Any other men here with a deep desire to be dominated by a woman?

[MissMayhem69]

Speaking from the point of view of a submissive man who has never been completely dominated. We men probably don’t fully know what we want. I know I want to be taken over the knee and spanked, but beyond that I want a woman to just take control and make me cum on her terms.

That's fair I suppose.

I'm curious if it's that you want to relax into submission or cum for her pleasure? Both are valid.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I dont know if I've posted this before (so forgive me if I'm repeating myself here) but there are different levels of domination: There is 24/7 slavery (where you are a Slave, as in in the literal, classical non-sexual definition) and there are strong female led relationships where the male partner still has his own interests, friends, hobbies, work etc outside of the bedroom but she still makes most of the decisions, and there is strictly D/S BDSM relationships where couples play out their respective kinks in the bedroom but otherwise lead relatively vanilla lives the rest of the time.

It can be hard for a lot of newbies to know what to expect; and here is where a certain amount of communication before jumping into things can help: What do each of you expect from the relationship beyond just mutual kinks? Often times it's more than just about being dominated, spanked/tied up, etc. in the bedroom, and these non-sex limits and boundaries need to be discussed, too.

 

[pussyhammer2021]

There are lots of threads here about dominant men with submissive women. This thread is asking about men wanting to be dominated by women.

Karen,

Thank you for feeling the need to clarify what this thread is about. I know what this thread is about, but that does not mean my response has to conform to it. I am glad u felt it to be your duty to show me what u felt like was an error on my part. Unfortunately, as with all Karen's...you are wrong.

 

[KimGordon67]

Karen,

Thank you for feeling the need to clarify what this thread is about. I know what this thread is about, but that does not mean my response has to conform to it. I am glad u felt it to be your duty to show me what u felt like was an error on my part. Unfortunately, as with all Karen's...you are wrong.

TPH is a mod, so steering people in the right direction kind of is her duty.

Suggesting that being dominated by a woman is 'emasculating' in a thread that is predominantly and clearly for men who want to be dominated by women suggests that you really are making the wrong comment in the wrong place.

 

[Bramblethorn]

TPH is a mod, so steering people in the right direction kind of is her duty.

Suggesting that being dominated by a woman is 'emasculating' in a thread that is predominantly and clearly for men who want to be dominated by women suggests that you really are making the wrong comment in the wrong place.

Also... it's kind of Karen-ish.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Karen,

Thank you for feeling the need to clarify what this thread is about. I know what this thread is about, but that does not mean my response has to conform to it. I am glad u felt it to be your duty to show me what u felt like was an error on my part. Unfortunately, as with all Karen's...you are wrong.

Bahahahahahahahahaha!! This is great!

BTW, as mentioned, it is actually exactly my responsibility to comment as I did. I’m contemplating removing both of your posts, too. They don’t belong in this thread. I err on the side of not removing posts that are critical of me since I’m the mod for this forum. Deleting such posts seems overbearing, but in this case you are really not contributing to the thread in any meaningful way. Kink shaming is not welcome in this forum and you should learn that. You should also learn that apostrophes don’t make plurals (this is Literotica where grammar and the size of your polysyllable matters).

 

[pantysoaker702]

man seeking a mistress

Hi, just about my whole adult life i have been curious about BDSM. For the last few months i've been obsessed with being put in chastity and have no more control of my cock. i'm scared now because i tried locking my little dick away and the maximum i could go was only six hours before the pain was to much for me.My little pecker twitches and tries to burst its way out of the chastity from the first minute to the sixth hour my cock strained my nuts like they were clamped in a vice. I know if did not have the key i would have called 911 to have the lock cut off. When my cock is free its relaxed but as soon as the chastity went on my dick was activated into getting hard and went crazy. I have been married almost 20yrs between both wives.I was pussy whipped .Being submissive I would let them do anything they wanted except for taking control .Control is what neither of us wanted i was to nice and to clingy that is why she left me for another man fter 11 years. My second wife was dominant but also very verbally abusive her drinking was to much to handle . I left her 8 yrs ago.I have not chased anymore women since then.Now im hooked on porno and need a woman to take control of my orgasms Now i have been looking for a mistress to lock me up and punish me for stroking while controlling my love for porno so i joined alt .com and got robbed by the first two mistresses looking for slaves. i even knew what was happening but my little dick took the wheel.So dummy me trusted two complete strangers to purchase the training supplies for our session i believed was going to happen.T y wanted 500 more for there contract.I lost 1500 dollars trusting them.ll i found out the hard way that they were scammers. Now i think i found a good one but i'm still not sure because she wont verify who and were she is.she is telling me that this lifestyle is built on trust , i'm broke now by trusting these mistresses and now I won't or really cant give anyone i don't know any money for toys or contracts or anything for a commitment to be colllard and trained as there slave. Even if i meet one in person first a cant commit because i have nothing to commit with except my obedience and will to please so in other words it sucks to be me. also is the BDSM lifestyle that Shady that you have to trust imposters as well as lagit mistresses.if there is such a thing.as a real mistress. im beginning to think its all a scam for horny old men.so now im lost as to how to find a real mistress for a real long term BDSM relationship Mr want to be trained pantysoaker 702 Ps. hope this is readable now thankyou

