Long Distance Relationships
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hatara said:I am fine now twodogs thanks to good friends like you and oman. You are both wonderful men.
Hope things are better now, Hat.
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LOL just a really bad day on chat that kept getting worse. Maybe it's time to take a break from chat I don't know. I met Marty in there the other night and that is why I have been in so much. But I think I need to limit my time there.
It gets to the point where it just gets toxic I think.
It gets to the point where it just gets toxic I think.
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hatara said:
Glad to see you're LOLing again, Hat!
Chat was tough for me as I tried to explain earlier! It was fun for a while, but I find myself enjoying spending time with Oman with the mikes, IM and even the boards a lot more fun and rewarding right now.
WOW... I just realized that Smiley's countdown is now 1 day, and LTR/Tiger's countdown must be something like 3 now!!
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Glad to see you're LOLing again, Hat!
Chat was tough for me as I tried to explain earlier! It was fun for a while, but I find myself enjoying spending time with Oman with the mikes, IM and even the boards a lot more fun and rewarding right now.
WOW... I just realized that Smiley's countdown is now 1 day, and LTR/Tiger's countdown must be something like 3 now!!
Oh my gosh!!!! One day....that's it...that is all I have left! She will be here at noon on Wednesday! I am so excited!
I hope you are all doing great...I saw that some of you are on right now..so I will check back in a little bit. My better half just went to bed...she had a very rough night. Not related to us or her trip...but her family is upsetting her at the moment. Just a bad day for her...and I hate it when things upset her at all...especially when it feels like I can do very little to help or to comfort.
I got upset tonight....I did not tell her. But, with everything going on...our time "together" talking has been short these past few days. It is no one's fault...I know we have both had millions of things to take care of, not to mention the unexpected things like tonight. Still, I hate that feeling of having my special time with her cut short...whatever the reason. I hate whenever we have to say, "I love you like crazy...but I really have to go"....even though I know we will be together soon....it still bothers me. Does anyone know what I am talking about?
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Smiley777 said:
I know exactly what you're talking about, Smiley!
Sometimes it gets even worse right before an exciting event, almost like a "test" at the last minute! Only one more "sleep" (well, two if you haven't been to bed yet!), then all of this will be past.
Having hard time myself these days, and Oman feels helpless not being "here" for me. He is though, in my heart, and just having his support is a big boost and blessing!
Hopefully things will look brighter tomorrow (financial hassles and unemployment really "getting" to me!). Oman is just a "ding" away from me, and that's so comforting.
Hang in there, and soon you'll be "hanging" together. All this will feel much better! Enjoy your days together in every way possible!
I know what you mean Jenny. Both myself and my love are facing financial problems at the moment. I have been without work for almost too long...it is starting to be distressing. I know that things will work out...it is just the time before that....that is what is killing me.
I cant wait to see her. I know things will be great once I can see her again. And, after her visit...I will get back to work. Right now, I just want to spend the week relaxing with her...enjoying her company....perhaps even make her laugh
You are not alone Jenny. You can add me to the list of people thinking about you...any boost I can give during these times...I will do my very best. Take care, have a wonderful night.
I cant wait to see her. I know things will be great once I can see her again. And, after her visit...I will get back to work. Right now, I just want to spend the week relaxing with her...enjoying her company....perhaps even make her laugh
You are not alone Jenny. You can add me to the list of people thinking about you...any boost I can give during these times...I will do my very best. Take care, have a wonderful night.
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Smiley777 said:I know what you mean Jenny. Both myself and my love are facing financial problems at the moment. I have been without work for almost too long...it is starting to be distressing. I know that things will work out...it is just the time before that....that is what is killing me.
I cant wait to see her. I know things will be great once I can see her again. And, after her visit...I will get back to work. Right now, I just want to spend the week relaxing with her...enjoying her company....perhaps even make her laugh
You are not alone Jenny. You can add me to the list of people thinking about you...any boost I can give during these times...I will do my very best. Take care, have a wonderful night.
This is why this thread keeps going! It's a great forum for release, isn't it?
Thank you Smiley for your kind words and warm wishes. Please know that you have a friends here who will be thinking of you and your love! Have a great time together! (And of course, keep us posted!)
All the best!
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That's what made the incident today so hard. Marty has been working so much and was sick before that. He really doesn't have time to talk so we have been out of touch. Well not really but haven't had as much time as in the past. I was missing him and our time together and then that happened and it was too much at that moment you know?
But then I get an email from him and a pic of his adorable face and all I can think is awe I want to be with him so much. I love him so much and my world is right again.
