So... are there actually any moderators around here?

[Kikori]

My plan on how to handle him? It's simple Stay out of his threads. He hungers for an audience. Don't feed him. Everything takes care of itself, in time.

Until he comes into ours and we have to see his avatar every time we try to find the new posts of value.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Until he comes into ours and we have to see his avatar every time we try to find the new posts of value.

We don't have to see his avatar, nor his spews of BLullshit, if we simply hit the ignore button on him...

 

[satindesire]

We don't have to see his avatar, nor his spews of BLullshit, if we simply hit the ignore button on him...

And THERE's the problem. In order to eradicate this nuisance, we will need the BDSM forum community as a WHOLE to work together to put him on ignore. Some people absolutely refuse to use the ignore feature because they think he's 'funny', or for whatever other reason.

We are fractured on this subject and that is why it continues to be a problem. The majority of us know that the only way to get rid of him is to ignore him, but some people here simply won't and they won't stop talking about him.

Guess what guys? He won't go away until we do. We need to work TOGETHER...as a team. ALL OF US...and never mention him again, never post in his threads, never even IMPLY his presence. Let this be the LAST post about him period. EVER. EVERYONE put him on ignore (obviously the mods cannot, I don't mean the mods) and let it be DONE WITH.

All he wants is attention and he doesn't see the difference between positive and negative. As long as SOMEONE is talking to him or ABOUT him, about no matter what, he's happy.

 

[Etoile]

oh my.

 

[WriterDom]

BLoved isn't a troll. The more people who ignore him, the happier he will be. I think he'll be perfectly happy to start his threads every morning and watch in amusement as the "collation to ignore him" tries to control everyone else. In his twisted mind, he thinks he has a message and this is the only community on the net that will put up with him.

I'll play along for a while and ignore him. I just don't see it working.

 

[BLoved]

And THERE's the problem. In order to eradicate this nuisance, we will need the BDSM forum community as a WHOLE to work together to put him on ignore. Some people absolutely refuse to use the ignore feature because they think he's 'funny', or for whatever other reason.

We are fractured on this subject and that is why it continues to be a problem. The majority of us know that the only way to get rid of him is to ignore him, but some people here simply won't and they won't stop talking about him.

Guess what guys? He won't go away until we do. We need to work TOGETHER...as a team. ALL OF US...and never mention him again, never post in his threads, never even IMPLY his presence. Let this be the LAST post about him period. EVER. EVERYONE put him on ignore (obviously the mods cannot, I don't mean the mods) and let it be DONE WITH.

All he wants is attention and he doesn't see the difference between positive and negative. As long as SOMEONE is talking to him or ABOUT him, about no matter what, he's happy.

BLoved isn't a troll. The more people who ignore him, the happier he will be. I think he'll be perfectly happy to start his threads every morning and watch in amusement as the "collation to ignore him" tries to control everyone else. In his twisted mind, he thinks he has a message and this is the only community on the net that will put up with him.

I am sure we'd all like to see the obsessive-compulsive trolls of BDSM Talk/BDSM Cafe try to "control everyone".

Yet more evidence of obsessive-compulsive harassment.

Expect this from the casual community.

 

[minx1]

My plan on how to handle him? It's simple Stay out of his threads. He hungers for an audience. Don't feed him. Everything takes care of itself, in time.

I'm happy to do this. I did for a while but ended up posting again when I saw others still doing so and the threads still current.

For this to work, there has to be a consensus though. Otherwise its pointless.

 

[fuckmeat]

I'll play along for a while and ignore him. I just don't see it working.

Me neither but to show willing, I've hit iggy once again. f4f's going on my list do. Better do the job properly.

 

[BLoved]

I'm happy to do this. I did for a while but ended up posting again when I saw others still doing so and the threads still current.

For this to work, there has to be a consensus though. Otherwise its pointless.

~smile~

It's been tried before.

It never works.

It isn't long before the obsessive-compulsive trolls realize that no one is telling the novices and lurkers to ignore me, and then we're right back where we started from.

The real cure would be for the trolls to get treatment for their O-C urges and actually achieve adulthood where "live and let live" becomes meaningful.

But that ain't going to happen.

That's why people should expect obsessive-compulsive harassment from the casual community ... they are dysfunctional adults who have no clue how to stop their obsessive-compulsive urges.

 

[Etoile]

Constantly starting new threads on the same topics (slow motion flooding) will result in two things happening.

The threads will be merged, and a final warning will be issued. Technically, posting to the wrong forum was already a second violation, but I decided to give an extra chance.

