HOW TO TELL...if you're a bi-curious man!

[Hitchiker69]

I've also met a few guys who say they never come from BJs. Maybe they were being nice and it was just my particular technique that was bad? [/QUOTE]

I've never cum from a blowjob, from a male or female. It seems to me that receiving a blowjob is not as totally involving a sex act as fucking is. I'm not grabbing an ass, I'm not thrusting into someone...I'm usually laying there passively and receiving. It's just not as completely satisfying.
It's not you or your technique. Very few guys (2) have cum in my mouth, after dozens of blow jobs I've given.

 

[StacyCD39]

I think I'm bi, but I really don't know. I like to dress up and stroke off, while fantasizing about men, but I don't want a relationship, just their cock and creamy cum. I don't know if it's just fantasy, or something I'd do if I ever got permission. It kind of makes me feel dirty, but I can't help myself...

 

[stargame]

I think I'm bi, but I really don't know. I like to dress up and stroke off, while fantasizing about men, but I don't want a relationship, just their cock and creamy cum. I don't know if it's just fantasy, or something I'd do if I ever got permission. It kind of makes me feel dirty, but I can't help myself...

LOL....what does that mean?

 

[none2_none2]

I've never cum from a blowjob, from a male or female. It seems to me that receiving a blowjob is not as totally involving a sex act as fucking is. I'm not grabbing an ass, I'm not thrusting into someone...I'm usually laying there passively and receiving. It's just not as completely satisfying. It's not you or your technique. Very few guys (2) have cum in my mouth, after dozens of blow jobs I've given.

I've also met a few guys who say they never come from BJs. Maybe they were being nice and it was just my particular technique that was bad?

I'm the same way. Oral sex can be very pleasant, but not orgasmic. If during my active years if I had gotten a dollar for every time a guy claimed he could get me off orally, I'd have a very nice savings. Anal will always be the best: tighter, no teeth, and most of all orgasmic. Plus if you can get the bottom guy to come too while your inside him, you can actually experience his orgasm too from his orgasmic epicenter -- the muscles surrounding his prostate. Those that know what I'm talking about know how proud you can be if you get him to that state.

Finally, there is a real sense of bonding and trust when a guy gives you his ass. For a man to freely give his ass means that he is giving you a part of him that the majority of society would view as dirty, unmanly. Most men even open to being fucked, don't do it without some level of respect for you to do the right thing. That is why when I fuck, I put my heart into it as I don't want to be a disappointment.

The only disadvantages I can see to anal are that it can be dirty if the bottom isn't clean and that it is less rugged than a vagina or a mouth. Thus one is more likely to run into limits on frequency and duration of doing anal with a guy before other body parts.

 

[lustatopia]

Maybe it's just me but when I have queer sex with a guy it feels a lot more like masturbation then sex maybe it's because guys have the same tool set. Sex with a guy is like having sex with yourself. (if your a guy, of course.)

So if you're bi-curious and want to try it with a guy. Don't think of it as serious sexual commitment, but just a friendly jack off session with a friend and see where it goes from there.

Sex to me seems to have to involve, by definition, women. Only women bring a sort of civilizing, epicurean factor the whole courting and seduction ritual, which involves all aspects of life - status, fashion, love, the possibility (however remote) of procreation and all the tensions of a million years of separate gender evolution. There is a refined subtly to the seduction of a woman that doesn't occur in homosexuality. This subtly extents into the actual sex. For instance, it's far more of an art to give good cunilingus than fellatio. I once actually made a woman cum in passionate waves by sucking on her earlobe during a very extended foreplay that simply involved making out in the back seat of a car fully dressed! And I came in my jeans without ever even touching myself. Now that's electric sex.

On the contrary the biggest part about meeting a strange guy for sex is determining it's cool to hit up on him. Once that's decided the cocks come out pretty quick. Guys just meet each other jack, suck and fuck. I've had sex with guys who I never even caught their name, then did it again with another guy a few minutes later. Women rarely roll like that...

Moreover, woman are sexy all over. Men really aren't designed by nature to be that sexy, outside of their genitals regions. Women got da legs, da ass, the waist, the breast, the big eyes, sultry lips, the smooth skin, the hair, the scent, the make up... Men got beer bellies and hair. Lots of hair. I'm into men for the dick mostly. A hot woman I want to lick all over.

 

[SweetiePiexoxo]

newbie!!

