Long Distance Relationships

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: jenny

Thank you soo much for that!
Life has it's ups and downs..you guys are right..it makes us appreciate the great moments.
Thanks you guys, you're great!!
And, may I add, a great comfort as well.
espressolover

Isn't it wonderful to be able to come to Lit and feel such support and comfort?

Anytime, espressolover! This thread has actually worked as therapy for me, giving me the outlet to just express the many different and new feelings I've been experiencing. It's also another way of Oman and I communicating with each other, as we always read each other's posts. I've learned a lot from reading the good and bad tales of being involved in a long distance love.

Welcome to Lit, SusieB! Congrats on your upcoming wedding! WOW. May you have many wonderful years ahead of you no matter where you wind up living! Please keep posting and let us know how the wedding goes! You must be very excited, and it's wonderful to have a new life together to look forward to. All the best!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Thank you, Oman

Thank you Oman for the wonderful gift of your time, humor, patience, understanding, honesty and love that you shared with me through the early morning hours of this Christmas Day.

Wishing you a safe journey and a wonderful day spent with your loving family. Wishing them all a Merry Christmas, and, of course, wishing I were there to share them with you.

See you soon.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

BUMP

Shamelessly "bumping" up the thread that has helped me and others recognize that love is possible between two people even when distance separates them physically.

Oman, I can't seem to thank you enough! Our Christmas gift to each other last night is still filling my heart and my soul with such happiness and promise! Willingly taking one day at a time with you, and sharing each day's adventures, have given me the strength to believe in myself again.

I realize, however, that other LDR couples are not finding such hope through this holiday. My heart only wishes the best to all of you who are facing such challenging times. Please know that I'll be "here" to listen any time you feel you need to share your uncertainties and pain. I learned from a lot of you at the start of this thread that a LDR is something that requires of lot of time, trust, honesty and patience. Keep communicating, be honest with your own feelings, and hope for the best.

I'm ending this year knowing that I do indeed have many friends at Lit, and hope that the upcoming year will only bring the best for all of us.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Dr JennyOmanHill

Each LDR is different. Just like any normal dating relationship. ...
Distance:
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Trust:
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Patience:
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Mistakes:
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Anticipation:
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Thank YOU "Dr." Tiger for touching the very things we face day after day in handing our relationships. It is so hard to place into words the various emotions that filter in and out throughout the weeks (and days), and you managed to convey these feelings so well.

I agree that LDRs are as "real" as any other relationship, and I think that those of us involved actually work harder at our togetherness because we do NOT take each other for granted, and we truly appreciate the time we can actually spend together.

Holidays are times we especially want to be with the ones we love, and for some LDRs their time together is more sporadic. I have been very fortunate that although we are physically apart, Oman and I were able to spend such quality time together, and his love and his time have been the greatest gifts this season has brought me.

We do learn from our mistakes, and being honest with our feelings and keeping this communication open with our partners, actually strenghtens our bonds.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Ladybird]

Re: BUMP

I'm ending this year knowing that I do indeed have many friends at Lit, and hope that the upcoming year will only bring the best for all of us.

Jenny you and Oman do have many friends here, some you will meet, and many you never will.

Another form of LDR I guess.

2001 has been a very special year for both of you, and I just know that 2002 will be a magical year that neither of you will ever forget.

My love and best wishes to you for all of the joy that lays ahead.

Sharon x

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Communication is so very important

Dr JennyOmanHill
An LDR can not survive if the communication is not their.
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Holidays can be difficult but if you have family obligations that drag you away from the phone or computer a well placed 1 - 2 min call can make all the difference in the world. New Years at Midnight call the one you love. Let them know they are the most important thing to you at that moment. Any Holiday after the dinner call just to let then know. But of course it should not be you alone making the call every Holiday or special occasion. But that goes the same in a in person relationship.
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If my words of wisdom can help a couple to find what I have found I offer them gladly.

Dearest Tiger:

How true your words are! THANK YOU so much for advising those of us who are involved with this for the first time.

We have moved at a slow pace (compared to some others), but we are always ALWAYS keeping in touch! Just a quick call, or a few written lines, makes the whole day easier to handle. Sharing our everyday experiences makes it easier to actually get things done in our "away" time!

