HOW TO TELL...if you're a bi-curious man!
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I was chicken too, believe me I felt like running away. Now I just love to feel a nice hard, hot dick in my mouth and the power I feel when I make a manly guy cum from my skills. It gets them everytime. It might be easier to start with somebody else going down on you.
One of my friends says that he would fantasize about a man sucking his dick when his girlfriend was blowing him. he would picture what the guy looked like, how he sounded, the feel of him...and after some weeks of doing that it was much easier to just go through with it.
One of my friends says that he would fantasize about a man sucking his dick when his girlfriend was blowing him. he would picture what the guy looked like, how he sounded, the feel of him...and after some weeks of doing that it was much easier to just go through with it.
Sounds like good advice to me for the guys reading this thread.......it's easy for me to imagine my guy going down on a man with me, but he's not comfortable with it....mmmm, you've got me thinking!
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Curious
I'm curious why so many men as so willing and eager to be in a threesome with two women and want to watch them play but are unwilling to do the same. We talk about how chicken we are. Thing how your lady feels when you bring it up too!!!
I had a girlfriend once, I told her I wanted to do a M/F/F and she said "Sure, as soon as you suck a dick for me!" Little did she know that I would love to and once I did it was all good.
Let's play fairly out there people!!!
I'm curious why so many men as so willing and eager to be in a threesome with two women and want to watch them play but are unwilling to do the same. We talk about how chicken we are. Thing how your lady feels when you bring it up too!!!
I had a girlfriend once, I told her I wanted to do a M/F/F and she said "Sure, as soon as you suck a dick for me!" Little did she know that I would love to and once I did it was all good.
Let's play fairly out there people!!!
Well said!
.....I had the same happen to me - he used to say he wanted me to do FFM with him and he got real offended and mad when I said "yeah, right after you suck cock for me" When he got so mad I was like WTF???
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very selfish. you have to give in order to get. And hell, he might like it anyway! Think of how great it is to receive and the power of giving another man an orgasm...it is incredible. Screw the whole gay/straight/bi thing....just try everything you can and go back to the things you liked over and over. Nothing bad can come of it other than something you didn't enjoy. It doesn't change you as a person.
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sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander I say.
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Well said!
many years ago, I made a similar arrangement with a lady, I engaged in a mmf only for us to lose touch before a mff could be sorted out....major bummer...and if our paths ever cross again...I aim to collect
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workouts are tricky
I've passed "curious" by as well, a couple times...anyone have any advice on how a guy would make a move on another guy, at the gym??? that's touchy ground. especially if you have no idea if he'd be receptive to it. would love to service a couple guys at my gym...
I've passed "curious" by as well, a couple times...anyone have any advice on how a guy would make a move on another guy, at the gym??? that's touchy ground. especially if you have no idea if he'd be receptive to it. would love to service a couple guys at my gym...
Best friend, wife, and girlfriend... I bet you have a really complicated life! (But I envy you all the same.)
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Well if your cock gets hard every time you see a nice fat cock on someone else,, you may be bi-curious,,,, and if you've already sucked one,,, scratch the curious part! lol I certainly can't say I'm curious anymore!
You know I have sucked shemale cock more than once and loved it. I wondered if this means I am Bi. So after an encounter with a hot Shemale I went to see a drag show at a gay bar. After the show I stuck around to have drinks and maybe meet one of the trannies. I also saw this as a test. Could I be attracted to men? I saw all kinds of men...men kissing, a guy harmlessly tried to pick me up etc. My eyes were fixated on one of the few girls in the lace. She was so hot I couldn't take my eyes off her. I met her at the end of the night
I am not attracted to men at all. Not in the least bit. But a feminine passable shemale that is all gurl with a cock is a sexy thing. What does this make me?
Sounds like a brother cocksucker to me!! ;o)
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I have been sucking & fucking guys now for about 6 years. So I pretty much thought I had crossed over to the GAY side. But the other night this lady picked me up in a bar, she stated rubbing my thigh and gave me a huge hard on. As we sat at the bar she ran her hand over my crotch and said maybe we need to take this over to my house. She had a cool place with a very private pool. We went for a nude swim and then she sat on the side of the pool and I ate her out through maybe five or six orgasms. We dried off and headed to her bed room. After she got me to cum in her mouth we relaxed for a while in the classic spoon position with me rubbing her flat stomach, before long I got hard again and took her doggy style. We continued this off and on most of the night. She was a lot of fun and I decided that I was really very bi. Guess a lot of this has to do with opportunity. Mark
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opportunity can be a big factor in the way you swing for sure
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Maybe it's just me but when I have queer sex with a guy it feels a lot more like masturbation then sex maybe it's because guys have the same tool set. Sex with a guy is like having sex with yourself. (if your a guy, of course.)
