, to pleasure is paired with my natural tendency to lead others where they want to go but could not walk alone. My lover has for so long been the sole focus of my desire to pleasure and to help explore. More recently through Lit I have met others who seem to find me. I have receive many odd PMs, from guys saying they only like girls and giving anal, which always makes me puzzle since most of my posts and profile don't fit with that idea. I always respond, knowing that there is more than what they initially sent, and that they are likely worried about being rejected or critized. I have been pleasantly surprised at the real reason for their interest in my writings and posts, never shocked...I think I gave up long ago the habit of seeing limit on what people enjoy and what the world has to offer. Each man I PM, email and/or chat is a unique person I wish to get to know better. I hold each secret, listen, and explore each desire through words and direction. Even after I turn off the computer I still wonder how they are feeling, and think about what they discovered or told me today.
Even in real life I tend to have a "its okay to talk to me" sign suck somewhere on me. I have yet to find it. I have had some surprising but fun and often eye-opening conversations with people who want to talk to someone. I love talking (as this post shows), and my favourite conversations are those that end only after you stop at 3 in the morning and woder where the time went.
Well...this is me...
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Newbie Entering Thread
Intersting thread, I have just learned about this bulletin board recently and this is my first post.
As long as I can remember, my best fantasies have been about me being controled and sub to females. Don't know why, but it seems to be inherent in me. As time has passed, I have explored a variety of fantasies, and some real situations. I have gradually found out that it is the control of my sexual response that is the major turn on. Anything that heightens the realization that I am under control without any way to modify it makes it that much hotter. A couple years ago I experimented with chastity, and found that this control of when I could orgasm really hit a nerve. So much that I made a promise never to play with myself unless under direct orders from my wife. So now I am living 24/7 as a sub within that aspect, and it is really hot.
I find that the hottest things are being stimulated withoput being allowed to cum. Especially when I don't know when I will be able to. I especially get turned on when she comes up with an idea of her own, like the end of October, after a week of being stimulated, then her saying that I would have to wait at least until Christmas week. When she stated that it was like butterflies in my stomach and I got sooo hot!
Anyway, for me it is being under somesones control, especially sexual control, having the control clearly demonstrated, and not knowing what will be next that really turn me on. Haven't reached any hard limits yet.
Gregor
Eagerly waiting and hoping for Christmas...
Intersting thread, I have just learned about this bulletin board recently and this is my first post.
As long as I can remember, my best fantasies have been about me being controled and sub to females. Don't know why, but it seems to be inherent in me. As time has passed, I have explored a variety of fantasies, and some real situations. I have gradually found out that it is the control of my sexual response that is the major turn on. Anything that heightens the realization that I am under control without any way to modify it makes it that much hotter. A couple years ago I experimented with chastity, and found that this control of when I could orgasm really hit a nerve. So much that I made a promise never to play with myself unless under direct orders from my wife. So now I am living 24/7 as a sub within that aspect, and it is really hot.
I find that the hottest things are being stimulated withoput being allowed to cum. Especially when I don't know when I will be able to. I especially get turned on when she comes up with an idea of her own, like the end of October, after a week of being stimulated, then her saying that I would have to wait at least until Christmas week. When she stated that it was like butterflies in my stomach and I got sooo hot!
Anyway, for me it is being under somesones control, especially sexual control, having the control clearly demonstrated, and not knowing what will be next that really turn me on. Haven't reached any hard limits yet.
Gregor
Eagerly waiting and hoping for Christmas...
sifer
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new to this thread
I am a switch, along with my wife.
There was something asked about Lifestylers, pros, etc. do not realy fit any my wife was a pro dome prior to my meeting her. I have seen her adds and talked with some of her old coworkers. Life styling is hard with a teenager in the house but we do take avantage of nights and weekends of a teen free house. However I do beleave that this also leves us out of the internet or talk only catigorys.
The question of have you done things you didn't want to for your dom. To this my answer has resently changed to yes. Why is because it brought her pleasure and at that point I so wanted to please and pleasure her it made me not care that what she had just asked me to do I had previosly said that I would not. I am still not completely open to the act but it now has flexibility.
I also know that there are a couple of acts of domination that she has said that she didnt care for that she has used on me either because I asked at some point, not the same session, or because of my reaction when she tryed it on me.
We have 3 levels of safe words (slow down), (not this), and (stop) there have been times that I have used each in the past 3 years. On the otherhand I have also had many experiences that I would not have tried without her.
Setting boundries was initaly good however I am not sorry that we have circumvented some of them. I always had the option of opting out. The ability of a good dome to make you want to submit to her will against your own is a wonderful thing.
Why do I enjoy subbing? Some times I just am in the mood, some times I am stressed out from work and just need the release of turning myself completely over to another. Sometimes it starts as being just for her pleasure. If it dose I am always more than willing by the time we finish.