 

[ToPleaseHim]

The financial domination thing is something that seems pretty popular, but I also think it’s easy to fall into it almost like a trap. Remember that being submissive does not mean that you have no say. Please don’t do anything you aren’t comfortable with. There was a pretty recent thread asking about financial femdom here.

 

[CoronaExtra43]

Guess I have always been the dominant type. Or at least the one that takes the lead role. I have fantasized about being submissive, to a loving but dominant woman. There to please her every desire. Not to be humiliated, per sa. Just her personal sex toy to bring her ultimate pleasure! To bring out her most intimate desires, pleasures and most importantly orgasms!

 

[77fbird400]

Glad to know there are so many other guys willing to submit to feminie domination. But then it’s kind of like asking who drives a diesel on a diesel forum. Everyone does. I still don’t think femdom is not that common among the general populace.

So a few nights ago, I had my first “femdom” experience if you can even call it that. It was the funniest, most ridiculous sex experience ever.

I finally got my wife to dominate over me - kind of. I’m tired of asking her. I basically forced her to do it. I know she’ll do it, she’s just being lazy. I have my own set of ankle and wrist restraints. I noticed that the ones I purchased for her seem to be sized for women. They fit me, but on the last couple of buckle holes only. I’m quite a bit taller than her, so when she cuffed me to the bedposts, it was quite loose. I have ropes with metal D rings at the end that are permanently tied to each bedpost. I have a system where each can be quickly loosened or tightened depending if I want her tied spreadeagle tightly or loosely (ie: if I’m using thigh restraints on her too). She KNOWS how to use my knot system because it is the same system I use to tie a heavy canvas tarp on our fishing boat. She’s my only fishing buddy, so she helps me with that all the time. But again, she’s LAZY and didn’t want to tie me tighter. Fine, I’m tired of arguing with her.

While loosely tied spread eagle, she started using the flogger on me. She has no idea how to use that thing. She missed a lot, other times she hit my face, whacked my nipple super hard, sometimes I barely felt it, other times it was way too forceful. I had to tell her “look, you can’t just keep flogging me.” I told her she has to reward me every now and then like I do to her. When I’m dominating over her, I don’t just keep beating her. There is a lot of care / after-care / luvin’ etc… Jeez, do I have to spell it out? So she started alternating between blowing me and flogging. As ridiculous as this was, it was actually quite an amazing experience to be tied down, and alternating between being blown and flogged. I really enjoyed it!

That went on for a while, I told her to stop, don’t make me blow my load so I can fuck her. That’s what I did missionary style while still wearing my cuffs, that was pretty cool. Now all on her own, without my asking her, she started spanking me by hand. But she can only reach my lower back with her hands, it was super annoying. So I gave her the flogger. Again, she is completely useless at using the flogger. Sometimes I didn’t feel it, other times she wacked me so hard on my ballsack that I actually teared up, holy shit that hurts! Rarely, it was just pefect on my ass. This went on for a while and the feeling of pleasure and pain was really mesmerizing. The best part is that she seems to be enjoying it too. She was giggling and laughing while whipping my ass I was fucking her missionary pos. My wife is this petite little cute thing with a mommy-bod, quirky, silly … not exactly the big black Domme I had in mind lol but beggers can’t be choosers I guess. I hope I didn’t wake a sleeping giant lol.

