Why do women like anal sex?

[cadman7777]

A woman who I had an affair with said she only anal could make her cum.......I mean she loved it more than anything.........other than sucking me off

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

What a wonderful thing to be visited by such a clear-eyed, and well-read sexual ethicist. Now that you've set us all straight on how only abused or dumb women enjoy anal sex, maybe we can now get your thoughts on a few other sexual acts..

Tell how you feel about the following:

• Women who enjoy fellatio - ie., NOT to please a partner, but for their OWN enjoyment? My wife says she enjoys giving head but this shouldn't be possible, right? After all, women don't have a clitoris in their mouth and mouths really are meant for food-input, right??
• Women who enjoy buttplugs, or a finger in their ass - either with a partner, or as part of solo play. Is this also a form of sexual abuse?
• Gay women who enjoy anal play. How can this be if they don't have prostates?
• Women who enjoy having their nipples sucked by their intimacy partner. After all, a woman's nipples are meant for feeding babies, not adults! Shouldn't a woman feel degraded by this sexual activity, too?

Can't wait for you to enlighten us..

Why are you getting her going she’s the expert you shouldn’t be challenging her on this

 

[mousberry]

What a wonderful thing to be visited by such a clear-eyed, and well-read sexual ethicist. Now that you've set us all straight on how only dumb and/or abused women can enjoy anal sex, maybe we can now get your thoughts on a few other sexual acts..

You've misunderstood my posts.

I believe that anal sex, on its own, as in its pure sensory feeling, is not pleasurable for women and requires an element of imagination to make it enjoyable. This imagination most often involves submission/domination and degradation i.e the thinking that it's the 'wrong hole' (which, to be clear, is fine if all parties are consenting). The same type of thinking can be applied to oral sex— the act of giving is not pleasurable in and of itself, but the thought that you are pleasing your partner makes it enjoyable. I personally enjoy oral and anal myself, I just object to the framing that it's an entirely charitable act. I think women also tend to be people pleasers. Many, including myself, find pleasure in pleasing others, so in that way, if a man gets off to me smoking a cigarette, while I have no kinks involving smoking, I will become aroused from the arousal excited in my partner. It's the mental aspect I'm focusing on.

If you insist that really women just love anal because it feels good, I think you are being wilfully blind to the mental aspect. It's unsanitary and physically uncomfortable, if not painful; without these realities being incorporated into the imagination as a play on the submissive/dominant dynamic, I see no way to reconcile the act with pleasure.

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

. Thanks 321 just what we needed more of her psycho babble

 

[LMWM321]

If you insist that really women just love anal because it feels good, I think you are being wilfully blind to the mental aspect. It's unsanitary and physically uncomfortable, if not painful; without these realities being incorporated into the imagination as a play on the submissive/dominant dynamic, I see no way to reconcile the act with pleasure.

I chose to believe those women who say they enjoy how it feels and insist that submission and degradation are NOT a part of their enjoyment. But you do not.

Keep in mind, just because we don't understand the mechanism of action that would explain their enjoyment does not mean they don't enjoy it. Yet, here you are telling them they are wrong just because you can't explain it. That's ridiculous.

And now you claim the same about oral sex. Again, there are women who enjoy giving oral, absent any feelings of submission or being "taboo." ...Indeed, my wife being one of them. Heck, I LOVE giving oral to my wife and it has NOTHING to do with submission, degradation or doing something that is considered taboo. Are you again suggesting that they are all too dumb to understand their motivations for enjoying oral?

 

[mousberry]

Are you again suggesting that they are all too dumb to understand their motivations for enjoying oral?

Ignorant, not dumb.

Everyone implicitly understands there is a subtext to every interaction of life which is informed by wealth, status, gender, age, race, sexuality, etc. You wouldn't feel the same talking to a homeless person compared to a police officer. These rules apply to anal, oral and everything you ever do.

You can't just have an entirely equitable relationship.

I'm not really sure how else to explain. You can say you just like doing it but you aren't exempt from social hierarchy.

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Yup if you want to be a martyr that’s your choice!

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

If you want to be an equal you need to believe you are sad you do t have that berry

 

[mousberry]

If you want to be an equal you need to believe you are sad you do t have that berry

I think if you want to make life more equal, you need to be conscious of the inherent inequality of life.