What do I enjoy most......? YES!!! I love to be restrained, bound completely hand and foot. Ropes, leather and steal all have been used on me. (making me hard just thing about it. We resently found a device in a farm supply store, slightly modified, that allows her to restrain my hands to my cock in a spred manner so that I can not actualy touch myself but do feel the results of my struggles against my manhood. This is great for orgasm demial and along with other torchers has had me begging for release. CBT is certanly one of my favorites and thankfully one of hers. I will be instructed to worsip and/or service parts of her body in varios ways, example giving her a masage or with my mouth. She will also use toys dildos and plugs in my mouth and ass.
So many pleasures and experiences.
Lack of frequent postings, some of us do not have time to even browes the site every day.
I have not told her that I was responding to this thread I hope she stumbles on it. I feel the need for a good punishing after bearing my soul.
She has also expressed a wish to bring another sub into the play. I am finding myself both aprehensive and antisipating......... oh the wonders of subing.
Sifer
I am a switch, along with my wife.
There was something asked about Lifestylers, pros, etc. do not realy fit any my wife was a pro dome prior to my meeting her. I have seen her adds and talked with some of her old coworkers. Life styling is hard with a teenager in the house but we do take avantage of nights and weekends of a teen free house. However I do beleave that this also leves us out of the internet or talk only catigorys.
The question of have you done things you didn't want to for your dom. To this my answer has resently changed to yes. Why is because it brought her pleasure and at that point I so wanted to please and pleasure her it made me not care that what she had just asked me to do I had previosly said that I would not. I am still not completely open to the act but it now has flexibility.
I also know that there are a couple of acts of domination that she has said that she didnt care for that she has used on me either because I asked at some point, not the same session, or because of my reaction when she tryed it on me.
We have 3 levels of safe words (slow down), (not this), and (stop) there have been times that I have used each in the past 3 years. On the otherhand I have also had many experiences that I would not have tried without her.
Setting boundries was initaly good however I am not sorry that we have circumvented some of them. I always had the option of opting out. The ability of a good dome to make you want to submit to her will against your own is a wonderful thing.
Why do I enjoy subbing? Some times I just am in the mood, some times I am stressed out from work and just need the release of turning myself completely over to another. Sometimes it starts as being just for her pleasure. If it dose I am always more than willing by the time we finish.
What do I enjoy most......? YES!!! I love to be restrained, bound completely hand and foot. Ropes, leather and steal all have been used on me. (making me hard just thing about it. We resently found a device in a farm supply store, slightly modified, that allows her to restrain my hands to my cock in a spred manner so that I can not actualy touch myself but do feel the results of my struggles against my manhood. This is great for orgasm demial and along with other torchers has had me begging for release. CBT is certanly one of my favorites and thankfully one of hers. I will be instructed to worsip and/or service parts of her body in varios ways, example giving her a masage or with my mouth. She will also use toys dildos and plugs in my mouth and ass.
So many pleasures and experiences.
Lack of frequent postings, some of us do not have time to even browes the site every day.
I have not told her that I was responding to this thread I hope she stumbles on it. I feel the need for a good punishing after bearing my soul.
She has also expressed a wish to bring another sub into the play. I am finding myself both aprehensive and antisipating......... oh the wonders of subing.
Sifer
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Re: new to this thread
Thanks for posting Sifer, I enjoyed reading it especially the 3 levels of code words. My love and I currently have 2 (slow down and stop) but I think adding the second level would make it easier to switch actions without stopping entire play.
sifer said:
Thanks for posting Sifer, I enjoyed reading it especially the 3 levels of code words. My love and I currently have 2 (slow down and stop) but I think adding the second level would make it easier to switch actions without stopping entire play.
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Gregor?
Have you read "Venus in Furs?"
IF not, you might find it a good read and I would recommend it to any male subs. It isn't a template for submission, but it is a good story and got my wheels turning thinking about male submission.
As for safe words:
We have three:
"Slow down"
"Stop"
And, "you're hitting me like a girl. More, please!"
At 6'2" and incredibly strong and wide, there are times I think I feel really good about a scene, only to find that it was if I was tickling him!
Of course, it is ALL about me, so whether or not he gets off on the pain/pleasure aspects shouldn't matter, but I love my guy and want him to get as much out of our time together as possible.
Have you read "Venus in Furs?"
IF not, you might find it a good read and I would recommend it to any male subs. It isn't a template for submission, but it is a good story and got my wheels turning thinking about male submission.
As for safe words:
We have three:
"Slow down"
"Stop"
And, "you're hitting me like a girl. More, please!"
At 6'2" and incredibly strong and wide, there are times I think I feel really good about a scene, only to find that it was if I was tickling him!
