How'd you meet your SO?

[Wantonica]

I met my SO in real life, but we eventually hooked up on the computer. He was a single guy and I was close to the end of my 17-year marriage when we began working through the same place and seeing each other every day. At first, we had no interest in one another in 'that way', just discussed our teen daughters and new puppies. About six months after we first met, everyone was giggling at the jokes I sent on the computer, and I asked a guy to send some of them to him, but he didn't. So my guy gave me his screen name and asked me to send them direct. Besides the regular jokes, I sent him funny E-mails to make him dizzy, since I knew he always got on the computer after hanging at the bar all evening. We ended up IMing a few times, and he told me that he would like to open up about some things he had on his mind, but I was married. As soon as he found out I had a home being renovated so I could leave the marriage, we became an item; going for walks, talking on the phone, etc. He did play hard to get sexually for longer than I'd have liked, but I really respected him for that. We've been together three years now.

That's my story,
Wantonica

 

[Mstrskey]

I can already hear the groans...

but the Hubby and I were HS swethearts. I had dated a friend of his my freshman year who turned out to be an abusive ass and he introduced us. Apparently I wasn't that memorable an introduction because he didn't even remember me dating the guy until years later. We had mutual friends but still managed to make it through most of HS barely exchanging a few words with each other. He was what I affectionatley call a ' Band geek" He played drums in the band and was scrawny with shaggy 70's hair. I was little miss drama club, student council, Future teachers, preppy perfect bitch!.
At any rate by my Jr. year he and I ended up doing our spring musical together- BYE BYE BIRDIE- he in the orchestra and me as a performer. I had to wear this godawful poodle skirt that was more poof then was needed. Every time I'd go stand near the orchestra pit he'd look up my skirt! Well that pretty much convinced me he was a perv- and he is...lol!- and I stayed clear of him until one night after set up I was slumped in a chair groaning that if anybody out there loved me they'd come give me a back rub. All of a sudden I feel these two strong hands working all the stress out of my neck and shoulders and it turns out to be him! I thanked him and he asked me out. I turned him down. The next night he asked me out again. I turned him down again. This went on for nearly a week until he finally cornered me on my way to the cafeteria one day and asked me point blank
" Do you eat?"
I told him I did.
" Good. I was wondering, cuz I've asked you out to dinner about a hundred times and you're always doing something else. So, since you do in fact eat be at my house by 7 tonight and we'll have some dinner." and with that he left me standing there with my jaw on the floor.

Needless to say I showed up for dinner that night and nearly 14 years and 2 and 3/4 (#3 is due in Dec) kids later we're still together.

 

[idoyoganaked]

Re: I can already hear the groans...

but the Hubby and I were HS swethearts. I had dated a friend of his my freshman year who turned out to be an abusive ass and he introduced us. Apparently I wasn't that memorable an introduction because he didn't even remember me dating the guy until years later. We had mutual friends but still managed to make it through most of HS barely exchanging a few words with each other. He was what I affectionatley call a ' Band geek" He played drums in the band and was scrawny with shaggy 70's hair. I was little miss drama club, student council, Future teachers, preppy perfect bitch!.
At any rate by my Jr. year he and I ended up doing our spring musical together- BYE BYE BIRDIE- he in the orchestra and me as a performer. I had to wear this godawful poodle skirt that was more poof then was needed. Every time I'd go stand near the orchestra pit he'd look up my skirt! Well that pretty much convinced me he was a perv- and he is...lol!- and I stayed clear of him until one night after set up I was slumped in a chair groaning that if anybody out there loved me they'd come give me a back rub. All of a sudden I feel these two strong hands working all the stress out of my neck and shoulders and it turns out to be him! I thanked him and he asked me out. I turned him down. The next night he asked me out again. I turned him down again. This went on for nearly a week until he finally cornered me on my way to the cafeteria one day and asked me point blank
" Do you eat?"
I told him I did.
" Good. I was wondering, cuz I've asked you out to dinner about a hundred times and you're always doing something else. So, since you do in fact eat be at my house by 7 tonight and we'll have some dinner." and with that he left me standing there with my jaw on the floor.

Needless to say I showed up for dinner that night and nearly 14 years and 2 and 3/4 (#3 is due in Dec) kids later we're still together.

No groans, that is so cute He sounds like a great guy.

 

[Bobmi357]

Re: I can already hear the groans...

Unless you've recorded yourself in the bedroom and elsewhere, you're not going to hear any groans here.

 

[pw27]

Dh and I met in a bar. He asked me to dance, we dated for 9mos and have been married for 4yrs. I never could have dreamed I meet someone decent in a bar or end up marrying them. I guess some things are meant to happen.

