Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[dawn_of_night]

I hear both of you, and I think you're saying the same thing only differently.
Think about those days Daddy is sick.... He's not able to give little 100% and even though Daddy is the caregiver, little steps up and knows what to do, or should, cause that's part of Daddy's job...

And if little is sick, then Daddy always knows what to do cause he should be listening to little when she's giving him instructions on how to take care of her best ... She knows her body better than anyone ....

So on those specific days it's 10/90 or even 1/99....

But each day, together, we make a whole.... Its 100% of us, 100% our relationship, Every. Day.

 

[kyblue12]

I like your read on the situation.... a lot

 

[dawn_of_night]

Thanks for the love guys....

 

[dawn_of_night]

I like your read on the situation.... a lot

Thanks. It's the easiest way I could get my point across effectively

 

[kyblue12]

Thanks for the love guys..

Thanks for the insight!!!

 

[dawn_of_night]

Thanks for the insight!!!

You can cross post it if you want to ....
It's not really about consent, but I dunno. It's whatever. Maybe you don't want to

 

[Littlewolf8258]

I hear both of you, and I think you're saying the same thing only differently.

So on those specific days it's 10/90 or even 1/99....

But each day, together, we make a whole.... Its 100% of us, 100% our relationship, Every. Day.

I think you’re exactly right. To me, it’s not about making sure that I offer the same thing every day. It’s about knowing my partner and understanding that their needs will change and evolve. It’s about making sure that I am communicating when my needs change so that together we can get to that 100%

 

[kyblue12]

You can cross post it if you want to ....
It's not really about consent, but I dunno. It's whatever. Maybe you don't want to

Its good insight.... Maybe a discussion down the road on power dynamics....

 

[dawn_of_night]

K, @kyblue12 ,
I think it's more this.....

It’s about making sure that I am communicating when my needs change so that together we can get to that 100%

It's not the dynamic, it's basic relationship expectations and acknowledging that communication is a key factor to success

 

[kyblue12]

K, @kyblue12 ,
I think it's more this.....

It's not the dynamic, it's basic relationship expectations and acknowledging that communication is a key factor to success

True enough

 

[Littlewolf8258]

And I think it’s only fair to admit that I’m not always the best at communicating. I make mistakes and sometimes assumptions even. I think the way that communication is approached is really important to. Without judgement, and with the understanding that neither person is perfect but each is committed to working through any miscommunication that happens

 

[kyblue12]

I think the way that communication is approached is really important to. Without judgement, and with the understanding that neither person is perfect but each is committed to working through any miscommunication that happens

Also very true

 

[Beaverton31]

Just out of curiosity,
When did you realize that the DDlg lifestyle was your ideal space?

Share as much as you feel comfortable

Hi! Im in the pnw lets char

 

[Beaverton31]

Chat

 

[dawn_of_night]

And I think it’s only fair to admit that I’m not always the best at communicating. I make mistakes and sometimes assumptions even. I think the way that communication is approached is really important to. Without judgement, and with the understanding that neither person is perfect but each is committed to working through any miscommunication that happens

Ok... So this is going to sound weird....
But as a "Daddy" aka Domme.....the level of commitment to my little would easily be related to my commitment in any real life relationship....
And I know that isn't how some look at the relationship, communicating that desire? Or that expectation, so to speak, to my partner who may not put me on the same level as their RL partnership, is a huge discrepancy...
I'm expecting something from someone who isn't even in the same relationship as me, apparently....

 

[kyblue12]

Hi! Im in the pnw lets char

@Beaverton31 .... DLG is not a pick up thread..... Its a safe place for the littles to gather and just be themselves.....

 

[barefootgirl69]

Ok... So this is going to sound weird....
But as a "Daddy" aka Domme.....the level of commitment to my little would easily be related to my commitment in any real life relationship....
And I know that isn't how some look at the relationship, communicating that desire? Or that expectation, so to speak, to my partner who may not put me on the same level as their RL partnership, is a huge discrepancy...
I'm expecting something from someone who isn't even in the same relationship as me, apparently....

That's why it's important to take your time getting to know someone, vetting them and seeing whether this is something that you're going to be okay with. Especially at Lit. Only you will know whether or not it's working to come second to their RL partnership. For some, it works and it's okay.

 

[kyblue12]

That's why it's important to take your time getting to know someone, vetting them and seeing whether this is something that you're going to be okay with. Especially at Lit. Only you will know whether or not it's working to come second to their RL partnership. For some, it works and it's okay.

That is a really complicating factor though. And like you point out, a great reason for vetting WITH open honest communication....

 

[barefootgirl69]

That is a really complicating factor though. And like you point out, a great reason for vetting WITH open honest communication....

Sometimes, the hardest part is giving myself permission to say "this isn't working for me." I don't want to hurt anyone. It was ingrained in me for many years to hold my peace or deal with an explosion. I'm a work in progress.

But, if I'm getting to know someone, it may not end up in a relationship, but still be a great friendship. Those friendships are just as important, at times, for advice or getting a heartfelt hug on a bad day.

 

[kyblue12]

But, if I'm getting to know someone, it may not end up in a relationship, but still be a great friendship. Those friendships are just as important, at times, for advice or getting a heartfelt hug on a bad day.

This is literally how I have viewed any contacts I make here at Lit... Friendship is an amazing win.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Waiting and being patient is something I needed to learn. I wanted so much to have someone there for me when I started here - ten years ago!

But, I was just starting my divorce and all that entailed with my children while still homeschooling. I was busy. I really didn't have the time that someone needed from me, and it flustered me more than "settling my soul." He didn't understand. Some would say "fake dom" but I just say we weren't compatible.

So, one of my friends, I call him my mentor, reminded me that it's probably just a good time to learn things and fill my world with friends in this type of dynamic/life style. Not to "look for a daddy" but grow and learn about me and what my needs are and what my wants are...and by having friends, I'd open myself up to more opportunities to maybe meet someone who was able to meet me halfway, while I went the other half.

 

[kyblue12]

Waiting and being patient is something I needed to learn. I wanted so much to have someone there for me when I started here - ten years ago!

But, I was just starting my divorce and all that entailed with my children while still homeschooling. I was busy. I really didn't have the time that someone needed from me, and it flustered me more than "settling my soul." He didn't understand. Some would say "fake dom" but I just say we weren't compatible.

So, one of my friends, I call him my mentor, reminded me that it's probably just a good time to learn things and fill my world with friends in this type of dynamic/life style. Not to "look for a daddy" but grow and learn about me and what my needs are and what my wants are...and by having friends, I'd open myself up to more opportunities to maybe meet someone who was able to meet me halfway, while I went the other half.

God Damn BFG..... I don't know that anyone anywhere could sum it up better. Even knowing better the desire to have a little right now is very strong, but I also know that from lack of experience to the need to do some personal healing the tie isn't right for that. It will be someday I am sure, but for now I read, I research, I try not to annoy the littles here who have been so kind as to let me in to this community, and I impatiently wait....

 

[barefootgirl69]

Your time will come, grasshopper.

It was excellent advice! Healing before moving forward is a good thing. You've been a nice addition here and I hope you remain while you heal, learn, grow, offer advice.

Got any cake?

 

[kyblue12]

Cake? God I wish.....

I feel like I am learning so slowly, but I also look at the exchange @dawn_of_night & @Littlewolf8258 and I had earlier tonight and I can see where I am learning and growing.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Wow! Great discussion while I was away! I’ll just repeat that every relationship is different. Because of my history, I need his leadership and care more than anything. Its what works for us.