❓ PLP Inquires❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.19.19

NRE

In online relationships, how much of a driver do you think New relationship energy is vs. Being comfortable with someone over a long period of time?
Do you prefer that exciting new infatuation or the routine and comfort?

(I'm having a hard time figuring how I want to phrase this question so please take the topic and run with it!)

 

[lurkingguy1978]

06.19.19

NRE

In online relationships, how much of a driver do you think New relationship energy is vs. Being comfortable with someone over a long period of time?
Do you prefer that exciting new infatuation or the routine and comfort?

(I'm having a hard time figuring how I want to phrase this question so please take the topic and run with it!)

Wow. Deep stuff for a Wednesday morning...

Is there anything more intoxicating than NRE online? I mean, the internet is made to find and learn new and different and exciting things...and add in the excitement of a new relationship and the excitement and newness of learning and exploring with a new partner, and you have a formula for incredibly intense feelings, sexual and otherwise.

That being said...if you can transition some of that energy into a long-term routine of comfort and genuine emotional connection, isn't that the best of both worlds?

That's been what I have always preferred...just like IRL. The comfort of home, or slipping on your favorite jeans...and add in the occasional spark of remembering and rekindling that intense energy from when the relationship was new and fresh and intoxicating.

Having been in more than one online relationship over the years (even before my time here) where that initial fade didn't fade...it just stayed strong and powerful, while my emotional attachment and caring grew even stronger through routine and familiarity and learning day-by-day about my partner...that. That is the best of both worlds.

That has been my experience, anyway.

/endrant

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Agreed ^

 

[barefootgirl69]

Dang, Lurking Guy... you nailed it!

 

[Paul_Chance]

LurkingGuy said it well.

Thinking about it though - I do think a lot of online relationships are driven by the curiosity and exploration of the potential wrapped up in the NRE.

I think that is the driver that gets you to the long term, comfortable relationship.

Sometimes it peters out and the relationship dies, sometime you catch the hidden icebergs buried under our personalities, but sometimes you move on and it's just as good because the two of your synch up at some crucial level.

 

[AlwaysFara]

06.19.19

NRE

In online relationships, how much of a driver do you think New relationship energy is vs. Being comfortable with someone over a long period of time?
Do you prefer that exciting new infatuation or the routine and comfort?

(I'm having a hard time figuring how I want to phrase this question so please take the topic and run with it!)

Deepness and comfort cannot be beat. I will talk to new people, but once I see it’s not going to deepen I usually abandon it. I can honestly say I have loved people here, both as friends and other.
I’ll take the distance over the sprint any day of the week.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

06.18.19

So... pizza...

What are your go-to toppings for your perfect pizza??

It's Pizza, as long as their are no "Fishies" on it (Allergic, I used to like Anchovies on my Supreme Style) I will pretty much eat it. Though, admittedly, there are some combinations out of Japan that do make me pause...(Peas and Japanese Mayo for instance)

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

 

[AveryElle]

06.18.19

So... pizza...

What are your go-to toppings for your perfect pizza??

I like the salty sweet combination of caramelized onions and, say, kalamata olives. But I also like spicy. Long hots on pizza? yes please. To me, I'd rather have plain than something too covered in things. When I was younger, greasy cheap pizza did the trick. Now? No way. I either have pizza that I know is great, or none at all.

06.19.19

NRE

In online relationships, how much of a driver do you think New relationship energy is vs. Being comfortable with someone over a long period of time? Do you prefer that exciting new infatuation or the routine and comfort?

Interesting question. NRE does matter, but online is weird. What are the expectations? Do they match for each partner? Is it an escape or are you actually looking for something? I'm clearly a bit of both you list above. First person I ever met from lit, he ended up my spouse. A few more between, but the last person, well you all know how that is, for now. But I've actually met them. I think it's really very difficult to truly love someone, warts and all, unless you've met in person. So I think the NOT meeting part adds to the sustainability of the NRE because you can create and grow a fantasy, if that makes any sense.

Online, there's always something you don't see. Or, if you see it, it makes you rethink things. It's tricky ground, and I admit to being poor at navigating that.

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Oh, 110%.
Just kidding, I barely even notice them.

 

[AnnieLit]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

I usually don't even read it, until we are deep into a conversation. At least I don't read it if there is picture attached.

 

[Sexybritches69]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Hardly at all. Maybe if anything, it does grab my attention but not too judgmental about it. It is Lit, after all.

My ridiculous username was given to me as a joke by a friend. I agreed to it when I didn’t think I’d ever post.

