The LIT Swingers Club

[LizVegas79]

When we were swinging we found separate room play preferable. My wife would get distracted from who she was with seeing me playing with another woman so we tried going in separate rooms and it worked much better. We would reunite once we were done playing and showering if we were at a private residence.

I think it did lead later on to us exploring an open relationship. We tried it, after the initial excitement wore off, we decided it wasn’t good for us. Too much stress, not enough fun and also jealously reared its ugly head at times. So we shut that experiment down.

Yeah, I don't see my husband and I moving into an open relationship. We've talked about it and it's not something that either of us wants. At least not right now anyways.

Which is exactly what I would do as well.

It seriously MIGHT have been the best part

 

[fifty5]

Yeah, I don't see my husband and I moving into an open relationship. We've talked about it and it's not something that either of us wants. At least not right now anyways.

My wife and I have an Open Marriage, just one rule, ask for specific permission for new lovers before going to bed with them.

That universally allows a veto if the other spouse is not happy about a new lover, but isn't tempted so to do just on a whim cos they'll want to get permission themselves next time they ask.

It seriously MIGHT have been the best part

Depends what you mean by, "best" xx

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

My wife and I have an open marriage, but her last boyfriend..yeah, he was a prick. He abused her, mistreated her, violated her boundaries, etc. He also turned out to be cheating on his other girlfriend with my wife, as in the other girlfriend didn't know about their relationship.

So, when he went back to Cali to see his folks, I asked him never to return, offered to send back his stuff if he paid for it to be sent back, and told his girlfriend about him cheating on her. Let's just say that he got dumped pretty damn fast. And I had him taken off the lease.

Yeah, don't disrespect your girlfriend like he did, particularly if the husband is willing to play or fight dirty.

 

[LizVegas79]

My wife and I have an Open Marriage, just one rule, ask for specific permission for new lovers before going to bed with them.

That universally allows a veto if the other spouse is not happy about a new lover, but isn't tempted so to do just on a whim cos they'll want to get permission themselves next time they ask.

Depends what you mean by, "best" xx

I think the rules for an open marriage are generally different for swinger/swap parties.

I can't imagine having a rule like you just described at a swinger/swap party because someone could not only easily be offended or get their feelings hurt, someone could find themselves all alone when everyone else is off having fun.

Which was basically Rule #1 at the admittedly only swinger/swap party that we've been to - No One Is Ever Alone.

It seems to me, by choosing to go to a swinger/swap party, the option of having "veto power" over any partner(s) you spouse wants to hook up with is and should be forfeited. No one should be forced to play with anyone they don't want to. But if I want to go off with three Black guys my husband doesn't get the final decision whether I actually do or not.

My wife and I have an open marriage, but her last boyfriend..yeah, he was a prick. He abused her, mistreated her, violated her boundaries, etc. He also turned out to be cheating on his other girlfriend with my wife, as in the other girlfriend didn't know about their relationship.

So, when he went back to Cali to see his folks, I asked him never to return, offered to send back his stuff if he paid for it to be sent back, and told his girlfriend about him cheating on her. Let's just say that he got dumped pretty damn fast. And I had him taken off the lease.

Yeah, don't disrespect your girlfriend like he did, particularly if the husband is willing to play or fight dirty.

Again, open marriage rules seem to me to be a DIFFERENT conversation from rules that need to be discussed and agreed to in advance regarding swinger/swap parties.

Does anyone with more experience in either or both have an opinion?

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I think the rules for an open marriage are generally different for swinger/swap parties.

I can't imagine having a rule like you just described at a swinger/swap party because someone could not only easily be offended or get their feelings hurt, someone could find themselves all alone when everyone else is off having fun.

Which was basically Rule #1 at the admittedly only swinger/swap party that we've been to - No One Is Ever Alone.

It seems to me, by choosing to go to a swinger/swap party, the option of having "veto power" over any partner(s) you spouse wants to hook up with is and should be forfeited. No one should be forced to play with anyone they don't want to. But if I want to go off with three Black guys my husband doesn't get the final decision whether I actually do or not.




Again, open marriage rules seem to me to be a DIFFERENT conversation from rules that need to be discussed and agreed to in advance regarding swinger/swap parties.

Does anyone with more experience in either or both have an opinion?

Fair enough.