Of course, it is ALL about me, so whether or not he gets off on the pain/pleasure aspects shouldn't matter, but I love my guy and want him to get as much out of our time together as possible.
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Gregor?
Have you read "Venus in Furs?"
IF not, you might find it a good read and I would recommend it to any male subs. It isn't a template for submission, but it is a good story and got my wheels turning thinking about male submission.
As for safe words:
We have three:
"Slow down"
"Stop"
And, "you're hitting me like a girl. More, please!"
At 6'2" and incredibly strong and wide, there are times I think I feel really good about a scene, only to find that it was if I was tickling him!
Of course, it is ALL about me, so whether or not he gets off on the pain/pleasure aspects shouldn't matter, but I love my guy and want him to get as much out of our time together as possible.
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No I haven't read Venus in Furs, I don't think. The book that got my rocks off the most so far was Tabitha's Tease. I still go back and re-read it occassionally.
I have no safe words as such, though in the past we have agreed on them for tha same reasoin you state. But my current situation doesn't really seem to need them.
One issue that I think makes it really hot for me is touched on by your last comment. I read a web site, Akasha's, that really hit home with me. Basically it was saying that the top and sub needed to change thier philosophy. The top needed to let her own ideas come through in her own way. Not focus on what will do it for the sub. Be herself. No topping from the bottom. Make it her's. This resonates very strongly with me and it is never so hot as when she come up with her own ideas. Doesn't matter what or how it fits into my ideas and desires, its still hot, hot, hot.
You might like to check out Akasha's web site.
Gregor
Gregor?
Have you read "Venus in Furs?"
IF not, you might find it a good read and I would recommend it to any male subs. It isn't a template for submission, but it is a good story and got my wheels turning thinking about male submission.
As for safe words:
We have three:
"Slow down"
"Stop"
And, "you're hitting me like a girl. More, please!"
At 6'2" and incredibly strong and wide, there are times I think I feel really good about a scene, only to find that it was if I was tickling him!
Of course, it is ALL about me, so whether or not he gets off on the pain/pleasure aspects shouldn't matter, but I love my guy and want him to get as much out of our time together as possible.
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No I haven't read Venus in Furs, I don't think. The book that got my rocks off the most so far was Tabitha's Tease. I still go back and re-read it occassionally.
I have no safe words as such, though in the past we have agreed on them for tha same reasoin you state. But my current situation doesn't really seem to need them.
One issue that I think makes it really hot for me is touched on by your last comment. I read a web site, Akasha's, that really hit home with me. Basically it was saying that the top and sub needed to change thier philosophy. The top needed to let her own ideas come through in her own way. Not focus on what will do it for the sub. Be herself. No topping from the bottom. Make it her's. This resonates very strongly with me and it is never so hot as when she come up with her own ideas. Doesn't matter what or how it fits into my ideas and desires, its still hot, hot, hot.
You might like to check out Akasha's web site.
Gregor
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"Venus in Furs" isn't likely to get your rocks off as it is, oddly enough, quite stark in terms of jerk off material. It may, however, make you hard and if nothing else, will make you read.
I may post some excerpts at some point, but keep forgetting the book upstairs when I am downstairs!
I am not one who is easily entertained by erotica and this brand of erotica deals primarily in the interaction of a submissive male and his Goddess. First she is hesitant to engage in such a relationship and then, she fully immerses herself in the D.s relationship. It is at this point that he is tested. She glides into a stream of thought that truly denotes Mistress and slave and he must accept her will, no matter what.
Throughout the story, there is always a clause or reminder that he can break their arrangement at any time. He has no real choice in that mentally, there is no other choice.
My description is not a spoiler as the story stands on it's own. I would recommend it though.
And "gregor" is the name she chooses for him once he becomes her slave. That is why I asked if you had read the story.
As for your last point?
I am fortunate and happy in that my submissive is a novice whose hard limits match mine. As someone new to BDSM, everything is my idea and he happily engages in whatever I choose for him. He has no preconcieved notions of what our relationship should entail beyond our expectations for one another; love, trust and communication.
I am a very happy lady!
I may post some excerpts at some point, but keep forgetting the book upstairs when I am downstairs!
I am not one who is easily entertained by erotica and this brand of erotica deals primarily in the interaction of a submissive male and his Goddess. First she is hesitant to engage in such a relationship and then, she fully immerses herself in the D.s relationship. It is at this point that he is tested. She glides into a stream of thought that truly denotes Mistress and slave and he must accept her will, no matter what.
Throughout the story, there is always a clause or reminder that he can break their arrangement at any time. He has no real choice in that mentally, there is no other choice.
My description is not a spoiler as the story stands on it's own. I would recommend it though.
And "gregor" is the name she chooses for him once he becomes her slave. That is why I asked if you had read the story.