We've just spent our first evening "hooked up" through an IM chat (with mics). This allowed us to be serious, or goofy, or even "quiet" with our time at the PC without running up the long distance bills. It also has left me feeling more reassured that I don't need to wait for a special time or date to hear his voice in my ear. (What a great sensation that is!)

Yes, Sharon (LB)... we have so many friends from all over the world here at Lit! We've already experienced good and bad times with a lot of different folks, and it's great we could share so much with people who care enough to watch out for others.

 

[FireyTaxman]

I've been involved in a long-distance relationship for the better part of three years......progressing from a chathouse encounter and growing into a very loving and sensual pairing... and yes, IT IS tough because of the distance and time-zones...... However, we 'talk' everyday.... either on the phone, or through emails or cyber-cards or time on ICQ and in chatrooms....... but through it all, we have learned much about one another (without the complexities of face-to-face) that might have taken eons otherwise..........and after having met and spent time together R/T, we now know that we will be making a life together soon...

All I can say is...........hang in there!!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Welcome FireyTaxman

I've been involved in a long-distance relationship for the better part of three years......progressing from a chathouse encounter and growing into a very loving and sensual pairing... and yes, IT IS tough because of the distance and time-zones...... However, we 'talk' everyday.... either on the phone, or through emails or cyber-cards or time on ICQ and in chatrooms....... but through it all, we have learned much about one another (without the complexities of face-to-face) that might have taken eons otherwise..........and after having met and spent time together R/T, we now know that we will be making a life together soon...

All I can say is...........hang in there!!

Thanks so much for posting! I agree totally that we learn more about each other because of the variety of ways we are actually communicating! Even posting on this bulletin board provides a way for us to "check in" with each other, and brings up topics of converation that might not otherwise come up in a RL relationship.

I also feel that neither of us are taking anything for granted, and that leads to a better appreciation of what we actually have. Time well spent.

All the best to you and yours, and I hope we ALL find new strength and joys in the time ahead.

 

[espressolover]

jenny

Wow!!
So glad to hear that you have "found" each other over the headphones! It is a wonderful feeling to have someone you love and are so distant from as close as that...at least it feels like you are closer.
Even if all you do is sit and share silences, it is so comforting.
And it is great being playful and silly, too!

It will add so much more to your relationship.

I want to thank you for all the kind words to me through the tough time with my online love...it has helped tremndously having you and oman to talk to...ecen though I haven't been around here much. It was hurting too badly to read the posts for awhile, because I thought that my love and i werent going to be able to make it. But, thank god, it looks like we will after all.

God bless the both of you, and very many good wishes and prayers in the New Year!!

espressolover

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Good to hear, espresso!

Wow!!
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It will add so much more to your relationship.
I want to thank you for all the kind words to me through the tough time with my online love...it has helped tremndously having you and oman to talk to...ecen though I haven't been around here much. It was hurting too badly to read the posts for awhile, because I thought that my love and i werent going to be able to make it. But, thank god, it looks like we will after all.
God bless the both of you, and very many good wishes and prayers in the New Year!!
espressolover

So glad to hear that things are going better right now for you. Please feel free to talk with me (and Oman, I'm sure) whenever you can. This thread has been a big comfort for me at the times when I didn't quite understand what was happening. It's always been reassuring to me to read other similar experiences, and I have learned by those who have "loved and lost" as well.

Best wishes that 2002 will bring many rewarding things to all of us "lovers"!

 

[FireyTaxman]

Thanks Jenny

Thanks for the welcome Jenny......

And couldn't agree with ya more........ Good luck with all your future endeavors as well........

 

[TigerClaw]

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[JennyOmanHill]

Re: JennyOmanHill and omahaman2

...If you have not found out already you will find that an online relationship has many more rewards then one only in rl or in this case I should say in person or dating....
It is a great way to know more about the other person, but it is also a great way to stay in touch. Even by playing on the bb's.
An online relationship can become rl even without meeting although it is rare. LoveToRead became real to me before we met. Meeting has only cemented our feelings for one another.
I have only read some of your(both of you) posts in the bar and some here. I admit I have not kept up with all the history. (Someone has been taking all of my attention) So, I hope both of you are enjoying what online has to offer the two of you. It can be a wonderful experience and a great foundation for the future.
Congratulations in finding each other and continued Good Luck in growing in the relationship. I wish you both the best.
Tiger.

