Long Distance Relationships

[JennyOmanHill]

Dang indeed!

http://romance.rediff.com/romance/ldr/pix/ldr1.gif DANG DANG DANG DANG DANG

It's a blue Sunday for me too. Trying hard to concentrate and getting things done, but missing our time together. What can we do? We'll just try and carry on until we have enough settled to be back together again! I love you, Oman!

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[Bullet3082]

LDR's

I think this would be interesting to comment on. I have not gotten involved in a LDR yet. Well it might be because I am married. My marriage like many other marriages maybe be rocky at trimes. But I don't think this is the reason I have not gotten involved with anyone as of yet. I think the reason I have not tried an LDR as of yet. Is the opertunity has not shown itself to me yet. I have talked to many people over the internet, but I see it more as a means to make new friends, and help people with computer problems. Now if the opertunity ever does show itself to me. I will have to take it one day at a time.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Hi Bullet

Nice to see another new poster to this thread.

LDRs are quite difficult to pinpoint. The internet has certainly allowed for people to be closer no matter what the distance is. An LDR might just be a close friend who you keep in touch with while still living a married life in your "other" existence.

In my case, both Oman and I are single, and it has become an issue of when and how we can be together without the PC "in the way"! It's frustrating and a struggle, but it's something you just keep working on. Situations change; moods change; and your daily life must go on.

I hope you find a "home" here at LIT and thanks for posting!

Best of luck!

 

[Bullet3082]

LDR's

I beleive the closest I have come to a LDR is, by helping people with computer Problems through ICQ. Now that is my favorite past time. As for remaining in contact with anyone. that I have not done yet. Maybe that is why I joined Lit.com.

 

[RandyRam]

LDR

I am a newly registered member of literotica, but I have been having a LDR that has turned into a love affair with a very sexy lady during the past 3 months.

We are both married, but have parteners who have lost interest in sex.

I have no intention of meeting this lady even though I am in love with her personality and her sexy nature.

Both of us want to protect our marriages, such as they are, and enjoy the fantasy of a LDR relationship.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: LDR

I am a newly registered member of literotica, but I have been having a LDR that has turned into a love affair with a very sexy lady during the past 3 months.
We are both married, but have parteners who have lost interest in sex.
I have no intention of meeting this lady even though I am in love with her personality and her sexy nature.
Both of us want to protect our marriages, such as they are, and enjoy the fantasy of a LDR relationship.

Hi Randy! Welcome to the LIT boards, and thank you for placing your first post here and for sharing your story!

It's been mentioned many times in this long, long thread that honesty and communication are two very important things we need to keep an LDR going. From your words it appears you and your LDR have your priorities straight and are being honest with each other! All the best to both of you!

LIT is a good place for "meeting" folks, Bullet! Best of luck to you here!

 

[Bullet3082]

Why thank you

thank you Jenny. From what I have seen as of now. I can say that Lit might be a nice place to make friends and meet others.
I will also try to behave myself. because my mind does tend to slip in to the gutter once in a while.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Why thank you

thank you Jenny. From what I have seen as of now. I can say that Lit might be a nice place to make friends and meet others.
I will also try to behave myself. because my mind does tend to slip in to the gutter once in a while.

Well, Bullet... this IS an erotic website, so I'm sure the "gutters" here are very wide!

Have fun and watch your heart!

 

[Bullet3082]

Last night was a gutter night

Last night was a gutter night for me, and I must admit It was enjoyable. That is for sure, I guess it doesn't hurt to slid in to the gutter once in a while.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Last night was a gutter night

Last night was a gutter night for me, and I must admit It was enjoyable. That is for sure, I guess it doesn't hurt to slid in to the gutter once in a while.

Well, the gutter can be slippery! Just watch out you don't slip down a drain!!

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Congrats on reaching 100!

 

[lovetoread]

Just popping on to say hello.

Be well.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Just popping on to say hello.

Be well.

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Good to see you again, LTR! Well, your month has begun!

Discovered a different way to "ache" having Oman back in his hometown again! My spirits have been more fluctuating... caught between trying to working hard on my needs here, and longing for the time now on the mike/boards/wherever with him.

I think it would be better if we had our next meeting planned, but it really is too early to reasonably do this considering our finances and responsibilities.
Sigh....

