Long Distance Relationships

[JennyOmanHill]

Thumbs up, yes!

... But, we've found that honesty, communication on a regular basis really helps to bridge whatever gaps that the time and space throws between us. I once thought that I'd NEVER use the net to meet someone in the romantic sense, as my parents always preached that "only psychos and perverts" utilized the net searching for victims.... heheh I am glad to say I've proven them 100% wrong.. at least in my case.
Best of luck.. and no matter what you and he do, be honest, be caring and always look for the positives, even when it seems that too many things conspire against you both .... /hug
-Gabrielle

Thank you so much Gabrielle for sharing your story. As my previous post noted, I'm in an exceptionally low mood tonight, but your words have boosted my spirits more than you could know.

Honesty is indeed so important (and part of the reason I'm "alone" tonight!). Any distance away from the one you love is hard to bridge, but Oman and I are trying our best. February cannot come soon enough however!

Your words have offered another example of the positiveness that is indeed possible in any LDR. I wish you and yours continued happiness.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

A Poem

LDR

Quiet...
suddenly realizing how loud the clock ticks!
Turning off the tv
only making things worse.

Sighing...
willing yourself to bed,
knowing it would be fruitless
since your mind continues racing.

Clicking...
writing one more note.
Idle fingertips on the keys
resting between random thoughts.

DING!
Jumping up suddenly,
heart beating quickly,
back in his arms for a goodnight kiss!

 

[Babydoll508]

long distance relationship

I have met two men online. The second one I am currently married to. We have been married for over 2 1/2 years and just had our first child.
I had a somewhat bad experience with the first guy I met. We chatted online, emailed and talked on the phone before I flew up to meet him. I live in Florida, and flew to Maryland. We had a great time together (WONDERFUL). And we decided to have a long distance relationship. Well the next month I went up to see him again, and when I came back home, he decided to break it off with him. Come to find out, that he was meeting many women on the net and meeting with them. He turned out to be a player. But I will never regret what I had with him.
I met my husband in a chat room months after this and we became friends, he was also going through a breakup with someone online. And we just grew close from that. We had a long distance relationship for about 6 months and then he moved down here to be with me from Pennsylvania

 

[Guest]

I have had long distance relationships(2 online). The first felt as real as any i had ever had. I felt tied and locked to the computer or whatever other communication device i could find. The phone would ring and i would think its her! Of course most times it wasn't and slowly I began to loose track of other things in my life. That one ended badly. Very for me. I was crushed and hurt and i had the additional pain of part of me wanting to deny I felt anything, and feeling foolish for it.

The second was much more even and level. The commitment was there and when we were with each other it was very very special but neither of us had expectations beyond those moments we spent together. I suppose in some minds that may cheapen the relationship but at the very least we were honest. Because of that there was trust.

Trust is the first casualty so many times in long distance relationships. If you cannot trust your partner you have little indeed.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Trust and Honesty

Trust and honesty are essential, along with patience; I'm finding this out day after day.

The time spent together is always wonderful, but as our obligations cause us to be away from our "connecting devices", it weighs heavily in our hearts.

Thank you Babydoll. All the best in your wonderful relationship; glad you gave it another try.

Thank you Alltherage for your honesty in retrospect regarding your first LDR. It sounds like you are no longer involved with the more level LDR you had the next time around. Did it also trail off, or are you still in touch?

 

[Guest]

We are still in touch but not as it was. We found our friendship grew much more deeply than our desire for that relationship. I can say now that we are dear friends and we know things about one another that few people do. The best part is that because we understood the limitations involved the transition we made was relatively smooth, but alas not without some pain. I wish you the very best. I do believe in love. Cynic that i am i feel i must. If you have found it then your only course is to see where it leads and i hope it leads to wonderous lands filled with joy.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

We are still in touch but not as it was. We found our friendship grew much more deeply than our desire for that relationship. I can say now that we are dear friends and we know things about one another that few people do. The best part is that because we understood the limitations involved the transition we made was relatively smooth, but alas not without some pain. I wish you the very best. I do believe in love. Cynic that i am i feel i must. If you have found it then your only course is to see where it leads and i hope it leads to wonderous lands filled with joy.

Although my LDT and I haven't yet met, we already feel that the "worst" that will happen by the time we do is that we will have become great friends. It's reassuring to hear you and your LDR, although in a different way than anticipated, have become dear friends as well.

Thank you for your good wishes and I hope you have a good holiday season. (I noticed with your postings you are no longer a "virgin", but "experienced"! Congrats!)

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: behind you

We're ALL behind you! And it's not just because of the view!!
(Do we feel like we're behind you because of your avitar??)

Well, Shameless... once again I'm using a note to you to bump this thread back up a bit! Hope the change in my avitar won't stop your support!

Did want to say that your poetry continues to strike nerves in my system, and hopefully my future works will do the same for others.

And thank you, my dear Oman, for inspiring me in so many ways!

 

[Guest]

Your very welcome. Hope my feable imput helps you. And how exactly did i become experienced. anywho? lmao. I guess this place really is addicting huh?

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Your very welcome. Hope my feable imput helps you. And how exactly did i become experienced. anywho? lmao. I guess this place really is addicting huh?

This place has become a second home to me!
You became "experienced" on your 30th post.
At 100, you'll get to choose an avitar (picture) under your name!
Yes, your input is helpful to me, and thanks again!

 

[Guest]

I am approaching 40 posts i think. Should make 100 by thursday. ok then maybe friday and no dang later. i want a picture!

 

[Ladybird]

Hugs to Jenny and Oman

Hiya Jenny, I've been reading thru this thread and have seen so much love and support for you and Oman, that I wanted to add mine as well.