Continuing to violate the rules - which are linked to from every page - will result in a final warning, and then a ban.

You don't have to like it, BLoved, and you don't have to agree with it. You do have to adhere to it.

Feel free to claim I hate you, but it's actually not about you. It's about enforcing the rules. If I simply disliked you, you would already be gone.

As always, you are welcome to PM Laurel if you have a problem with this. I have explained the situation and will not be answering questions on it.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

And THERE's the problem. In order to eradicate this nuisance, we will need the BDSM forum community as a WHOLE to work together to put him on ignore. Some people absolutely refuse to use the ignore feature because they think he's 'funny', or for whatever other reason.

We are fractured on this subject and that is why it continues to be a problem. The majority of us know that the only way to get rid of him is to ignore him, but some people here simply won't and they won't stop talking about him.

Guess what guys? He won't go away until we do. We need to work TOGETHER...as a team. ALL OF US...and never mention him again, never post in his threads, never even IMPLY his presence. Let this be the LAST post about him period. EVER. EVERYONE put him on ignore (obviously the mods cannot, I don't mean the mods) and let it be DONE WITH.

All he wants is attention and he doesn't see the difference between positive and negative. As long as SOMEONE is talking to him or ABOUT him, about no matter what, he's happy.

But, how will we know when he is gone?

*looks around*

It's like a tree falling in the woods with nobody to hear it...

 

[satindesire]

But, how will we know when he is gone?

*looks around*

It's like a tree falling in the woods with nobody to hear it...

That's just it. He'll be gone when everyone stops talking about him and puts him on ignore. Whether or not he's still posting here won't matter, since no one will see him or reply to him...ever.

Eventually, he will get bored talking to himself and leave. Or he'll fuck up too many times and get banned. Either way, we won't notice because we all will have hopefully been good team players and put him on ignore far far before this.

Our responsibility is to each other on this board. My responsibility as a member of good standing is to not fuel this BS by continuing to hash it out.

And I mean this with absolutely no offense to you, darling Liz , but...This will be my last post on the subject. Period. The more I talk about it, the more I encourage it and I have a duty as a long-time member of this board to maintain it's quality and health by avoiding encouraging trolls.

 

[minx1]

~smile~

It's been tried before.

It never works.

Oh dont be so defeatest! I'm happy to give it a go.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

And THERE's the problem. In order to eradicate this nuisance, we will need the BDSM forum community as a WHOLE to work together to put him on ignore. Some people absolutely refuse to use the ignore feature because they think he's 'funny', or for whatever other reason.

We are fractured on this subject and that is why it continues to be a problem. The majority of us know that the only way to get rid of him is to ignore him, but some people here simply won't and they won't stop talking about him.

Guess what guys? He won't go away until we do. We need to work TOGETHER...as a team. ALL OF US...and never mention him again, never post in his threads, never even IMPLY his presence. Let this be the LAST post about him period. EVER. EVERYONE put him on ignore (obviously the mods cannot, I don't mean the mods) and let it be DONE WITH.

All he wants is attention and he doesn't see the difference between positive and negative. As long as SOMEONE is talking to him or ABOUT him, about no matter what, he's happy.

I actually really agree with this. I know that I've been guilty of this as much as anyone, because at the time I thought it was "funny" or whatever. But yes, it will take a completely united group to eradicate him. Basically, no matter how much we might want to engage him, or derive pleasure from mocking him, we have to work as one and refuse to give in. DO NOT ENGAGE HIM. BE STRONG AND SIMPLY REFUSE TO ENGAGE BLOVED!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

~smile~

It's been tried before.

It never works.

It isn't long before the obsessive-compulsive trolls realize that no one is telling the novices and lurkers to ignore me, and then we're right back where we started from.

The real cure would be for the trolls to get treatment for their O-C urges and actually achieve adulthood where "live and let live" becomes meaningful.

But that ain't going to happen.

That's why people should expect obsessive-compulsive harassment from the casual community ... they are dysfunctional adults who have no clue how to stop their obsessive-compulsive urges.

What about when i asked You to the Sadie Hawkins Dance in 7th grade? You, with that long, flowing white beard, climbing that rope in gym class, and those hottie jeans in the hall? How about when You ate all my tater tots every day for a week and then stood me up? And then You did the same thing in 8th grade when i asked again? And again in 9th and 10th grades when i gave You another chance? How about that repetitive behavior, Mr. I'm-Not-Obsessive-Compulsive??

