Long Distance Relationships

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: e soup

hi jenny ive been there ,, when the one you care about is sick and , being on the other side of the world, there wasnt a thing i could do about it... so i just made up packages of e soup. e asprins . and e grapes... and sent them lol i know it sounds silly but it helped... and made him laugh when he was well enough ..
i told him i was feeling his fevered brow and that i would look after him lol..... hang in the jenny.. oman is worth the wait isnt he....
hugsssss stargirl32

Thank you stargirl! Oman certainly is worth the wait, and my heart feels heavy without contact with him. Hoping he's resting well, and that we'll get online with each other before the year is out! (I even have sympathy "pangs", and feel like I'm fighting off a cold as well!) Feel better, Oman!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Happy New Year

Happy New Year to all of Lit, especially all the long distance lovers!

Despite offers from local friends, I decided to stay home this new year's eve. My head was stuffed the entire day, so I didn't want to really get outside in the frenzy of my neighborhood.

Oman felt well enough to ring in the new years with me, so thanks to our calling card, we were able to share two countdowns. Hearing and speaking with each other through the early hours of this new year was such a wonderful gift for both of us. I feel blessed! Ironically I only live a block away from Times Square, and I was able to share the celebration happening outside my window with him.

I hope each of the LDR couples were able to spend time this holiday in any form for any amount of time. Best wishes for a great 2002.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Hotti,
I have last year to thank for giving me the first time I heard your voice. For the first I knew you even existed. For showing me what I have to look forward to.

There will be many firsts for me this new year, but the one I will cherish most is the first time I get to gaze into your eyes. Of all the promise the future holds for me, this by far dwarfs it all.

Happy First

 

[espressolover]

jenny

Happy New Year to you, also!!

I am so glad to hear that you and oman got to ring in the year together...my love and I did too. What a wonderful, magical night!!

Wow...you live right on Times Square...that must be great to be able to witness that live! I used to live in New York but I was too small to remember a whole lot about it..only 8 yrs. old then. But I remember I got to go to my Mom' friend's home to watch from their windows and it was great.
But, especially this year must have been magical...after 9/11.

Hope you feel better soon, and give my best wishes to oman!

Happy New Year to all the LDR's out there...may this new year bring you all good things. And that we all get to meet our loves in r/l.


espressolover

 

[lovetoread]

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[TigerClaw]

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[JennyOmanHill]

Good morning,everyone.
I spent the beginning of this year on the phone with Tiger. I loved every minute of it.
He will be down again soon,I cannot wait. The only bad thing being after this visit,it will be a very long time till we see each other again.
LDR's are alot harder than I ever imagined. The seperation is almost killing me,especially after a really nice phone call or two. I wish everyone luck in this new year,and I hope that no one is suffering from hang overs.

Glad to see that others had the joy of connection this New Year's Eve. I'm also happy to hear that Lovetoread and Tiger will again be together soon.

I already feel the pang of not hearing Oman's voice every single day, but find it comforting to be able to stay in touch in many different ways. I'm sure someone will need to pry us apart at the end of his visit here! Just getting through one day at a time makes each day special for me, and I'm trying not to look too far ahead. There's so much going on and so much to do, and most of us cannot predict the future. Trying to stay in the moment and getting the most out of every minute is the goal of my heart these days.

Get well soon, Oman. Please take care of yourself (for yourself, and for us!).

 

[pyramider]

Positive thinking is necessary but one have to be very careful of one's own denial. Living bodies have needs and those needs could not be met long distance over a long time. My g/f moved to another town in British Columbia when I lived in Alberta but it was one hou flight and we kept the relationship for over a year. However there were flirtations and sexual encounters with others on both side but we understood and forgave. When I moved to Ottawa and the distance grew to few hours flight across Canda we stayed in touch and probably in love but the sheer distance became a barrier like anu others. There was no internet then but there were phones and the phone bills ecame too high. It got very tiring and finally tapered off.
I wish you better luck but life it too short.
Hope you will let us know. You can always move too.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Positive thinking is necessary but one have to be very careful of one's own denial. Living bodies have needs and those needs could not be met long distance over a long time. My g/f moved to another town in British Columbia when I lived in Alberta but it was one hou flight and we kept the relationship for over a year. However there were flirtations and sexual encounters with others on both side but we understood and forgave. When I moved to Ottawa and the distance grew to few hours flight across Canda we stayed in touch and probably in love but the sheer distance became a barrier like anu others. There was no internet then but there were phones and the phone bills ecame too high. It got very tiring and finally tapered off.
I wish you better luck but life it too short.
Hope you will let us know. You can always move too.

Thank you Pyramider for sharing your experience. Sorry it didn't work out for you.

Distance is and will be an important factor in an LDR, and I think temptations are always there for ANY type of relationship. Realistically, very few people are able to be with each other constantly, so the possibility of outside flirtations always exists in some fashion. We have yet to see how our distance from each other will ultimately affect us further down the line.

In our case we are both older than most couples I'm meeting here at Lit (mid/late 40s), so we both have several "been there/done that' situations already behind us. Our "needs" seem to be a bit different than the younger set.

Yes, and thank goodness for the internet! We're both saving a lot of money staying "connected". I will let you know how things develop as time moves on!