So if you're bi-curious and want to try it with a guy. Don't think of it as serious sexual commitment, but just a friendly jack off session with a friend and see where it goes from there.
Sex to me seems to have to involve, by definition, women. Only women bring a sort of civilizing, epicurean factor the whole courting and seduction ritual, which involves all aspects of life - status, fashion, love, the possibility (however remote) of procreation and all the tensions of a million years of separate gender evolution. There is a refined subtly to the seduction of a woman that doesn't occur in homosexuality. This subtly extents into the actual sex. For instance, it's far more of an art to give good cunilingus than fellatio. I once actually made a woman cum in passionate waves by sucking on her earlobe during a very extended foreplay that simply involved making out in the back seat of a car fully dressed! And I came in my jeans without ever even touching myself. Now that's electric sex.
On the contrary the biggest part about meeting a strange guy for sex is determining it's cool to hit up on him. Once that's decided the cocks come out pretty quick. Guys just meet each other jack, suck and fuck. I've had sex with guys who I never even caught their name, then did it again with another guy a few minutes later. Women rarely roll like that...
Moreover, woman are sexy all over. Men really aren't designed by nature to be that sexy, outside of their genitals regions. Women got da legs, da ass, the waist, the breast, the big eyes, sultry lips, the smooth skin, the hair, the scent, the make up... Men got beer bellies and hair. Lots of hair. I'm into men for the dick mostly. A hot woman I want to lick all over.
So if you're bi-curious and want to try it with a guy. Don't think of it as serious sexual commitment, but just a friendly jack off session with a friend and see where it goes from there.
Sex to me seems to have to involve, by definition, women. Only women bring a sort of civilizing, epicurean factor the whole courting and seduction ritual, which involves all aspects of life - status, fashion, love, the possibility (however remote) of procreation and all the tensions of a million years of separate gender evolution. There is a refined subtly to the seduction of a woman that doesn't occur in homosexuality. This subtly extents into the actual sex. For instance, it's far more of an art to give good cunilingus than fellatio. I once actually made a woman cum in passionate waves by sucking on her earlobe during a very extended foreplay that simply involved making out in the back seat of a car fully dressed! And I came in my jeans without ever even touching myself. Now that's electric sex.
On the contrary the biggest part about meeting a strange guy for sex is determining it's cool to hit up on him. Once that's decided the cocks come out pretty quick. Guys just meet each other jack, suck and fuck. I've had sex with guys who I never even caught their name, then did it again with another guy a few minutes later. Women rarely roll like that...
Moreover, woman are sexy all over. Men really aren't designed by nature to be that sexy, outside of their genitals regions. Women got da legs, da ass, the waist, the breast, the big eyes, sultry lips, the smooth skin, the hair, the scent, the make up... Men got beer bellies and hair. Lots of hair. I'm into men for the dick mostly. A hot woman I want to lick all over.
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It is not as complicated as it sounds. I have an open marriage and my wife and I both play around. I have a girlfriend and a boyfriend on the side and she has a few as well. We are one big happy sex loving family.Best friend, wife, and girlfriend... I bet you have a really complicated life! (But I envy you all the same.)
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this is a true statement. If I were a woman I would be a lesbion for sure.
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I am Bi-curious for sure. Been experimenting with anal play for ages. I have an online thing going with a beautiful ladyboy...she lives inter-state (Australia I'm Queensland, she Victoria) and we sometimes chat on the phone and masterbate while chatting. I am hooked on checking out ladyboys, though in my entire life have had my cock sucked once by a guy...and after it I couldn't stay, though I was itching to be and to fuck. I have never sucked cock, though have thought about it...wether I would or not. I guess, the right moment, right guy...or ladyboy...I'd sure try. Saying all that, I love to fuck and suck pussy...so!! Bi I am, just as SomecallmeTim said...it is more about opportunity....well it has been for me. I often go on the Squirt.org website and check out cock on there. I do love to check out good looking cock...especially live.
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I realize this is your own personal perspective, and I applaud your self-awareness and your acceptance of your own desires.
But I have to respectfully disagree. I can be totally attracted to a man. The whole man. I'm not especially attracted to men with excessive body hair, nor do I find men with great big beer-bellies hot. I would submit that neither do all straight women or gay men. But some guys really flip my trigger. And the first time I kissed... I mean really kissed, like made out with in public, grabbing his ass and feeling his tongue... wow, that was hot. I messed around with what I used to call "monkey sex" with men for a while. Just fooling around sex, I mean. But honest-to-goodness, candles-burning, Marvin-Gaye-playing-in-the-background sex with a man was 10 times more satisfying for me. I have my own preferences when it comes to men (and I must admit I'm more selective with men than I am with women), but I do have my own preferences with women as well.
