LizVegas79
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We’ve been attending the local swingers club since March 2019, there are a lot of things I liked about it and a lot that I don’t.
In May of this year, I went to the club solo - hubs was on the road and I was bored. Long story short, I went in a room with a guy who ended up roughing me up. I kept telling him no, stop it, that hurts.... he ended up ripping out my hair, split my lip, and bruised my breasts and upper torso. I immediately found the owner and the man was kicked out.
I was under the impression he was banned.
Fast forward to this past Saturday. We were at a club hosted hotel takeover. Hubs and I were walking down the hall when I heard him say my attacker’s name. I looked up, and there he was right in front of me. I started shaking all over and then came the tears. I got in his face and screamed, “you’ll never touch me again” and I ran off to find security. I found out that night that he wasn’t banned because the incident happened behind closed doors which made it a he said she said situation (even though I have photos of my injuries).
I no longer feel safe attending their events.
I had the worst panic attack I’ve ever had in my life and my week has been awful. I just keep thinking about what happened and that this guy got off scott free. The club told me I couldn’t go to police because then I’d be in violation of the non disclosure agreement I signed. I’m stuck. And I’m a wreck.
I’ve decided to step away from the lifestyle. It might be for a few weeks or it might be forever. I really don’t know. I just know I don’t want anyone but my husband touching me.
OMG - what a horrible experience Shi - TWICE!!!
I was assaulted once years ago in a parking lot. I often think back on that experience and sometimes I even wish I could run into those two guys again. I am probably way over-confidant from all the self-defense classes I took after I was attacked, but whenever I read a story like yours I picture my sweet, sweet revenge on their ugly faces and tiny, busted balls.
I am currently picturing what my husband would have done to that guy if it had been me walking in that hotel this past Saturday instead of you. OMG he would have killed him and I'd probably be begging all of you for bail money right now!
Can't blame you one bit for wanting to step away from the lifestyle for a bit or forever. Despite the complications I've run into with the group we had fun with back in March, there certainly is something to be said for going down this road with friends rather than strangers. Of course there's no guarantee a so-called friend might turn into an abusive asshole behind closed doors, but, om g, that is just horrible. I'm so, so sorry Shi.
Do you mind if I ask you what the name of that club is and what city it's in? You can answer me privately in a PM. (I have lots of VIP clients who ask me for "referrals" in other cities and I would like to warn them to stay away from the one where this happened to you!