I have never been with a girl but always wanted to!! Never really been able to act on it!! Any helpful tips to get me out in the game!?! Im scared! LoL

 

[uboat1]

I have never been with a girl but always wanted to!! Never really been able to act on it!! Any helpful tips to get me out in the game!?! Im scared! LoL

I/we have the same problem with approaching another guy. This is what I have seen with ladies "trying" Bi activities. Party situation or a bar and playing up the drinking too much "role" and doing what you want and wait for the other lady to say stop. A lady friend says this is what she has done several times to suduce other ladies for there first time. Hope it helps....

This doesnt work so well with men. They dont say stop; they punch you in the nose.

 

[JimL5257]

i know i am bi and married

This is a very interesting thread. My roommate in college was gay and we had fun together. I am married to a wonderful lady but she is missing something I crave. How does a guy go about finding someone in the same situation? I would love to find a guy who is also missing being with a guy.

 

[SomecallmeTim]

that's the ultimate question isn't it Jim

 

[texasFF]

I guess I have known for a while that I am Bi. Had one encounter with a man during a threesome. I really enjoyed it and wanted more. Been 3-4 years since then and the desires are coming on real strong. My wife doesnt mind as she has bi fantasies as well. We are open and she encourages me to try and find a guy. It sounds easy enough but I have stuck to hooking up with women. Hopefully reading more on this site will get me a little more courage when it comes to my bi side.

 

[Curious_Tim]

I have the same difficulty too bad I am to far away in south VA to ddo either of us any good but I still want to enjoy sucking cock and soon too

 

[Tom Bishop]

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Unfortunately I was 54 years old before a young man showed me that contact with a man was as much fun as with a women
I intentionally use the word contacted instead of sex just to try to explain my mind set I have a wife who doesn't Know of my extra games I have a young girl(30) I play with and a young man (31) I service
With my wife I hug and cuddle
Young girl we have hard and satisfying sex
Young man I suck off and like it he fucks me and we play games on my visits I think all these things make my life complete and I don't think they need labels

Hope I said these things right

 

[bidaddy]

Unfortunately I was 54 years old before a young man showed me that contact with a man was as much fun as with a women
I intentionally use the word contacted instead of sex just to try to explain my mind set I have a wife who doesn't Know of my extra games I have a young girl(30) I play with and a young man (31) I service
With my wife I hug and cuddle
Young girl we have hard and satisfying sex
Young man I suck off and like it he fucks me and we play games on my visits I think all these things make my life complete and I don't think they need labels

Hope I said these things right

I know you know your wife but what i did with my wife if i started to write stories and then ask what she liked or didnt like then started stories and let her finish them. As time went on we both decovered that she likes more that one guy and maybe even a girl. i was honest and told her how i like both as well and it has opened up a whole new world in our bedroom. The reson i tell you this is it looks like you have a good thing with doing the guy and the girl on the side but that is when it would bite me in the ass. the wife finds out and everything goes to shit. With this my second wife i have told her that i will be totally honest with her , i love her so much that i would not want to go have fun with other people if she could not be right there to enjoy it with me. if you are happy though then great it sounds good but i think you will find you can have alot more fun if the wife were playing with you too.

 

[hottchic]

OK, I am definately bi curious, no doubt in my mind. Yet I don't think I am bi as such.

Why you may ask?

Reasons for believing I am bi curious:

1. I am definately interested in a woman doing me with a strapon

2. I have watched porn where guys are fucked with a strapon

3. I read erotic literature where guys suck dick or take dick anally and it turns me on

4. A girlfried told me that she wanted to see me suck dick and the idea of that turning her on was a real big turn on for me

Reason for believing I am not bi as such:

I don't find men attractive


However.................

My favorite porn video has a shemale fucking a woman and I find this shemale extreemly attractive even though she has a dick

I should also mention that being transgender one of my fantasies that I possibly may realise at some time in the future is to become a shemale myself

In the latest chapter of my series 'Tits have benefits' I have written a scene where the main character, a shemale, ends up sucking the dick of another shemale. This is in chapter 4 and I have submitted it but it is currently waiting for approval.

In chapter 5 I am dealing with the emotions of the main character when 'her' girlfriend asks her to take it up the ass from another shemale.


So do I believe that being transgender makes me more likely to be bi?

I think the answer is no, but I think that it does make me more open to exploring my sexuality.