That being said, I didn't have much of a chance to be curious. I had MM sex at a fairly early age, before I knew it was not something society fully accepted.
So I'm not curious. I'm bisexual.
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You definitely could never be a homosexual as you don't seem to have a very good understanding about what sex and/or relationships with men is about. Do you really think that m2m sex is the same as masturbation? If it was, then most gays (or for that matter bi's) wouldn't have much problem giving it up. Why do something that society founds upon if taking care of yourself is just as good? Most people won't figure out when your playing with yourself like they will when you are with someone else.
As to all this superiority talk about hetero sex, it is rather disingenuous. First you have to consider that in most cultures m2m sex (and/or relationships) is frowned upon. Parents aren't going to tell their son: "Can't you date that nice boy down the street whose parents are rich?" Actually in that sense, homosexuality is the great equalizer. You can have a man from the upper class making out with a man from the lower class. Since you are on your own without any social entities (peers, family, religion, government) to look favorably on m2m sex/relationships, anything you do is up to you. While crossing boundaries such as class can happen with heterosexuals, there are a lot of barriers that complicate that -- it especially when you are young and your parents still have a lot of clout. Sure a guy can find a prostitute or a girl from a disadvantage background. However, If you are Joe Blow, don't expect to date the governor's daughter without a lot of difficulties.
Thus to me, most of this courtship/seduction ritual for humans is nothing more than keeping people in their place. As someone who could have left the dark side (homosexuality) and functioned on the light side (heterosexuality) yet was from the unpopular ranks, I find such rituals more about snobbery and insincerity than about finding your perfect partner and some epicurean balance in the world. I suppose it is somewhat comforting that a man can (with enough hard work) pad his wallet to move up in the world so as to attract more women where as for many men seeking gay/bi sex you cannot pad your male genitals since for many men (not all) that is the emphasis.
Granted one is more likely to settle down if one has more responsibilities (children), but some heterosexuals couples cannot have kids or in our modern society choose to not have kids. Childlessness isn't a homosexual phenomena.
As to electrifying sex, if you haven't had that with m2m sex, it could be because you really don't put too much into it. Perhaps you think that men are somehow interchangeable -- that somehow the way to please one is how you please another? Do you think the same about women? Men are so different -- no two cocks, two assholes, two lips, two sets of hands, or whatever are the same. Likewise, no two personalities are the same -- except perhaps identical twins. Thus no two responses to stimuli are identical.
Maybe fellatio should become an art form, then maybe for once I could get off that way. Most guys suck at cock sucking [pun intended]. Some want to give you a hickey. Most cannot keep you to the balls but for a few seconds. They cannot keep their teeth away. They can only do it for about 15 to 20 minutes before they either tire out or need to use their hands to then make you raw with their calluses and acidic saliva. So I'll agree it isn't an art form. Rather it is more like a child's sorry attempt to bob for apples in a sea of waves. Plus the biggest problem with cock suckers is most of them don't make love to the man, just a penis. Then they wonder why some of us eventually are bored with their futile attempts.
I remember a f-buddy I had for years. We grew to know each others' bodies so well. I learned where his hot spots were: the dimples in his ass cheeks, his mammary lines (imagine where cats & dogs have rows of nipples -- humans still have nerve hot spots along those linear axises even if we evolved to where the only nipples are just the two up at the chest), his waist, his crack, the souls of his feet, his fingers and toes -- just to name a few. I also knew that if I laid on the charm (carry him into the bedroom and give him at least a half hour message) that he would become like butter and I could fuck him as long and as often as I wanted. Sometimes I could even get him to orgasm without even touching his cock. I couldn't have learned that from some one-time 15 minute encounter. Also I could not just take what I learned with my encounters with this guy and apply them as is to another male body because each man is unique.
I'm sure that you will continue your distorted view of m2m sex which is fine if it floats your boat, but realize that there are plenty people who will disagree. I would also state that I do NOT find male genitals sexy. Penises to me are the least sexy thing on a man. I would just assume they didn't have them, but unfortunately it cums with the territory. I also don't care too much for male elbows, knees, adam's apples, hair loss, nasal hair, ear hair -- some those things come to some men with aging. On the other hand, a man with a beautiful smile, eyes, teeth, nice square jaw line, 5 o'clock shadow, broad shoulders and back, muscular legs, muscular arms, muscular chests, body hair, warm strong hands, deep voice, and last but not least a beautiful butt. Those make a guy sexy. (Note: I'm not addressing m2m love in this post as that is a whole extra subject. My partner [like me] is aging. Seeing someone through the eyes of love makes someone sexy despite physical imperfections.)
