🫧Chloe's Curiosities Captivated🫦

[kathyisgr65]

I'm about overthinker too
I know. It's the worst thing

Yes

 

[Strixaluco]

Just found your place, Chloe! And there's so much to comment on...

Overthinking sucks. But, it's all about finding what works to shut the mind down, even for the briefest of moments.

Not just the mind. I found someone who's able to reboot my whole damn autonomous nerve system - and it's total bliss! Exactly what I need. I've noticed that if for some reason i go without reboot one week, my mental health suffers. I'm dependent.

His willingness to bend to my insecurities tells the damaged part inside my mind that I’m right

This is why I'm not totally obedient of Him having told me he doesn't want attention on his scars. I just toned it down....
And it seems to work, he doesn't shy away from being kissed on them anymore.

Your scars are part of you, and in my opinion that makes them beautiful. I don't mean you, in my case, of course, but generally. They're not Something Bad. They're part of you, your life, your history. They're (at least in the specific case I'm thinking of) part of your (her... their, in fact, now I think about it, since there hasn't just been the one woman who wasn't "perfect") survival. That's not nothing. It's a long, long way from nothing.

This is what I've been telling my Dom. He literally wouldn't be alive without his scars. He was supposed to have just a short one, but got 2 big ones instead - while they were trying to save his life. Sure, they didn't manage fix everything, but he's here, and he's my everything.

But people can be mean. I know he tested me twice - first when telling he had scars and a defect too, and the second time when showing me. Both occasions have sent some away. He burst to tears when I reacted neutrally! I mean, scars, so what? Heck, by this age I'm the only one in my family who doesn't have any! But some people are so superficial and only accepting physically perfect that they cause deep emotional scars on people.

Let's talk collars

There's a lot to be said about what a collar means in relationship. There's all kinds of different collars ranging in meaning and use. The colors can mean different things too. For me though, it has always meant one thing: belonging.

There have been many times in my life, in family, friendships and relationships, where I just didn't feel like I belonged. Or, maybe I did, but I wasn't first choice, I was convenient. I was a placeholder.

Oh Chloe... I feel you. In my case not among family - but definitely among other people. Not even being placeholder, but just being tolerated in many cases. And that feeling is hard to brush off.

So, when I learned people wear collars in certain D/s relationships, I was intrigued. Sure, it was hot, but it awoke new feelings in me. I didn't want anything too much, too obvious, too gaudy, so I dismissed the idea other than in fantasy. Then I learned about day collars

For me this became after finding The person. And like you, I want my day collar to be not obvious to people not in the know.

It's one thing to use a visible, obvious leather collar in munches and parties, proudly showing I am spoken for and who I belong to - among like-minded people. But in daily life? Not just do I not want to keep my preferences private, I also prefer the thrill of carrying a secret sign of them.

I also like the idea of something that is worn constantly. Even in the shower... Something like this, perhaps.

Someone wanting to collar me, that was something I was sure would never happen. I wasn't the person, the girl, someone wanted to have, claim, own in that kind of way. But, the dream, the longing, persisted. The need to show that someone wanted me, that I belonged, became stronger and stronger.

For me, collars didn't seem desirable still when meeting him. I saw them as oppressive. I accepted using one in sessions, though. I was uncomfortable with the thought in the beginning, having a collar and cuffs...

It was the practise that showed me otherwise. I soon started to relax while he was putting them on me... It meant the start of me not having to worry about anything. And I don't feel naked then - only when he takes them off before leaving.

That's when the idea of day collar started to grow on me. But it's still ahead, I'm still waiting... Some Dom(me)s collar their sub quickly. However I suspect that for my Dom it may be as significant as getting engaged at least - it might be for life then. At least when it's a locked version. We might do trials with unlocked ones.

It's what I want, what I hope to become a reality some day. And, that doubt that I'll get it, it's just a little smaller than it once was.