 

[CWatson]

Re: HIJACKED!!!!

Originally posted by Bobmi357
I'm going to hijack this thread slightly and ask those of us that met our SO's online a simple question.....

Do you feel that your relationship is stronger than it might be had you met offline?

I tend to think it is for one very important reason. We learned to communicate with our SO's long before we got to play body to body.

I rather agree with that. I didn't meet my Sig.Other online--well, I did; our first contact was a few minutes of casual chat about twelve hours before our first meeting, but she was not the person The Girlfriend was trying to set me up with, so I didn't really pay attention. But we talk a lot online now.

Most of our real trust-building, in fact, was done over the Internet, because Sig.Other went on vacation for two weeks just after we got together. Nonetheless we did a lot of sharing and a lot of talking, and I'm glad we did. For one, putting the relationship on hold for two weeks would have been torture. Two, it's a lot easier to share online for some reason; why not use that? And for three, we tend to have other things in mind when we meet IRL.

 

[Icingsugar]

One more thing-- who approached who?
Definitely she. After she shot me and I died dramatically in her arms (see previous post) we had a few polite laughs and went on our ways. I didn't think much of her, except for what a pleasant laugh she had had and as an inspiration for future fantasies. For some reason I saw her as way out of my league.

One day the phone rang, she introduced herself as "my killer" and asked why I hadn't called her yet. I told her why, and she promptly demanded that I come over to her place and spend the weekend making up for that. Well, who was I to obect?

 

[HotAzLady69]

I met my bf in an online rpg, we started talking and ended up being more than just friends.

We were one of the lucky few that met online and it worked out in real life.

I wasn't even looking to date anyone at that time, I had an ex that was hounding me and I despised him lol.

So one day I ended up moving to Cali for a job and stayed with a friend. I'd go back and forth to see my bf once a month and we'd talk on the phone and online every night.

One day he asked me not to leave to go back to cali and here I've been sence and I love him dearly.

 

[lilpriss]

A friend set me up,

I wasn't looking to meet anyone and didn't expect to be as into him as I am. In fact, I was pissed at myself for liking him at all.

On our second face to face meeting, the first being for all of 45 seconds... he brought me to orgasm with his fingers... you could say we really clicked!

For the record, I had a rule I set for myself a long time ago, that if a guy tries to kiss me on the first date to never see him again b/c he's presumptuous and has no respect... this just felt right and good and it's been almost a year...

Yes, we've had ups and downs, but at this point I'm really quite happy.

 

[SexyChele]

I met him through an online dating service. Neither of us were really looking for something serious, or so we thought. He first contacted me around Feb 2002, and we exchanged a few emails. He suggested meeting, and I agreed, but I truly dropped the ball.

Then, in Feb 2003, he contacted me again. (I was seriously considering taking down my ad, as no one was responding to it that I felt I wanted to meet) I remembered his email addy and his style of writing, and asked if he had contacted me before. He admitted he had and reminded me of what had happened before - without placing any blame, which made him a better person in my eyes. I felt so bad that I had let him down the year before, that I agreed to meet him for lunch. We were both shy and I really didn't think it would work out, but I'm so glad he was persistent! Even when I wouldn't let him go any farther than a goodnight kiss for over a month! We have been together almost 7 months, and hit our first true "hurdle" this month. We managed to work it through and things have taken a more serious turn, I'm happy to say.

College can be a great way to meet people, so I wish the best to you! You might want to focus on having fun rather than having a relationship, though. Most people are attracted to those individuals involved in things they love to do and are happy about. If you are interested in some one, there is nothing wrong with approaching that person and starting a conversation. If that goes well enough, you might want to invite them to have cup of coffee with you and see where it goes from there. Good luck!

Bobmi, as far as the online thing goes, it just didn't work that way for me. For about a year or so, I did a couple of online LDRs. I found them very dissatisfying - I want the person near me, not in another state. As I've stated before: a computer monitor is a very cold thing to cuddle up to at night. Plus, the two "relationships" that I had turned out to married and simply "playing". In my mind, it is too easy to become overly involved with people you really know nothing about, and too easy to lie to continue that deception.

In my own experience, while I did meet my S/O online, it was only initial contact and a few emails. The second time we connected, we met within the week. I had just been burned by doing the LDR thing with a man from another state who was married, so I wanted to find out just how honest and upfront this man was, and I personally feel that can only be accomplished in person.

 

[butterfly27]

Re: HIJACKED!!!!

