HOW TO TELL...if you're a bi-curious man!

[boopsy123]

Maybe it's just me but when I have queer sex with a guy it feels a lot more like masturbation then sex maybe it's because guys have the same tool set. Sex with a guy is like having sex with yourself. (if your a guy, of course.)

So if you're bi-curious and want to try it with a guy. Don't think of it as serious sexual commitment, but just a friendly jack off session with a friend and see where it goes from there.

Sex to me seems to have to involve, by definition, women. Only women bring a sort of civilizing, epicurean factor the whole courting and seduction ritual, which involves all aspects of life - status, fashion, love, the possibility (however remote) of procreation and all the tensions of a million years of separate gender evolution. There is a refined subtly to the seduction of a woman that doesn't occur in homosexuality. This subtly extents into the actual sex. For instance, it's far more of an art to give good cunilingus than fellatio. I once actually made a woman cum in passionate waves by sucking on her earlobe during a very extended foreplay that simply involved making out in the back seat of a car fully dressed! And I came in my jeans without ever even touching myself. Now that's electric sex.

On the contrary the biggest part about meeting a strange guy for sex is determining it's cool to hit up on him. Once that's decided the cocks come out pretty quick. Guys just meet each other jack, suck and fuck. I've had sex with guys who I never even caught their name, then did it again with another guy a few minutes later. Women rarely roll like that...

Moreover, woman are sexy all over. Men really aren't designed by nature to be that sexy, outside of their genitals regions. Women got da legs, da ass, the waist, the breast, the big eyes, sultry lips, the smooth skin, the hair, the scent, the make up... Men got beer bellies and hair. Lots of hair. I'm into men for the dick mostly. A hot woman I want to lick all over.

Thanks lustatopia...not only do you have a lot of fun...sounds to me like you also really appreciate the goddess that is woman...you're my kinda guy!

 

[kinky_male_69]

Hi Boopsy

Just wondering if you got my previous messages (to your alias?)

Hope to hear from you v soon - got some more stories for you.

Ciao

KM x

 

[MatthewJudeBrown]

Also, I don't think there's only one way to be bi, one way to express it, one way to rationalize it, or one way to feel it.

I realized there was a name for this in college -- attraction to men (and much fuckedupness) preceded this by a long way.

 

[iamhonest]

i wonder myself

change

 

[gbpac4]

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[uboat1]

"I guess I really just want the opportunity to have a hard cock in my face waiting for me to suck it dry. Is that so bad? "



Totally agree!

 

[plaza_plaz]

I'm definitely bi when it comes to sex. I love pussy and can't get enough of it but every so often I need to experience some cock fun. In my mouth and in my arse. It's like a little itch that needs scratching. Luckily it's a fun one.

 

[gbpac4]

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[SexNMusic]

I wish this wasn't such a taboo subject. I guess it's not as frowned upon if you are a woman and bi but if you are a man and want to experiment...boom...you are labeled gay! It makes me wonder how many people I walk past on a daily basis who has this secret. If I thought my woman would be comfortable knowing this I would come out and say I want the chance to suck a cock but in fear of ruining our amazing relationship it will stay hidden

Oh man, you hit the nail on the head! I totally agree and also wonder how many guys I know that think the same way and don't let on. I'd venture to guess that it would be WAY more than we could imagine.

I had two somewhat un-fulfilling experiences (same person) a few years ago and would LOVE to have another one that is more to my liking. So I know I'm more than curious since I have actually tried it and liked it. I just wish I could find someone close by to share some more experiences with. This would be made even easier if I weren't married.

 

[SexNMusic]

I can relate to what you are saying! I am NOT attracted to men, but love cock?!?! I guess the perfect storm for me would be a she-male, and that's the sort of porn that really get's me excited! I LOVE women, but I also love cock?!? Shame you don't live in PA and I don't live in GA!

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It's a shame you live an hour away...

 

[wonderingdude]

Awesome!

 

[txboyalone]

Awesome!

Need to get to 200 post before you get a signature, unless you are a smart ass and then you can go ahead right now.

