Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[Strixaluco]

I completely understand. We chose, early on in our marriage, to not get into heavy debt. We didn't drive the newest car, or the name brand clothes. Lots of Ramen too. We focused on the kids, paying off the mortgage, and now? We're set... It's not fancy living, but it's perfect for us.

Here concentrating on family instead of fancy things is the norm. Not many people I know care to pay for a new car or brand clothes - or even buying half as many clothes as Americans.

 

[LeSabreur]

I completely understand. We chose, early on in our marriage, to not get into heavy debt. We didn't drive the newest car, or the name brand clothes. Lots of Ramen too. We focused on the kids, paying off the mortgage, and now? We're set... It's not fancy living, but it's perfect for us.

And by going against the incessant tide of American excess, you win the game of life!

Rates of depression and anxiety are skyrocketing in the US. Social scientists attribute a great deal of it to the relentless pursuit of the artificial lifestyle that is portrayed as how we all should live. We strive and scrape and try to attain this vaporous cloud of nothingness...the latest big SUV for mom and pickup truck for dad, the newest iPhones and unlimited data plans for everyone, the big-screen TV with all the channels, the gleaming stainless appliances and tile, the Eddie Bauer home with the fake stone facade, the large wardrobe of fancy clothes, the trips to Hawaii and Mexico, the colorful tattoos, kids playing every sport, all the silly toys in the garage....

Those who can actually afford such things find emptiness in their lives, surrounded by STUFF that does nothing to bring them joy. The rest of the poor slobs go into massive debt trying to make the grade, and feel immense stress from two directions: the debt and the inability to keep up with the Joneses.

You and your man are to be applauded!

 

[Strixaluco]

Makes saving money a lot easier when you happen to like nostalgic things For me that seems to have some connection to being a little.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

So. Wolfie gave me a boudoir photo session as a Christmas gift. I showed up just now, and this is the photographer's studio assistant! Adorbs

 

[Littlewolf8258]

So. Wolfie gave me a boudoir photo session as a Christmas gift. I showed up just now, and this is the photographer's studio assistant! Adorbs
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Soo cute! Also, that sounds like a fun gift!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Soo cute! Also, that sounds like a fun gift!

Oh my! It was amazing! I told him that it was more a gift for him, but I was so wrong.
It took hours. There was champagne, hair and makeup, lunch, photo shoot, and images to review. I feel so sexy and pampered! It did wonders for my self esteem.

 

[Littlewolf8258]

Oh my! It was amazing! I told him that it was more a gift for him, but I was so wrong.
It took hours. There was champagne, hair and makeup, lunch, photo shoot, and images to review. I feel so sexy and pampered! It did wonders for my self esteem.

That’s sounds amazing! I’m so glad it was a positive experience for you

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Hey all! I haven't been here much lately, other than to share the doggo pic and my photo session experience. I did poke my nose under the blanket fort wall a few times, but I just haven't had the time or the energy to contribute. It's a busy time of year for a financial bunny. Add to that the stress of implementing new processes with a new team, and I swear I'm shedding. That being said, I want to share something that has really helped me and Wolfie stay connected lately. Wait, you say, don't you two work together now? Well, yes, we do, but we each have our own responsibilities, so it's not like we sit around all day and talk.
We've always tried to do a routine check-in, but now we've rededicated ourselves to it. We have developed just a few discussion questions, and we really like them. These questions might not be for everyone, but they work for us. Plus, they are not necessarily limited to kinky couples. Here they are:

1. What felt good between us this week?
2. What felt hard or disconnected?
3. Is there anything that was left unsaid?
4. How can I support you better next week?
5. What’s one thing we can do to feel closer in the coming days?

Anyway, for your consideration. I think it's more about the process than it is about the specific questions.

Lots of Love,
Bunny

 

[barefootgirl69]

Thanks @FrenchLopBunny for reminding us that we can't just glide through relationships. We need to be involved and "intentional".

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

Oh my! It was amazing! I told him that it was more a gift for him, but I was so wrong.
It took hours. There was champagne, hair and makeup, lunch, photo shoot, and images to review. I feel so sexy and pampered! It did wonders for my self esteem.

