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06.05.19

This question assumes you know what the Five Love Languages are... (words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, acts of service, quality time)

If you had to name Five LIT Love Languages, what would they be and what would your Love Language be?
 
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PrettyLilPussy19 said:
06.05.19

This question assumes you know what the Five Love Languages are...

If you had to name Five LIT Love Languages, what would they be and what would your Love Language be?
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Laughter
Positivity
Personal attention
Flirtation
Shared intense sexual desire
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
06.05.19

This question assumes you know what the Five Love Languages are... (words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, acts of service, quality time)

If you had to name Five LIT Love Languages, what would they be and what would your Love Language be?
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Teasing
Flirty
Stories
Lust
Desire
 
ShyNaughtyGirl said:
Hahaha no shame, just not gonna claim that part.

I’d let you pee on me...maybe, if we were naked in the shower, maybe 😋
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Well, this conversation took an unexpected turn...

My five would be


Respect - especially for peoples' boundaries. Not everyone here wants to do everything with everyone.

Compassion - there are a lot of threads where people share worries and insecurities about a host of things. I've been pleasantly surprised by how supportive most of the comments and contributors are. With some unfortunate exceptions.

Humor - It's a sex site. Sex is a lot of things, including, at times, awkward and ridiculous. Have some fun with it.

Tolerance - Don't piss on other peoples' kinks if you're not into them. Unless the kink is piss. Then, I guess ask to join in?

Reassurance - I know someone mentioned this already. I like it, so I'm using it again.
 
indiesoul said:
Presence - be there. Time is the best thing you can give someone.
Reassurance - smother their insecurities so that no doubt remains.
Virtual Gifts - pics, videos, stories, letters, and maybe the occasional care package.
Acknowledgment - don't hide them or make it seem like you're ashamed to know them.
Exclusivity - if you have someone's heart, act like it. Take care of it. :heart:

And my Lit Love Language? Presence. Being made a priority in someone's life as much as they are in mine.

I think these apply well to both romantic and platonic relationships, except the exclusivity part. ;) Though I do tend to pee allllll over and claim my closest friends.
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I don't participate in this thread.. but I wanted you to know that I LOVE this answer Indie. I truly do. :heart:
 
I was going to post something long-winded here, because I was excited that I knew what PLP was talking about...and I had ideas.

But Indie said most of what I was going to say, essentially, far better, far clearer, and with far more heart than a bumbling blowhard like me could have done.

You're a gem, Indie. :rose:

...and I just noticed that Sassy beat me to the compliment. So...yeah. :D
 
indiesoul said:
Presence - be there. Time is the best thing you can give someone.
Reassurance - smother their insecurities so that no doubt remains.
Virtual Gifts - pics, videos, stories, letters, and maybe the occasional care package.
Acknowledgment - don't hide them or make it seem like you're ashamed to know them.
Exclusivity - if you have someone's heart, act like it. Take care of it. :heart:
I think these apply well to both romantic and platonic relationships, except the exclusivity part. ;)
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I don't know how much credence I give to the Love Languages idea, but what indie has written is a pretty perfect summary of how to treat Lit partners and friends.

Whiskeyjack said:
Respect - especially for peoples' boundaries. Not everyone here wants to do everything with everyone.
Compassion - there are a lot of threads where people share worries and insecurities about a host of things. I've been pleasantly surprised by how supportive most of the comments and contributors are. With some unfortunate exceptions.
Humor - It's a sex site. Sex is a lot of things, including, at times, awkward and ridiculous. Have some fun with it.
Tolerance - Don't piss on other peoples' kinks if you're not into them. Unless the kink is piss. Then, I guess ask to join in?
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I think every person who signs up for Lit should get a pm with this. Pretty perfect summary of how to interact with other humans in general.
 
Sorry so long 😖

Indie did do a good job but I'm going to take a swing at a direct correlation.

Words of Affirmation >> Words of Affirmation
This is the only directly transferable Love Language. It's not just compliments and flattery but showing true appreciation. I've heard the difference explained like this. Flattery is telling someone what they already think of themselves and appreciation is telling someone what you think of them. Subtle but true and I think more meaningful.

Quality Time >> Being Present
This is an almost direct crossover. Time is precious. Giving someone your time, making time, prioritizing your time. That says so much. You can always tell when something is important because when you imagine the opposite it's painful. Someone withdrawing their time or re-prioritizing something or someone else is the opposite of showing love.

Gifts >> eGifts
Though they aren't tangible things you can touch or smell, egifts show that someone went out of their way to think about you and make something just for you. Pictures(not just nudes but pictures of cool things you see or of your life are meaningful but nakey pics are also good!), Audios (I'm super aural so hearing someone's voice means a lot especially when I know they took time to record something special for me), Easter Eggs (posting something special for someone special. These can be vague or shouting your love from the rooftops), and Music (a personal favorite way I like to show and receive love and thoughtfulness).

Acts of Service >> Setting the Mood
I can't come do your laundry but I can make you smile. I can't take some of the burden of your day but I can listen when you talk about it. I can't take you on vacation but I can back up and be patient when you need to handle real life stuff and be waiting with a smile on my face when you're done. Making someone laugh or feel heard, being supportive, listening... these are definitely acts of service in my book.

Physical Touch >> Loyalty
It can apply to a lover or a friend. It's a little more than exclusivity and will never be as good as an actual hug or being able to hold someone's hand but being trustworthy and loyal is the emotional equivalent for me. Can I trust you to protect my information? Can I believe that you will be careful with my heart? This takes time to prove but there is no feeling quite like that.

