Long Distance Relationships

[espressolover]

Hi, jenny

Been awhile since I posted on here...
How are you?
Glad to hear you finally heard one another...how long had it been before you had the pleasure of that?
My love and I speak to each other as often as possble, almost form day-one. We talked on the phone for a couple minutes per day for awhile, then we had to slack off of that. He got his bill and he said it was huge, so we have stopped for a bit.
He is so far away, that a minute or two per day for a month, really added up.
Have you guys used voice chat? That helps tremendously. We use Yahoo voice, as each of us has a headset that we can use. But, alas...we can't do that as often as we like because of the time difference...when he is able to talk, he is at work, with staff outside the door. So, he gets to listen to me everyday, and I get to listen to him on Saturday. But, no problem I get to at least hear him breathing!! Love that!!

I buy lots of books and have a popcorn and movie nite once a week to fill up those lonely times. I have had to get quite creative...lol.


Good luck, jenny...my best to the both of you!!!


Wishes and prayers,
espressolover

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Just a thought

Anyway, any suggestions on how to fill up my evening would be greatly appreciated. So any LDR's out there who have experienced any "down times" please help me out. Thanks!

One word, WRITE

Just because you're in the middle of writing one thing, doesn't mean you can't put it down and start writing how you feel without the big O (pun intended)

Or you can get in touch with your other buds and BS.

Guess I'll be seeing more of you (though not as much as in the avitar) this weekend.



take care

 

[mistyc]

long distance relationships

I have been involved in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years, and out of all that time i suppose we would have spent 2 months together. In fact when I say LONG distance, I don't think you could get further apart than us. I am currently in Aus and he is stateside. I love him dearly and with every breath, so I have to make this work.
And work at it I do. We send letters to each other every week, we email each other every day, sometimes as much as 5 times a day. We talk on the net and we phone each other once a week, and can spend up to 2-3 hours on the phone.

If you truelly care about that person, then go for it. I sincerely wish you all the best. I know it's the best thing I have ever done was to fall in love with my guy.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: long distance relationships

I have been involved in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years, and out of all that time i suppose we would have spent 2 months together. In fact when I say LONG distance, I don't think you could get further apart than us. I am currently in Aus and he is stateside. I love him dearly and with every breath, so I have to make this work.
And work at it I do. We send letters to each other every week, we email each other every day, sometimes as much as 5 times a day. We talk on the net and we phone each other once a week, and can spend up to 2-3 hours on the phone.
If you truelly care about that person, then go for it. I sincerely wish you all the best. I know it's the best thing I have ever done was to fall in love with my guy.

Thanks for sharing this. We have just started our phone experiences; much cheaper on the internet. Gotta get those mikes!
2 years sounds wonderful. And reading your description... are you planning to move to the states to be with him?
Good luck to all of us, and I'm glad you chose to post here.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: Just a thought

One word, WRITE
Just because you're in the middle of writing one thing, doesn't mean you can't put it down and start writing how you feel without the big O (pun intended)
Or you can get in touch with your other buds and BS.
Guess I'll be seeing more of you (though not as much as in the avitar) this weekend.
take care

And I continue to write!! Thanks Shameless.

 

[omahaman2]

posting

dont really have much to say here just wanted to post something now so it would be next to jennys.anything to be next to jenny ibn posts,chat email or in the real world.raising hand as living proof ldrs do work.psssst whispering to jenny. i love you,with my whole heart.and being.I hope you know that

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: posting

dont really have much to say here just wanted to post something now so it would be next to jennys.anything to be next to jenny ibn posts,chat email or in the real world.raising hand as living proof ldrs do work.psssst whispering to jenny. i love you,with my whole heart.and being.I hope you know that

Yes, I do know that! Thank you again for your love, your understanding, your support, your comfort, your humor, your honesty, and so much more. You have allowed me the freedom to be myself. I love you too.

 

[hatara]

Hi Jenny and hugggsssssss hun

You and Oman will stand the test of time you have everything it takes.

Now as you know we have talked about voice chat often in the chat room. MSN is good but tends to have problems and lately MSN has had problems with being down because of traffic. For voice chat AOL im is much better. Both you and Oman can download the new aim for free at www.aol.com. I have helped many people online set up their voice chat lately so if either of you need any help just let me know.