I've heard this before, that they can be amazing for a person's self esteem and confidence. Glad to hear that you enjoyed it

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I've heard this before, that they can be amazing for a person's self esteem and confidence. Glad to hear that you enjoyed it

I highly recommend it. The full princess treatment isn’t cheap, but there are several pricing tiers. There’s something for every budget!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Thanks @FrenchLopBunny for reminding us that we can't just glide through relationships. We need to be involved and "intentional".

Communication is so important. And Lord knows that relationships are not static. I’ve read multiple times that kink couples, and swingers in particular, have more relationship satisfaction because we talk more openly and honestly than vanilla couples.

 

[LeSabreur]

We've always tried to do a routine check-in, but now we've rededicated ourselves to it. We have developed just a few discussion questions, and we really like them. These questions might not be for everyone, but they work for us. Plus, they are not necessarily limited to kinky couples. Here they are:

1. What felt good between us this week?
2. What felt hard or disconnected?
3. Is there anything that was left unsaid?
4. How can I support you better next week?
5. What’s one thing we can do to feel closer in the coming days?

This is brilliant. So many of us are just on relationship cruise control. Since your primary relationship is the most important thing in your life, why on earth do people just take them for granted? All complex equipment needs routine inspection and maintenance, and relationships are no different. Further, they're living entities, and all living things need feeding and nurturing.

We're currently going through these discussion cards. Things like this are a great way to do exactly what you've described above with Wolfie, but with even less effort!

https://i5.walmartimages.com/seo/Couple-Reconnect_a7c8cfcf-6864-48eb-aacd-dcd3cd1e2a53.cef1a9095a76d694df5ab2b573b3869b.jpeg?odnHeight=768&odnWidth=768&odnBg=FFFFFF

 

[Strixaluco]

I think the biggest effort is thinking what to answer. Honestly. Most of those questions aren't something I could usually answer right off the bat. I might even need an hour or two to think and write it down before discussing it.

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

Hey all! I haven't been here much lately, other than to share the doggo pic and my photo session experience. I did poke my nose under the blanket fort wall a few times, but I just haven't had the time or the energy to contribute. It's a busy time of year for a financial bunny. Add to that the stress of implementing new processes with a new team, and I swear I'm shedding. That being said, I want to share something that has really helped me and Wolfie stay connected lately. Wait, you say, don't you two work together now? Well, yes, we do, but we each have our own responsibilities, so it's not like we sit around all day and talk.
We've always tried to do a routine check-in, but now we've rededicated ourselves to it. We have developed just a few discussion questions, and we really like them. These questions might not be for everyone, but they work for us. Plus, they are not necessarily limited to kinky couples. Here they are:

1. What felt good between us this week?
2. What felt hard or disconnected?
3. Is there anything that was left unsaid?
4. How can I support you better next week?
5. What’s one thing we can do to feel closer in the coming days?

Anyway, for your consideration. I think it's more about the process than it is about the specific questions.

Lots of Love,
Bunny

This is so perfect. I think, like others have said, it might not be the answer but in how you reflect and how you analyze your situation that proves to be the most beneficial.

My relationship has changed over the last few months. We raised our kids so they're now off doing their own thing. But we forgot to reconnect. We forgot that we needed to reevaluate our lives and our home life.

Quitting my job to be a SAHW has been the most amazing thing I've experienced since becoming a mom and he's fully supported me. I've taken my new role serious and I've had serious fun with it. While it doesn't work for everyone, it works for us and that what'l counts.

I realized that perhaps I was working on those questions without really thinking about it. I asked myself what can I do to support him better. I decided to take him lunch when he was working in the area. I would stop by just to give him a kiss and let him know what to expect for dinner.

And in turn, our relationship has become more solid. He has genuine interest in my hobbies, asks questions, and even attempts to crochet with me (apparently large hands have issues with hooks). Lol.

Date nights are sporadic but so wonderful. My home doesn't feel less empty because the kids are gone. Instead, I feel closer to him because every minute together is more intentional. Makes sense? Does to me! Lol

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

This is brilliant. So many of us are just on relationship cruise control. Since your primary relationship is the most important thing in your life, why on earth do people just take them for granted? All complex equipment needs routine inspection and maintenance, and relationships are no different. Further, they're living entities, and all living things need feeding and nurturing.

