Humiliation?

[eroticspank]

I think the point is what is humiliating to some is not at all to others. The same can be said for degradation and embarrassment. That is why I think it is so special because it is unique to each couple. It is about getting into someone's head--the old Jedi mind trick. Add that (mind play) kind of play to sex and it can be very powerful.

ES

 

[WannabeMontrealSlut]

Humiliation

My opinion is that many people like humiliation but to a small degree. Being called a slut by a lover, being told to touch yourself or spread wide, etc.

People often associate humiliation with very degrading things but one can like drops of humiliation and not be interested in heavy degradation.

Nothing is just black or white.

 

[Justplatonic]

Its like the attitude to sex in the vanilla public. There is always this binary approach i.e. you're either having sex or not. When actually, we know there are plenty of other things you can do in the meantime, but the vanilla public wouldn't consider those other things.

A similar sentiment is applied with fetishes as well, although more contextualized. Its not simply am I going to get humiliated or not... Its also how much humiliation will I receive, or will it be enough, or does it apply to you.

Bottom line, from my turd's eye view, its up to your Dom to decide. They'll instinctively know what works for you and what doesn't, quicker than you can blink. And whether its how much humiliation you receive, or will it be enough, or does it apply to you, will all be irrelevant. Otherwise why invest any time with your Dom in the first place if you cannot trust they have your best interests at heart? They control the vertical and the horizontal, just saying...

 

[eroticspank]

My opinion is that many people like humiliation but to a small degree. Being called a slut by a lover, being told to touch yourself or spread wide, etc.

People often associate humiliation with very degrading things but one can like drops of humiliation and not be interested in heavy degradation.

Nothing is just black or white.

I completely agree with this^. Well said. I also believe humiliation is not confined to the Dom/Domme-sub play. Anyone can do humiliation especially since there are so many levels of it.

ES

 

[Justplatonic]

I completely agree with this^. Well said. I also believe humiliation is not confined to the Dom/Domme-sub play. Anyone can do humiliation especially since there are so many levels of it.

ES

I appreciate your point eroticspank. Granted, humiliation in a global sense can be found anywhere in varying degrees... May be smaller amounts of humiliation equals embarrassment?

Therefore you can find it in the workplace, in education, in sports, etc. That said, while humiliation is out there, its never going to be pleasurable IMHO. However, when its served up with relish by a beautiful Dom in the heat of the moment, its probably the most pleasurable it'll ever be, at least to a lowly sub like me.

 

[sterculius]

For me, humiliation is an integral and inseparable component of sexual arousal and eroticism. As a lifelong cocksucker, due to the stigma attached to the act, my passion for performing oral sex on other men has always been associated with the risk of discovery, exposure and the ensuing embarrassment. In the beginning, when I first began giving blowjobs to my best teenage friend, my emotions would vacillate back and forth between the two extremes, on the one hand, of uncontrollable lust to be on my knees, having his thick cock being savagely and repeatedly forced down my throat, and on the other hand, to intense regret and embarrassment for having allowed him to "use" me in this degrading and shameful manner. Each of the opposing emotional episodes would be predictably followed by it's reciprocal until the two extremes would merge into one and I would look forward to feeling humiliated as a precursor to the emotional ecstasy that I knew was imminent associated with my oral subjugation. He would threaten to tell our friends I was his cocksucker and I'd have to blow them also. I would masturbate while imagining myself on my knees at the head of a line of our friends, sucking cock after cock as the others stood around, joking and laughing at me as they waited to take their turn fucking my willing mouth. I like feeling humiliated.

 

[eroticspank]

I appreciate your point eroticspank. Granted, humiliation in a global sense can be found anywhere in varying degrees... May be smaller amounts of humiliation equals embarrassment?

Therefore you can find it in the workplace, in education, in sports, etc. That said, while humiliation is out there, its never going to be pleasurable IMHO. However, when its served up with relish by a beautiful Dom in the heat of the moment, its probably the most pleasurable it'll ever be, at least to a lowly sub like me.

I get it and agree. The key is who does the humiliation, how it is done, and how the person takes it. All of this stuff is just in our heads.

ES

 

[Cleanshaved50]

Doesn't seem to be very popular, that makes me feel like I'm odd for liking it.