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

I think if you want to make life more equal, you need to be conscious of the inherent inequality of life.

Opinions are like assholes we all have them and most stink pretty much

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Equally

 

[LMWM321]

Ignorant, not dumb.

Everyone implicitly understands there is a subtext to every interaction of life which is informed by wealth, status, gender, age, race, sexuality, etc. You wouldn't feel the same talking to a homeless person compared to a police officer. These rules apply to anal, oral and everything you ever do.

You can't just have an entirely equitable relationship.

I'm not really sure how else to explain. You can say you just like doing it but you aren't exempt from social hierarchy.

So my wife is ignorant because she enjoys giving head? You're ridiculous. Why should her enjoyment of doing that be any different than my enjoying going down on women? Or, our shared of enjoyment of French kissing??

Earlier in the thread you boasted that "you're well-educated" and that you have spent considerable time studying this subject. Well, my wife went to a very liberal elite University, where she took her share of Women's Studies classes. Probably like you, she has studied the writings of Simon De beauvoir and other feminists. My point? That she is definitely smart enough to know when she's being sexually degraded!

She's never found our sexual dynamics to be the least bit degrading. But I can promise you she would find your presumption to know better than her about her sexual motivations to be quite degrading.

Again... please don't become a sex educator or a therapist. You're very close-minded and self-certain.

 

[LMWM321]

. Thanks 321 just what we needed more of her psycho babble

Sorry guys…. But remember, this thread was started with a question that (seemed) to seek a legitimate answer.

Those who are more interested in jerk off banter, should maybe go to the Anal Confessions/ Gifs thread... Or whatever it's called.

 

[mousberry]

So my wife is ignorant because she enjoys giving men head? You're ridiculous. Why should her enjoyment of doing that be any different that my enjoying going down on women? Or, our shared of enjoyment of French kissing??

Oh my lord you are testing my patience! I am cognisant of the fact, yet I still enjoy it. I have said as much multiple times. I'm not convinced you're reading my posts.

 

[Wonderer67]

Arguing with this lady on this thread is a waste of time. It feels like arguing w someone on the political board.

Some people like to argue and feel like they’re right.

I just put her on ignore (suggest others do the same) and let’s get back to why people enjoy anal sex!!

 

[mousberry]

Arguing with this lady on this thread is a waste of time. It feels like arguing w someone on the political board.

You can jerk off to men blogging about anal sex in another thread. Juvenile.

 

[Britva415]

I believe that anal sex, on its own, as in its pure sensory feeling, is not pleasurable for women

See, you're continuing to do it. You pushed back at me when I said you're speaking for others, but you keep doing it. Talk about yourself, don't presume to know what's what for others.

 

[mousberry]

See, you're continuing to do it. You pushed back at me saying you're speaking for others, but you keep doing it. Talk about yourself, don't presume to know what's what for others.

So what? If I say humans drink water, will you wag your finger because I'm again speaking for all humans? Why does this even matter?

 

[Britva415]

So what? If I say humans drink water, will you wag your finger because I'm again speaking for all humans?

Now you're just playing dumb.

And the above poster is right - I should have ignored you a long time ago.

Have a great life

 

[mousberry]

Now you're just playing dumb.

And the above poster is right - I should have ignored you a long time ago.

Have a great life

I am playing dumb but you won't answer my question. The irony!

 

[LMWM321]

So what? If I say humans drink water, will you wag your finger because I'm again speaking for all humans? Why does this even matter?

You keep deflecting with non-sequiturs, conflation, and straw man arguments. I'm pretty sure you're just a troll. ..Meaning, I don't think you believe the nonsense you're saying, but say it anyway just to stir the pot.

 

[mousberry]

You keep deflecting with non-sequiturs, conflation, and straw man arguments. I'm pretty sure you're just a troll. ..Meaning, I don't think you believe the nonsense you're saying, but say it anyway just to stir the pot.

Why can I not speak for others? Why can a person not comment on anything outside their immediate perception and experience? Why can no one answer these questions?

And a reminder that you insulted me repeatedly (which I did not return) and a reminder that you, a man, told ME, a woman, that I'm not a feminist.

What I'm saying isn't even that insane or controversial. I genuinely think you're just too stupid to understand.

LOWIQ321

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Cause you ASSUME! That means you make an ass of you and me

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Kidding just makes an ass if you

 

[TryingTooHard]

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