 

[vibes]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

I only (always) try to guess their gender by it (and I have a high ratio of right guessing)

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Well I do try to infer some details of a person by their user name, as they would not have picked it if they weren't trying to convey something. I will use it to attempt to identify their age, gender, and motives for being here, however I only use it loosely. 1st, some people have been here more than a decade, the user name may no longer convey the relevant details. 2nd, with such broad age and cultural dissimilarities across this board, my interpretation may simply be incorrect as I do not have the correct frame of reference to see what they were attempting to convey. So yeah, I might draw some information from it for initial contact, especially given the broken profiles, it might be the only thing I have to draw on, but it holds very little weight to it overall.

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Probably too much. There are people I don't interact with simply because of their screen name. It falls into two general categories rude/crude and lazy. I could be missing some good people, but in general, I have found it isn't the case.

 

[JerseyJade]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

I don't really have time to judge anyone based on their username because I'm still trying to figure out how to pronounce, TANSTAAFL58!

 

[hotwords229_A]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

I chose "Hotwords" after about a dozen other attempts at names that were already taken and then I said "Good enough", so based on that I can't really judge another person's choice of username.

I look at the name, AV and profile pic to get at least an idea of who someone is, but there is usually no rhyme or reason to any of it. So I just judge people on how they carry themselves on Lit.

I often can't even tell if it's male or female--

It's like SugarMomma always said:

"Lit is like a box of taint,
sometimes it's a chick,
and sometimes it ain't."

But there are a select few who have very clever names and they do not go unnoticed by me.

 

[tnman03]

I don't really have time to judge anyone based on their username because I'm still trying to figure out how to pronounce, TANSTAAFL58!

lol...R.A. Heinlein coined that phrase in his novel The Moon is a Harsh Mistress in 1966. Its not hard to pronounce if you sound it out, but here ya go none the less.

https://www.howtopronounce.com/tanstaafl/

 

[JerseyJade]

lol...R.A. Heinlein coined that phrase in his novel The Moon is a Harsh Mistress in 1966. Its not hard to pronounce if you sound it out, but here ya go none the less.

https://www.howtopronounce.com/tanstaafl/

Thank you, tnman. Now I'll be able to sleep at night again.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Thank you, tnman. Now I'll be able to sleep at night again.

And where's the fun in that?

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

Not very much. As Paul mentioned, some truly offensive names are off my list. I love cleverness. I am impressed by Literary or Historical references, puns, bits of foreign languages that sort of thing. If your username is "Iwannafuck" , I will likely ignore you.

And, of course I get Shi and Shy mixed up on occasion. Some names are unpronounceable. Which brings us to:

I don't really have time to judge anyone based on their username because I'm still trying to figure out how to pronounce, TANSTAAFL58!

"Tan. Staff. U'll. Fifty-eight"

When I set out to pick a user name, all my "unique" creations were taken. Even TANSTAAFL..Hence the "58" .

It stands for "There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch" plus my birth year. The line is from "Time Enough For Love" by Robert A. Heinlein.

Maybe that would be a good question: Tell us about your username. There are a few I am curious about...

 

[JerseyJade]

"Tan. Staff. U'll. Fifty-eight"

When I set out to pick a user name, all my "unique" creations were taken. Even TANSTAAFL..Hence the "58" .

It stands for "There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch" plus my birth year. The line is from "Time Enough For Love" by Robert A. Heinlein.

Maybe that would be a good question: Tell us about your username. There are a few I am curious about...

Just so you know, I did get the Fifty-eight part right!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Just so you know, I did get the Fifty-eight part right!

Just me being a smartass.

I judge more on their AV than their username. It's nice to see pics of people, especially Litsters like JJ, who are brave enough to show their faces.

EDIT: I'm assuming that's her face. I never did a reverse pic search on her though.

That would be another interesting question: Tell us about your Av. Mine was picked when I wanted "Whisky Neat" as a username. It is a shot of Canadian Whisky in the Glencairn Canadian Whisky glass.

If that's not JJ, she has dozens of pics of the same beautiful woman. (Don't tell her I said that).

BTW: The same goes for those who use a body shot as an Av or profile pic. Brave souls.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

lol...R.A. Heinlein coined that phrase in his novel The Moon is a Harsh Mistress in 1966. Its not hard to pronounce if you sound it out, but here ya go none the less.

https://www.howtopronounce.com/tanstaafl/

Okay, I may have to pull out a couple of old books when I get home. Although I am certain the Moon... came frst.

 

[JerseyJade]

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[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.20.19

How much do you judge someone based off their username alone?

I agree I try not to judge too much (as my username is the worst but there's no going back now!)

You do however get points deducted for lack or thought or just plain dumb (i.e. BigDick69)

And you get bonus points for clever and creative (i.e. AbsintheFather)