 

[SilkyDave]

It's a shame you live an hour away...

its only a friggin' hour, get in the car and meet half way !

 

[SweetAnnie4u]

Amen!!! uhmm two men

You definitely could never be a homosexual as you don't seem to have a very good understanding about what sex and/or relationships with men is about. Do you really think that m2m sex is the same as masturbation? If it was, then most gays (or for that matter bi's) wouldn't have much problem giving it up. Why do something that society founds upon if taking care of yourself is just as good? Most people won't figure out when your playing with yourself like they will when you are with someone else.

As to all this superiority talk about hetero sex, it is rather disingenuous. First you have to consider that in most cultures m2m sex (and/or relationships) is frowned upon. Parents aren't going to tell their son: "Can't you date that nice boy down the street whose parents are rich?" Actually in that sense, homosexuality is the great equalizer. You can have a man from the upper class making out with a man from the lower class. Since you are on your own without any social entities (peers, family, religion, government) to look favorably on m2m sex/relationships, anything you do is up to you. While crossing boundaries such as class can happen with heterosexuals, there are a lot of barriers that complicate that -- it especially when you are young and your parents still have a lot of clout. Sure a guy can find a prostitute or a girl from a disadvantage background. However, If you are Joe Blow, don't expect to date the governor's daughter without a lot of difficulties.

Thus to me, most of this courtship/seduction ritual for humans is nothing more than keeping people in their place. As someone who could have left the dark side (homosexuality) and functioned on the light side (heterosexuality) yet was from the unpopular ranks, I find such rituals more about snobbery and insincerity than about finding your perfect partner and some epicurean balance in the world. I suppose it is somewhat comforting that a man can (with enough hard work) pad his wallet to move up in the world so as to attract more women where as for many men seeking gay/bi sex you cannot pad your male genitals since for many men (not all) that is the emphasis.


Granted one is more likely to settle down if one has more responsibilities (children), but some heterosexuals couples cannot have kids or in our modern society choose to not have kids. Childlessness isn't a homosexual phenomena.

As to electrifying sex, if you haven't had that with m2m sex, it could be because you really don't put too much into it. Perhaps you think that men are somehow interchangeable -- that somehow the way to please one is how you please another? Do you think the same about women? Men are so different -- no two cocks, two assholes, two lips, two sets of hands, or whatever are the same. Likewise, no two personalities are the same -- except perhaps identical twins. Thus no two responses to stimuli are identical.

Maybe fellatio should become an art form, then maybe for once I could get off that way. Most guys suck at cock sucking [pun intended]. Some want to give you a hickey. Most cannot keep you to the balls but for a few seconds. They cannot keep their teeth away. They can only do it for about 15 to 20 minutes before they either tire out or need to use their hands to then make you raw with their calluses and acidic saliva. So I'll agree it isn't an art form. Rather it is more like a child's sorry attempt to bob for apples in a sea of waves. Plus the biggest problem with cock suckers is most of them don't make love to the man, just a penis. Then they wonder why some of us eventually are bored with their futile attempts.

I remember a f-buddy I had for years. We grew to know each others' bodies so well. I learned where his hot spots were: the dimples in his ass cheeks, his mammary lines (imagine where cats & dogs have rows of nipples -- humans still have nerve hot spots along those linear axises even if we evolved to where the only nipples are just the two up at the chest), his waist, his crack, the souls of his feet, his fingers and toes -- just to name a few. I also knew that if I laid on the charm (carry him into the bedroom and give him at least a half hour message) that he would become like butter and I could fuck him as long and as often as I wanted. Sometimes I could even get him to orgasm without even touching his cock. I couldn't have learned that from some one-time 15 minute encounter. Also I could not just take what I learned with my encounters with this guy and apply them as is to another male body because each man is unique.