Thanks Tiger...

We certainly have discovered some of the rewards of our online relationship. I know I never expected such a powerful and meaningful connection to someone through the PC, and I feel it has only enhanced itself as we've added our "voices" and "pictures" to the scenario. I, too, fell in love with Oman before seeing or hearing him. It happened for me one weekend when my PC was down and I had no way to contact him. It was agony for me and I realized I never wanted to "lose" touch with him again.

Being online has opened up the most honest relationship I have ever had with a man, and it continues as we now hear, in our own voices, the same feelings we've expressed in words.

We don't look too far ahead at this point, but we are both waiting anxiously to meet up with each other when he visits here soon.

I appreciate all the couples sharing their tales (good or bad). To a novice like me, it gives me comfort and hope that there are many others out there who share the experiences of such a relationship.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[JennyOmanHill]

New Year's Eve

Do any of you LDR's have plans for this New Year's Eve?

I'm finding it very hard to decide between the invitation I've received against the opportunity to just stay home and be "online".

 

[TigerClaw]

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[espressolover]

jenny

No...

We don't have plans to be online. He is out of town on that night, unfortunately.

It will be very sad without him here.
I know how you are feeling..torn between the chance to go out and have a wonderful time..or to stay in and share this magical night with your man. I have been there quite a few times, myself.
I usually will schedule things around my time with my guy, but I do miss out on alot. But it is much easier for us...the only way that it is easier...that he lives on the opposite side of the world...our time together is early morning-late night.

I wish I had some "wise old sage advice" for you. It would be wonderful if these things came with user-friendly directions..lol!
Whatever you decide, jenny...you both have a wonderful New Year and much good luck!!!


espressolover

 

[stargirl32]

news years day

before i start i would like to wish all the lovers in this thread a long and wonderfull new year....
ok thats done ,,
god i wish i could bring in the new year with him,, but sadly i can't...
thats not to say that i wount be raising a silent toast to him at the right time ...
. and my thought s will be with him ,
, all the way on the other side of the world.....as i hope his thoughts will be with me, .....
so best wishes to all the long distance lovers out there....**raising my glass***

 

[espressolover]

stargirl32

Cheers to you also...

Thank you for the kind words...I wish all the best in the New Year to you and your loved one!

jenny and oman...cheers to both of you!! The comfort that you have given is a blessing.


And to all the long distance lovers out there..best wishes in the New Year!!

espressolover

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

In my heart and in my mind I'll be in her arms. My body may be elsewhere, but when I think of "us" we're inseparable.

Jenny, whatever you do my only suggestion would be to try and be on the phone at midnight.

May all you "resolutions" be 24bit true color
(Yes, I'm a nerd what do you expect??)

Pre-Happy NewYear all!!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

A New Year's Toast

Offering a toast to all of the LDR's for a happy, comforting, wonderful new year ahead!

I agree, Flirt... I know where my heart and thoughts will be at midnight (actually TWO "midnights" with the time zones). I have my phone card ready too. For some reason I feel I really need to be with people this new year's eve. Will likely join friends at a gathering they're having.

Poor Oman is sick with a fever today (talk about feeling helpless! Is there a way to transport aspirin, juice and soup through the wires?). Hoping that my loving thoughts of him will be of some comfort.

http://nychickensoup.com/images/bubbot.gif

 

[TigerClaw]

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[stargirl32]

e soup

hi jenny ive been there ,, when the one you care about is sick and , being on the other side of the world, there wasnt a thing i could do about it... so i just made up packages of e soup. e asprins . and e grapes... and sent them lol i know it sounds silly but it helped... and made him laugh when he was well enough ..



i told him i was feeling his fevered brow and that i would look after him lol..... hang in the jenny.. oman is worth the wait isnt he....
hugsssss stargirl32