Daddy Doms and the girls who love them

[nowgirl]

Okay then.

My perspective on being a girl comes from the leather community. Within the leather community, most boys and girls are service-oriented. Our joy is to provide whatever services our PYL's desire of us. And yet there is something more to it, for both boys and girls. There is an impishness, a playfulness, and a loving heart. Being a leathergirl isn't just about serving all the time, it's also about being youthful in the mind - always having a fresh outlook on the world. This is what I have referred to as needing "guidance" - I feel like I am always learning and I am never sure what is the right thing to do, and I need to be steered in the right direction and taught the ways of the world.

For me, being a girl is my identity, not just the role I take. I am always thinking of how best to serve my Daddy, but at the same time I am wide-eyed and excited by so many things. I like to think it keeps PYL's young to have a girl (or boy) around all the time. Being a girl is not about saying "okay, for the next 48 hours I am going to depend on my Daddy for encouragement and support and praise, and then I will go back to being something else." Being a girl is about serving, and loving, with a feminine heart. Always.

I really really liked this description, Etoile. Thank you.

 

[Etoile]

I really really liked this description, Etoile. Thank you.

You are quite welcome. It applies regardless of gender, btw - males with a feminine heart can be girls too!

I want to clarify that my service to Daddy isn't all about pampering. I try to make sure e is happy and comfortable, of course, but I have also done data entry for em, and given advice on website design, and cleaned the bathroom...all of that is service too.

 

[FluteMaster]

Oooooh, I do love my Daddy Dom. Thanks for the bump, Shankie!

Unfortunately, this little girl needs to be tucked in at the moment, so it will have to wait until tomorrow!

And this Daddy dom just adores his cute little girl.

(And yes, everyone, she did sleep well last night )

 

[intothewoods]

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[intothewoods]

insert clueless thought here

 

[callinectes]

You are quite welcome. It applies regardless of gender, btw - males with a feminine heart can be girls too!

I want to clarify that my service to Daddy isn't all about pampering. I try to make sure e is happy and comfortable, of course, but I have also done data entry for em, and given advice on website design, and cleaned the bathroom...all of that is service too.

I couldn't agree more..it isn't just about pampering with us either. I love doing things like picking up his mail and paper while he is out of town. He doesn't like to ask me to to them or even accept my offer..he says he doesn't want to take advantage of my good nature. What I don't think he understands is I want and need to do those kinds of things for him (I would do them for a friend too for that matter). Come to think of it, he is a sadist...maybe it is a part of his master plan. Bastard!

 

[MelancholyBaby]

Okay then.

My perspective on being a girl comes from the leather community. Within the leather community, most boys and girls are service-oriented. Our joy is to provide whatever services our PYL's desire of us. And yet there is something more to it, for both boys and girls. There is an impishness, a playfulness, and a loving heart. Being a leathergirl isn't just about serving all the time, it's also about being youthful in the mind - always having a fresh outlook on the world. This is what I have referred to as needing "guidance" - I feel like I am always learning and I am never sure what is the right thing to do, and I need to be steered in the right direction and taught the ways of the world.

For me, being a girl is my identity, not just the role I take. I am always thinking of how best to serve my Daddy, but at the same time I am wide-eyed and excited by so many things. I like to think it keeps PYL's young to have a girl (or boy) around all the time. Being a girl is not about saying "okay, for the next 48 hours I am going to depend on my Daddy for encouragement and support and praise, and then I will go back to being something else." Being a girl is about serving, and loving, with a feminine heart. Always.

I have admired the eloquence, clarity, and honesty in your posts for some time, but this post in particular I identify with strongly. You have explained it better than I ever could. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

 

[Etoile]

I have admired the eloquence, clarity, and honesty in your posts for some time, but this post in particular I identify with strongly. You have explained it better than I ever could. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I am beyond thrilled that my post had such an effect. I am so glad that I was clear enough, that I made sense. And I am delighted that there are other people on this board who not only "get it" when I describe being a girl, but who even feel the same way.

*glows*

 

[elizabeth22673]

well i am a little girl and have a daddy. not my biological daddy (may he rest in peace)...the way we play is not incest at all...

well, here is the thread that made me want to have this daddy dom/little girl relationship after daddy and i started the master/sub relationship. the poster explains it so beautifully and my heart turns soft and i get a tear whenever i read it.

what do you think?

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=342870

 

[elizabeth22673]

Thanks for the bump Shank, I've been thinking about this lately.