This is the funniest part. So later she told me that was winding up for a big smack with the flogger. So she whipped me HARD, but she over extended and ended up missing my nuts and whipping her own pussy - HARD. Remember we were in missionary position. Not expecting it, she pulled out, folder over, grabbed her crotch and let out a huge fart, we both barreled over laughing!

And so concludes our first switch session and my very first experience in femdom - if you want to call it that. It was absolutely ridiculous / funny but she seemed to enjoy dominating me and I hope she does it a lot more so she can get better at it! I already have plans for myself next time she does it... got myself a real choke chain and dog dish. If I get brave enough, I make take out the brown rope, it'll hurt more. I wear a shirt and tie to work each day, I'm not worried about marks.

 

[beckiefalwell]

There are many more than the ones on this thread here on Literotica

Fortunately.

 

[zen83]

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I know what you mean by desire to be dominated by a female. I have been married for 15 years, to the same woman I lost my virginity to. We are from different countries, English is her 2nd languages. The fact that we were culturally different, made the relationship more interest for each other, allowed a lot of room to "try new things".
But yes, it is fun to role play in the bedroom.

 

[Mav Unlimited]

This is a beautiful point and we'll articulated.

My experience with submissive men vs submissive women is that men have a harder time actually ceding control than women. They have already pre determined how a scene or scenario will play out and buck when that is not at all how I've decided it will.

Breaking that down can be fun for me and instructive for them. Sometimes what they thing they need and what they actually need aren't the same thing at all.

Speaking socialtilly you're absolutely right.

But in fetish.... if you want to be topped, be submissive, give up control then you need to be prepared to put on the work. I know it's not easy, but when a woman who has agreed to take the reigns from you, puts in the effort and work, you respect that and do as you're told. (Within the agreed upon boundaries of course)

Topping from the bottom is a deal breaker for me.


As for society, whenever a man sees a sweet girl's face and speaks to me condescendingly, I just imagine thumping his balls and scratching my name in his stomach. It helps.

This are very interesting points.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Guess I have always been the dominant type. Or at least the one that takes the lead role. I have fantasized about being submissive, to a loving but dominant woman. There to please her every desire. Not to be humiliated, per sa. Just her personal sex toy to bring her ultimate pleasure! To bring out her most intimate desires, pleasures and most importantly orgasms!

What a lovely way to look at it. Hopefully there are other men who envision the same

 

[cuck72]

Hi, submissive bi cuckold wannabe here

I'm not a wimp, but have hard-on submissive bi fantasies. A huge desire to have a woman treat me like a sissy bitch, and to be over her knees and getting spankings. I have a huge fantasy about my wife doing this, and telling her friends and some guys at her job. The thought of being humiliated, and embarrassed is a turn on fantasy. But NO WAY! is my wife into this.

 

[policywank]

Hi, just about my whole adult life i have been curious about BDSM. For the last few months i've been obsessed with being put in chastity and have no more control of my cock. i'm scared now because i tried locking my little dick away and the maximum i could go was only six hours before the pain was to much for me.My little pecker twitches and tries to burst its way out of the chastity from the first minute to the sixth hour my cock strained my nuts like they were clamped in a vice. I know if did not have the key i would have called 911 to have the lock cut off. When my cock is free its relaxed but as soon as the chastity went on my dick was activated into getting hard and went crazy. I have been married almost 20yrs between both wives.I was pussy whipped .Being submissive I would let them do anything they wanted except for taking control .Control is what neither of us wanted i was to nice and to clingy that is why she left me for another man fter 11 years. My second wife was dominant but also very verbally abusive her drinking was to much to handle . I left her 8 yrs ago.I have not chased anymore women since then.Now im hooked on porno and need a woman to take control of my orgasms Now i have been looking for a mistress to lock me up and punish me for stroking while controlling my love for porno so i joined alt .com and got robbed by the first two mistresses looking for slaves. i even knew what was happening but my little dick took the wheel.So dummy me trusted two complete strangers to purchase the training supplies for our session i believed was going to happen.T y wanted 500 more for there contract.I lost 1500 dollars trusting them.ll i found out the hard way that they were scammers. Now i think i found a good one but i'm still not sure because she wont verify who and were she is.she is telling me that this lifestyle is built on trust , i'm broke now by trusting these mistresses and now I won't or really cant give anyone i don't know any money for toys or contracts or anything for a commitment to be colllard and trained as there slave. Even if i meet one in person first a cant commit because i have nothing to commit with except my obedience and will to please so in other words it sucks to be me. also is the BDSM lifestyle that Shady that you have to trust imposters as well as lagit mistresses.if there is such a thing.as a real mistress. im beginning to think its all a scam for horny old men.so now im lost as to how to find a real mistress for a real long term BDSM relationship Mr want to be trained pantysoaker 702 Ps. hope this is readable now thankyou