I'm sure that you will continue your distorted view of m2m sex which is fine if it floats your boat, but realize that there are plenty people who will disagree. I would also state that I do NOT find male genitals sexy. Penises to me are the least sexy thing on a man. I would just assume they didn't have them, but unfortunately it cums with the territory. I also don't care too much for male elbows, knees, adam's apples, hair loss, nasal hair, ear hair -- some those things come to some men with aging. On the other hand, a man with a beautiful smile, eyes, teeth, nice square jaw line, 5 o'clock shadow, broad shoulders and back, muscular legs, muscular arms, muscular chests, body hair, warm strong hands, deep voice, and last but not least a beautiful butt. Those make a guy sexy. (Note: I'm not addressing m2m love in this post as that is a whole extra subject. My partner [like me] is aging. Seeing someone through the eyes of love makes someone sexy despite physical imperfections.)

Furthermore for the sex itself, nothing is hotter than experiencing such a hot guy's whole body just surrender to pleasure as you are inside him -- to the point that he even forgets about his own cock. To see that lustful look and release of control, to hear his moans of unexpected satisfaction and his change of breathing rhythms, to feel his ass muscles convulse as you are inside him -- all those things, things that he would normally never show to another man for fear of being perceived as inferior or as no longer a man; those are the things that can make m2m sex satisfying beyond fantasy.

SO I have had a fantasy of watching two masculine bi men together, having this sex...the complete and total release, the unafraid, completely lost in their lust for each other, sex...men are different when they have sex with each other...different then they are with women...in some ways I think they may be more honest in the sex...somehow...and that's what I would love to watch...and when people ask me why I've had this for 10 yrs, and not fulfilled it, they are thinking of this completely different kinda sex...and I'm not interested in that, at all...but what you are describing is exactly what I'd like to be a fly on the wall for...

Thanks for sharing.

 

[timetotry]

I wish this wasn't such a taboo subject. I guess it's not as frowned upon if you are a woman and bi but if you are a man and want to experiment...boom...you are labeled gay! It makes me wonder how many people I walk past on a daily basis who has this secret. If I thought my woman would be comfortable knowing this I would come out and say I want the chance to suck a cock but in fear of ruining our amazing relationship it will stay hidden

don't believe I have ever heard it said better. I have acted on a bi fantasy and was THRILLED but live in fear that my wife would not understand or want to go along.

 

[Bimusicman]

When I was young and still stupid I married my HS sweetheart, we're now divorced and she's from here on out known only as Satan.. we became swingers in our early 20's after we went to an off campus party.. that quickly turned into a sex party. For years it was all pretty much MFF, and that was fine by me. We'd done MFM, but I could take it or leave it and never went beyond the touching of two men going after the same woman and getting in each others way lol.

Then I met my now partner in 89, when he auditioned for my band. We quickly became best friends, had a couple threesomes, both kept the standard distance from each other. After a few months of that Satan called me on the carpet asking if I was interested in more from him than what was already happening.. after a lot of hemming and hawing I said, uhm.. yeah, I think so. She told me to go for it, she was Bi and I had no problem with it, why should she have a problem with me being Bi-curious. (Ha! little did she know LOL) anyways.. at the time, besides being a musician he was a part time model while going to school.. and beautiful (still is) a couple of weeks after that fateful conversation with the wife I took a shot one night after band practice and everyone else had left and kissed him. I half figured he was going to punch my lights out much to my delight and simultaneous dismay.. he didn't. After retreating to his place for the "um.. what did we just do" discussion.. it turned into probably the most intimate, erotic, amazing night of my/our lives. 20 years later, we're still together, married 3 years ago, and have been raising our children together for years.

Oddly, neither of us are all that attracted to other men, we can certainly appreciate a good looking dude, and have even played around with others from time to time (only together) but I don't have a moments regret for our life or time together. We pretty much have the best of both worlds.. happy with each other, both able to have women on the side.. together or alone.. yep, life is good. heh

Ultimately, if you think you're bi-curious just do something about it. Don't waste your life wondering. You may just be surprised with the outcome. I sure as hell was.

 

[Phydeax69]

It's a shame you live an hour away...

True! You can always move up here! hahaha!!!

 

[artgorden]

, but I don't have desires yet to be fucked up the ass......All input is appreciated

Thats just funny. Just sayin.