I am looking forward to the day when the two of you get together. All the "tubbers" know it will be wonderful.

Love you both.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Thank you Hat!!

Hi Jenny and hugggsssssss hun
You and Oman will stand the test of time you have everything it takes.
...Both you and Oman can download the new aim for free at www.aol.com. I have helped many people online set up their voice chat lately so if either of you need any help just let me know.
I am looking forward to the day when the two of you get together. All the "tubbers" know it will be wonderful.
Love you both.

Welcome to Lit's BB! Oh hat... it's so nice of you to post here, and oman and I will indeed soon be "connected". Thanks so much for the MSN recommendation.

Oman and I have both been honored by the support of all of our friends.. first in the tub, then here on the boards. Hope you enjoy the board experience as much as I have (and just imagine, you're a virgin again!). Huggggggggs back to you hat! and many many thanks.

 

[jaded]

long distance relationships

I wish you the best of luck with your relationship! I've been involved in a long distance relationship for almost a year now!
Computers are a wonderful thing. We use netmeeting a lot as this allows us to see each other and talk to each other.

I also found a site that offers free calling cards. you of course have to visit websites, shop for things if you want to and so on. without buying anything, I've earned over 60 free minutes. phonehog.com

I also have a friend who's bf bought a cell phone that offers free nights and weekends. They told me they've talked for over 1600 minutes and not spent a penny more than the monthly bill.

There are lots of options out there! Best of luck to you!!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: long distance relationships

I wish you the best of luck with your relationship! I've been involved in a long distance relationship for almost a year now!
Computers are a wonderful thing. We use netmeeting a lot as this allows us to see each other and talk to each other.
...There are lots of options out there! Best of luck to you!!

Thanks so much for posting here, Jaded! We've been picking up a lot of great suggestions; can't wait to try them out! It's so encouraging to hear from so many who have had or are still involved with an LDR. Best wishes to you and yours.

 

[Spanktress]

Just something that came to my mind today...

If you were to meet someone in the street , local shop, market, gas station, or even Lit... who lived closer, who you connected with as much as your LDR or even more...would you give up your LDR??
Bare with me here, all this is one big 'thought bubble' in my head that I'm trying to put into comprehensive words!

Just say, for example, you're shopping & literally bump into someone, your eyes connect & the hairs your arms stand on end, the electricity between you both blinds the rest of the world from you, your heartbeat can be felt at the back of your tongue... & they ask you to join them for a coffee. You 'hit it off' & you are immediately comfortable with this person.
Would having met your LDR or not yet have a bearing on where 'this' went?
Would the distance between yourself & your LDR partner?
Would being in an LDR cause you to shunt 'those' feelings?
I hope by now you are seeing where I am coming from...

*~* Spanks *~*

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Just something that came to my mind today...

If you were to meet someone in the street , local shop, market, gas station, or even Lit... who lived closer, who you connected with as much as your LDR or even more...would you give up your LDR??
Bare with me here, all this is one big 'thought bubble' in my head that I'm trying to put into comprehensive words!

Just say, for example, you're shopping & literally bump into someone, your eyes connect & the hairs your arms stand on end, the electricity between you both blinds the rest of the world from you, your heartbeat can be felt at the back of your tongue... & they ask you to join them for a coffee. You 'hit it off' & you are immediately comfortable with this person.
Would having met your LDR or not yet have a bearing on where 'this' went?
Would the distance between yourself & your LDR partner?
Would being in an LDR cause you to shunt 'those' feelings?
I hope by now you are seeing where I am coming from...

*~* Spanks *~*

Where do you shop?? *snickers*

I hear where you're comming from Spank. That thought has scared me many a time. To give in to the moment, and what's tangible for me would be like invalidating the LDR. Admitting that all the feelings you've professed were a lie. Like it was simply what was convenient for the moment. I have to believe, that despite the uncertainty of the future my belief in my dreams will enable them to come true. I'm sure I can connect with any number of people given the chance. I'm equally sure it could be intense. But that's not to say that my feelings for my LDR are any less intense, or that I would brush them aside. She's said to me that I shouldn't let her stand in the way of having a relationship with someone closer. I tried to tell her that she wouldn't be in the way, my heart would. Unless I'm lying to her and myself, I don't think I would take advantage of the opportunity if it came up. She means too much.