I hope you find that person one day

This is EXACTLY what the Dom/sub dynamic is supposed to be, for me. I can physically dominate almost any woman that would consent to it - I'm not a small guy. But to have a sub who is so purely vulnerable, secure, loved, and devoted is precisely what I, as her Dom, aim to provide for her. In these moments, she can ask, "Sir, would you hold me?" Or, I can ask, "Do you need to forget for a while, my pet?" To have the sense before either one speaks and only say enough to confirm the need... that's everything.

I think that's what most subs desire, too. Especially we who are littles as well. When I first browsed the little threads here, they had so many gifs and memes conveying this.

It is no small feat for the Dom or Daddy to sense that, though. It's an enormous thing to ask. I wonder if all can.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

The pain is too much sometimes though.

It can be. And I get that. I can't tell you how to feel your feelings. What I can do is say, I'm so sorry that you've had to feel such an intense pain. I'm so sorry that you've lost someone so important. I'm here, I can give you a hug, a shoulder or lend an ear. I may not be able to do more than that, but I'm here to give you a safe space where you can feel without judgement or reservations.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Thanks. I had therapy, and it didn't even touch it. I just have to love with it.

Live with it. Sorry.

We all have to live with our pain. That doesn't mean you can't find a friend or a loved one to talk to. But, I'm not going to tell you how to live or feel. Just remind you that you have people who love and care for you

 

[Strixaluco]

The pain is too much sometimes though.

Grief is love that's left homeless.

And that's still better than that love being killed harshly...

 

[Chloe_Harper]

@Strixaluco thank you so, so much for finding my thread and sharing your thoughts, insights and vulnerabilities. I plan on responding to specific pieces, but first I must sleep! Thank you again, I love that you're here

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm just going to log off. You all deserve a better day than it would be with me being around in my current state. Most days are okay, but sometimes it just hits me harder than others.

Most importantly, you deserve enough rest. It's worse for you when you are too tired.

And me... I don't know about deserving, but i need to get up and get productive...

 

[Strixaluco]

@Strixaluco thank you so, so much for finding my thread and sharing your thoughts, insights and vulnerabilities. I plan on responding to specific pieces, but first I must sleep! Thank you again, I love that you're here

Sweet dreams

I'll probably respond tomorrow, I'll have company here when you get up.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Just found your place, Chloe! And there's so much to comment on...

Oh welcome in!!!

Not just the mind. I found someone who's able to reboot my whole damn autonomous nerve system - and it's total bliss! Exactly what I need. I've noticed that if for some reason i go without reboot one week, my mental health suffers. I'm dependent.

that's so interesting to me. Y'all meet in person for these reboots? I'm finding that while independence can give you a great deal many strengths, being able to be dependent on someone else gives you other strengths whilst also providing you a safe place to fall.

Oh Chloe... I feel you. In my case not among family - but definitely among other people. Not even being placeholder, but just being tolerated in many cases. And that feeling is hard to brush off.

The feeling of simply being tolerated it definitely one that stings but, we shouldn't brush off those feelings. We should feel them and then go to the people who make us feel welcomed and seen and wanted.

That's a pretty design I've been looking at some different ones since I used the ones in that post. I still like that style, but not for every every day. And there have been some simple gold, delicate designs that are just

That's when the idea of day collar started to grow on me. But it's still ahead, I'm still waiting... Some Dom(me)s collar their sub quickly. However I suspect that for my Dom it may be as significant as getting engaged at least - it might be for life then. At least when it's a locked version. We might do trials with unlocked ones

That's beautiful thank you for sharing how it has slowly been introduced into your relationship and the ideas of how yall see it growing

I hope you find that person one day

I think that's what most subs desire, too. Especially we who are littles as well. When I first browsed the little threads here, they had so many gifs and memes conveying this.

It is no small feat for the Dom or Daddy to sense that, though. It's an enormous thing to ask. I wonder if all can.

So true! I loved what @MischiefMakerAlways had to say in this because it resonated with all three of my different types of subby sides.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Ok, I wanna do something just a little different with this post. I feel like I'm just blathering on and on and on some people feel like they wouldn't be adding anything insightful or new to the conversation with previous posts. So, this one...