I guess I was one of the witnesses to your love... seeing you spend more and more time together in 'the tub'... until you became exclusive to each other.

I have no doubt that you and Oman will make it work.

The wedding... of course I want to be there!! I expect an invitation as soon as the date is announced !!

Love to you both... Sharon

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Hugs to Jenny and Oman

Hiya Jenny, I've been reading thru this thread and have seen so much love and support for you and Oman, that I wanted to add mine as well.
I guess I was one of the witnesses to your love... seeing you spend more and more time together in 'the tub'... until you became exclusive to each other.
I have no doubt that you and Oman will make it work.
The wedding... of course I want to be there!! I expect an invitation as soon as the date is announced !!
Love to you both... Sharon

Huggs back to you sweet LB (Sharon)

Thanks for taking the time to read through this thread, and, yes, you were there from the beginning! Feels like years already in some ways, yet I'm still counting hours until we meet for real, hopefully in February. Still trying to stay cool about it, but there are times when I'm just too excited at the thought!

We both appreciate your good wishes, and of course you'll be invited to the "wedding" ... but Tulip is already designated as our flower girl. Would you perhaps like to give me away??

 

[Ladybird]

The Wedding..

Oh Jenny... I could think of no greater honour.. thank you.

And I promise you this.. if there ever is a wedding.. I will be there.. regardless of the distance.

In fact... you couldn't keep me away.. <smile>

Then perhaps... a honeymoon in Australia??

 

[Blue Dolphin]

Poetess

Hi Jenny,
your poem my love.
It spoke to me,I felt every word boring a hole through my memory.
I think it is stunning,and says so much.
It is truly from deep within the heart.

dalighted to see the posts from our mutual friend Ladybird,and can only echo the hopes and rdreans that she has for you both.
You are a wonderful lady,and Oma (sorry but he has been Oma to me from day one),ai a beautiful man.If I could only have one wish in all of my life,it would be that you both get there my love.
Hugs and kisses from Merrie Old England Jenny.
And write more poems,it is amazing

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Ladybird and P!!!!

I am so touched by your kind and sincere wishes for Oman and I. We're at a delicate stage where our absence from each other is really starting to affect both of us, and your words and blessings truly boost our spirits!

And to receive such warm words regarding my first poem is a priceless gift, especially from you P... a poet who knows what it means to write from his heart.

Gosh, this is starting to feel as good as the "aussie" thread!

And please note, Alltherage, I am now really REALLY experienced!! (yeah, sure.....)

 

[tatts~horny65]

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

G'day from Australia,Jenny,I have been in a long distance relationship for approximately 4 weeks now & I feel the key to its success is to mix the conversation up between the two parties,variety is the spice of life,they say,I would love to experience more long distance relationships,provided there is 100% respect from both parties & 100% trust as well,without these two facets,it just won't work.
I wish you all the love & caring in your future dalliences with L.D.R.
Feel free to drop me a line at: tdah_leosnake36@hotmail.com
Take care,
LOVE LONG & HARD!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

G'day from Australia,Jenny,I have been in a long distance relationship for approximately 4 weeks now & I feel the key to its success is to mix the conversation up between the two parties,variety is the spice of life,they say,I would love to experience more long distance relationships,provided there is 100% respect from both parties & 100% trust as well,without these two facets,it just won't work.
I wish you all the love & caring in your future dalliences with L.D.R.
Feel free to drop me a line at: tdah_leosnake36@hotmail.com
Take care,
LOVE LONG & HARD!

Hi Tatts, nice to meet you! Thank you for posting your LDR experience on this thread, and welcome to Lit.

Trust and honesty seem to be the most important factors for us so far, and I will keep in mind your variety suggestion. Hoping this will become a little easier if Santa gives us mikes to talk through the internet! And we are aiming to actually meet early 2002.

If you haven't already, please check out the "aussie" thread. It will give you a great chance to meet your fellow aussies (I'm one of the "honorary" ones!), and it's one of the friendliest ways to keep in touch.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Speak into the Mike

Jenny

Being a computer nerd I have access to stuff like that. If you show up one of these days, you don't need to wait for Santa I can get em to you for free

 

[lovetoread]

I think the hardest thing for me is waiting for the day we meet. I am a very impatient person usually.

JMO,I hope to come back and tell ya how it goes. I hope you and your fella are doing well.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Hello Santa!

Jenny
Being a computer nerd I have access to stuff like that. If you show up one of these days, you don't need to wait for Santa I can get em to you for free

I love the word FREE! I promise I'll show up one of these times, and I thank you in advance for helping us to "mike"!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Losing Patience Myself

I think the hardest thing for me is waiting for the day we meet. I am a very impatient person usually.
JMO,I hope to come back and tell ya how it goes. I hope you and your fella are doing well.

There's not a morning, or evening, that goes by without me yearning to board a plane myself and pay a visit to Oman.

Please do let me know how things go with you and tiger! You're planning on meeting soon, right? All my best wishes for the both of you!

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

HO HO HO

I love the word FREE! I promise I'll show up one of these times, and I thank you in advance for helping us to "mike"!

Bear in mind I don't run around with them in my pockets. I need advanced warning

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: HO HO HO

Bear in mind I don't run around with them in my pockets. I need advanced warning

LOL

Is that a mike in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?

I will definitely advance notice you, Shameless! Thanks so much for the offer.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

A lonely Friday?

I love posting things to bump up onto the first page again!

But, seriously, my love is on the road again, and it might be a long, lonely night. We finally heard each other's voices (which is hard to depend on, since we're both broke and cannot phone much ... but should be miked in the new year <thanks to Shameless!>).

Anyway, any suggestions on how to fill up my evening would be greatly appreciated. So any LDR's out there who have experienced any "down times" please help me out. Thanks!