On a different note, you're sounding like a guy who wants to "trade up" ...lol

Seriously though I'm not sure if you're feeling uncertain, or if you're uncertain of your LDR. But if you're having doubts, try and write your feelings down even if you don't share them with anyone. Just so they're tangible as the person in the grocery store/gas station/LIT.

Meeting your LDR I'm sure would weigh in too, making it easier to resist if you had gazed into their eyes. Given you something to hold on to. But ultimately, weather you've held them physicaly or only spoken on the phone how you feel will come through.

Just cause you can't reach out and touch that special love, doesn't make your feelings any less real. Nobody said it would be convenient, but that's part of what makes it special.

Big hugs Spanks

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Good question, Spanks

...I tried to tell her that she wouldn't be in the way, my heart would. Unless I'm lying to her and myself, I don't think I would take advantage of the opportunity if it came up. She means too much....
Just cause you can't reach out and touch that special love, doesn't make your feelings any less real. Nobody said it would be convenient, but that's part of what makes it special.
Big hugs Spanks

Gave this some thought before; I think it was one of the reasons I started this thread to begin with!

Initially I was actually frightened about how I felt about Oman. I mean how can you explain falling for someone before actually seeing or hearing him? Plus it didn't help that some of my RL friends were horrified that I would even consider letting myself get involved with anyone this way.

I learned a while ago to follow my heart, even when bits of your mind do not understand the hows, whys and ifs.

I think the possibility of a chance instant attraction can happen whether you're in love with a LDR or a live-in lover! My feelings for Oman are as real as I've ever felt for anyone before. If such a chance meeting with a RL man should occur, I would then need to search my soul for the answer as to whether I would act on it or not. Oman and I have discussed this possibility, and since we consider ourselves a very real couple, we would need to deal with this as directly and as honestly as we can.

Have to admit the hardest part for me right now is NOT being able to touch and hold Oman. I think I've squeezed out most of my pillows already!

Clear as mud?

 

[seduce888]

long distance

We met on-line! Talking for days about our life styles and what we did after work or late at night in the privacy of our own bed rooms. After a week went by she wanted to hear my voice that she said has to be sexy. So I got up the nerve to call her on the phone, dialing in New York. She said my voice is indeed sexy as hell. We talked for awhile when I asked what she was wearing right now. She told me she had on a long white nighty with a V- cut top. I began to turn her on when I told her where my hands are, what my tongue was willing to do and where we could make love at, by her fireplace. She informed me that she was naked on the couch, I too said the same thing. We made passionate love even though we weren't actually there together.

 

[Hotpussy4u19]

I'm in a long distance relationship right now. It works if you really like the person. To make it work you can call them a lot. That's what I try to do. It's hard though because I can't always call. I know that after a while we're not going to call anymore and the relationship is going to die out. If we decide that we really like each other, we will probably talk more and then when we both have vacation, we will probably visit each other. Try everything to make it work.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Hi to the latest posters

Thanks for your thoughts.

It seems you've started on a "natural" progression, Seduce, and it is proof to me that our brain is the strongest sexual organ we have! Wondering if you are planning to ever meet, or continue to be online lovers.

Communication is a strong factor, Hotpussy, and a morning or night without being at all in touch with Oman is very hard for me. Keep talking, communicating, and stay honest. Wishing you all the best, although you seem to be already anticipating that this "connection" of yours will eventually die out. Just follow your heart, and I hope you get a chance to meet in the near future.

 

[seduce888]

JennyO

Yes we still chat, don't know really if it'll work out but yeah we do plan on seeing one another someday. Who knows. She does make me feel good all over...tingling!