I wanna know how this image speaks to you. What do you see? What feelings arise? What fantasy plays out? Any of these questions or something else on your mind with this image is welcome

 

[BrendaBear]

Ok, I wanna do something just a little different with this post. I feel like I'm just blathering on and on and on some people feel like they wouldn't be adding anything insightful or new to the conversation with previous posts. So, this one...

I love hearing your point of view, always. I love seeing the ways we are similar, and the things about you that are so different, that I want to learn more about.

I wanna know how this image speaks to you. What do you see? What feelings arise? What fantasy plays out? Any of these questions or something else on your mind with this image is welcome

This is a beautiful photo... I can't relate very well though because I'm really tall for a woman. I have met a few women that were taller, and I was in total awe of how they owned it. I always feel awkward about towering over people. I just wanted to be part of the group, not the lookout in the tower.

What does that have to do with the photo? I don't connect personally because nobody can look down on me like that. Maybe if I was on the floor...

Beyond that, she is beautiful. She is ready, and looks like she is almost desperate for his attention... very sexy. I can't really make out how he's holder her, but it looks obvious to me she isn't just liking or enjoying it... she is being satisfied by it... he is fulfilling a need she has this way, which is making her just melt and look up at him... really a beautiful pic.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I love hearing your point of view, always. I love seeing the ways we are similar, and the things about you that are so different, that I want to learn more about.

I. Love. You. *boop*

This is a beautiful photo... I can't relate very well though because I'm really tall for a woman. I have met a few women that were taller, and I was in total awe of how they owned it. I always feel awkward about towering over people. I just wanted to be part of the group, not the lookout in the tower.

Girl, yes. I get this. I'm the tallest of my sisters and friends. I always towered over the boys right when I realized I liked boys. My first kiss, I had to lean down. I don't discount men because there's a height difference where I'm the taller one, but there is that girl inside me that wants to be small for him.

What does that have to do with the photo? I don't connect personally because nobody can look down on me like that. Maybe if I was on the floor...

However, this I see myself at the lowest kneeling on a low bed, where he can stand at the edge and look over me, cast his glance down to mine. It's possible, just gotta have the right set up for us tallies

Beyond that, she is beautiful. She is ready, and looks like she is almost desperate for his attention... very sexy. I can't really make out how he's holder her, but it looks obvious to me she isn't just liking or enjoying it... she is being satisfied by it... he is fulfilling a need she has this way, which is making her just melt and look up at him... really a beautiful pic.

Yes! I put a picture that purposefully was harder to see detail. Let the silhouettes evoke the emotion and imagination. And, I love, love, love where yours went you have such a beautiful way of looking at submission.

Thank you for sharing your insights, your thoughts and vulnerabilities, and playing along with my prompt

 

[barefootgirl69]

I can never catch up in here! I left off with your question about...I'm going to have to go back and look later.

I loved the day collars, and I don't mean to interrupt what you're talking about now, but sometimes collars can be a bracelet, too.

I'll be back this evening!

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I can never catch up in here! I left off with your question about...I'm going to have to go back and look later.

I loved the day collars, and I don't mean to interrupt what you're talking about now, but sometimes collars can be a bracelet, too.

I'll be back this evening!

Girl, this isn't Brat House speak on whatever speaks to you when you're catching up. I'm actually really excited to hear your thoughts, feelings, insights on any of the things posted

 

[BrendaBear]

Girl, this isn't Brat House speak on whatever speaks to you when you're catching up. I'm actually really excited to hear your thoughts, feelings, insights on any of the things posted

Me too... I love hearing from @barefootgirl69 !

 

[barefootgirl69]

Let's talk collars

There's a lot to be said about what a collar means in a relationship. There's all kinds of different collars ranging in meaning and use. The colors can mean different things too. For me though, it has always meant one thing: belonging.
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I love collars for this very reason. Many people use the term "being owned" and it works well, but  belonging fits much better.
I not only belong to him, but with him. He wants me. I'm needed. We are together. We belong together. It's a wonderful symbol, as someone mentioned, like a wedding ring.