 

[bicuriousinnnj]

My User Name Says It All...

I've ventured beyond the curiousity. Getting sucked off by a guy is nice, but when you finally have a cock in your mouth...oh man, now that's a thrill!

If you can get past the anxiety and fear of possibly feeling guilty afterwards, then go for it! You'll probably be glad you did. Jerking myself off to orgasm while sucking on a big juicy cock is one of my most memorable sexual experiences.

If you're curious, or just beginning to dabble in cock, drop me a PM. I'm in North Jersey.

 

[blueblaze8503]

I've recently had an experience with a guy but I wasn't really into it.. I think mostly because he wasn't physically what I find attractive as far as men are concerned. He was going slightly bald and a little overweight. I'm 25 and in pretty good shape and am what most people consider attractive and even sexy. I would like to try it again with a guy in better shape and closer to my age.. and if it worked out would like to try anal as well as oral.. would love to hear any thoughts or helpful advice.. I'm not really into fem guys.. I like bi/straight guys.. any help would be appreciated.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I can definately relate to your experience. My early M2M sex was usually with older guys who seduced or used me. It was always akward, with creepy guys who I never wanted to see again.
However, it got better as time went by. I learned to say no to some guys, yes to others. As I got comfortable with gay sex I tried more things...sucking, receiving anal, kissing, etc. I even got comfortable going to gay bars.
In Sydney, which is a very gay town, I came into my own as a Bi man. I enjoyed men my own age, men a lot like myself. It was great. I felt whole or complete...and the sex was excellent.

Advice? Go for it. Seek out guys your own age, and enjoy them.

 

[Harry sach]

I guess I have what some of you on here are looking for, in that I know a guy who I can call up and go and see pretty much any time, he is always up for it. I have posted about my experiences on here before, but very infrequently, as it has gone on for 4 or 5 years now, I think. I started off being curious, and this guy is openly gay, we ended up talking about it at work one night, and I went back to his and he went down on me for the first time. I was absolutely bricking it, and felt very guilty afterwards, but I guess curiosity kept me going back every so often. I often fantasized about what it would be like to fuck him, and he had asked me to in the past. It happened eventually, the first time wasn't great, but I just seem to get blinded by horny-ness (is that a word?!) and every so often will go back. I resisted his attempts to kiss me in the past, as I too do not feel attracted to men in the slightest, it is just the sexual side that intrigues me, but I did try sucking him off once recently. He asked if he could fuck me on one ocassion, it was pretty painful so I didn't enjoy it, but I seem to be going over it in my head a lot recently, so it may have to be tried again!
I hope all of you guys that are looking for something like this have some luck.

 

[uboat1]

I guess I have what some of you on here are looking for, in that I know a guy who I can call up and go and see pretty much any time, he is always up for it. I have posted about my experiences on here before, but very infrequently, as it has gone on for 4 or 5 years now, I think. I started off being curious, and this guy is openly gay, we ended up talking about it at work one night, and I went back to his and he went down on me for the first time. I was absolutely bricking it, and felt very guilty afterwards, but I guess curiosity kept me going back every so often. I often fantasized about what it would be like to fuck him, and he had asked me to in the past. It happened eventually, the first time wasn't great, but I just seem to get blinded by horny-ness (is that a word?!) and every so often will go back. I resisted his attempts to kiss me in the past, as I too do not feel attracted to men in the slightest, it is just the sexual side that intrigues me, but I did try sucking him off once recently. He asked if he could fuck me on one ocassion, it was pretty painful so I didn't enjoy it, but I seem to be going over it in my head a lot recently, so it may have to be tried again!
I hope all of you guys that are looking for something like this have some luck.

This sounds like an optimal situation. Experiment and try new M2M activities as you become more comfortable or stop if you decide its just not for you.

 

[cjm4264]

hmmmm

the fact that i am constantly fantasizing about getting fucked and sucking a hard cock......is that a clue? can someone tell me how to resolve this?

 

[michaelinteas]

can someone tell me how to resolve this?

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