Long Distance Relationships

[Lady_Sam]

Well I'm glad youre spending it with us I'm waiting for my phone call too!

I noticed that you post on my other favorite board....BBWPics. SO far I have only chatted there....no pics...lol

Hehe the pics I've posted there are about the extent of those I'll post publicly. Daeth gets the others.

As to how do you know? Well for me, it was the realization that not only was Daeth my best friend (He was there for me for a long time as a friend) But that I longed to be able to hold him and touch him. When he's not there, I just miss him. But more importantly, was when I realized that his happiness was more important than our being together. That if being apart would make him happy, that was all I wanted. And I did let him go for a while there, while he was working some things out.

And fate being the odd worker she is, sent him back to me

 

[sxychick21]

fate is kind and cruel

That is so great that he came back! Sometimes that is important too....My man is going through some ex-related crap and its hard to see him suffer but i know he has to get through it or we wont ever be good...you know what i mean? I'm kind of glad we're waiting till august. its TOURTURE but at the same time I get to learn more about him and we get to go through some of those tests. We've only ever had good days so im interested to see what the bad days are like. is that weird of me? lol

 

[Lady_Sam]

Re: fate is kind and cruel

That is so great that he came back! Sometimes that is important too....My man is going through some ex-related crap and its hard to see him suffer but i know he has to get through it or we wont ever be good...you know what i mean? I'm kind of glad we're waiting till august. its TOURTURE but at the same time I get to learn more about him and we get to go through some of those tests. We've only ever had good days so im interested to see what the bad days are like. is that weird of me? lol

In order for the future to open up, the door to the past must close. And I'd say it would be weird of you if you only expected to continue to have those good days. This is just like a normal relationship aside from the distance thing. We have our ups and our downs. Daeth (so hard to keep from typing his real name) and I have known each other as friends for much longer than we have known that we wanted to see if we could make a go at being a couple.

 

[sxychick21]

Re: Re: fate is kind and cruel

In order for the future to open up, the door to the past must close. And I'd say it would be weird of you if you only expected to continue to have those good days. This is just like a normal relationship aside from the distance thing. We have our ups and our downs. Daeth (so hard to keep from typing his real name) and I have known each other as friends for much longer than we have known that we wanted to see if we could make a go at being a couple.

Se we flew through the friend part....although....a month worth of 2 hour phone conversations counts as alot of friendship...giggling!

Thats what i mean about the time scale thing. Its so compressed online. i reveal more in an hour on here than i would on 3-4 dates in RL.....sometimes good sometimes bad....lol

 

[Lady_Sam]

Re: Re: Re: fate is kind and cruel

Se we flew through the friend part....although....a month worth of 2 hour phone conversations counts as alot of friendship...giggling!

Thats what i mean about the time scale thing. Its so compressed online. i reveal more in an hour on here than i would on 3-4 dates in RL.....sometimes good sometimes bad....lol

Oh yeah that's the joy and terror of it all. The uncertainty of the future and of meetings, but to me, Daeth is worth all of this.

 

[sxychick21]

Phone...

Ooohh theres my phone call....thanks for the advice and friendship Lady Sam....talk to you all tommorow!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: When do you know?

The kicker for me was realizing I wanted to be with him not just with him till someone better came along. When did you know he/she was the one? Were there extra doubts because of the unconventional way you met?

Hi Sxychick It's good to have some sort of "goal", so August should allow a nice breadth of time for you two to get even closer. Good luck, and all the best.

Oman knew before I did! I just couldn't believe that meeting someone online was possible. There was one 4-day weekend when my computer went down, and the desperation and lonliness and emotions I went through being disconnected from this "omahaman" was something I had never experienced before. It was then I realized I was in love with him. At the point of this shutdown we had NOT yet exchanged full names, email addys or phone numbers!! What a relief to get back online and see that "JennyHill" had a slew of messages in her LIT account!

Oman and I have already gone through some bad times, but it has only reinforced our love as more "walls" from our past experiences have been broken down (past emotions relating to past relations are certainly blisters that pop up unexpectantly). To deal with these together is a scary, yet wonderful, bonding experience.

Hope you and Lady Sam have a great evening on the phone tonight! Send my regards!!

 

[Lady_Sam]

Re: Re: When do you know?

Hope you and Lady Sam have a great evening on the phone tonight! Send my regards!!

Just wish I would be awake when Daeth gets home to hear his voice.

 

[Top Cat]

When did we know....?????

When we were chatting online and we would both type the same thing at the same time....
almost word for word... we knew what eachother was thinking... It was a spiritual thing more than sex or lust... *WEG*... but the cyber/phone sex has been great... never thought I would do that... just seems so natural. Now I can't wait for the real thing...

