Long Distance Relationships

[hatara]

It's true LDR's get to talk more than so called Normal relationships. I talked about everything with Marty before he got here. Not just sex but school, family and life in general. You talk and talk and get to find out so much before you ever lay eyes on the person and it's awesome. I knew him and his heart before he ever walked through my door.

The you get to meet and look into each other's eyes and see the magic there in person.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

"Each time I miss you, a star falls down from the sky. So, if you looked up at the sky and found it dark with no stars, it is all your fault. You made me miss you too much!"

Geez...
I get "blamed" for everything!!

http://members.aol.com/bemusabord/ck.JPG

 

[mike35ph]

I wish i can find some cyber buddy. one that you could talk with.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I wish i can find some cyber buddy. one that you could talk with.

Hi Mike. I don't believe a "cyber buddy" is the same as an LDR. Being involved in a Long Distance Relationship is something that you really don't look for. Instead it finds you, and once you're involved, it takes a lot of work to keep it going. It's a "real" relationship that goes beyond just the cybering experience.

If you're a new person to the LIT site, I would suggest trying the chat area here, or post a personal "ad" on these boards describing the type of thing you are looking for.

Good luck in your search!

 

[hatara]

OK folks I am really blue and need a little help here.

I went into the tub earlier and a well meaning friend spent an hour trying to convince me that Marty because he had a past lit relationship is going from woman to woman and now that he's had me he will move on. In my heart I know this is a lot of bull and that she doesn't have all the facts and it's not true.

The hard part is that I haven't talked to him in 24 hours not even an email. If I could talk to him I know I would feel better but I also know that he has been sick and is working long hours now to make it up.

Why do people have to do this to you? If they have something against him why not wait and tell him? No one ever mentions these things to him they wait to see me and dump it on me. By the time she was through this morning I was actually physically ill.

Any advice?

 

[twodogs]

talk to me

HEY talk is cheap do not listen to anyone till you talk to him .
do not get yourself all worked up over something that might not be .
From what ive read about that tub room it's a piece of work ,some people don't anything better to do than to start something , be cool

 

[hatara]

Thanks twodogs in my heart I know he loves me. I have looked into his eyes and seen it. I am just wavering because I can't reach him and that is the hard part. Once I do talk to him it will all be fine I'm sure. I am determined not to call him yet because I know he has been working 9 and 10 hour days and really doesn't need this.

Thanks twodogs just needed to hear others say I am not nuts and not alone.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

OK folks I am really blue and need a little help here.
I went into the tub earlier and a well meaning friend spent an hour trying to convince me that Marty because he had a past lit relationship is going from woman to woman and now that he's had me he will move on. In my heart I know this is a lot of bull and that she doesn't have all the facts and it's not true.
The hard part is that I haven't talked to him in 24 hours not even an email. If I could talk to him I know I would feel better but I also know that he has been sick and is working long hours now to make it up.
Why do people have to do this to you? If they have something against him why not wait and tell him? No one ever mentions these things to him they wait to see me and dump it on me. By the time she was through this morning I was actually physically ill.

Any advice?

Hugs Hat!

I'm not sure at all "why" folks do anything!!

When Oman and I were first starting out, I felt a bit of "friction" from some of the ladies of the tub. I couldn't quite explain it, and I was still relatively new, but I did INDEED feel it!

After we "connected" online (thanks to YOU!) Oman started to realize what I was talking about. There are a few ladies that prey on the insecurities of the woman, while staying "friendly" with the man!

Nothing too drastic happened, and because I shared all with Oman (and he with me), things got better.

My advice is to avoid conversing with these so-called "helpers", and just contact Marty himself. A person's past actions does not mean he/she will not change when the right person comes along.

This is part of the reason I've avoided too much time in the tub! I'd be in the tub with Oman (we'd be miked up), and while we were both *snuggling* and conversing in the tub, there were times when some of these "ladies" would be pming him, trying to get him to converse with him on "our" time!

Not sure how clear this sounds, but hang in there! Follow your heart and make your own decisions! Communicate with the person who really matters! Don't try to defend Marty either; just let it ride! There are some jealous folks out there, and although they may mean well, it ends up putting a lot of unnecessary doubts and pressures on things sometimes!

