Daddy Doms and the girls who love them

[raven_wish]

*checks behind the sofa cushions*

Nope, not there. Sorry I can't be of more help.

very clever etoile!

if i had only knew there was a sofa in here

 

[momma1968]

I was in a two year relationship with a Daddy Dom and it was never a father daughter type scenario it too was more a loving nic name since he wasnt big on the Master name either
and since we are the same age the father figure part really doesnt fit
however it was a huge turn on for some reason to call him Daddy or Big Daddy

And now, a serious post:

Some may wonder, and some already know, what BBD stands for...it isn't hard to figure out but I'll just go ahead now and say the D is for Daddy. When I first chose this online nom de plume, I was playing around never intending to stick with it. I eventually started going by the initials but those that know me well enough call me "Daddy".

Is it an age-play thing? There was, and on occasion still is, an element of that to it but in most cases these days it's just a nickname. I've come to look at it as an affectionate term, one of respect used by close friends. Those who have been more than just friends have used it as a title for me. I've never been big on being called "Master", for example, though I'm comfortable with "Daddy".

*shrugs* I'll just stop now.

 

[ChromeCollar]

I dont consider my relationship with my Master/Daddy to be age play. I am 8 years his senior, but I adore calling him my Daddy. I also dont see it to be an incest thing. I've written stories about incest, fantasized about it, hell I've even lusted after an uncle but never in my life been attracted to my father. *shudder*

I call Master my Daddy because he is the authority figure in my life. We indulge in 24/7 and to me, he is the everything that symbolizes power. He protects me. He nourishes me. He comforts me and disciplines me. He guides me and lifts me up on wings to fly. It seems natural to call him Daddy, with no age or incestual tendancies involved. There are many terms that involve the use of the word Daddy without actually meaning Father. If people want to bring incest or age into it, I guess they can but to me, Daddy is just an encompassing term for everything that he is to me.

Just a few examples and I'll stop my rambling.

Sugar Daddy- 1 : a well-to-do usually older man who supports or spends lavishly on a mistress, girlfriend, or boyfriend
2 : a generous benefactor of a cause or undertaking

Mack Daddy (snicker)- 1 slang : a conspicuously successful pimp
2 slang : a slick womanizer
3 slang : one that is the best

Big Daddy (probably the closest thing I would compare my relationship too, although he'd murder me if I called him this)- one preeminent especially by reason of power, size, or seniority : one representing paternalistic authority

 

[Shankara20]

I dont consider my relationship with my Master/Daddy to be age play. I am 8 years his senior, but I adore calling him my Daddy. I also dont see it to be an incest thing. I've written stories about incest, fantasized about it, hell I've even lusted after an uncle but never in my life been attracted to my father. *shudder*

I call Master my Daddy because he is the authority figure in my life. We indulge in 24/7 and to me, he is the everything that symbolizes power. He protects me. He nourishes me. He comforts me and disciplines me. He guides me and lifts me up on wings to fly. It seems natural to call him Daddy, with no age or incestual tendancies involved. There are many terms that involve the use of the word Daddy without actually meaning Father. If people want to bring incest or age into it, I guess they can but to me, Daddy is just an encompassing term for everything that he is to me.

Just a few examples and I'll stop my rambling.

Sugar Daddy- 1 : a well-to-do usually older man who supports or spends lavishly on a mistress, girlfriend, or boyfriend
2 : a generous benefactor of a cause or undertaking

Mack Daddy (snicker)- 1 slang : a conspicuously successful pimp
2 slang : a slick womanizer
3 slang : one that is the best

Big Daddy (probably the closest thing I would compare my relationship too, although he'd murder me if I called him this)- one preeminent especially by reason of power, size, or seniority : one representing paternalistic authority

Thanks for your post. It adds to the discussion.

One more "daddy" to add:
Panty Daddy, he was around here for some time and had much fun, but it looks like he is resting for now, and everyone knows that you don't mess with Daddy when he is resting....

hee hee

 

[callinectes]

Thanks for your post. It adds to the discussion.

One more "daddy" to add:
Panty Daddy, he was around here for some time and had much fun, but it looks like he is resting for now, and everyone knows that you don't mess with Daddy when he is resting....

hee hee

*whine* I miss Panty Daddy!

 

[Shankara20]

*whine* I miss Panty Daddy!

hmmmm, I may have just had an idea...

We shall see

 

[callinectes]

hmmmm, I may have just had an idea...

We shall see

sigh. I hate "we shall see". The suspense kills me!

 

[Shankara20]

sigh. I hate "we shall see". The suspense kills me!

too bad....

hee hee

look in my sig, is that better?

 

[callinectes]

too bad....

hee hee

look in my sig, is that better?

YAY! very nice panties. Love the color!

 

[Shankara20]

YAY! very nice panties. Love the color!

thank you - I like my AV and don't want to change it now - and I have just now started to miss posting the panties - the sig might be the solution.

it is all your fault....

thank you

 

[callinectes]

thank you - I like my AV and don't want to change it now - and I have just now started to miss posting the panties - the sig might be the solution.

it is all your fault....

thank you

I happily accept the blame.