We make bets with each other... silly ones really... like, she bet I would not call her mother on the phone.... I won that bet

Our wager is always the same....

The winner gets to do anything with the loser... ANYTHING...

2 rules.. no humiliation and not harmful.

We are storing them up for when we are together... one big party...
It feels like we should have been together all our lives... like we knew each other from earlier times...
This beautiful lady is mine... I just KNOW it...

 

[Top Cat]

Ooopsss

Hi to everyone, Jenny, Lady Sam, sxychick

sorry for being so rude... I hang my head in shame

 

[Kat-44]

When did we know....?????

When we were chatting online and we would both type the same thing at the same time....
almost word for word... we knew what eachother was thinking... It was a spiritual thing more than sex or lust... *WEG*... but the cyber/phone sex has been great... never thought I would do that... just seems so natural. Now I can't wait for the real thing...

We make bets with each other... silly ones really... like, she bet I would not call her mother on the phone.... I won that bet

Our wager is always the same....

The winner gets to do anything with the loser... ANYTHING...

2 rules.. no humiliation and not harmful.

We are storing them up for when we are together... one big party...
It feels like we should have been together all our lives... like we knew each other from earlier times...
This beautiful lady is mine... I just KNOW it...

sounds like a special lady.........*smile* good luck..........

 

[Top Cat]

Hi Kat, Thanks *smile*, she is...

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Ooopsss

Hi to everyone, Jenny, Lady Sam, sxychick

sorry for being so rude... I hang my head in shame

What beautiful words you wrote about your lady, T.C.!! (Sounds like another couple "I know"!)

You are definitely NOT rude; I sometimes don't get around to acknowledging everyone, so don't worry!

 

[Lady_Sam]

Re: Ooopsss

Hi to everyone, Jenny, Lady Sam, sxychick

sorry for being so rude... I hang my head in shame

Naw...we'll just break out the wet noodles

How're you TC?

 

[omahaman2]

Where You Are



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There are times
I swear I know you're here
I forget about my fears
Feelin you my dear

Watchin over me
My hope sees
What the future will bring
When you wrap your wings

And take me where you are
Where you and I will be together
Once again, we'll be dancin in the moonlight
Just like we used to do
And you'll be smilin back at me
Only then will I be free
When I can be, where you are

And I can see your face
Your kiss I still can taste
Not a memory erased

Oh, how I see your star
Shinin down on me
And I'd do anything
If I could just, be right there where you are

Where you and I will breathe together
Once again we'll be dancin in the moonlight
Just like we used to do
And you'll be smilin back at me (you'll be smilin back at me)

Only then will I be free
Then I will be free, so take me where you are

Now baby there are times when selfishly
I wishin that you were here with me
So I can wipe the tears from your eyes and make you see

That every night when you are dreamin
I'm here to guard you from afar
And anytime I feel in love
I'll close my eyes and dream of where you are

where you are

Where you and I will breathe together
Once again we'll be dancin in the moonlight
Just like we used to do
And you'll be smilin back at me (you'll be smilin back at me)

Only then will I be free
Then I will be free,

Baby I still believe
Oh I gotta believe
I still believe
I will touch you that sweet day

That you take me there
Where you are (where you are)
I still believe
Whoooooa, I gotta believe
I still believe
I will touch you that sweet day

That you take me there
Where you are, oh where you are!
I still believe
I gotta believe
I still believe
I'll always be waiting here

That sweet day (that sweet day, yeah!)

I still believe......I still believe

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Ohhhhhh Mannnnnnnnnnn

Thank you for sharing that beautiful song! My is so full of love right now, enjoying another special night together. I love you.

http://www.quota.org/images/moonlight.gif

Hoping we share many, many, many more "moonlights" together!

 

[AmishPope]

I would be very interested in hearing from anyone who has been, or plans to be, involved with someone living far far away from you.

Whether it be a favorite cyber buddy, or some "real world" someone special who is forced to live away from the home area, I would like to know any ideas or tips you could offer to help to keep a relationship like this alive..

I am at the start of such a relationship, and already sense feelings of loss and anxiousness (plus my mind "living" in two time zones at once), and yet I still maintain a very positive outlook that this will work out despite so many odds.

The internet allows for feelings of closeness with distant partners, and the phone is fine (but so expensive). Please feel free to offer any insight you can on dealing with this.

Many thanks

buy a cellphone and get unlimited nights & weekends. i guess thsi works for us since we talk at night mostly.