Originally posted by Bobmi357
I'm going to hijack this thread slightly and ask those of us that met our SO's online a simple question.....

Do you feel that your relationship is stronger than it might be had you met offline?

I tend to think it is for one very important reason. We learned to communicate with our SO's long before we got to play body to body.

My wife and I spent months talking online before meeting for the first time. By the time we did meet, it was like meeting an old lover that I hadn't seen in a while. Instead of meeting a stranger that I knew a lot about.

In a regular relationship, sex tends to overpower the communications process. Whereas in a relationship that begins online, communications becomes key from the onset.

My fiancé isn't the first one I met online and ended up going out with.

Honestly, I think this is one of the best ways to meet a person. Because of all the talking you do. Because of the debth a conversation can take. Because you are braver talking to someone you don't see. You share so much, you learn so much about the other person. And sex doesn't get in the way.

I believe it's a great opportunity.

 

[PunkGrrl18]

i met my current boyfriend by going to punk shows at a new venue of the diy-community and sometimes just running into eachother, we didnt really talk than and we just goofed around in the pit and that was it. Than i got invited to this party and whos house was it? His. He was really shocked that i showed up and we got drunk and he ended up blacking out and confessed how he was crazy for me and could never stop talking about me, and the rest is history.

 

[SexyGiggles]

DL and I met in college, through an organization we were both members of...were friends for many many years, and didn't get together until 2 1/2 years after graduation....and when we did, it was me that initiated it...

 

[jeepman6]

I met my wife at a club. I tapped her on the shoulder, asked her to dance and haven't been apart from her for over 20 years. I was a shy person in those days and don't know how I screwed up the courage to even ask her to dance but just KNEW I had to do it. Sure am glad I did, has been a wild ride ever since

 

[DuckLover]

DL and I met in college, through an organization we were both members of...were friends for many many years, and didn't get together until 2 1/2 years after graduation....and when we did, it was me that initiated it...

Ahem. In all fairness, you initiated the IRL sex. (Stripping off your shirt in my bedroom is a pretty unequivocal signal...) However, _I_ broke the initial "friends" barrier with innuendo online. You may also recall that during the 2 1/2 years, I consistantly pursued you, maintaining contact, and letting you know that I was interested should you ever become available.

 

[Etoile]

I met both my girlfriend and Daddy on LambdaMOO.

 

[jupiter lilly]

I met my boyfriend online.

As a BBW I was pretty hesitant about posting profiles online. I was plagued by horrors of getting to know someone online and then having them reject me as a result of the way I looked. I can't really say if it's a fabulous site or not, but I found my boy through BBWfinder.com. I saw his profile among others and decided to bite the bullet and pay the 20$ for a month long membership so I could e-mail. I sent him a letter...we started to talk...after a little while, we started talking on the phone and several weeks later we had our first date.

Although I hadn't known him for long, it was nice going into things knowing a bit about each other. Our first date went really, really well, and we started seeing each other regularly after that. It was such a new thing for me, being with a guy who not only accepted the way I looked, but was really into it. I still find myself adjusting to that fact.

More than six months later, we are still happily together and now in the process of looking for apartments so we can move in together this summer.

He is the kindest man I have ever known...and also the best lover I have ever been with. He often brings up how happy he is that I wrote to him...I never would have expected one little e-mail would be the beginning of so much happiness.

All in all, the best $20 bucks I've ever spent.

 

[SweetErika]

College is the place!

We were acquaintances in the same dorm. I wasn't attracted to him at all. After a night of drinking, I spent the night in his room, but he refused to get physical because of my impaired judgment. I woke up with severe abdominal pain in the morning... he took me to the hospital for an appendectomy!

We became friends, started dating, and he grew more attractive the longer I knew him. I've always been attracted to the "womanizing" types that I have an "I want to fuck you right now" connection with, so it's been hard for me to accept that a real gentleman is best for me.

Long story short, we've been married over a year and I couldn't be happier.

Be confident and open-minded...you'll meet someone! The right person will love you for who you are, not what you look like. Be careful...the wrong one will take advantage of your insecurities and use you for sex.

 

[Bobmi357]

Re: College is the place!

We became friends, started dating, and he grew more attractive the longer I knew him. I've always been attracted to the "womanizing" types that I have an "I want to fuck you right now" connection with, so it's been hard for me to accept that a real gentleman is best for me.

For every guy out there that wants a quick fuck, there are a dozen hiding in the corner too shy to tell you that they think you're the most beautiful woman on the planet.

It always amazes me how so many women seem to gravitate to the "Bad Boy" image and end up going through relationship after relationship, opening lamenting in forums like this one about the lack of "Good Guys", when we're all around you.