 

[priapusone]

how to tell

well, if this is any indication, i am!

http://www.solosuck.com/phpbb/viewforum.php?f=14

 

[notjustcurious]

One Married Guy's Perspective

I thought I'd share my story, FWIW. I'm 50 now, and very happily married. Monogamous relationship. Sex life with Mrs. is good, if a bit vanilla. I've tried to get her involved in some ass play, and it just doesn't interest her. Disappointing, but understandable. Over the years I'd had a few (4) oral experiences with men, and only once since I've been married. They were all furtive; never a relaxed time in a private place. Spent a lot of time reading gay stories here on Literotica, looking at gay porn, cruising the hookup ads on Craigslist. Finally, I decided life is too short. My wife is a good and understanding woman, she ain't gonna dump me if I tell her. So, I told her, and asked her permission to get together with men. She wasn't happy about it, but (like I said) she is a good and understanding woman. She thought about it a bit, and said ok, with conditions (reasonable stuff like safe sex only, no emotional entanglement that would jeopardize the marital relationship, etc.).

It was INCREDIBLY liberating to be out to my wife. I felt free to wander into a "gay" bar, looking for a hookup. Met a great guy; someone I'd be friends with aside from the sexual interest. I've had sex with him, and one other guy, and really, REALLY, liked it. A few observations:

1. Declaring to myself that I was bisexual had a profound impact on my thinking/feeling on the subject. Very liberating and illuminating to call it by its name.

2. That cock in my ass was every bit as good as I'd imagined, but ... remember your first few hetero sexual experiences? Exciting, but awkward? Man sex was like that all over again. I'm just learning how to do these things, and there is a lack of physical skill. (Side thought for youngsters: one of the benefits of a LTR - and by long I mean decades - is that you and your partner can learn how to fuck each other really well). With one of my two new male partners, we tried for him to fuck me, and just couldn't get his dick in my ass. It ain't easy! So, if you're a newly bi guy, don't expect it to go just like your fantasies.

3. There's more to bi life (for men) than anonymous sex. Not knocking that, but if that's not what floats your boat, there are other ships in the sea.

4. I wish I had come to grips with this earlier. I've missed out on a few decades of hot sex with young men.

Hope this is helpful to someone.

 

[in4more]

I have to agree with most of you. I'm married and in a relationship that I would never EVER think about cheating on my spouse. But we both find the prospect of me sucking a cock a turn on.

She wants to see another guy cum in my mouth and also wants to see a guy fuck me. We play with her strapon and she cums while she fucks me thinking about it being another guy. She wants to feed me a cock and watch a guy cum in my mouth and she wants to see a guy suck me and for me to fuck him. She loves to snowball my cum after going down on me and she says she thinks about it being a cock cumming in my mouth when she does.

One of her biggest turn ons would be for me to have a cock fucking my ass while I'm inside her so she could feel me taking it or for me to be fucking her and us both sucking another cock untill it comes in my mouth.

She's even got a fantasy where we both have sex with several guys (her number is always me plus 4) and she's said she'd probally pass out if she could see me suck and fuck several guys at the same time.

The biggest hang up though is being safe. We're working on finding a guy or couple that we can be assured is safe and starting from there. While the multiple guy situation will probally never happen because of safety concerns, us hooking up with a couple (she wants to try things with a girl too) or guy or a gay couple that would be open to a woman participating is definately going to happen when we find the right situation.

Our rules though are we always tell each other about any prospect (even online chatting with the other there if it's someone we potentially want to meet) and that we both be present/participating when/if anything happens.

Honesty is the key to our relationship and we have no reason to hide our fantasies from each other.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

I have to agree with most of you. I'm married and in a relationship that I would never EVER think about cheating on my spouse. But we both find the prospect of me sucking a cock a turn on.

She wants to see another guy cum in my mouth and also wants to see a guy fuck me. We play with her strapon and she cums while she fucks me thinking about it being another guy. She wants to feed me a cock and watch a guy cum in my mouth and she wants to see a guy suck me and for me to fuck him. She loves to snowball my cum after going down on me and she says she thinks about it being a cock cumming in my mouth when she does.

One of her biggest turn ons would be for me to have a cock fucking my ass while I'm inside her so she could feel me taking it or for me to be fucking her and us both sucking another cock untill it comes in my mouth.