I am seeing a LOT of female subs talking about their Daddies. (Not here so much, but elsewhere on the web.) It's made me think that there are different kinds of Daddy relationships.

The usual accusation in Daddy relationships is that there must be a desire on the sub's part to fuck her REAL father. I think for some couples this is true, and it's about roleplay. Daddy is a game, a fun playspace, where the sub can pretend her dom IS her Daddy.

I think for others, though, it is about the dynamic. It has nothing to do with incest, it is about the dom having father-like traits, not being the father. The sub depends on the dom for guidance, as opposed to "oooh, spank me Daddy!" roleplay.

There is nothing wrong with either roleplaying Daddies or the Daddy dynamic. They are both perfectly valid ways for a couple to interact. But I do think they are different, and that's why some of us have to explain the "no, I do not have a desire for incest" thing over and over.

well put

 

[nowgirl]

well i am a little girl and have a daddy. not my biological daddy (may he rest in peace)...the way we play is not incest at all...

well, here is the thread that made me want to have this daddy dom/little girl relationship after daddy and i started the master/sub relationship. the poster explains it so beautifully and my heart turns soft and i get a tear whenever i read it.

what do you think?

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=342870

elizabeth - that is exactly the thread that got me thinking about daddy's and little girls... i like MT's explanation (which i think i've read before somewhere else). is this where you found your daddy??

 

[Etoile]

That thread's a little long for me to read in its entirety, but I like the sentiments expressed in the first post.

 

[elizabeth22673]

elizabeth - that is exactly the thread that got me thinking about daddy's and little girls... i like MT's explanation (which i think i've read before somewhere else). is this where you found your daddy??

well, my daddy and i started out as dear friends...and then we decided to try the dom/sub...and after reading this article, i wanted it so much and he obliged. he's the best daddy in the whole world. . .(we are not together in that way any longer, sadly....)

but yes, that post always makes me all teary-eyed inside and good when i read it because it's the perfect way to describe our relationship and what i totally and absolutely want/ed......

 

[devilbrat]

This was quite a lot of reading to come to the end of this thread and I am somewhat surprised about all the "yuck's" and in a sense misconceptions about "Daddy Dom".

While I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me. My Dom will never be my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.

I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.

So..what makes a Daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined. A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good. A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful. Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

 

[babiesmiles]

I liked your post devilbrat , very well expressed and full of feelings that sometimes run into my mind .Welcome

 

[devilbrat]

I liked your post devilbrat , very well expressed and full of feelings that sometimes run into my mind .Welcome

thank you

 

[Shankara20]

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

Thank you for your thoughtful and well-stated post. I enjoyed reading it - and I'm impressed that you trudged you way through this whole thread.

Wow.

 

[HottieMama]

Full Essay

That's where devilbrat's post came from. Oh, and i'm not coming down on you for that not being your own words...Seriously, that part that you posted needs repeating as much as possible.

Ever think it's kinda strange when a buried thread gets bumped right when you need it?

 

[Shankara20]

Ever think it's kinda strange when a buried thread gets bumped right when you need it?

just part of the service provided

 

[devilbrat]

Full Essay

That's where devilbrat's post came from. Oh, and i'm not coming down on you for that not being your own words...Seriously, that part that you posted needs repeating as much as possible.

Ever think it's kinda strange when a buried thread gets bumped right when you need it?

It did come from there and I did not mean to imply those are my words....however, those are to the point my feelings

 

[HottieMama]

It did come from there and I did not mean to imply those are my words....however, those are to the point my feelings

Seriously..i didn't mean anything by it...i just wanted to give the full essay...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

This was quite a lot of reading to come to the end of this thread and I am somewhat surprised about all the "yuck's" and in a sense misconceptions about "Daddy Dom".

While I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me. My Dom will never be my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.

I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.

So..what makes a Daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined. A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good. A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful. Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

wasn't this taken from a website about Daddy Doms? it sounds familiar......

 

[lil_slave_rose]

It did come from there and I did not mean to imply those are my words....however, those are to the point my feelings

ah i see now that you gave credit where credit was due, though it did look to me as though you were saying 'this is how i feel about it' thanks for clearing it up

 

[Etoile]

I love that essay devilbrat posted. I think I will share it with some other groups...

 

[elizabeth22673]

I love that essay devilbrat posted. I think I will share it with some other groups...

yes...it's very beautiful