As for your last point?
I am fortunate and happy in that my submissive is a novice whose hard limits match mine. As someone new to BDSM, everything is my idea and he happily engages in whatever I choose for him. He has no preconcieved notions of what our relationship should entail beyond our expectations for one another; love, trust and communication.
I am a very happy lady!
Tom Bishop
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completed taskes
BJ has done his job
I was given a task and it is done
as a sub who is normaly a very pushy person I Was given a job to do I say Job because there was money involved WELL I did it ... As a sub I would not of chose it they were WEIRED
But My Boss said do it and I would make him happy I did it and if he is reading this It sucked and I sucked so tell me what you think
BJ Bishop
BJ has done his job
I was given a task and it is done
as a sub who is normaly a very pushy person I Was given a job to do I say Job because there was money involved WELL I did it ... As a sub I would not of chose it they were WEIRED
But My Boss said do it and I would make him happy I did it and if he is reading this It sucked and I sucked so tell me what you think
BJ Bishop
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Re: completed taskes
Well, Tom.
What did you find good in the experience?
What did you find not so good in the experience?
I would think your Boss would be very pleased if you completed the task well regardless of how you felt about it. I know I am anytime my guy does what is expected and does it well, regardless of how "extreme" it may appear.
Tom Bishop said:
Well, Tom.
What did you find good in the experience?
What did you find not so good in the experience?
I would think your Boss would be very pleased if you completed the task well regardless of how you felt about it. I know I am anytime my guy does what is expected and does it well, regardless of how "extreme" it may appear.
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MissTaken said:.....
As for your last point?
I am fortunate and happy in that my submissive is a novice whose hard limits match mine. As someone new to BDSM, everything is my idea and he happily engages in whatever I choose for him. He has no preconcieved notions of what our relationship should entail beyond our expectations for one another; love, trust and communication.
I am a very happy lady!
I am slowly learning what it means to be a Domme, although for the most part I refer to it as leading or teaching. My lover and I have grown in our sexuality and play together, although there were a few times of mismatching of fantasies, we've given all a try and most we continue to enjoy. Neither of us have D/s experience which allows us to not expect anything as we form that part of our relationship.
thickspear
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Satin Kitty
I am glad my experience may be of help. We started with two also but after a couple of sesions the third "slow down" seemed like it would be a usefull addition.
She having a lot more experience than I would often wat to move things along; between martial arts and meditation my reaction especialy to a good flogging would be to shut out the "pain". At that point lack of responce would kill the scene for her as well. Luckily she had enough experience to know that it was not a need to go farther.
In the past "stupid millitary personell who can take the most pain games" have left me with broken blood vessels and a couple of sprains.
Being out of commition for a couple of weeks would tend to put a damper on the fun. Thus slower is better. Building the action at a slower pace would alow me to circumvent the defencive shut down, or allow a scene to continue without serios injury. This allows boath of us to push further into our limits.(Got to love the endorphen rush of a good scene)
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MissTaken
Do more is a given I can be a hell of a SAM if I want
or worse yet just act bored. She hates that, and boy do I pay.
Strictly about the Domme I would not go that far if we did not get off on the scene, wether or not we cum, we would not be back. However I have definatly gone further for my wife than I thought I ever would. Some things do still seem kinky even after you have done them the first time when you push your personal limits.
A good scene dosen't nessasaraly mean that you have enflicted substancial phisical pain on your sub. I often feel much more dominated when my Domme goes more to the D/s she can have me begging her to do more or to allow me to do more. This wil leave me phisicaly shaking with antisipation and frustration.
I know that phisicaly I am easily her supperior but in the scene her use of her mind to break me is far supperior.
If it is your wish to go for the pain side I may have a couple of ideas that you can use.
1. Streching of muscles.
Putting the sub in a position, or binding him so that it causes the muscle to strech will cause a burning sensation in the muscle. *Do not bounce the strech this will cause a high risk of tearing the muscle* *good comunication or allowing the sub to controle the strech are a must to prevent injury*
2. Working a muscle to failure.
Having the sub stand on his toes, squat, maintain a half pushup position or any other position that causes the sub to hold a position that is not relaxed for an extended time. Eventualy a uncontroleable shake will start in the muscle and pain. A good one would be to have the sub hold a tray with a drink on it held strait out from the sholders arms fully extended. If he can maintain it for more than a couple of minutes I would be impressed. The psycological games that can be played with this are tremendus. "Such a pathetic sub letting a glass of water kick his ass", "can't you even hold a drink for your mistress" etc. Actual risk of true injury is low.