Many liken being collared to a wedding. It's not gone into lightly. Sometimes the collars are progressive, but each one is significant.

As someone who still loves chokers, any kind of collar would thrill me...but, that little chain on the ankle with a lock in my AV is something that speaks to me. I kind of want that. It can be dainty, it can either fit in with my other ankle bracelets or be on the opposite ankle. But, that is what my heart longs for, along with a collar. I'm greedy!

 

[barefootgirl69]

Let's talk about hand placements
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Oh, yes! The throat grab!
At first, I wasn't sure about it, it was all new! A tactile lover. Mmm mmm mmmm.

I asked him WHY he did that. To check my pulse to ... I'll just leave it there. But, knowing that it wasn't just a power move made it all the more interesting.

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And, as someone who has an oral fixation, tracing my lips is a tease. Slipping his thumb in my mouth is giving himself to me as much as it is him saying "you're mine".

 

[Michael682]

Ok, I wanna do something just a little different with this post. I feel like I'm just blathering on and on and on some people feel like they wouldn't be adding anything insightful or new to the conversation with previous posts. So, this one...

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I wanna know how this image speaks to you. What do you see? What feelings arise? What fantasy plays out? Any of these questions or something else on your mind with this image is welcome

Top of mind rambling... coworkers meeting for the first time at a conference or something. They've been flirting and playing by text for a long time but 3,000 miles separation is a thing. Until the conference showed up. Maybe they started out feeling a bit awkward... would she be into something? Would he? Is this an HR minefield. But a couple drinks to knock the edge off and now its time to see if the text play is just play or if there is something to it.

 

[Strixaluco]

I love collars for this very reason. Many people use the term "being owned" and it works well, but  belonging fits much better.
I not only belong to him, but with him. He wants me. I'm needed. We are together. We belong together. It's a wonderful symbol, as someone mentioned, like a wedding ring.

Yes, belonging is good.

For me, these days, when I say he owns me, it's not like a master owns a slave (as some couples have it), but because I've given myself to him. I'm indeed his pet in the best possible meaning - he has tamed me. (Referring to taming like the fox spoke about it in Le Petit Prince...)

 

[Strixaluco]

I wanna know how this image speaks to you. What do you see? What feelings arise?

She seems playful somehow. Expecting and maybe even demanding attention, in a positive way - she seems sure and safe about him.

 

[Strixaluco]

Oh welcome in!!!

that's so interesting to me. Y'all meet in person for these reboots? I'm finding that while independence can give you a great deal many strengths, being able to be dependent on someone else gives you other strengths whilst also providing you a safe place to fall.

Yes, we are very much offline lovers. We met right after I moved into this city, and we have spent Christmases with our respective families too. I am, in fact, the first woman he has ever introduced to his parents.

For several reasons, proper relaxation is damn difficult for me. Behind dependent on help to do so is kind of terrifying, but also I'm so utterly grateful, as I've been trying to do it without help for years and years.

The feeling of simply being tolerated it definitely one that stings but, we shouldn't brush off those feelings. We should feel them and then go to the people who make us feel welcomed and seen and wanted.

Exactly. Though it can still make you assume you're not wanted even when you actually are, unless the positive reaction is strong.

That's a pretty design I've been looking at some different ones since I used the ones in that post. I still like that style, but not for every every day. And there have been some simple gold, delicate designs that are just

I am very much hesitant in choosing, so I have just collected pretty ones in one list in Etsy...

In practise it would probably have to be a more dainty one that I can use even with other jewelry, because I'd likely have just one for every day.

Hmmm.... Just getting an idea. I think I have one dainty gold necklace, maybe I should start to use it daily to make myself used to wearing something constantly. I've never worn one at night - the only daily thing I've ever had have been engagement rings.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I love collars for this very reason. Many people use the term "being owned" and it works well, but  belonging fits much better.
I not only belong to him, but with him. He wants me. I'm needed. We are together. We belong together. It's a wonderful symbol, as someone mentioned, like a wedding ring.

