Pmann’s Reasons Why Women Won’t Talk To Me (You) Thread

[SassySheDevil]

I really dislike that people think this way. You “figure” and “assume”. You shouldn’t do that. The way you communicate is down to you. If you don’t have an ulterior motive and still don’t message people then you could be missing out on a good conversation. Not everybody makes assumptions and will take each conversation at face value

This is very true. I used to have people tell me they didn't message me because they assumed.... x,y,z

 

[SassySheDevil]

You make a fair point. I've started to be more willing to lately as I've started to banter more in the PG and feel like I'm a little less of a random if I do.

I will say that those I see bantering in the open are typically the ones I will reply to first. If I have already seen you trying to engage that goes a long ways for me.

 

[Misshotndeep]

When a guy disrespects others. If you treat strangers that have done nothing wrong to you badly it means I won’t fare any better. Big fat red flag there!

 

[Indie]

1. They're boring
2. They're an asshole
3. They are cocky AF
4. They get caught in a lie
5. We just don't click
6. They're just not funny

 

[Misshotndeep]

I have rarely reached out to someone of the opposite sex as me, preferring they contact me first.

Also, I can't remember what the original topic of this thread was, but suffice to say I agree with the smart poster in here.

You do know that only really works with sex workers and mistresses.

 

[Indie]

1. They're boring
2. They're an asshole
3. They are cocky AF
4. They get caught in a lie
5. We just don't click
6. They're just not funny

Coincidentally, this all applies to at least one person in my inbox right now

 

[Bbl87]

1. They're boring
2. They're an asshole
3. They are cocky AF
4. They get caught in a lie
5. We just don't click
6. They're just not funny

Guilty.

 

[Indie]

Almost forgot the most common reason!

7. I forget to reply

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Guilty.

This reminded me of another one…lack of confidence. Sends me running straight for the hills!

 

[Bbl87]

This reminded me of another one…lack of confidence. Sends me running straight for the hills!

That moment when self deprecating humor backfires.

 

[Lady2020]

I've talked to a lot of men on Lit. You know, it depends on what people are looking for on here and availability. And their honesty. You have men who are married who have a Lit love, may even long term. Maybe your pm hits a woman who works, ehp had a shitty day, is trying to process pm's from 10+ men, and the men all demand she be available at his time.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I've talked to a lot of men on Lit. You know, it depends on what people are looking for on here and availability. And their honesty. You have men who are married who have a Lit love, may even long term. Maybe your pm hits a woman who works, ehp had a shitty day, is trying to process pm's from 10+ men, and the men all demand she be available at his time.

This reminds me of a lot of the guys in the personals. Woman leaves a personal and suddenly her inbox blows up but if she doesn't respond to him quickly enough he starts putting her on blast in that same thread. She must be a bitch for not replying to him above all the others.

Any PM I get. Has to at least give me something to reply to. Saying "hey there" doesn't work. I also hate "what's up?" While I can reply to that. I rarely do.
Make PMs engaging.

 

[barefootgirl69]

@SassySheDevil

I got a PM titled "e-masturbation" and opened it up to read

Are you the one?



Hell, no. I'm not.

 

[Mgwb11]

@SassySheDevil

I got a PM titled "e-masturbation" and opened it up to read

Are you the one?



Hell, no. I'm not.

That's a BOLD approach.

I wonder if it ever, ever pays off.

 

[barefootgirl69]

That's a BOLD approach.

I wonder if it ever, ever pays off.

It might with someone else! Lol

 

[Mgwb11]

It might with someone else! Lol

The shotgun approach. Send it out to a 100 women and if you get even one response, count it as a win?

That must be a really depressing way to get e-laid.

 

[SassySheDevil]

@SassySheDevil

I got a PM titled "e-masturbation" and opened it up to read

Are you the one?



Hell, no. I'm not.

Barf!!!

 

[Mgwb11]

This reminds me of a lot of the guys in the personals. Woman leaves a personal and suddenly her inbox blows up but if she doesn't respond to him quickly enough he starts putting her on blast in that same thread. She must be a bitch for not replying to him above all the others.

Watching that happen in real time is the worst, I did the other day. And they wonder why there are so few posts from women in there.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Watching that happen in real time is the worst, I did the other day. And they wonder why there are so few posts from women in there.

Yeah exactly. Even when women try and explain that to them. Their ego is already bruised and they stomp off to the next poor woman to pounce on.

 

[ydahecnot]

This reminds me of a lot of the guys in the personals. Woman leaves a personal and suddenly her inbox blows up but if she doesn't respond to him quickly enough he starts putting her on blast in that same thread. She must be a bitch for not replying to him above all the others.

Any PM I get. Has to at least give me something to reply to. Saying "hey there" doesn't work. I also hate "what's up?" While I can reply to that. I rarely do.
Make PMs engaging.

Hi there

 

[Mgwb11]

Yeah exactly. Even when women try and explain that to them. Their ego is already bruised and they stomp off to the next poor woman to pounce on.

Whereas if you just message a girl and talk to them like you would any other human instead of a piece of meat, you will almost always (at least in my experience) actually get a response and have a nice little exchange, even if you don't vibe. I fundamentally do not understand how people don't know that. By all accounts they should already be doing that in their normal lives, but suddenly on the internet they devolve into troglodytes.

...Unless a lady specifically wants a message objectifying her, that's another matter. They tend to be VERY clear on that though.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Whereas if you just message a girl and talk to them like you would any other human instead of a piece of meat, you will almost always (at least in my experience) actually get a response and have a nice little exchange, even if you don't vibe. I fundamentally do not understand how people don't know that. By all accounts they should already be doing that in their normal lives, but suddenly on the internet they devolve into troglodytes.

...Unless a lady specifically wants a message objectifying her, that's another matter. They tend to be VERY clear on that though.

The sad thing is one of the lit ladies started a thread where all the ladies went into to give advice to the men regarding the personals, but too many guys seemed to think they knew better.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Hi there

You had me at "hi"

 

[cascadiabound]

The sad thing is one of the lit ladies started a thread where all the ladies went into to give advice to the men regarding the personals, but too many guys seemed to think they knew better.

I followed that thread... it was amazing how many men wanted to argue with advice offered.
There is actually quite a lot of pretty decent advice around here on how to interact with others with respect and thoughtfulness. Also... it's a good idea to read profiles and or check out recent posting history before dropping a random message.
I'm generally pretty friendly and willing to engage in conversation with most people who PM me, but as my profile says "I'm not here to talk sexy with you"

 

[ydahecnot]

You had me at "hi"

Darn, if I knew I had a magic “hi,” I could have saved myself keystrokes over the years