3. Hot wax
I would sugest a Poperie boiler with a candle as a heat sorce or a fondu pot as a melter and a paint brush as an aplicator. I know a couple who makes wax molds of the subs cock then fills the mold with water and makes Ice dildos to fuck his ass with. ref: http://www.westcoastpowerex.com/safety_hotwax.php *to prevent burns you do not want to heat the wax any more than to melt it*
4. Violet wand
Portible hand held electrostatic genorator ref: http://www.betterbdsm.com/violetwand.html *resonably safe, can cause burns*
5. Tens units
Electic muscle stimulator designed for medical use (don't have a reference) *do not use acrost head or chest*
Just some ideas. I do not claim to be an expert on any. Do your research know your kink and have fun.
Safe Sane and Consentual
Sifer
I am glad my experience may be of help. We started with two also but after a couple of sesions the third "slow down" seemed like it would be a usefull addition.
She having a lot more experience than I would often wat to move things along; between martial arts and meditation my reaction especialy to a good flogging would be to shut out the "pain". At that point lack of responce would kill the scene for her as well. Luckily she had enough experience to know that it was not a need to go farther.
In the past "stupid millitary personell who can take the most pain games" have left me with broken blood vessels and a couple of sprains.
Being out of commition for a couple of weeks would tend to put a damper on the fun. Thus slower is better. Building the action at a slower pace would alow me to circumvent the defencive shut down, or allow a scene to continue without serios injury. This allows boath of us to push further into our limits.(Got to love the endorphen rush of a good scene)
____
MissTaken
Do more is a given I can be a hell of a SAM if I want
or worse yet just act bored. She hates that, and boy do I pay.Strictly about the Domme I would not go that far if we did not get off on the scene, wether or not we cum, we would not be back. However I have definatly gone further for my wife than I thought I ever would. Some things do still seem kinky even after you have done them the first time when you push your personal limits.
A good scene dosen't nessasaraly mean that you have enflicted substancial phisical pain on your sub. I often feel much more dominated when my Domme goes more to the D/s she can have me begging her to do more or to allow me to do more. This wil leave me phisicaly shaking with antisipation and frustration.
I know that phisicaly I am easily her supperior but in the scene her use of her mind to break me is far supperior.
If it is your wish to go for the pain side I may have a couple of ideas that you can use.
1. Streching of muscles.
Putting the sub in a position, or binding him so that it causes the muscle to strech will cause a burning sensation in the muscle. *Do not bounce the strech this will cause a high risk of tearing the muscle* *good comunication or allowing the sub to controle the strech are a must to prevent injury*
2. Working a muscle to failure.
Having the sub stand on his toes, squat, maintain a half pushup position or any other position that causes the sub to hold a position that is not relaxed for an extended time. Eventualy a uncontroleable shake will start in the muscle and pain. A good one would be to have the sub hold a tray with a drink on it held strait out from the sholders arms fully extended. If he can maintain it for more than a couple of minutes I would be impressed. The psycological games that can be played with this are tremendus. "Such a pathetic sub letting a glass of water kick his ass", "can't you even hold a drink for your mistress" etc. Actual risk of true injury is low.
3. Hot wax
I would sugest a Poperie boiler with a candle as a heat sorce or a fondu pot as a melter and a paint brush as an aplicator. I know a couple who makes wax molds of the subs cock then fills the mold with water and makes Ice dildos to fuck his ass with. ref: http://www.westcoastpowerex.com/safety_hotwax.php *to prevent burns you do not want to heat the wax any more than to melt it*
4. Violet wand
Portible hand held electrostatic genorator ref: http://www.betterbdsm.com/violetwand.html *resonably safe, can cause burns*
5. Tens units
Electic muscle stimulator designed for medical use (don't have a reference) *do not use acrost head or chest*
Just some ideas. I do not claim to be an expert on any. Do your research know your kink and have fun.
Safe Sane and Consentual
Sifer
slipperyboy
Virgin
- Joined
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good a time as any...
..to out myself. haven't had a dominant partner in a while, so i don't have much to offer at the moment beyond fond memories and fantasy.
..to out myself. haven't had a dominant partner in a while, so i don't have much to offer at the moment beyond fond memories and fantasy.
Tom Bishop
Experienced
- Joined
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I wanted to give my answer to the people who contacted me and to my Boss and Miss Taken A lot of thought Before I replied
I have had almost two weeks of Mentel and phisicale sex With a task that my Boss has given me
The First part of the task was how do I let my Boss know that I still want to serve him . I can't call or email him directly Well I posted here with some of my thoughts on being his and how I like it ... It worked he sent me an email telling me he wanted me to whore out to two People who wanted a bisexusal Kinky fem man . This email showed that he still wanted to use me and that He took in to consideration Things that we had talked about and what my limits were and he wanted to push these limits.