Hang in there!

 

[hatara]

I also can't get into my mail on msn or sign onto msn messenger because it is too busy!!!

 

[twodogs]

me

Iwill always be here for you just talk to me can't help you hun if we don't talk door always open

 

[hatara]

It's just that I can't even get onto email to find out if he has replied to my emails. He was having computer problems and he could be down I just don't know.

 

[twodogs]

easy now

NOw take a little brake don't let your mind run away with you.
It 's ok i'm sure, we have all had trouble with e mail with m s n
right now what you were told i got you to thinking all kinds of things ,forget the tub talk ,it's only talk, now i'm going to watch after you till you here from him relax a little please

 

[hatara]

Thanks twodogs I appreciate it especially since I have to wait in lit chat to see if he pops up since I can't get him on msn. I guess I just miss him.

 

[twodogs]

miss him

Sure you do you are one of them in here that has someone that you love and care about.
It's super to see and here that, there are so many of us that's what we are after , but girl you got it .
I'm proud of you for it ,don't like to see you worrie so much but i would be just like you , people can be so cruel at times ,they are not happy so they don't anybody else happy

Now i'm watching you stay with me

 

[windycityman]

msn messenger

Thanks twodogs I appreciate it especially since I have to wait in lit chat to see if he pops up since I can't get him on msn. I guess I just miss him.

hatara.......thats why I stopped useing msn and it was messing up my compt......so now i use aol.....works all the time <smiles>



WCM

 

[hatara]

LOL i have AOL but he can't load it on his computer.

I finally got into email!!!!!

First thing I got was an email from my Marty.

Now I just need to decide if I am going to tell him what that person said or not.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

LOL i have AOL but he can't load it on his computer.

I finally got into email!!!!!

First thing I got was an email from my Marty.

Now I just need to decide if I am going to tell him what that person said or not.

Hi Hat! Listen to YOUR heart, and I hope you consider what I previously wrote. Sending you and Marty my best wishes.

 

[twodogs]

said

What do you realy think about it ,
Ishould not say anything but as close as you two are i don't think it would hurt , Imight be talking out of school but i don't think you want to keep it form him .
if i'm out of line i'm sorry and tell me to mind my own bussiness

 

[Ebonyfire]

Some people hate to see others happy.

OK folks I am really blue and need a little help here.

I went into the tub earlier and a well meaning friend spent an hour trying to convince me that Marty because he had a past lit relationship is going from woman to woman and now that he's had me he will move on. In my heart I know this is a lot of bull and that she doesn't have all the facts and it's not true.

The hard part is that I haven't talked to him in 24 hours not even an email. If I could talk to him I know I would feel better but I also know that he has been sick and is working long hours now to make it up.

Why do people have to do this to you? If they have something against him why not wait and tell him? No one ever mentions these things to him they wait to see me and dump it on me. By the time she was through this morning I was actually physically ill.

Any advice?

Girl, did you say "she"? Well there you have it. A woman scorned.

I always ignore someone who goes out of their way to tell me something bad. Especially if it is about your man. You have to ask yourself, "what is in it for her/him?" There is always something.

No one can take Marty away from you, unless he wants to be taken.

Just keep doing what you are doing, and have faith in yourself and him.

Ebony

 

[hatara]

Yes I do have faith I was just letting myself get blue today.

twodogs LOL i will tell him because I wind up telling him everything he's also my best friend.

 

[Ebonyfire]

We all get a little blue

Yes I do have faith I was just letting myself get blue today.

twodogs LOL i will tell him because I wind up telling him everything he's also my best friend.

I get blue sometimes myself. Hope you fele better now.

Ebony

 

[twodogs]

good

There you go girl that's it ,that's what it takes to have a sound relationship,up front

 

[hatara]

Yes we talk about everything and I am not going to start hiding things now. We will get through this together and time will prove them wrong!

 

[twodogs]

Need

IF you ever need someone i'm here don't know it all but sometimes i can help ease the uncertain feeling .
I mean it girl i don't want you unhappy your heart knows and you do to .

 

[Bullet3082]

Well tell ya what I am some waht blue tonight it is slow here at lit tonight. Or it could just be me