Yes the lifestyle is built on trust, but IMO that trust must be earned - even or perhaps more so by a dominant or leading partner. I think that most good leaders understand this. Getting to the place where you do trust a Dom and can turn yourself over to her is a journey for which arguably the largest objective is to build that trust.

I can't help you in your quest, but I would say don't be so hard on yourself. You deserve to find someone who is a good fit for you. Hopefully your experiences to date are good learning for when you do find that person.

 

[OdysseusMan]

My thoughts...

I'm very interested in her dominating me by making me a cuckold against my objections. Does anyone else find that a titillating turn on?

 

[beckiefalwell]

I'm very interested in her dominating me by making me a cuckold against my objections. Does anyone else find that a titillating turn on?

Judging by how often I get contacted to role play these scenarios I'd say it's a very popular turn on. It's fun to portray the "straying wife or girlfriend" for me also. It's probably the best thing I do.

 

[Iwant2havefun]

Im definitely full Alpha in RL, but love the fantasy role of being put in panties all the time by a strong, understanding woman. I love to serve and please, but in a loving, adoring way...not in a demeaning or humiliating way. In my mind, it’s most certainly a FLR, but it’s a very nurturing, sweet and mutually beneficial relationship.

It’s definitely a way for me to escape from the stress and anxiety of my RL. In RL, im always in charge, always sought out to resolve problems, and always the responsible one. Being with an older, mature, woman in my fantasy world enables me to escape and relinquish control. i don’t have to worry about anything, because i’ll Be taken care of. It’s very reassuring and comforting. She's older, i'm much younger...i'm completely innocent and totally vulnerable, but she never exploits me.

i've role-played both on line and telephonically, and once or twice in RL. It's incredibly stimulating and exhilarating, (and my panties may even be getting a little tight right now merely by writing this... : )

 

[Hardon4u21]

Im definitely full Alpha in RL, but love the fantasy role of being put in panties all the time by a strong, understanding woman. I love to serve and please, but in a loving, adoring way...not in a demeaning or humiliating way. In my mind, it’s most certainly a FLR, but it’s a very nurturing, sweet and mutually beneficial relationship.

It’s definitely a way for me to escape from the stress and anxiety of my RL. In RL, im always in charge, always sought out to resolve problems, and always the responsible one. Being with an older, mature, woman in my fantasy world enables me to escape and relinquish control. i don’t have to worry about anything, because i’ll Be taken care of. It’s very reassuring and comforting. She's older, i'm much younger...i'm completely innocent and totally vulnerable, but she never exploits me.

i've role-played both on line and telephonically, and once or twice in RL. It's incredibly stimulating and exhilarating, (and my panties may even be getting a little tight right now merely by writing this... : )

Yes. This captures it perfectly. I would soo love to give up all control in a loving way. However, I would like to be spanked and fucked with a strap on in a bit of a role reversal where she takes control.

 

[Hardon4u21]

That's fair I suppose.

I'm curious if it's that you want to relax into submission or cum for her pleasure? Both are valid.

I honk it is both. I never thought about the concept of relaxing into submission but that sums it up. I want to relax into submission and cum for her pleasure.

 

[Iwant2havefun]

Yes. This captures it perfectly. I would soo love to give up all control in a loving way. However, I would like to be spanked and fucked with a strap on in a bit of a role reversal where she takes control.

Oh, she can spank me and fuck me too....i'll submit completely....just not too hard! i'm very delicate when i have my panties on.... : )

 

[grandprix1041]

My fantasy

It has always been a fantasy of mine to be dominated by a Dominatrix

 

[LibraStud]

Duplicate post was moved to BDSM Personals where it belongs

 

[Goldenfinger]

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