We're currently going through these discussion cards. Things like this are a great way to do exactly what you've described above with Wolfie, but with even less effort!

https://i5.walmartimages.com/seo/Couple-Reconnect_a7c8cfcf-6864-48eb-aacd-dcd3cd1e2a53.cef1a9095a76d694df5ab2b573b3869b.jpeg?odnHeight=768&odnWidth=768&odnBg=FFFFFF

I'm going to look into this!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

This is brilliant. So many of us are just on relationship cruise control. Since your primary relationship is the most important thing in your life, why on earth do people just take them for granted? All complex equipment needs routine inspection and maintenance, and relationships are no different. Further, they're living entities, and all living things need feeding and nurturing.

We're currently going through these discussion cards. Things like this are a great way to do exactly what you've described above with Wolfie, but with even less effort!

Wow! I'd be interested in hearing more about your experience with this! 400 questions seem overwhelming to me.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I think the biggest effort is thinking what to answer. Honestly. Most of those questions aren't something I could usually answer right off the bat. I might even need an hour or two to think and write it down before discussing it.

With our check-in, we try to stay "in the moment", focused on the immediate past and the upcoming week or two. I agree that discussing a recent life lesson would take time. That set of cards does seem to have some short-term questions that are not too different from ours. IDK, we just do what works for us.

 

[Strixaluco]

With our check-in, we try to stay "in the moment", focused on the immediate past and the upcoming week or two. I agree that discussing a recent life lesson would take time. That set of cards does seem to have some short-term questions that are not too different from ours. IDK, we just do what works for us.

I process even the last few days, or the next few days, much slower than average people I guess. I can't do it "right now", especially if my partner is there as he keeps my mind in the very second that is happening. I'm very bad at processing things on the go, I always need to make notes or I forget to discuss 80% of the things. (I also absolutely need notes for doctor appointments for the same reason.)

And I don't think it makes a difference whether there are cards used or regular questions. Well except, regular questions actually make it easier to prepare in advance.

 

[CuriousRick]

Dropping off extra cookies for everyone. Real life is a struggle right now. I think for my mental health I need to get away from lit for a while. Take care everyone.

 

[Strixaluco]

Dropping off extra cookies for everyone. Real life is a struggle right now. I think for my mental health I need to get away from lit for a while. Take care everyone.

Offers comforting friendly cuddles

You take care too!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

We had our check-in this morning on the drive to the office. Here are my answers from this morning. Responses don't have to be deep, and since we work together, office activities are fair game. It's really about intentional conversations. We tend to focus on facts from our POV, and feelings, not accusations. We know that each of us may have facts about a situation that the other is not aware of. By avoiding accusations and jumping to conclusions that might put the other in a defensive mode, we sometimes expose communication gaps.

1. What felt good between us this week?
We seem to be on the same page with regards to our business strategy execution (I gave a specific example). That makes me feel like my work is appreciated.

2. What felt hard or disconnected?
As field operations slow down from the holiday peak, my work is ramping up. It felt to me like we were two ships passing in the night last week. Because of that, I feel a bit out of my submission. (I should note that we keep our kinky side strictly out of the office. Most of our employees are aware at some level of our dynamic, but allowing it into the office environment could result in Hostile Workplace complaints (a U.S. labor law term). We have rituals that we use during the day, but they are things that any couple might do.)

3. Is there anything that was left unsaid?
On Wednesday, I wore that new outfit you bought me. You did not comment on how I looked. That left me feeling unappreciated. I know that I should have brought it up that day, and I apologize for that, but as I said, two ships.

4. How can I support you better next week?
From a business perspective, please take the time to stop by and talk to the financial team. They are working really hard, and I think recognition by the big boss would go a long way to keep their morale up. From a personal perspective, I need to be put in my place and reminded that I am yours, and that ignoring you will lead to consequences. Something like a good bondage session one evening would teach me a lesson, if that would please you (wink).

5. What’s one thing we can do to feel closer in the coming days?
Let's make it a point to have lunch together at least twice this week. We don't have to go out; just a light lunch in your office would be fine.

As a side effect, our conversation usually leaves us feeling energized and helps us start the day with fresh purpose.

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

Hit me up. This girl needs a daddy today

 

[Strixaluco]

Hit me up. This girl needs a daddy today

Wrong thread. Reast the first post - this is NOT a pickup thread in any way.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Dropping off extra cookies for everyone. Real life is a struggle right now. I think for my mental health I need to get away from lit for a while. Take care everyone.

Bunny nuzzles Rick’s ankle

You do what you need to, Cookieman