 

[Seurat]

You, with that long, flowing white beard, climbing that rope in gym class, and those hottie jeans in the hall?

Hey! I'm trying to eat here. I don't need you throwing me off my feed.

 

[neci]

I actually really agree with this. I know that I've been guilty of this as much as anyone, because at the time I thought it was "funny" or whatever. But yes, it will take a completely united group to eradicate him. Basically, no matter how much we might want to engage him, or derive pleasure from mocking him, we have to work as one and refuse to give in. DO NOT ENGAGE HIM. BE STRONG AND SIMPLY REFUSE TO ENGAGE BLOVED!

What about when i asked You to the Sadie Hawkins Dance in 7th grade? You, with that long, flowing white beard, climbing that rope in gym class, and those hottie jeans in the hall? How about when You ate all my tater tots every day for a week and then stood me up? And then You did the same thing in 8th grade when i asked again? And again in 9th and 10th grades when i gave You another chance? How about that repetitive behavior, Mr. I'm-Not-Obsessive-Compulsive??

one post at a time.

 

[minx1]

one post at a time.

lmao

 

[Kajira Callista]

Half the threads on informative discussion are old ones that were bumped in retaliation to BLoved. Way to carry on as normal.

Rock solid counter argument bounces off this guy. It's utterly futile.

I wasn't whining so much as asking what the point is of the assigned moderators on this forum when they're apparently not part of the community and uninterested in curbing the repetitive verbal diarrhoea of disruptive trolls. I made the OP before I saw the one about Etoile.

This mod checks the forum every chance i get. Because I dont choose to post does not mean i am not moderating.
BTW when i became a mod i was given a list of parameters to follow as to not squash peoples freedom of speech. I saw what beloved did and waited for a higher authority to make a decision. If that bothered people so much that they thought they needed another mod *shrug* oh well.

 

[Etoile]

This mod checks the forum every chance i get. Because I dont choose to post does not mean i am not moderating.
BTW when i became a mod i was given a list of parameters to follow as to not squash peoples freedom of speech. I saw what beloved did and waited for a higher authority to make a decision. If that bothered people so much that they thought they needed another mod *shrug* oh well.

There is no higher authority, though, that keeps track of things the way moderators do. If there is a problem on the boards - and BLoved was a major problem, he pretty much hijacked all conversation for two months - then it is the moderator's responsibility to bring it to the attention of the administrators. Laurel can't watch every board all the time. Numerous people (myself included) reported many, many messages that broke the rules, and no action was taken on any of them. It was frustrating to have threads in Talk that belonged in the Cafe, or even somewhere else altogether; that's a rule that he broke. There was a flood of 20 new threads in as many minutes, that's another broken rule. He repeatedly broke the rules, other members repeatedly reported it, and no action on those reports was ever taken. Laurel was notified of several broken rules, and she took care of some of them, but it was obvious to many people that the level of attention needed for the board was not being provided. I didn't nominate myself as moderator, someone else did, because there was a clear and demonstrated need for someone who was more active.

 

[ImOnIt]

I didn't nominate myself as moderator, someone else did, because there was a clear and demonstrated need for someone who was more active.

What is the line about the best person for a position of power being someoneone who doesn't really want the job?

Cause yeah, it applies here. Just (and justified), so no need to defend

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

After all, there's now a 2 page discussion on love and bdsm, and how it works or doesn't work for people, and everyone's opinion has been read, and valued. Nobody has been slagged off with the 'casual' or the 'abusive' brushes. Nobody has had to scroll for 10 minutes to bypass a 'story' or 'advice' that's been posted again.

And you know what? It's nice.

 

[Seurat]

And you know what? It's nice.

Funny thing is, there was more than a few people that were willing to explor the disccussion, but his antagonism and attitude undid his stance. Irony.

And nice. Very nice.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Funny thing is, there was more than a few people that were willing to explor the disccussion, but his antagonism and attitude undid his stance. Irony.

And nice. Very nice.

Absolutely. He was so caught up in his agenda that he didn't notice people agreeing with him and wanting to talk about it, and any time he did converse for a few posts, he managed to twist it back around to his pet subjects anyway.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

After all, there's now a 2 page discussion on love and bdsm, and how it works or doesn't work for people, and everyone's opinion has been read, and valued. Nobody has been slagged off with the 'casual' or the 'abusive' brushes. Nobody has had to scroll for 10 minutes to bypass a 'story' or 'advice' that's been posted again.

And you know what? It's nice.

Admit it; at night you wear a fake beard and call yourself an abuser in the mirror.