❓ PLP Inquires❓

[UgliestSon]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Me, not a whole lot but dumb fucks like to PM me thinking I am into shitty incest. I’m like fuck dat shit dog it’s a Diarrhea Planet tune.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I don’t care about names unless he is using “Sir” or “Master” or “Lord” NON ironically.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

As someone whose name is really old and doesn't make much sense anymore, as long as your name isn't over the top dirty, I'll judge you on your merits.

 

[Karabare]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

I especially like to see a witty username but not really judging them. I'm pretty friendly with analcreampie, certainly can't judge him

I judge more on their AV than their username. It's nice to see pics of people.

We all like seeing yours Xian!

 

[Lily13]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Not at all. I see how they interact with me and others. Most of the time everyone is truly nice until proven otherwise to me.

 

[LordofChocolateSauce]

I don’t care about names unless he is using “Sir” or “Master” or “Lord” NON ironically.

So you called for the Lord

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

I think I am forgiving. I wouldn't say forgive and forget though. I forgive easily, but I change my standards and expectations for the person. Yes, I do consider the future, though I am not sure my need for future forgiveness as much as the need for a functional relationship with that person. If forgiveness is needed for a future mutual goal, it will be granted. I honestly can't really think of anything that I haven't forgiven anyone for.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

I'm pretty forgiving. It may take me a while to work through things, but that's on me, not them.

But forgiving doesn't mean trusting, or necessarily allowing them to be a part of my life. It doesn't automatically mean we go back to square one and start over. That has to be earned, justified, and it isn't always.

It might mean we have a do-over, but it might also mean that i forgive them and then move forward without them.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

I believe that I'm too forgiving. I don't worry about karma, or worrying if someone might forgive me. I'm so goddamn empathetic to other peoples' feelings that I'm constitutionally unable to NOT have a forgiving impulse. I'm too laid-back sometimes, admittedly.

Is there a line there? Sure. I might forgive an egregious transgression...but not trust you again. But that's on me.

 

[JerseyJade]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

No, I'm not. When someone does something that pisses me off, I stay angry and I never forget.

 

[AlwaysFara]

So you called for the Lord

You?
Fuck yes.

 

[AlwaysFara]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

Yes. I’m very forgiving. I was too forgiving with my ex.

I’m working on it.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

Someone once advised me to never forget a favour or a fucking over.

Or, to put it better:

Always apologize, never explain.

Always forgive, never forget.

 

[StudlyCowboy]

Yes, absolutely forgive. Forgetting is terribly difficult because we are human. But here's the thing. If I have hate about someone in my heart, how can I honestly love someone else? Reality is that I've let someone else dictate to me how I'm going to go through the rest of my life, hurting myself mentally way more than the person I'm holding the grudge against, that probably doesn't give a rat's ass anyway.

Life's way too short to be spent in hate . I'd hate to wake up every morning with that in my head. Working in one of the most competitive industries on the planet, I'd never be able to accomplish anything. For the best mental state, I'd want to forgive that person as quickly as I could and move on with my life, being a much happier person. I'll be more productive too!

 

[AlwaysFara]

Someone once advised me to never forget a favour or a fucking over.

Or, to put it better:

Always apologize, never explain.

Always forgive, never forget.

This.
Nothing is worse than “I’m sorry, but...”
Or expecting forgiveness just because you apologize.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Um... i like an explanation. I want one.

What i don't want is an excuse, an attempt at justification.

 

[beachbaby179]

I forgive way too easily. I should learn after a while. But I rarely forget. It goes much better if they straight up admit what they did and theres no back pedaling.

 

[Miles Long]

Related question: does anyone ever forget to forgive?

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

I am a forgiving person. Not necessarily a forgetting person, but a forgiving one.

And yes, my need for forgiveness is somewhere in that mix.

The past isn't real. It is a story we tell ourselves. When we realize that, we can find liberation. Just think of the time you invest is negative memories of the past that you cling to, then imagine freeing that time up to build a better present. When you forgive, you forgive two people - them and you.

(And to Miles question - hmmm, no, I usually remember.)

 

[AlliaPotestas]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

I forgive small shit all the time... I’m very good at letting most things wash over me and I try to see the world with rose tinted specs. I try to consider if there is an alternative explanation and do tend to allow people the benefit of doubt even when I know it probably makes a mug of me. If a certain viewpoint makes me feel better about things, why not adopt it - I don’t think it’s a bad way to live. I also try to remember everyone is fighting their own battles...

That said - fuck me over badly and you are done for life... I can be civil if I need to but I don’t do second chances for the big mistakes...

To Miles’ question - the only time I forget to forgive, tends to be when I need to forgive myself... I’m getting better at that...

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

This really depends on Where I am interacting with the username. Here on Lit, not so much, we are all here for the same reasoning (Adult Content), there is some expectation of subtle, over the top, grandiose, or vague usernames.

However, if we are talking Tumblr, Twitter, or some other venue where Anonymous Trolling is an Olympic Sport, I do get very judgemental, and it can very much color how I interpret what is said.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

I Try to be a forgiving person, though, if you have wronged me badly, just because I have forgiven you your trespass, that does not mean I am willing to let you back into my good graces. Sometimes forgiving is more about My Peace of Mind]/i] more than it is about their having asked Forgiveness. There are situations and circumstances in which I know I will never receive an apology from the other party, and I find if I don't forgive them in my own head, I will stew and let it fester and eat at my own well being. Again though, it doesn't mean I am willing to jump right back into being their friend or acquaintance, but just means I have taken a step to allow myself to move forward.

For small things, yes I will Try to forgive and forget and move on, though I have run into people who even though they have asked forgiveness, they still cling to the mistake, and will bring it up over and over again, it makes me wonder just how sorry they really were, or if their wrong doing was more intentional and not quite so accidental. I really do try however to not bring up past mud to throw should a new argument arise, it is water under the bridge, and unless it is proof of a pattern of behavior that person keeps repeating, it doesn't need to be drawn back up.

As for a line, again, to me Forgiveness is more about my peace of mind and moving forward, than it is appeasing someone else, so I really don't have a "Line" sort of speak. Eventually, I will have to forgive it, or it will just make me really bitter.

 

[Dribble]

06.21.19

Do you consider yourself a forgiving person? Do you forgive and forget? Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Do you consider your own need for future forgiveness when deciding whether or not to forgive?

Depends. I have no issue forgiving misunderstandings. I never forgive someone being an ass. What happens then, is they think you will forgive them again and again. Fuck games. Funny thing about life...you think how will I ever live without them...and a couple years later you laugh at how easy it is to live without them.

Future forgiveness? Like reciprocity? Not sure I understand this part enough to answer it

 

[Dribble]

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