But we're still having some good, GOOD times in the moments we are connected. I just wish I were more patient!!

 

[Bullet3082]

So I might slip

Well if my mind does happen to slip in to the gutter once in a while. No harm it is heather to let ones mind wonder once in a while. Even more so if it is of Erotic things. To share of ones self is to open your mind to another, and I will admit I open my mind often. Mostly about computers, but here I can open to the erotic side of my imagination.

 

[Smiley777]

I know that feeling...

I really do. Seems I keep stretching my limits....almost daily....in trying to focus on the things I NEED to take care of for myself here at home...while my heart is in another time zone altogether. It's a really tough balance. Dont know if I will ever be good at it.
But....my countdown will be starting soon....her flight arrives in a little over 3 weeks! Eek za...I gotta clean the house some more.

 

[Bullet3082]

Nothing is ever truely in balance. No matter how hard others try to get me to be like everyone else. I will not let myself fall in to this rut of being like everyone else. Be who you are! let the in balance happen. That is what makes life so exciting. Not knowing what may come next, and good luck when her flight arrives.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: I know that feeling...

I really do. Seems I keep stretching my limits....almost daily....in trying to focus on the things I NEED to take care of for myself here at home...while my heart is in another time zone altogether. It's a really tough balance. Dont know if I will ever be good at it.
But....my countdown will be starting soon....her flight arrives in a little over 3 weeks! Eek za...I gotta clean the house some more.

I love countdowns, especially towards getting together with your loved one!

Good wishes getting through the days (and the cleaning!); remember what's really going to be important when you are together (wondering if Oman remembers any "details" about my apartment?)

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[Bullet3082]

Well! I have met someone here, and have chatted in threads. I went months of being a member and not coming to this site. I posted a thread 3 or 4 days ago. Now I have found a friend here.
If this is to become a LDR, then I will not complian. But then I except all as friends. If anything more is to build with this LDR only time will tell, but for now we have the internet. We will always have the firendship no matter what may happen that is something that will always be.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Well! I have met someone here, and have chatted in threads. I went months of being a member and not coming to this site. I posted a thread 3 or 4 days ago. Now I have found a friend here.
If this is to become a LDR, then I will not complian. But then I except all as friends. If anything more is to build with this LDR only time will tell, but for now we have the internet. We will always have the firendship no matter what may happen that is something that will always be.

Better off with no expectations, Bullet. Glad you found a friend; my advice is just to take each day as it comes, and keep yourself open to honesty and communication. All the best!

BTW... After months "connecting", Oman and I knew the "worst" that could happen after we actually meet is that we'll be friends. Thank goodness it turned out that we are much more; friends on so very many levels! I feel very lucky!

 

[Smiley777]

Re: Re: I know that feeling...

I love countdowns, especially towards getting together with your loved one!

Good wishes getting through the days (and the cleaning!); remember what's really going to be important when you are together (wondering if Oman remembers any "details" about my apartment?)

http://www.xaraxone.com/tutorials/oct99/assets/images/countdown.gif

Very true Jenny....though I am still gonna try and make a big deal out of my cleaning attempts I know that she worked really hard before my visit to see her...and, even though I dont remember every detail....I think it's important that I make a comparable effort.

21 days.......well, 21 and 1/2.....eek! I am so scared/excited!

Take care...I will check in later on in the week.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Hang in there

Very true Jenny....though I am still gonna try and make a big deal out of my cleaning attempts I know that she worked really hard before my visit to see her...and, even though I dont remember every detail....I think it's important that I make a comparable effort.

21 days.......well, 21 and 1/2.....eek! I am so scared/excited!

Take care...I will check in later on in the week.

That's wonderful, Smiley! Thank you for sharing your countdown with us! Most of us have "been there/done that" and it can be an incredibly scary but exciting experience at the same time. Wow... this is your SECOND meeting!?!

My heart is aching a little since Oman and I cannot yet make a definite plan on when we'll be together again. This is the roughest part of the LDR as I'm feeling the physical distance as well as the emotional one!

Hang in there, and keep us posted! It's been sad that I have heard of a few LDR breakups recently, two caused by one of the parties "chickening" out!

 

[Smiley777]

Re: Hang in there

That's wonderful, Smiley! Thank you for sharing your countdown with us! Most of us have "been there/done that" and it can be an incredibly scary but exciting experience at the same time. Wow... this is your SECOND meeting!?!