You are not odd. I love to be humiliated as well. As far as popular, to each their own.

 

[Justplatonic]

I get it and agree. The key is who does the humiliation, how it is done, and how the person takes it. All of this stuff is just in our heads.

ES

 

[switchitter13]

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[suestevenson143]

My Cuck loves it

 

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[BrattyLinds]

Re: Humiliation

Honestly, it's hard to say if it is my "primary" fetish or not, but humiliation and degradation really get me going a lot. Like, it is my "zero to sixty". Instant horniness! Especially if something degrading/vulgar is whispered into my ear in a throaty, harsh tone in public. I melt!

 

[lilmissholliex]

Humiliation/degradation is DEFINITELY my thing. Choking, spanking... some of the really rough scenes online really get me going. Being called a filthy little.... whatever, is the BIGGEST turn on.

I'm not really sure what drives it - perhaps just an attention thing, I'm not sure. But as a sub it's the greatest.

 

[nutoseen]

not hard core

i just want my tiny penis played with, teased a little, and showed off to a couple of women. i'll happily cum.

 

[beckiefalwell]

For me, getting someone to humiliate themselves a bit

and then pushing that line or boundary works well.

 

[nutoseen]

tell me more, tell me more

 

[beckiefalwell]

Verbal

and then pushing that line or boundary works well.

Having someone say something overly embarrassing or provocative where others might here is a good start. Just saying something out loud has a certain power.

 

[jason28053]

To go back to the original post - NO, you are most certainly not alone. I discovered very early on in my sexual life that the majority of men - at that time while I was at university - love to humiliate a willing woman. The more I discovered this the more I wanted to be used, abused, humiliated and degraded as I could see what a turn on it was for the guys with me. They became rock hard much quicker and more often than when just plain sex was on offer! As time went on, right up to the present, I became aware in my own thoughts and sexual excitement that I craved such actions more than sex itself!
I now consider a good dose of some type of humiliation an absolute must in and Gangbang event I take part in and the contents of this are usually agreed upon beforehand. It gets me wet and the guys hard. That must be a win win situation?

Sounds like a win win to me

 

[Goldenfinger]

I would not say humiliation is my primary fetish. I don’t think thing in our private life are humiliating. But when if it involves something that could move outside our private setting (picture, of video clip) it gives me sensation of humiliation that’s erotic and I’d say terrifying at the same time.

 

[sterculius]

The humiliation of being "outed" and everyone becoming aware that I'm a Cocksucker is one of my biggest turn-ons.

 

[beckiefalwell]

The humiliation of being "outed" and everyone becoming aware that I'm a Cocksucker is one of my biggest turn-ons.

Have you been outed? How did it happen? Are you talking about multiple occasions/outings?

 

[Just4you2use44]

The humiliation of being "outed" and everyone becoming aware that I'm a Cocksucker is one of my biggest turn-ons.

Same here...especially with pictures as proof or with people finding me with a mouth full of cock.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I would never want to be "outed" as there would be hugely negative consequences for my professional and personal life outside of the intimacy. But in private, or (especially) with one (or more) of Her lovers... in the right scenario it would be HOT! Taking photos, so long as they are not posted anywhere, would be hot, although the key is, as long as there is trust that they won't be shared or posted...

The problem with public humiliation is it exposes other people around you to your intimate private life, who may not particularly WANT to be exposed to your and your intimate private life.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I would never want to be "outed" as there would be hugely negative consequences for my professional and personal life outside of the intimacy. But in private, or (especially) with one (or more) of Her lovers... in the right scenario it would be HOT! Taking photos, so long as they are not posted anywhere, would be hot, although the key is, as long as there is trust that they won't be shared or posted...

The problem with public humiliation is it exposes other people around you to your intimate private life, who may not particularly WANT to be exposed to your and your intimate private life.

That is a very good point. Not everybody wants to know. I know that it’s only certain people that my wife if friends with knows and of course the people who work at the toy store.

There another side to it though. We’ve (by we I mean her) had issues. It has happened a couple of her friend though. They thought that since we are kinky people that anything goes. Which isn’t the case. She shouldn’t approached us but it was my wife’s fault. Unfortunately it wasn’t a lesion learned.