 

[davekoko]

I am looking for a LDR

hi.. Im dave.. 28 M CA, 5-10 175 blonde, blue grey eyes. I have been looking for a LDR for a while.. Ever since I broke up with ex IRL. Not want a real relationship for now, and maybe for a while, but I yearn for a relationship, and online seems ideal. The longer the distance, the better for now. (Less tempting to meet for real). But I do want to stick my neck, mind and heart out some, for unless one invests oneself, gets little in return. And looking for a sweet but sexy, honest gal, of any legal age who is articulate and willing to share stories, fantasies, secrets, and part of herself.
I consider myself a romantic. Love kissing, hugging, holding hands, candlelights, flowers, slow romantic music. I love to write, and have 3 written stories I would love to share..

I must be doing something wrong. Seems like I get started with a gal but it somehow crashes. Am I too intense? too lustful? (i admit the lust part, lol); Excuses run from: reconcilliation with hubby or b/f; too busy; to busy with other b/f's. Addicted to literotica boards and not want to get involved.
Whatever.. would love to discuss.. with a gal... my email address: astro3213@aol.com

 

[juliana98_99]

Jenny, I met a wonderful man online and we went almost 2 years before we were finally in the same time zone! If you both of you really want to make things work- you will find ways... we would try to see each other every 4-8 weeks, and my phone bill was outrageous- about 250.00 for the cell phone, and 200 for the home phone- we now live 1 min away from each other and life is great!! He is out of town tonight so we get to play our little games over the phone like we used to...

I found that we were very open and honest and we also learned not to take anything for granted.

Good luck!

 

[Spanktress]

Jenny / Shameless

I'm getting back to responding , just dont want what I have to say to come directly from a 'thought bubble' this time... & for it to make sense!!

Jenny, if you've seen my posts in the aussie thread, ...what I'm experiencing at the moment is the complete opposite situation to my questions & 'what ifs' I asked here earlier.

Soon ...

*~* Spanks *~*

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Tingling is good, isn't it Seduce? It seems you're taking things as they come, and I hope it continues to work out for both of you.

Hi Davekoko. I wasn't looking for anything but having some fun when I first entered Lit. But miraculously, I found someone who is now part of my heart!

You sound eager to be involved with someone, but not really! Lit has alternatives (have you tried the chat area?), and there's a good chance you'll meet up with some friends. I would suggest taking things slowly and being upfront at the beginning of any online relationship. If I had my choice, my LDR would be living in the same neighborhood! Most LDR relationships are like mine in the sense they are trying very hard to get together, not stay distant, in the real world. Good luck, and enjoy. Hope to see your stories posted soon.

Thank you Juliana for sharing your story! Lucky you! Honesty and communication are so essential, aren't they? Plus it's good to keep some games going to spice things up! Two years and going strong! All the best!

Sending my good thoughts and wishes to you Spanks!

 

[seduce888]

to Jenny

Judy and I spoke again late last night, for half hour, before she wanted me to seduce her over the phone...wanting me to really make her feel good in the dark.
She said she was in her bedroom lying in a purple see-through baby-doll. So I went ahead and gave her what she wanted to hear and she said she 'came' three times! Kissing side of her neck as my fingers were inside her silky purple panty as I can still feel the dampness in my mind.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Ups and the Downs

Sounds good, Seduce. The brain is the best stimulant I know of!

Then there are days like today: I can't keep busy enough; he's very, very busy due to the holidays, and our schedules have been out of sync. It's a particular down day for me, so I released some feelings by writing:

Thursday

My darling one
it seems it’s done.
It’s hard for me to get through.

A day alone,
With just the phone
I don’t know what I can do.

I try to move,
I try to cope
With the loneliness that fills me.

Instead I cry
as hours tick by.
My heart weighs heavy as can be.

It can’t be helped.
It’s not our fault.
Our love right now feels distant.

Your duty calls.
My life is stalled.
It’s temporary, isn’t it?

Our love is real.
I want the feel
of your luscious lips on mine.

To hear your voice,
and see your eyes,
would assure me all is fine.

Forgive me love
Thursday is rough.
It’s hard for me to get through.

There are no doubts
only the pain
of another week without you.

Thank goodness tomorrow is Friday!

 

[seduce888]

mumm...JennyO

You sound very romantic indeed! Love the way your mind is opperating...hummm... what next? Woman on the phone pinning her warm thighs against my ears.