 

[Shankara20]

I looks like a bump is on order, so

BUMP

 

[intothewoods]

>>>>>

 

[Auraka6669]

I looks like a bump is on order, so

BUMP

That's one fuck of a bump Shankara

Anyways, I don't often post much of anything... but this thread resonates with me.

I'm 23. So it's got nothing to do with age, I've had women old enough to be *my* mother call me "Daddy". For me it's what is going on in the head. I enjoy a "softer" side to BDSM. But with that being said the control and drive that *title* gives me, just works for me. (If it works for her that is. While I enjoy it, it's not a deal breaker either or the only thing that interests me.)

 

[Etoile]

Thanks for the bump Shank, I've been thinking about this lately.

I am seeing a LOT of female subs talking about their Daddies. (Not here so much, but elsewhere on the web.) It's made me think that there are different kinds of Daddy relationships.

The usual accusation in Daddy relationships is that there must be a desire on the sub's part to fuck her REAL father. I think for some couples this is true, and it's about roleplay. Daddy is a game, a fun playspace, where the sub can pretend her dom IS her Daddy.

I think for others, though, it is about the dynamic. It has nothing to do with incest, it is about the dom having father-like traits, not being the father. The sub depends on the dom for guidance, as opposed to "oooh, spank me Daddy!" roleplay.

There is nothing wrong with either roleplaying Daddies or the Daddy dynamic. They are both perfectly valid ways for a couple to interact. But I do think they are different, and that's why some of us have to explain the "no, I do not have a desire for incest" thing over and over.

 

[Shankara20]

I looks like a bump is on order, so

oh god - who wrote that line???

It looks like a bump is in order, so

better - much better

now - go to your room Shank

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Thanks for the bump Shank, I've been thinking about this lately.

I am seeing a LOT of female subs talking about their Daddies. (Not here so much, but elsewhere on the web.) It's made me think that there are different kinds of Daddy relationships.

The usual accusation in Daddy relationships is that there must be a desire on the sub's part to fuck her REAL father. I think for some couples this is true, and it's about roleplay. Daddy is a game, a fun playspace, where the sub can pretend her dom IS her Daddy.

I think for others, though, it is about the dynamic. It has nothing to do with incest, it is about the dom having father-like traits, not being the father. The sub depends on the dom for guidance, as opposed to "oooh, spank me Daddy!" roleplay.

There is nothing wrong with either roleplaying Daddies or the Daddy dynamic. They are both perfectly valid ways for a couple to interact. But I do think they are different, and that's why some of us have to explain the "no, I do not have a desire for incest" thing over and over.

i don't have a desire for incest either..in NO way. the thought of me being with my real father is disgusting. BUT Master and i do role play the Daddy/princess scenes quite often, and yes, it does deal with age play, but again, i have no desire to be with my real father, which is another reason i would never call Him..'Father' Master is 'Daddy'. confusing maybe, but it's what works for us and it's usually only during a scene that we role play these roles, though once when we went to Denny's i was in princess role, it was fun, but not something i'd want to do all of the time. before Master and i got together He was a Daddy Dom to His other submissive. it's a part of who He is and when i'm in need of that extra soft attention, that's when He is Daddy.

sometimes out of the blue i'll call Him Daddy instead of Master when i do this, He knows i need Daddy attention and He gives it freely. i love this part of our dynamic, but as i said, i wouldn't want to live it 24/7 as pretending to be His lil princess all the time would just get tiring to me lol....but i do love the times we play these roles......

 

[Etoile]

i don't have a desire for incest either..in NO way. the thought of me being with my real father is disgusting. BUT Master and i do role play the Daddy/princess scenes quite often, and yes, it does deal with age play, but again, i have no desire to be with my real father, which is another reason i would never call Him..'Father' Master is 'Daddy'. confusing maybe, but it's what works for us and it's usually only during a scene that we role play these roles, though once when we went to Denny's i was in princess role, it was fun, but not something i'd want to do all of the time. before Master and i got together He was a Daddy Dom to His other submissive. it's a part of who He is and when i'm in need of that extra soft attention, that's when He is Daddy.

sometimes out of the blue i'll call Him Daddy instead of Master when i do this, He knows i need Daddy attention and He gives it freely. i love this part of our dynamic, but as i said, i wouldn't want to live it 24/7 as pretending to be His lil princess all the time would just get tiring to me lol....but i do love the times we play these roles......

Hi rose, do you mind if I ask you a few questions?

When you talk about your scenes, you always use "princess." And here, you have referred to "pretending" to be his princess. So I am wondering - is a princess different from a girl? Is your princess role prissy, bossy, or smug, things that you are not normally? When you pretend to be his princess, is that because that's what brings out the Daddy in him, and it's not really who you are, because you have more depth than that? I guess I am asking because, to me, being a girl is more about learning from Daddy, serving Daddy..."princess" always makes me think of an impetuous little girl who has her Daddy wrapped around her finger.