Open your eyes ladies, the world is full of good men, the only problem with them is they need a little push to see for themselves how good they are.

 

[Kat-sh]

Women think they can make the Good Boy out of Bad Boy..... that he would change for their sake only..... and it never happens

I met my husband online, 3 years ago, and until now I felt a bit like a freak, for it is not very common to meet people online where we come from.
I am so glad I found out there are many others like us around here

 

[ReadyOne]

It's becomming more and more common. In the last month, we've met 4 couples who had first contact via the net. And we did too...

 

[ninja squirrel]

Me and Angel Diva had a rather odd start.

We have a pair of mutual friends, who are good friends with each other, one of them knew me pretty well, and the other knew Angel pretty well. Neither of us have had much luck with the opposite sex at all (Angel is my first, and I am hers). They decided to try setting us up.

So, just a few days after Angel's 19th birthday we met at one of those two friend's birthday parties, it was loud and we're not particularly loud people by nature, so we ddin't say much, and it was semi-awkward, and on top of that, she was completely opposite to what I had always considered my physical type, and apparently I wasn't her physical type either.

We decided to try meeting in a more personal setting and went to a few movies and had dinner a couple of times, but it seemed more like a friendship, and we mutually decided to leave it that way.

A couple of months pass with us hanging out now and then, and exchanging e-mails, and then we started talking on ICQ, and since the truth is we are both perverted sex addicts under our respective facades of nice, reserved behaviour, the topic of conversation turned towards sex. We eventually shared fantasies and stuff online, and then wondered whether it would work in person, so we met and then went for a walk down a forested path and had our talk. Afterwards we sat at a coffee shop to have a drink before going home. At this point the only thing holding us back from having a relationship was lack of physical attraction. Then she leaned over to get something out of her bag and her breasts became rather accentuated by the surface of the table, at which point I realized she had quite a fabulous rack. I didn't mention it at the time, being as shy as I was, and so we went home.

Next time we got online, though, I did mention it, and the reaction it got in my pants. I thought that she would really enjoy hearing it, since she wasn't really used to compliments. We got each other all worked up that night, and it was a lot of fun. That started us down a very pleasant road which has so far been nearly 2 1/2 years long.


I would say we met online, when we met at that party all we met were each other's public faces, and in that context, neither of us seemed like the type for the other. When we got to talking online though, our true colours came out, and we were definitely each other's type.


That's why I think online meetings are becoming more common with happy couples. Despite all this paranoia about people pretending to be thigns they are not online, I find that people actually tend to be more honest about themselves, because in their own lives they are forced to put a different face on, and given an outlet to act like they really want to, they will tend to take advantage of it.

 

[cyberangel69]

This is gonna be long....

I'm on the concert comitee at my college. One night we put on a show w/Pat McGee and afterwards my friend kevin invited me over to his room for pizza and wine coolers. I was hesitant about going b/c Kevin and I weren't great friends, and I didn't know anyone else who would be there. But eventually my hunger won out and I went and hung out in Kev's room.

The first thing I noticed when I walked in the room was this boy, he was decent looking and seemed nice enough. Even though he wasn't the hottest boy I had ever seen something drew me to him.

That night we played this game called mongo pongo that Kevin had on his palm pilot. Basically you have to answer a question and if you get it wrong you have to do a dare type thing. Most of the dares were sexual. The boy I noticed (now my SO) and I had to change clothing! That kinda broke the ice (although we went in the bathroom to do it...didn't see anything)

So he and I started talking about guitars b/c I play and so does he. Eventually he went back to his room and I was kicking myself b/c I didn't get his SN

The next day I found out he was sharing a suite with two of my friends for the following year. So I began to pester my friends to get his sn for me. They got me his # from a housing form but I am NOT a phone person....so eventually after about a week of pestering them they got he his sn.

So I IM'd him (let me tell you that was scarry) and we starting talking. Pretty soon we were doing everything together, he would kinda invite himself over and we'd watch movies etc.

we've only been together for a little over a year but I am so glad I made the effort to get his sn

 

[MrsTrooper]

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[Lynnezertorte]

I met my dearly departed husband exactly ten years ago today.

A friend had told me that the best way to meet new men was to take up golf.....so on April 27, 1994 (Secretary's Day) my friend took me to the golf range to try hitting golf balls for the first time.

Afterwards we went to meet her husband at a local restaurant. He was sitting at a table with a bunch of people......one of whom was the owner of the restaurant and would be my future husband.

We married nine months later..........and unfortunately, he died of a massive heart four years after that at the age of 41.