 

[Southernborn]

Boy can i ever give you some insight. i am currently involved with a girl from my past. She lives in Germany and I live on the Gulf Of Mexico... DEFINITELY LONG DISTANCE AND DIFFERENT TIME ZONES. I adore her and we have met four times in the past 7 months. It is one of the single most difficult things I have ever experienced in my life.

 

[Leopold]

I am currently workign on one right now..me in the south her in canada..it's rather tough and I have done this before..I hope this works out better than ones in the past...

 

[TigerClaw]

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[pyramider]

I did not mean to be the bearer of bad tidings. Ours were diferent times, we were much younger than mid-forties and the world was not as small as your's today. There was no internet or MSN Messenger (or Yahoo)- Also we were different people. We were early twenties and the seventies were the age of the sexual revolution and we were leading revoultionaries. Time also proved us both to be poor mariage-material.
You reach a point in life and you start to ask yourself "what if?" and there are many what if's to wonder about. The fact is we don't know and hindsight is a terrific thing. In the end of the day I am content with my life now. Life has a very strange way of balancing things out and I think it is fair in the end. Life also is very short and, when you look carefully, time is the only commodity we got.
Wishing you both the best. Same for Lovetoread and Tiger in N-J. I am very gald Tiger does not agrre with me although he did not tell us what happened to the relatioship that was separated by six hours of flight not including parking..etc..etc.
A very happy new year everybody

 

[JennyOmanHill]

All the best

I am currently workign on one right now..me in the south her in canada..it's rather tough and I have done this before..I hope this works out better than ones in the past...

Hi Leopold. Thanks for posting. How long has this relationship been going on for you? Was there anything you learned from your past relationships that has helped you with this one?

Thanks again, Pyramider. I think many of us realize that not every LDR is going to work out! Time, distance and many other circumstances play factors with emotions and feelings in any intimate relationship. When I started this thead I was hoping I would hear both the good and the bad possibilities, so your posting was appreciated.

Thanks again as well to you, Tiger! You and Lovetoread are both special to me and have always been so supportive. (I just love her new avitar!)

 

[softey]

distance

It does not have to be far away to have that feeling ,but can not express it openly for what ever reason. If you feel it in your heart, then as long as you and the other feel that way it will bond. It is easy to tell somone to keep your chin up but unless you have been there you really don't understand. I wish the best and if you need a shoulder to hang on I will be here to listen any time. From experience I know you have to have an outlet or will explode inside.

 

[TigerClaw]

I should get a medal for how much of a fool I was.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Have a wonderful weekend!

I am preparing to leave to visit someone. Hint, Hint. So, I will answer either later tonight or when I return. Yes, I am going to see LoveToRead. I can definitely, see how it was difficult in the seventies. Totally different environment back then.
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Will be back.....

Dear Tiger and Lovetoread:

Wow, I envy you two for this weekend! Is this your second visit together? Please enjoy every minute and hope your time with each other provides many good memories to carry you through for the next time.

Thanks, softey, for posting and for your support. I have already heard from people who found comfort through this thread, and I continue to learn more myself as time moves forward.

 

[espressolover]

Tiger_n_NJ and lovetoread:

All my best wishes and thoughts are with the two of you this weekend. I hope your time together is magical and all you've ever dreamed it could be!!

You have offered so much comfort and friendship to us. You two are greatly appreciated.

espressolover

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Andreina]

Long distance?

i used to live in a long distance relationship for 3 years and it worked out VERY well because we trusted each other. trust is crucial when it comes to a long distance relationship. my only advice to you would be to give it ago - you never know what it might turn into but it could be something good

 

[lovetoread]

Well as Tiger has mentioned,he is coming down today. I am so excited I can hardly sit still.

This will be a big test for him,he will be meeting my children. Egads,poor guy, having 3 kids all at once to check you over.

Everyone,thanks for the well wishes,and I guess you will understand that as of 4 this afternoon I wont be anywhere near my computer. I wont be saying what I will be doing this evening,you can use your imaginations.

Take care all!

 

[Andreina]

update

please keep us posted on how it went

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Well as Tiger has mentioned,he is coming down today. I am so excited I can hardly sit still.

This will be a big test for him,he will be meeting my children. Egads,poor guy, having 3 kids all at once to check you over.

Everyone,thanks for the well wishes,and I guess you will understand that as of 4 this afternoon I wont be anywhere near my computer. I wont be saying what I will be doing this evening,you can use your imaginations.

Take care all!

2 Words for the both of you -

Fuckin awesome!!

(and LTR, warn Tiger that slight of hand and corny jokes don't work on kids. Tell him to challange them to wresslin or Nintendo!)

 

[lovetoread]

2 Words for the both of you -

Fuckin awesome!!

(and LTR, warn Tiger that slight of hand and corny jokes don't work on kids. Tell him to challange them to wresslin or Nintendo!)

Thanks ya'll

Oh and he called and I told him about your advice,he said to tell you he knows all about nintendo. lol

 

[omahaman2]

whispering to my ldr,my s/o,my love.the holder of my heart., I love you,darling. I cant wait until february when i can hold you in my arms and touch you like you have touched my heart.