I got this email 8 days before the day of becomeing a male whore for money Which makes for a long time for me to work my mind into a frenzey of questions and doubts Which is very exciteing IT almost put me into a state of constant horneyness
Just when I started to be able to think about my work and other oblagaytons Boss had me meet his boyfriend at Bosses Home and practice dressing and acting like a sexy crossdressing sex Kitten which isn't how I picture my self In the fantaseyes Boss has Brought out in me The Bra Wig Heels and lousey Makeup job are to much like work and don't turn me on at all I didn't get any sex at all out of that meeting and It made me even more apprehensive of the monday afternoon when I would have to entertain these two people All I heard from Boss Was that his boyfriend said for an old cum bucket I did pretty good .
Then MONDAY came I went to this cheap Motel Fem Cothes in hand and met first the women She was Very short plump with huge tits she was late 40 years old like I said very short not someone I would of even considered for a sex partner I even thought that she looked like the kind of women who gave up on sex even if she ever had any at all. She carried my little overnite bag as we checked in and followed behind me as we went to the room We must of looked like a couple going for an Afternoon mattenee In the room she asked me questions about how I liked sex with men very grafic and dirty I sat in a chair she was in the bathroom with door open she changed into a silk housecoat even though I could see her naked It did nothing for me . When she came out she handed me a cell phone told me to press some buttons Told me when her husband answered to tell him if he wanted his share of the winnings to meet his wife at this Motel at one oclock room so and so then hang up After the call she started with more questions and informatipm She got red in the face while talking very frankly about gay sex and what she wanted me to do She said Boss told her that my Ass Was his but anything short of Pain and scat was fair game She dressed me without touching my Cock put makeup on me ( she did a better job then I did ) I looked like a women when she was done when her husband got there she Told him That to get part of her winnings He would have to do what she said While I waited in the bathroom when she had me come out I saw a short man very round bald In a suit someone I don't think I would of even noticed In a crowed .
I walked farther in the room My mind went nuts They looked more like brother and sisster . she had me get on my knees and put my face in his crotch all the time telling him I might not be the prettiest whore he ever had but I was going to broaden his outlook on sex I don't think he knew I was a guy She sat on the bed Telling him there would be a Blow job and a lot of cum swollowing And piss play All the time my face was buried in his crotch and he was holding my head rubbing me on his from what I could feel little dick She told me The Whore will undress you and then We Will Begin She made him promise to do everything she said I thing he got off he was breathing hard and shodered while she talked She said BJ get your face off his dick and undress him I did and yes he did cum in his boxers Yes his dick was small and I know he thought I was just an ugly old Whore
This is getting to long The deal with the winnings was She won a big lawsuit and he had to earn getting some of it it was har fantasey She had him blow me I had trouble getting hard he ate my cum I jerked him off in my hand a fed it to him she just kept cumming up with things she wanted And We did them I didn't enjoy myself at all I was a real working girl was what I was thinking the whole day he hated it at first but I think he got into her humileating him long story short after 4 hrs I changed got paid left Boss called me after a short walk to a bar to get loaded it did not do a thing for me But when boss said you did real good I got hard standing all alone outside a bar on a busy street talking on a cell phone Boss had talked to them and they were very happy with the Whore they Hired Boss wants to meet me tommorrow just me and him and we will go from there I almost came without touching my self just hearing how happy he was with me
I think I found the true submission Makeing my Boss happy and excited and not even being with him I am his and I will doing the things that make him happy jusst to make myself happy .
BJ Bishop
I have had almost two weeks of Mentel and phisicale sex With a task that my Boss has given me
The First part of the task was how do I let my Boss know that I still want to serve him . I can't call or email him directly Well I posted here with some of my thoughts on being his and how I like it ... It worked he sent me an email telling me he wanted me to whore out to two People who wanted a bisexusal Kinky fem man . This email showed that he still wanted to use me and that He took in to consideration Things that we had talked about and what my limits were and he wanted to push these limits.
I got this email 8 days before the day of becomeing a male whore for money Which makes for a long time for me to work my mind into a frenzey of questions and doubts Which is very exciteing IT almost put me into a state of constant horneyness
Just when I started to be able to think about my work and other oblagaytons Boss had me meet his boyfriend at Bosses Home and practice dressing and acting like a sexy crossdressing sex Kitten which isn't how I picture my self In the fantaseyes Boss has Brought out in me The Bra Wig Heels and lousey Makeup job are to much like work and don't turn me on at all I didn't get any sex at all out of that meeting and It made me even more apprehensive of the monday afternoon when I would have to entertain these two people All I heard from Boss Was that his boyfriend said for an old cum bucket I did pretty good .