My heart is aching a little since Oman and I cannot yet make a definite plan on when we'll be together again. This is the roughest part of the LDR as I'm feeling the physical distance as well as the emotional one!

Hang in there, and keep us posted! It's been sad that I have heard of a few LDR breakups recently, two caused by one of the parties "chickening" out!

Yes...this will be our second meeting. I did my first visit to see her around Christmas time...and it was absolutely wonderful. Spent time exploring the city....our feelings....and each other. Would not trade those days for anything in the world.
Now, she is flying to see me for Easter time. I just hope everything goes ok. I really know what you mean about both the physical and emotional distance....especially not yet having a "next plan" on what you are going to do. That is what is worrying me the most....that feeling of "the unknown future". For the most part, we are very positive....and I feel very secure in my choices so far...and I think that she feels the same.
Anywho, 21 days from now...she will be here. MMMMMMM...I cant wait to see and feel her again.

Take care, I will check in later to keep you updated.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Re: Hang in there

...
That is what is worrying me the most....that feeling of "the unknown future". For the most part, we are very positive....and I feel very secure in my choices so far...and I think that she feels the same.
Anywho, 21 days from now...she will be here. MMMMMMM...I cant wait to see and feel her again.
Take care, I will check in later to keep you updated.

The unknown future! I don't care for that either, Smiley! This is all hitting me at a time when every aspect of my life seems to be changing, and it gets overwhelming!

That "unknown next time" keeps nagging at me, as I would love having something more "definite" to look forward to.

Your countdown is ON, and I look forward to your updates!
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[JennyOmanHill]

Hi LDRs.

Having a particularly rough time today. Oman's work schedule usually brings him away from home one night each week (and it's usually Thursday (which is what spurred me to write my poem of that name; click below if interested).

Now that we have actually been together, it's feeling much worse when a day or two goes by and we're not in touch! Next week looks even rougher (both of us faced with "extra" duties), and I'm feeling anxious to spend as much online time with him as ever before!

Do/Did any of you find things feeling "worse" after your first meeting? I realize we both need to keep busy, and I still have good feelings about our future, but there's so much "crap" to get through before our "future" begins!

Just bringing these thoughts to words is helping relax me! Thanks for listening!

 

[hatara]

Popping in fanning myself

OK what was that everyone said about breathing?

Tomorrow will be a week since my Classy_Lover arrived at my door and it has been simply wonderful!!!

We just got back from St. Augustine today, we were there for 3 days. We stayed at a beautiful historic bed and breakfast and walked hand and hand through the town. As for the room all I will say is I will never look at neckties the same way!

It is just absolutely amazing. I will pop in again soon but he is not leaving till Saturday so don't look for me much till then.

 

[Smiley777]

Hi LDRs.

Having a particularly rough time today. Oman's work schedule usually brings him away from home one night each week (and it's usually Thursday (which is what spurred me to write my poem of that name; click below if interested).

Now that we have actually been together, it's feeling much worse when a day or two goes by and we're not in touch! Next week looks even rougher (both of us faced with "extra" duties), and I'm feeling anxious to spend as much online time with him as ever before!

Do/Did any of you find things feeling "worse" after your first meeting? I realize we both need to keep busy, and I still have good feelings about our future, but there's so much "crap" to get through before our "future" begins!

Just bringing these thoughts to words is helping relax me! Thanks for listening!

I know exactly what you mean. Me and my girl definetely noticed that time apart is worse after our first meeting. Actually, this week has been extra tough for us as well.....now that I think about it.....we have hardly gotten any large blocks of time to talk this week. Eek za...that hurts.
Getting through the "crap" of each day and week....it has become my highest goal at the moment....just so I can spend more time talking with her. ARGH...it drives me mad. And she is not home again tonight!
So my answer is yes....I know what you are going through. I am so very sorry....but, I am glad we have this thread to share our troubles...you are right, it really does help. I hope you and Oman get through your rough week ahead...I will be thinking about you. Oh, and Hatara...I am very glad to hear about your wonderful time.
I now have less than 20 days until my love arrives to see me! I can't stand these last few weeks.....the anxiety just keeps building and building. Please take care all...I will check back later.