As far as mine go - well the point of Love Languages is that we speak them all! But my Lit Languages are actually pretty different than my other list. Normally I'm [Words, Acts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Gifts] on Lit I think it would be [Physical Touch, Quality Time, Gifts, Words, Acts] but they are all important.

And jeez, this makes me sound so high maintenance...
 
indiesoul said:
Presence - be there. Time is the best thing you can give someone.
Reassurance - smother their insecurities so that no doubt remains.
Virtual Gifts - pics, videos, stories, letters, and maybe the occasional care package.
Acknowledgment - don't hide them or make it seem like you're ashamed to know them.
Exclusivity - if you have someone's heart, act like it. Take care of it. :heart:

And my Lit Love Language? Presence. Being made a priority in someone's life as much as they are in mine.

I think these apply well to both romantic and platonic relationships, except the exclusivity part. ;) Though I do tend to pee allllll over and claim my closest friends.
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Whiskeyjack said:
Well, this conversation took an unexpected turn...

My five would be


Respect - especially for peoples' boundaries. Not everyone here wants to do everything with everyone.

Compassion - there are a lot of threads where people share worries and insecurities about a host of things. I've been pleasantly surprised by how supportive most of the comments and contributors are. With some unfortunate exceptions.

Humor - It's a sex site. Sex is a lot of things, including, at times, awkward and ridiculous. Have some fun with it.

Tolerance - Don't piss on other peoples' kinks if you're not into them. Unless the kink is piss. Then, I guess ask to join in?

Reassurance - I know someone mentioned this already. I like it, so I'm using it again.
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To condense these down to 5, I'm going to combine some. But the definitions remain the same:
1) Presence & Acknowledgment
2) Compassion & Reassurance
3) Respect & Tolerance
4) Humor
5) Exclusivity & Virtual Gifts
 
indiesoul said:
💯

These all hit home to me and I quoted the parts that hit me in the feelz.

The one area I still struggle with on Lit is when someone starts to withdraw their time and I feel that I'm not that important. That being said, I realize that I've often done the same to others and it's not that they aren't important, but <points back to Saturday's post> I just didn't have the emotional bandwidth to give anymore. It's funny how you can see things one way when it's being done to you and another way when you're the one doing it. I'm always quick to think the worst if someone is no longer around (ie. I must have done something wrong) whereas when I'm the one withdrawing, I know my own limitations and intentions.

And wow...I think that ended up being a completely unrelated digression. Soz. :eek:
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Ya know, I totally relate.
If I'm hurt, frustrated, or mad, I walk away... go quiet. But I hate when people emotionally withdraw from me when they are upset.

Digression accepted.
 
xianpeters said:
How do you do physical touch on Lit? I'm asking, cause I'm siting here with my dick pressed up against the computer monitor, and I'm just not feeling a thing!
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You meet the person and fuck them.
Like I did.
:D

I’m also a notorious phone licker.
 
AlwaysFara said:
You meet the person and fuck them.
Like I did.
:D

I’m also a notorious phone licker.
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Stop. You do realize that you're the exception to almost every Lit rule, and that for 99.9% of the rest of the Lit community that's a physical impossibility.

And - do you know what kind of germs live on a phone?
 
beachbaby179 said:
Stop. You do realize that you're the exception to almost every Lit rule, and that for 99.9% of the rest of the Lit community that's a physical impossibility.

And - do you know what kind of germs live on a phone?
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And my tongue.
The human mouth is a filthy thing.
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
Indie did do a good job but I'm going to take a swing at a direct correlation.

Words of Affirmation >> Words of Affirmation
This is the only directly transferable Love Language. It's not just compliments and flattery but showing true appreciation. I've heard the difference explained like this. Flattery is telling someone what they already think of themselves and appreciation is telling someone what you think of them. Subtle but true and I think more meaningful.

Quality Time >> Being Present
This is an almost direct crossover. Time is precious. Giving someone your time, making time, prioritizing your time. That says so much. You can always tell when something is important because when you imagine the opposite it's painful. Someone withdrawing their time or re-prioritizing something or someone else is the opposite of showing love.

Gifts >> eGifts
Though they aren't tangible things you can touch or smell, egifts show that someone went out of their way to think about you and make something just for you. Pictures(not just nudes but pictures of cool things you see or of your life are meaningful but nakey pics are also good!), Audios (I'm super aural so hearing someone's voice means a lot especially when I know they took time to record something special for me), Easter Eggs (posting something special for someone special. These can be vague or shouting your love from the rooftops), and Music (a personal favorite way I like to show and receive love and thoughtfulness).

Acts of Service >> Setting the Mood
I can't come do your laundry but I can make you smile. I can't take some of the burden of your day but I can listen when you talk about it. I can't take you on vacation but I can back up and be patient when you need to handle real life stuff and be waiting with a smile on my face when you're done. Making someone laugh or feel heard, being supportive, listening... these are definitely acts of service in my book.

Physical Touch >> Loyalty
It can apply to a lover or a friend. It's a little more than exclusivity and will never be as good as an actual hug or being able to hold someone's hand but being trustworthy and loyal is the emotional equivalent for me. Can I trust you to protect my information? Can I believe that you will be careful with my heart? This takes time to prove but there is no feeling quite like that.

As far as mine go - well the point of Love Languages is that we speak them all! But my Lit Languages are actually pretty different than my other list. Normally I'm [Words, Acts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Gifts] on Lit I think it would be [Physical Touch, Quality Time, Gifts, Words, Acts] but they are all important.

And jeez, this makes me sound so high maintenance...
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Beautiful thoughtful post...love it...and have loved reading this thread:heart:
 
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