Then MONDAY came I went to this cheap Motel Fem Cothes in hand and met first the women She was Very short plump with huge tits she was late 40 years old like I said very short not someone I would of even considered for a sex partner I even thought that she looked like the kind of women who gave up on sex even if she ever had any at all. She carried my little overnite bag as we checked in and followed behind me as we went to the room We must of looked like a couple going for an Afternoon mattenee In the room she asked me questions about how I liked sex with men very grafic and dirty I sat in a chair she was in the bathroom with door open she changed into a silk housecoat even though I could see her naked It did nothing for me . When she came out she handed me a cell phone told me to press some buttons Told me when her husband answered to tell him if he wanted his share of the winnings to meet his wife at this Motel at one oclock room so and so then hang up After the call she started with more questions and informatipm She got red in the face while talking very frankly about gay sex and what she wanted me to do She said Boss told her that my Ass Was his but anything short of Pain and scat was fair game She dressed me without touching my Cock put makeup on me ( she did a better job then I did ) I looked like a women when she was done when her husband got there she Told him That to get part of her winnings He would have to do what she said While I waited in the bathroom when she had me come out I saw a short man very round bald In a suit someone I don't think I would of even noticed In a crowed .
I walked farther in the room My mind went nuts They looked more like brother and sisster . she had me get on my knees and put my face in his crotch all the time telling him I might not be the prettiest whore he ever had but I was going to broaden his outlook on sex I don't think he knew I was a guy She sat on the bed Telling him there would be a Blow job and a lot of cum swollowing And piss play All the time my face was buried in his crotch and he was holding my head rubbing me on his from what I could feel little dick She told me The Whore will undress you and then We Will Begin She made him promise to do everything she said I thing he got off he was breathing hard and shodered while she talked She said BJ get your face off his dick and undress him I did and yes he did cum in his boxers Yes his dick was small and I know he thought I was just an ugly old Whore
This is getting to long The deal with the winnings was She won a big lawsuit and he had to earn getting some of it it was har fantasey She had him blow me I had trouble getting hard he ate my cum I jerked him off in my hand a fed it to him she just kept cumming up with things she wanted And We did them I didn't enjoy myself at all I was a real working girl was what I was thinking the whole day he hated it at first but I think he got into her humileating him long story short after 4 hrs I changed got paid left Boss called me after a short walk to a bar to get loaded it did not do a thing for me But when boss said you did real good I got hard standing all alone outside a bar on a busy street talking on a cell phone Boss had talked to them and they were very happy with the Whore they Hired Boss wants to meet me tommorrow just me and him and we will go from there I almost came without touching my self just hearing how happy he was with me
I think I found the true submission Makeing my Boss happy and excited and not even being with him I am his and I will doing the things that make him happy jusst to make myself happy .
BJ Bishop
hurtme
Really Really Experienced
- Joined
- Oct 10, 2003
- Posts
- 443
hmm...I have been silent on this thread up to now, thought i would throw in my two threads. I consider myself to be a switch...I have more experience with being submissive though, to being dominant...there is a pretty good reason for this...and it involves the attitude of male subs...
I have been looking...kind of...for one to pique my interest, and none really have, in my thusfar short and not to direct search...and the main reason why, is i don't want someone who is going to come crawling into my lap because i said so...I want someone who has a strong spirit...someone i have to work to get and work to keep...someone who won't be submissive just because i am in charge and told them so...i like a challange, and have unfortuantely broken a boy or two unbeknownst to either of us before i got into BDSM...basically, i want to be just as challenged as the submissive is, and i want to continue to learn and grow...hmmm...there are other things, but i am trying to keep this short...
needless to say...thusfar, all the male subs i have met were either gay, or were ready to lick my bootheel upon meeting me, and just as i won't call anyone master upon meeting them, before they have my approval, respect, and trust... i expect to have to earn the title of mistress...I know others exist...i know not everyone is like that, so before anyone gets pissy, i am just sharing my experiences...
I have been looking...kind of...for one to pique my interest, and none really have, in my thusfar short and not to direct search...and the main reason why, is i don't want someone who is going to come crawling into my lap because i said so...I want someone who has a strong spirit...someone i have to work to get and work to keep...someone who won't be submissive just because i am in charge and told them so...i like a challange, and have unfortuantely broken a boy or two unbeknownst to either of us before i got into BDSM...basically, i want to be just as challenged as the submissive is, and i want to continue to learn and grow...hmmm...there are other things, but i am trying to keep this short...
needless to say...thusfar, all the male subs i have met were either gay, or were ready to lick my bootheel upon meeting me, and just as i won't call anyone master upon meeting them, before they have my approval, respect, and trust... i expect to have to earn the title of mistress...I know others exist...i know not everyone is like that, so before anyone gets pissy, i am just sharing my experiences...
MissTaken
Biker Chick
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2001
- Posts
- 20,570
Just a few random thoughts on this thread:
Yes, it is long past overdue that the voice of male subs be present on the forums. Please, feel free to post on the many other threads on both the TAlk forum and the Chat forum.