But then I get an email from him and a pic of his adorable face and all I can think is awe I want to be with him so much. I love him so much and my world is right again.
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hatara said:That's what made the incident today so hard. Marty has been working so much and was sick before that. He really doesn't have time to talk so we have been out of touch. Well not really but haven't had as much time as in the past. I was missing him and our time together and then that happened and it was too much at that moment you know?
But then I get an email from him and a pic of his adorable face and all I can think is awe I want to be with him so much. I love him so much and my world is right again.
I know too well, Hat! Don't you find things a bit tougher since your meeting? I certainly do!
"A picture's worth a thousand words" though! (Hint, Hint.. Oman!!)
Still cannot believe we didn't take pictures together when he was here!
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LOL neither can I we had discussed all these pics we wanted to take in various positions and stuff and never took any of them!! We just got so caught up in each other nothing else mattered. But I wouldn't change that for the world there is always next time!!
It's just that he got sick when he got back. Then he had to go to all the clients he cancelled when he got sick. He is still not 100% and working long hours. I know that and understand that. I would just love to hear he's sleeping more at this point. But I do miss him so much. I would just like to be able to hold him when he's down and take care of him when he's sick and make sure he eats enough. LOL Basically I guess I just want to love him.
It's just that he got sick when he got back. Then he had to go to all the clients he cancelled when he got sick. He is still not 100% and working long hours. I know that and understand that. I would just love to hear he's sleeping more at this point. But I do miss him so much. I would just like to be able to hold him when he's down and take care of him when he's sick and make sure he eats enough. LOL Basically I guess I just want to love him.
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Sleepless as well, Hat?
I find myself worrying about Oman as well. He travels so much, and as much as I want to be "connected" with him, there are nights that I just need to let him be, hoping he'll get enough sleep to be able to comfortably handle the traveling the following day.
I guess it's our "mothering" instinct coming across, especially when we're willing to give up "our" time together for the benefit of our partner's health!
http://www.madonnahouse.org/publications/covers/Mothering.jpg
I think it works both ways as well. I'm having a major financial problem right now, and Oman feels a bit "helpless" being "there" when I'm having trouble "here". At times like this it's much harder being there for the other, since those miles interfere a bit!
I find myself worrying about Oman as well. He travels so much, and as much as I want to be "connected" with him, there are nights that I just need to let him be, hoping he'll get enough sleep to be able to comfortably handle the traveling the following day.
I guess it's our "mothering" instinct coming across, especially when we're willing to give up "our" time together for the benefit of our partner's health!
http://www.madonnahouse.org/publications/covers/Mothering.jpg
I think it works both ways as well. I'm having a major financial problem right now, and Oman feels a bit "helpless" being "there" when I'm having trouble "here". At times like this it's much harder being there for the other, since those miles interfere a bit!
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Jenny thanks for teaching me how to put images in!! I finally got it LOL
Yes it is a sleepless night. I emailed Marty and told him everything that was said and that is not easy. He is such a sweet man and people just don't know the whole story. But he is a gentlemen and will not talk of it. That's part of what makes me love him so. But this will hurt him. He is always hurt when I get upset but I have to be honest with him always. It's not in me to lie and I just could never lie to him. Besides I figured if I didn't tell him someone else would and I would rather have it be me. That way after telling him I can also tell him how much I love him and how much he means to me.
Jenny thanks for teaching me how to put images in!! I finally got it LOL
Yes it is a sleepless night. I emailed Marty and told him everything that was said and that is not easy. He is such a sweet man and people just don't know the whole story. But he is a gentlemen and will not talk of it. That's part of what makes me love him so. But this will hurt him. He is always hurt when I get upset but I have to be honest with him always. It's not in me to lie and I just could never lie to him. Besides I figured if I didn't tell him someone else would and I would rather have it be me. That way after telling him I can also tell him how much I love him and how much he means to me.
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Long Distance Relationship?
I've been in a long distance relationship, there were 3 states and a different time zone that seperated us for over 2 yrs. Now we are married and together all the time. I won't lie and say it's the easiest endeavor I've ever partaken in, but it wasn't that difficult either. As long as your heart is there with them your biggest job is to keep your mind occupied. There were lots of tears and "I miss you's" to deal with, but the once every 2 months visits together made it all worthwhile. We met over the computer, got to know each other inside and out before meeting face to face, once we did that the missing was even worse, because then we knew exactly what we were missing and longing for. It is up to the person on how to keep the emotional carrying the physical. The phone sex is great though, that is a plus, and you don't have to sleep in the wet spot! It can be done and it's well worth it in the end. We've been married nearly 6 yrs now and he is my best friend, there is nothing we don't know about each other. Mostly because when you aren't face to face but only voice to voice, you have a lot of time to share things about yourself and then let the compatibility grow! Wish you lots of luck!