 

[hatara]

May I also say that phone cards at Sam's Club are only 3.4 something cents a minute and can be renewed by phone!! For those where cell phones are not an option. If you are calling another country you don't have the same rate but trust me it is sooooooooooo much cheaper than the long distance charges!! Found that out when I made the mistake of calling a friend in the UK without using one!

As for books I am currently reading

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0767902874.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

It is awesome!!

 

[hatara]

OK folks here goes. LOL now that I have talked to Marty about this time to let my friends here in on what is going on.

From the time I was 11 to 28 I used to pass out once a month when I got my period. They wrote it off to my blood pressure dropping for some reason and said eventually it would go away. A few months ago I started passing out once a month and insisted the dr do something since this was not acceptable. I took something known as a tilt table test on Monday. My mom came up and took me to the hospital for it. Well they were a little off.

Turns out it is not my blood pressure at all but in fact my heart rate that dramatically drops when I pass out. They say I have probably had this since 11 they just didn't know how to diagnose it properly then. The look on my mother's face when that dr said well it's not bad enough for a pacemaker so they will treat it with medication was unreal!

My parents now want to come up and spend some time with me. Unfortunately this is also the same time that Marty will be visiting! I understand their concern but truth is they tend to cause more stress. I am more relaxed when Marty is here than any other time. Besides they say exercise is good for me!

To finally wrap this one up that is why I have not been on as much as usual lately. The test did kind of do a number on me.

I just can't wait till Marty visits and I can relax in his arms. OK and do other things too LOL

 

[Top Cat]

lol Hat... my parents asked me to go to their house in May... just as Heather is arriving... finding the right excuse was the hardest thing...
At least they are not coming here...

Best wishes for your health... and for the visit with Marty

tc

 

[hatara]

Thanks TC. I just can't imagine them bringing their motorhome to a state park about 10 miles away when Marty will be staying here that week. I think I have to bite the bullet and think of a reason to tell them not to come! LOL Marty did make a few suggestions as to what to say but I have to give this one some careful thought. One wrong word and they could wind up here for a week!!!

Incidently any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated and what excuse are you using?

 

[Top Cat]

well.... i have not come up with one yet... i'd like some suggestions too please....

tc

 

[JennyOmanHill]

WOW, Hat!! Sorry to hear about your heart problems, but so much can be done now as it's good they finally zeroed in on what was really causing your blackouts. Hugs.

As far as your other decision! LOL... Lot's of luck!! Well, actually I very well understand it. I gather they know nothing of Marty at all? It's a tough call as you know they are genuinely concerned about you. Don't yet have any suggestion for you! I'm sure you and Marty can come up with some idea that won't alarm them or have them feel you REALLY don't want them around!

Cellphones (especially the weekend deals) and those ever-loving phone cards are wonderful! Thanks to Hat, though, Oman and I still spend most of our time connected with our mikes!

Oman sent me this web addy that features a very informative note written by someone who was involved in and LDR. Hope you find it as meaningful and helpful as I did!

LDR Letter of Advice

 

[omahaman2]

HI FRIEND,SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR CONDITION TAKE CARE.I REALLY DONT HAVE ANY ADVICE TO TELL YOU WHAT TO TELL YOUR PARENTS BUT I DO LNOW YOU WANT THE TIME WITH MARTYi,ALSO, WANT TIME WITH MY LDR,MY LOVE,MY JENNY,i HOPE SHE KNOWS(Everything I Do) I Do It For You

Look into my eyes - you will see
What you mean to me
Search your heart - search your soul
And when you find me there you'll search no more
Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for
You can't tell me it's not worth dyin' for
You know it's true
Everything I do - I do it for you

Look into my heart - you will find
There's nothin' there to hide
Take me as I am - take my life
I would give it all I would sacrifice
Don't tell me it's not worth fightin' for
I can't help it there's nothin' I want more
Ya know it's true
Everything I do - I do it for you

There's no love - like your love
And no other - could give more love
There's nowhere - unless you're there
All the time - all the way

Don't tell me it's not worth tryin' for
I can't help it there's nothin' I want more
I would fight for you - I'd lie for you
Walk the wire for you - Ya I'd die for you

Ya know it's true
Everything I do - I do it for you

 

[Top Cat]

Hi jenny, Oman...

I was just on the phone to my lover... her phone does not make it to the shower... damn...

I read some of the posts from this thread... we cried together over some... we will be together...

We are both in our early 40's... meeting like this is not what I would have thought was something I would do...

Just as the saying goes.. NO ONE can tell what the future holds...

Nite all... have a good night and tomorrow...

tc