Also, you refer to ageplay and roleplay. Both of them have the word play. What are you and MP to each other when you are not in Daddy and princess roles? In my relationship, they are not so much roles as who we are...a set of traits that we are all the time, rather than hats we put on. Sometimes my Daddy is sadistic, sometimes e spoils me...but the essence is always Daddy. As a girl, I am sometimes naughty and sometimes a little angel, but I am always a girl. I guess I just don't understand what other roles you have when you are not playing Daddy and princess. (Forgive me if I'm asking you to define roleplay in general here!)

I have more to talk about with regard to being a girl, but this is a thread about Daddies so I will end there.

 

[Shankara20]

I have more to talk about with regard to being a girl, but this is a thread about Daddies so I will end there.

Well, for one, this Daddy would like to hear more from you about being a girl.

Please, if you will.

Shank

 

[Etoile]

Well, for one, this Daddy would like to hear more from you about being a girl.

Please, if you will.

Shank

Okay then.

My perspective on being a girl comes from the leather community. Within the leather community, most boys and girls are service-oriented. Our joy is to provide whatever services our PYL's desire of us. And yet there is something more to it, for both boys and girls. There is an impishness, a playfulness, and a loving heart. Being a leathergirl isn't just about serving all the time, it's also about being youthful in the mind - always having a fresh outlook on the world. This is what I have referred to as needing "guidance" - I feel like I am always learning and I am never sure what is the right thing to do, and I need to be steered in the right direction and taught the ways of the world.

For me, being a girl is my identity, not just the role I take. I am always thinking of how best to serve my Daddy, but at the same time I am wide-eyed and excited by so many things. I like to think it keeps PYL's young to have a girl (or boy) around all the time. Being a girl is not about saying "okay, for the next 48 hours I am going to depend on my Daddy for encouragement and support and praise, and then I will go back to being something else." Being a girl is about serving, and loving, with a feminine heart. Always.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hi rose, do you mind if I ask you a few questions?

When you talk about your scenes, you always use "princess." And here, you have referred to "pretending" to be his princess. So I am wondering - is a princess different from a girl? Is your princess role prissy, bossy, or smug, things that you are not normally? When you pretend to be his princess, is that because that's what brings out the Daddy in him, and it's not really who you are, because you have more depth than that? I guess I am asking because, to me, being a girl is more about learning from Daddy, serving Daddy..."princess" always makes me think of an impetuous little girl who has her Daddy wrapped around her finger.

Also, you refer to ageplay and roleplay. Both of them have the word play. What are you and MP to each other when you are not in Daddy and princess roles? In my relationship, they are not so much roles as who we are...a set of traits that we are all the time, rather than hats we put on. Sometimes my Daddy is sadistic, sometimes e spoils me...but the essence is always Daddy. As a girl, I am sometimes naughty and sometimes a little angel, but I am always a girl. I guess I just don't understand what other roles you have when you are not playing Daddy and princess. (Forgive me if I'm asking you to define roleplay in general here!)

I have more to talk about with regard to being a girl, but this is a thread about Daddies so I will end there.

you are always welcome to ask questions though this one is a hard one to explain really. Master did a good job in Post number 179 (i think it is) Daddy/princess is more just in a scene and not our everyday life...before i confuse you more, i'll see if the post from Master will explain it better than i could, if not you are welcome to ask me and i'll try to explain it better....

as far as what you asked about 'princess' it's exactly as you said, i am His spoiled lil girl who has Daddy wrapped around her finger. we also role play Daddy/babygirl and babygirl is more of the 'girl' role of which you spoke. i guess it's confusing *shrugs* sorry i can't explain v ery well maybe Master will come onto the thread and explain better

 

[callinectes]

Not that anyone asked, but I will put in my two cents anyway..

My Daddy and I identify as such all of the time. We do not age play but there is a nurturing/guiding overtone to the relationship that is always present. Service is not a huge part of what we do, which I find frustrating at times since I enjoy taking care of those I care about. He doesn't care much for it, I think it embarasses him to a certain degree. Don't get me wrong, I am not a pampered princess..that man works me hard. But he won't let me fuss over him!

 

[fuckmedaddynow]

as you can see from my sn, I have a never ending love for daddies. There's nothing better

 

[Auraka6669]

Not that anyone asked, but I will put in my two cents anyway..

My Daddy and I identify as such all of the time. We do not age play but there is a nurturing/guiding overtone to the relationship that is always present. Service is not a huge part of what we do, which I find frustrating at times since I enjoy taking care of those I care about. He doesn't care much for it, I think it embarasses him to a certain degree. Don't get me wrong, I am not a pampered princess..that man works me hard. But he won't let me fuss over him!

You know. I've had the same thing happen. Now I'll admit I do enjoy a fair bit of servitude... but shit. I'm an independent man damn it. If anything, it's a level of understanding me that will determine *how* I allow you to serve me. I'm very big on earning your stripes so to speak. So yeah, until *I* feel I've earned X pampering, I won't allow it.

Is that kind of what's going on...?

 

[Auraka6669]

as you can see from my sn, I have a never ending love for daddies. There's nothing better

Welcome. Care to elaborate to that effect?