I love this. I love that other people feel the same about my word choice. The way you expounded upon that is just beautiful

Many liken being collared to a wedding. It's not gone into lightly. Sometimes the collars are progressive, but each one is significant.

I think, for some, a collar could be like that of a wedding. For me, it's definitely a commitment, from both parties. Idk that it's the same because I see it as it's own beautiful form of commitment. But, again, that's my view on it, and it's not to dampen the views of other people's view and what it means for their relationship. Either way, it's profound.

As someone who still loves chokers, any kind of collar would thrill me...but, that little chain on the ankle with a lock in my AV is something that speaks to me. I kind of want that. It can be dainty, it can either fit in with my other ankle bracelets or be on the opposite ankle. But, that is what my heart longs for, along with a collar. I'm greedy!

Omg!!!! I love that for you an anklet for the barefoot girl!!! That's so perfect! Be greedy girl!

Oh, yes! The throat grab!
At first, I wasn't sure about it, it was all new! A tactile lover. Mmm mmm mmmm.

I asked him WHY he did that. To check my pulse to ... I'll just leave it there. But, knowing that it wasn't just a power move made it all the more interesting.

it's so intimate that move. Just as intimate as it is domineering, which is why it's one of my favorites.

And, as someone who has an oral fixation, tracing my lips is a tease. Slipping his thumb in my mouth is giving himself to me as much as it is him saying "you're mine".

Yes!!!!!!!! Just yes.

Thank you for sharing your beautiful insights and feelings on these topics! I loved reading them and getting to know you a little better through them

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Top of mind rambling... coworkers meeting for the first time at a conference or something. They've been flirting and playing by text for a long time but 3,000 miles separation is a thing. Until the conference showed up. Maybe they started out feeling a bit awkward... would she be into something? Would he? Is this an HR minefield. But a couple drinks to knock the edge off and now its time to see if the text play is just play or if there is something to it.

Oooh, that's a great fantasy I love that that's where your mind went with this photo! Thank you for sharing this with us and playing along with my game

 

[Chloe_Harper]

She seems playful somehow. Expecting and maybe even demanding attention, in a positive way - she seems sure and safe about him.

I love that!! Yes! So relatable, the demanding of attention in a positive way. I love that that's how you saw this

I am very much hesitant in choosing, so I have just collected pretty ones in one list in Etsy...

In practise it would probably have to be a more dainty one that I can use even with other jewelry, because I'd likely have just one for every day.

Hmmm.... Just getting an idea. I think I have one dainty gold necklace, maybe I should start to use it daily to make myself used to wearing something constantly. I've never worn one at night - the only daily thing I've ever had have been engagement rings.

I've never had something daily, so I know that that would be a transition. Wearing something to lead up to that is not a bad idea actually

What I've been looking at since I posted that original prompt has altered. I realized I wanted something that was more fashionably diverse, that will go with any outfit, for a first day collar.

Gold is my preferred metal, and dainty is for sure a contending factor in looks and feel. Making a list on Etsy sounds like a fabulous way to see what draws your attention, the overlap in styles, and what speaks to both you and your Dom.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Ok, I wanna do something just a little different with this post. I feel like I'm just blathering on and on and on some people feel like they wouldn't be adding anything insightful or new to the conversation with previous posts. So, this one...

View attachment 2493784

I wanna know how this image speaks to you. What do you see? What feelings arise? What fantasy plays out? Any of these questions or something else on your mind with this image is welcome

So, now that a couple of you have played along, I will play too

When I first saw this image, I saw anticipation

He is leaning into her, ready to claim her mouth with his. Her head is fully tilted up, needing to feel his lips against her. They aren't quite at that point yet in the photo, but that body language of just their heads speaks volumes to me.

I see her submission, and his acknowledgment. She's on her knees, but in a more relaxed position, allowing her being to move to him, be his. He stands above her, keeping just enough distance to maintain a semblance of control. His leaning in, showing he needs her just as much.