Furthermore for the sex itself, nothing is hotter than experiencing such a hot guy's whole body just surrender to pleasure as you are inside him -- to the point that he even forgets about his own cock. To see that lustful look and release of control, to hear his moans of unexpected satisfaction and his change of breathing rhythms, to feel his ass muscles convulse as you are inside him -- all those things, things that he would normally never show to another man for fear of being perceived as inferior or as no longer a man; those are the things that can make m2m sex satisfying beyond fantasy.
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Very well said None.
Interesting thread to say the least! I've been "BI" for a long time, but haven't celebrated that "art form" in a long while. When I was in jr. high and high school, I used to experiment with two guys in my neighborhood, mostly oral, just one anal encounter, and I was the top, he was the not entirely willing bottom. It worked, but we never did it again, and I've yet to have that satisfied by a another male, but have tried plenty of toys.
I got married about 17 years ago, and have had only one encounter with another man during that time frame, and that was early on (maybe about 12-15 years back) and it was mainly me giving him a blow job (unfortunately me being overly paranoid I made him wear a condom, which made it a not overly pleasant experience, and it never was able to happen again) I haven't pursued anything since....I WOULD love to have "something on the side" but have had a tough time finding anyone willing enough, discreet enough, and safe enough for the occasional "session"... I'm not into the "cruising" scene, and don't see myself wandering into a video booth at the local adult store, or bathroom along the interstate.
I guess I'm just going to have to stick to toys, and hope that maybe something will happen to satisfy this occasional urge!
I got married about 17 years ago, and have had only one encounter with another man during that time frame, and that was early on (maybe about 12-15 years back) and it was mainly me giving him a blow job (unfortunately me being overly paranoid I made him wear a condom, which made it a not overly pleasant experience, and it never was able to happen again) I haven't pursued anything since....I WOULD love to have "something on the side" but have had a tough time finding anyone willing enough, discreet enough, and safe enough for the occasional "session"... I'm not into the "cruising" scene, and don't see myself wandering into a video booth at the local adult store, or bathroom along the interstate.
I guess I'm just going to have to stick to toys, and hope that maybe something will happen to satisfy this occasional urge!
Bi??? or Hedonist but definately frustrated
As I have read the boards over the years I believe I maybe more Hedonist then Bi. I am not sure. To find out, I would love the opportunity to meet and make friends with a guy that would allow me/us to experiment.
Right now, I don't see a man and say wow, I would love to get a kiss or get into his pants. I don't know if that would change with experiences. I do know I would love the opportunity to get a cock hard and manipulate it and maybe even suck on it until it cums in my mouth. My fantasies are faceless and no kissing or hugging. It would be about the cock. What I "think" is once I have some good experiences then these feelings (more romantic ones) will develop.
I am frustrated because I do seem able to "find" a good man to try this with. In the recent past I found a guy on Lit and we seemed to hit it off well. Then we shared where we lived and worked and we lived pretty close to each other.
I said GREAT but he said "What would happen if we saw each other in a store or restaurant with our wives" and has not agreed to meet. I don't understand the logic in this.
So, I am willing but having difficulty finding the right guy I can trust.
As I have read the boards over the years I believe I maybe more Hedonist then Bi. I am not sure. To find out, I would love the opportunity to meet and make friends with a guy that would allow me/us to experiment.
Right now, I don't see a man and say wow, I would love to get a kiss or get into his pants. I don't know if that would change with experiences. I do know I would love the opportunity to get a cock hard and manipulate it and maybe even suck on it until it cums in my mouth. My fantasies are faceless and no kissing or hugging. It would be about the cock. What I "think" is once I have some good experiences then these feelings (more romantic ones) will develop.
I am frustrated because I do seem able to "find" a good man to try this with. In the recent past I found a guy on Lit and we seemed to hit it off well. Then we shared where we lived and worked and we lived pretty close to each other.
I said GREAT but he said "What would happen if we saw each other in a store or restaurant with our wives" and has not agreed to meet. I don't understand the logic in this.
So, I am willing but having difficulty finding the right guy I can trust.
I can relate to what you are saying! I am NOT attracted to men, but love cock?!?! I guess the perfect storm for me would be a she-male, and that's the sort of porn that really get's me excited! I LOVE women, but I also love cock?!? Shame you don't live in PA and I don't live in GA!
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