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What do all of you in sexless marriages do for sex?

🎼 The non-masturbatin' Tyrannosaurus Rex! 🎶

Damn, that's funny. ..My kids loved Family Guy, but I didn't realize it was quite so edgy. :ROFLMAO:
 
My wife has told me more than once that I should get a girlfriend. I don't think she's 100% sure, and she. Is. My. Life. So I'm erring on the side of caution, because I'm crazy about her. But when she says stuff like that it turns me on so much it lifts my mood for days!
 
LookN2Talk said:

Many have all already posted that they have sexless marriages ( and I do sincerely hate that anyone has to go through this) so no need to recant it all, what I want to know is what do all of you do for sex?​

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Masturbation and the occasional happy ending massage, for the most part.
 
strongnsensual said:
My wife has told me more than once that I should get a girlfriend. I don't think she's 100% sure, and she. Is. My. Life. So I'm erring on the side of caution, because I'm crazy about her. But when she says stuff like that it turns me on so much it lifts my mood for days!
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It sounds like you're her life, too, and she wants you to be as happy as possible, even if she doesn't completely fulfill you sexually. Do you reject birthday presents, too?

Not trying to be too snarky or anything. Just not seeing the downside here.
 
My wife is bi but over the past few years had seemed to lean more lesbian. We don’t really have sex although she masturbates everyday to lesbian porn. She hasn’t got a gf yet but I’m waiting,I don’t mind at all and encourage it though.
That being said,I typically get happy ending massages every week as well masturbating nonstop. Also a new parlor is opening near me that offers full service so I’ll be able to fuck them when I want.
 
My marriage is not sexless, but we have twenty minutes, once a week, with a very limited 'menu'. I would love to have sex every day and wouldlove to try EVERYTHING a man and woman can do together.

So, I watch porn and masturbate every day. I have done so since I was a teen. I don't want to cheat. But I wish things were different.
 
SmokingFap said:
It sounds like you're her life, too, and she wants you to be as happy as possible, even if she doesn't completely fulfill you sexually. Do you reject birthday presents, too?

Not trying to be too snarky or anything. Just not seeing the downside here.
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I know you're not being too snarky. Most of the time she sounds open to the idea, even encouraging. But not always, and when she isn't it sounds like it would jeopardize our marriage. That's the downside.
 
Interesting discussion earlier this morning. We're in our hot tub, and she tells me

"You have a body built for sex. Built for being a gigolo. Would you like that?"
"Oh, that would be incredibly sexy. I'd give you half the money - and all the love!"
"Would it be sexy for you, getting me for free when other women have to pay for it?"
She blushes a bit. and looks down "yes, but I'd still feel a bit cheated on."
 
SmokingFap said:
she wants you to be as happy as possible, even if she doesn't completely fulfill you sexually. Do you reject birthday presents, too?

Not trying to be too snarky or anything. Just not seeing the downside here.
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Not the OP, but, speaking for myself, comparing birthday presents to "pity sex" or "duty sex" or sex that only one person is into doesn't work.

I finally told my wife to stop trying, because it sucked. We're both happier and my own sex life is better when she's not part of it. She's my loved one, but not my lover.

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Nevermind, I see what the "birthday present" was being compared to, now. And it wasn't shitty, one-sided "sex" with the spouse.

But I don't think that an offhand comment about extramarital sex can be compared to a birthday present, either. He can take her up on it, probably not by going out and getting a girlfriend, but, by pursuing the conversation and finding out whether the spouse was serious and would be on board with that without blowing up the marriage if he does get someone else.
 
Britva415 said:
Not the OP, but, speaking for myself, comparing birthday presents to "pity sex" or "duty sex" or sex that only one person is into doesn't work.

I finally told my wife to stop trying, because it sucked. We're both happier and my own sex life is better when she's not part of it. She's my loved one, but not my lover.

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Nevermind, I see what the "birthday present" was being compared to, now. And it wasn't shitty, one-sided "sex" with the spouse.