She's even got a fantasy where we both have sex with several guys (her number is always me plus 4) and she's said she'd probally pass out if she could see me suck and fuck several guys at the same time.

The biggest hang up though is being safe. We're working on finding a guy or couple that we can be assured is safe and starting from there. While the multiple guy situation will probally never happen because of safety concerns, us hooking up with a couple (she wants to try things with a girl too) or guy or a gay couple that would be open to a woman participating is definately going to happen when we find the right situation.

Our rules though are we always tell each other about any prospect (even online chatting with the other there if it's someone we potentially want to meet) and that we both be present/participating when/if anything happens.

Honesty is the key to our relationship and we have no reason to hide our fantasies from each other.

Sounds very sexy. You say she's into it what about you? Does it drive you wild as well? I wonder for those that have experienced this do they think you should keep it a fantasy or act on it?

 

[Mr. Briggs]

well, if this is any indication, i am!

http://www.solosuck.com/phpbb/viewforum.php?f=14

Love that forum

 

[priapusone]

oh yeah man, i can tell we would be buddies on the beach and elsewhere!

 

[in4more]

Sounds very sexy. You say she's into it what about you? Does it drive you wild as well? I wonder for those that have experienced this do they think you should keep it a fantasy or act on it?

I'm totally into it. I've always thought it would be fun to try sucking a cock or being sucked or getting fucked by another guy. When we play with our strapon, we both let each other know we want it to be a real cock.

With her being turned on by the thought and us both open to experiencing things, I'm sure we'll act on the desires soon. I think we are equally turned on thinking about a hard cock in my mouth and me sucking it or being fucked as she watches. We both think the experience will bring us closer and not cause any problems.

 

[handsfree6969]

Sexuality is Mysterious

Sexuality is such a mysterious thing. My tastes have been evolving. Visually, I am only turned on by women. As far as porn goes, I love lesbians with very large breasts (and that is what I used to watch exclusively). However, over the years, I became curious about shemales being fucked and cumming so I added them to my travels on the internet.

I typically watch lesbian porn but every once in a while i wake up with a hard on that won't go away until I have take care of it. These hard ons are not my typical hard ons. They are raging and almost hurt. The thoughts rolling around in my head are all over the mapuntil I take care of it.

What is puzzling to me, men do not visually turn me on. When I talk to men, there are no sexual sparks. Women do visually turn me on and I love talking to women. I know a woman with 38G breasts and she turns me on visually every time I see her.

 

[Chuck Darwin]

.....

Maybe it's just me but when I have queer sex with a guy it feels a lot more like masturbation then sex maybe it's because guys have the same tool set. Sex with a guy is like having sex with yourself. (if your a guy, of course.)

So if you're bi-curious and want to try it with a guy. Don't think of it as serious sexual commitment, but just a friendly jack off session with a friend and see where it goes from there.

Sex to me seems to have to involve, by definition, women. Only women bring a sort of civilizing, epicurean factor the whole courting and seduction ritual, which involves all aspects of life - status, fashion, love, the possibility (however remote) of procreation and all the tensions of a million years of separate gender evolution. There is a refined subtly to the seduction of a woman that doesn't occur in homosexuality. This subtly extents into the actual sex. For instance, it's far more of an art to give good cunilingus than fellatio. I once actually made a woman cum in passionate waves by sucking on her earlobe during a very extended foreplay that simply involved making out in the back seat of a car fully dressed! And I came in my jeans without ever even touching myself. Now that's electric sex.

On the contrary the biggest part about meeting a strange guy for sex is determining it's cool to hit up on him. Once that's decided the cocks come out pretty quick. Guys just meet each other jack, suck and fuck. I've had sex with guys who I never even caught their name, then did it again with another guy a few minutes later. Women rarely roll like that...

Moreover, woman are sexy all over. Men really aren't designed by nature to be that sexy, outside of their genitals regions. Women got da legs, da ass, the waist, the breast, the big eyes, sultry lips, the smooth skin, the hair, the scent, the make up... Men got beer bellies and hair. Lots of hair. I'm into men for the dick mostly. A hot woman I want to lick all over.

 

[SilkyDave]

i guess the fact that i have a lit. screen name and I frequent this forum might make me bi curious

 

[bi_ian]

Gorgeous thread, very funny first post.
I've been bi (if not gay) in my fantasies for years but am only now beginning to get my act together, through chat rooms etc
First cock not far away !!