I've been in a long distance relationship, there were 3 states and a different time zone that seperated us for over 2 yrs. Now we are married and together all the time. I won't lie and say it's the easiest endeavor I've ever partaken in, but it wasn't that difficult either. As long as your heart is there with them your biggest job is to keep your mind occupied. There were lots of tears and "I miss you's" to deal with, but the once every 2 months visits together made it all worthwhile. We met over the computer, got to know each other inside and out before meeting face to face, once we did that the missing was even worse, because then we knew exactly what we were missing and longing for. It is up to the person on how to keep the emotional carrying the physical. The phone sex is great though, that is a plus, and you don't have to sleep in the wet spot! It can be done and it's well worth it in the end. We've been married nearly 6 yrs now and he is my best friend, there is nothing we don't know about each other. Mostly because when you aren't face to face but only voice to voice, you have a lot of time to share things about yourself and then let the compatibility grow! Wish you lots of luck!
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Re: Long Distance Relationship?
Thank you, SweetSassy, for sharing your story! What a great one it is, and you've hit directly on the feelings (both good and bad) that LDRs encounter. Yes, the feeling are much stronger since our actual meeting, but worth every one; we seem not to take much for granted more than ever before.
Congrats on your marriage (6 years! Wow!)! Loving your best friend is such a wonderful feeling. Just curious, How did you decide where to live together?
Best wishes for continued happiness together!
sweet_sassy said:I've been in a long distance relationship, there were 3 states and a different time zone that seperated us for over 2 yrs. Now we are married and together all the time. I won't lie and say it's the easiest endeavor I've ever partaken in, but it wasn't that difficult either. As long as your heart is there with them your biggest job is to keep your mind occupied. There were lots of tears and "I miss you's" to deal with, but the once every 2 months visits together made it all worthwhile. We met over the computer, got to know each other inside and out before meeting face to face, once we did that the missing was even worse, because then we knew exactly what we were missing and longing for. It is up to the person on how to keep the emotional carrying the physical. The phone sex is great though, that is a plus, and you don't have to sleep in the wet spot! It can be done and it's well worth it in the end. We've been married nearly 6 yrs now and he is my best friend, there is nothing we don't know about each other. Mostly because when you aren't face to face but only voice to voice, you have a lot of time to share things about yourself and then let the compatibility grow! Wish you lots of luck!
Thank you, SweetSassy, for sharing your story! What a great one it is, and you've hit directly on the feelings (both good and bad) that LDRs encounter. Yes, the feeling are much stronger since our actual meeting, but worth every one; we seem not to take much for granted more than ever before.
Congrats on your marriage (6 years! Wow!)! Loving your best friend is such a wonderful feeling. Just curious, How did you decide where to live together?
Best wishes for continued happiness together!
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Now see everybody it does work , they knew one another before they met , were best friends ,stayed with it even though it was very hard.
Now i know the most of y'all have found that also ,if not y'all are almost there.
Takes a lot of work ,trust ,understanding, and talking a lot .
Sure you can't put your arms around them everyday but your in there heart and on there mind everyday.
Don't be afraid to try , loneness last a long time and the longer to go the worse it will get.
So we have had a bad one , no reason to pull back and not take another chance.
You had one that did'nt work so you say i can't go in it agin,but what you went through is over, like i say yesterday is GONE and tomorrow not here yet so just live for today and one day at a time till you get on top agin, and you will be on top agin but you got to take that chance , if you don't well what can isay other than what do you have now .
Now see everybody it does work , they knew one another before they met , were best friends ,stayed with it even though it was very hard.
Now i know the most of y'all have found that also ,if not y'all are almost there.
Takes a lot of work ,trust ,understanding, and talking a lot .
Sure you can't put your arms around them everyday but your in there heart and on there mind everyday.
Don't be afraid to try , loneness last a long time and the longer to go the worse it will get.
So we have had a bad one , no reason to pull back and not take another chance.
You had one that did'nt work so you say i can't go in it agin,but what you went through is over, like i say yesterday is GONE and tomorrow not here yet so just live for today and one day at a time till you get on top agin, and you will be on top agin but you got to take that chance , if you don't well what can isay other than what do you have now .
" It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive."
It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive."
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