But I don't think that an offhand comment about extramarital sex can be compared to a birthday present, either. He can take her up on it, probably not by going out and getting a girlfriend, but, by pursuing the conversation and finding out whether the spouse was serious and would be on board with that without blowing up the marriage if he does get someone else.
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I'm sorry you initially misunderstood and still disagree with my analogy. But I stand behind it. I think rejecting a "present" from a loved one, in whatever form it may be, robs both parties of joy and quite possibly a stronger relationship.

When was the last time you gave someone you cared about a present, and their face lit up, and they smiled so wide, it looked like their head might split in two? Maybe even brought them to tears because it was so thoughtful and perfect. Remember the joy YOU felt by making that person unbelievably happy? How would you have felt if the other person had said, "Oh my! That's very thoughtful and generous of you, but I couldn't possibly accept this. It's just too much"?

Giving can be extremely fulfilling in and of itself. ACCEPTING a thoughtful and heartfelt gift from someone you love with grace and gratitude is just as important as giving those kinds of gifts.

I'll get off my soapbox now. Carry on.
 
strongnsensual said:
Interesting discussion earlier this morning. We're in our hot tub, and she tells me

"You have a body built for sex. Built for being a gigolo. Would you like that?"
"Oh, that would be incredibly sexy. I'd give you half the money - and all the love!"
"Would it be sexy for you, getting me for free when other women have to pay for it?"
She blushes a bit. and looks down "yes, but I'd still feel a bit cheated on."
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I toyed for a long time about writing a story sort of along these lines. Wife injured somehow, no more sex for hubby (or her). Her neighbor confides she's not getting any. Wife thinks for a minute. Offers up hubby. Turns into a full-time business for her, pleasurable part-time for him. She doesn't tell him she's been gigolo-ing his services out til she hands him the keys to a new Porsche. "Wife/Mother/Lover/Pimp" or something like that.
 
Britva415 said:
That's it, though, we have no idea whether it's a present.

What it probably is, is, a mask over something they really need to talk about.
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It sounds like they have talked about it, he just hasn't accepted her proposal. But we can agree to disagree, and nothing you or I say matters anyway, so...

Have a good one!
 
rogerped said:
It been awhile since we have had sex. I take care of myself with my hand and dream about things
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I used 2 b like this too, but then I found ppl in similar situations, now we no longer r sex less, matter of fact, now we're spoilt for choice 😏
 
Distilling the totality of a decade long relationship into a coupe of paragraphs ain't gonna happen. Let's not get spun up folks.

She's talked about it on and off for a long time. She's thrown out a lot of ideas. Some of them she's later admitted she'd find upsetting, so I feel I need to be very careful. She's so perfect in oh, so many ways. It's possible some part of her is disappointed that I haven't taken the pass and run. It's also possible that she thinks that's how she feels, but after the fact she'd be very hurt. It's interesting to see her comments and thoughts develop. And to me, it shows incredible caring and trust that she's even verbalized a lot of this.

The discussion is interesting folks. Hearing the perspectives is what makes this interesting.
 
SmokingFap said:
It sounds like they have talked about it, he just hasn't accepted her proposal. But we can agree to disagree, and nothing you or I say matters anyway, so...

Have a good one!
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He did say it lifts his mood, so, maybe that's the present!
 
Britva415 said:
What happens when you talk about it?
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Apparently the answer is "we have amazing sex." 😁

She reiterated that she's concerned for me, but she'd be really hurt if I was with anyone else. But later in the day she made another comment or two about "I think you should get a girlfriend." ....or, we could recreate this morning more often!
 
strongnsensual said:
Apparently the answer is "we have amazing sex." 😁

She reiterated that she's concerned for me, but she'd be really hurt if I was with anyone else. But later in the day she made another comment or two about "I think you should get a girlfriend." ....or, we could recreate this morning more often!
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Hm, interesting.

I guess you're happy the way things are?

Or is the low frequency she wants really a big deal?
 
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