Tom,
While it may have been difficult, you did a stellar job during this episode. I do have to wonder, who is in charge in your Boss' marriage. No matter, it is His relationship and I have to admire that He is open with his wife about his relationship with you.
Satin Kitty? Your post made my wheels turn. Scooter and I began our relationship on a vanilla level and then, as we got to know one another, he expressed some fantasies. As a switch, I felt confident in helping him to achieve those fantasies from a purely sexual point of view.
Then, our relationship evolved to where it is now. It is no longer fantasy play, but how we choose to live our life and show our love. He is at home on his knees before me and I am in heaven with him there.
What strikes me is that entering into this relationship, I was doing so in an effort to please him. We are now seeing where the relationship has evolved. I do ensure he feels pleasure and enjoys our time together, but his true joy comes from submission, pleasing me, giving himself to me. To that end, as we have come to know one another so well, I am more free to "cut loose" and enjoy giving that flogging or whatever it is that we are doing. Then, it is all about me, the rush, the power trip and the feeling that we cherish one another.
Good stuff, eh?
Yes, it is long past overdue that the voice of male subs be present on the forums. Please, feel free to post on the many other threads on both the TAlk forum and the Chat forum.
Tom,
While it may have been difficult, you did a stellar job during this episode. I do have to wonder, who is in charge in your Boss' marriage.
No matter, it is His relationship and I have to admire that He is open with his wife about his relationship with you.Satin Kitty? Your post made my wheels turn. Scooter and I began our relationship on a vanilla level and then, as we got to know one another, he expressed some fantasies. As a switch, I felt confident in helping him to achieve those fantasies from a purely sexual point of view.
Then, our relationship evolved to where it is now. It is no longer fantasy play, but how we choose to live our life and show our love. He is at home on his knees before me and I am in heaven with him there.
What strikes me is that entering into this relationship, I was doing so in an effort to please him. We are now seeing where the relationship has evolved. I do ensure he feels pleasure and enjoys our time together, but his true joy comes from submission, pleasing me, giving himself to me. To that end, as we have come to know one another so well, I am more free to "cut loose" and enjoy giving that flogging or whatever it is that we are doing. Then, it is all about me, the rush, the power trip and the feeling that we cherish one another.
Good stuff, eh?
raverboi27
Experienced
- Joined
- Dec 1, 2003
- Posts
- 47
I guess I am what you would call a switch. In the bedroom I am in total control and she is very sub. However, outside of the bedroom shes in total control and I love it! We are getting ready to move in together and I can't wait!!!!!
sifer
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Oct 20, 2003
- Posts
- 218
You would be supprised at the number of people that reverse roles in bed to out.
My wife use to work as a pro dom most of her cliants were "take charge" bussiness executives and owners who wanted nothing more than to be beaten and humiliated. Sex was not even offered (they never knew when vice would roll through).
Leads me to beleave that switch is the norm not the exception.
Althow the lables are usualy applied to the in house version.
Sifer
My wife use to work as a pro dom most of her cliants were "take charge" bussiness executives and owners who wanted nothing more than to be beaten and humiliated. Sex was not even offered (they never knew when vice would roll through).
Leads me to beleave that switch is the norm not the exception.
Althow the lables are usualy applied to the in house version.
Sifer
Satin Kitty 69
Enjoying Exploration
- Joined
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- Posts
- 2,158
MissTaken said:Just a few random thoughts on this thread:
Yes, it is long past overdue that the voice of male subs be present on the forums. Please, feel free to post on the many other threads on both the TAlk forum and the Chat forum.
Tom,
While it may have been difficult, you did a stellar job during this episode. I do have to wonder, who is in charge in your Boss' marriage.
Satin Kitty? Your post made my wheels turn. Scooter and I began our relationship on a vanilla level and then, as we got to know one another, he expressed some fantasies. As a switch, I felt confident in helping him to achieve those fantasies from a purely sexual point of view.
Then, our relationship evolved to where it is now. It is no longer fantasy play, but how we choose to live our life and show our love. He is at home on his knees before me and I am in heaven with him there.
What strikes me is that entering into this relationship, I was doing so in an effort to please him. We are now seeing where the relationship has evolved. I do ensure he feels pleasure and enjoys our time together, but his true joy comes from submission, pleasing me, giving himself to me. To that end, as we have come to know one another so well, I am more free to "cut loose" and enjoy giving that flogging or whatever it is that we are doing. Then, it is all about me, the rush, the power trip and the feeling that we cherish one another.
Good stuff, eh?
Very good stuff.
I have come to love the sight of him squirming with pleasure, as I hold off his release again and again. Seeing his upturn ass in submission, ready for anything that I might chose to do to pleasure both of us, makes me purr at the thought of it. YUM!