 

[fifty5]

I think the rules for an open marriage are generally different for swinger/swap parties.

I can't imagine having a rule like you just described at a swinger/swap party because someone could not only easily be offended or get their feelings hurt, someone could find themselves all alone when everyone else is off having fun.

Which was basically Rule #1 at the admittedly only swinger/swap party that we've been to - No One Is Ever Alone.

It seems to me, by choosing to go to a swinger/swap party, the option of having "veto power" over any partner(s) you spouse wants to hook up with is and should be forfeited. No one should be forced to play with anyone they don't want to. But if I want to go off with three Black guys my husband doesn't get the final decision whether I actually do or not.


Again, open marriage rules seem to me to be a DIFFERENT conversation from rules that need to be discussed and agreed to in advance regarding swinger/swap parties.

Does anyone with more experience in either or both have an opinion?

You are entirely correct. I guess that the reason open marriages came up here is that both them and swinging/swapping involve extra-marital sex..

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

You are entirely correct. I guess that the reason open marriages came up here is that both them and swinging/swapping involve extra-marital sex..

Precisely. The two can overlap, but there are distinctions.

 

[LizVegas79]

Similar But Different - sex shouldn't be this complicated should it? LOL

(although complicated is often what makes it sexy so there's that too )

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I always thought it was guys not as interested in sharing their wives but I guess that's only because that's been my situation with my husband for the past several years. (he's very possessive - I really don't think it was a fear that another guy might be "bigger" than him, but, heck, who knows? I could be totally wrong lol)

Ron has never expressed any concerns about 'size'. As you know, he selects the candidates for my dates. Rarely is there a 'normal' size cock in the bunch. Most are of the larger variety.

His initial concern was intimacy. Kissing beforehand mostly. It really upset him to see me 'make out' beforehand. He has loosened up to where kissing during sex he can live with. It's that 'fear of losing me' that he had a problem with.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Pics or it didn’t happen, Lizzie.

We’ve talked a number of times about adding a third, a threesome seems to be everybody’s fantasy. But our biggest concern is the risk of an emotional attachment and the damage that could be caused in our relationship. Does anyone think that’s a valid concern?

Hubby is afraid of an emotional development on my part. None of this is ever gonna damage our relationship. Gotta have a great foundation and communication is the key.

 

[LizVegas79]

Communication is absolutely the key!

Our little group is discussing who to invite to our next party. It's so sexy! I'm happy to be part of the "planning committee" - at least I feel like I'm part of the planning committee! Hopefully I don't find out about the next party after the fact! LOL

Guess I won't know until I'm sipping champagne and wearing something revealing with a half dozen or so other people while listening to the "ground rules" for the next party!

I honestly can't wait!

 

[BigWeapon]

I m involve into swinging lifestyle good 15 years. I have made many couple friends and I know most of couples come out with healthy and strong relationship. Been to swingers club around the globe as sinhle male, sometimes couples would invite me, sometimes with friends and playmates.

It has been always very exicting.. and new experiences.. its good to talk to like minded people.. share each other your experiences..

 

[BigWeapon]

I know a couple who host private parties in one of swingers club. And a couple who owns this swinger club are also very good friends..

Around 10 years ago I was so close to be part of 1 swingers club but things didnt materialized.

 

[nkycatsfan]

Communication is absolutely the key!

Our little group is discussing who to invite to our next party. It's so sexy! I'm happy to be part of the "planning committee" - at least I feel like I'm part of the planning committee! Hopefully I don't find out about the next party after the fact! LOL

Guess I won't know until I'm sipping champagne and wearing something revealing with a half dozen or so other people while listening to the "ground rules" for the next party!

I honestly can't wait!

Looking forward to the story of this next adventure!

 

[tubby424]

Missing

a little concerned about Dr Liz here. She has been missing for almost a month, which is very uncharacteristic of her.

 

[fifty5]

a little concerned about Dr Liz here. She has been missing for almost a month, which is very uncharacteristic of her.

Try to send her a personal message, just click on her name on the last post rom her that you can find! ... NB there is a link to a post from her in the massage just above yours!

 

[Lorelei907]

a little concerned about Dr Liz here. She has been missing for almost a month, which is very uncharacteristic of her.

Dr. Liz is, um, tied up right now and is unable to attend. Let alone move. The good doctor is traveling and holding seminars on advanced restraint techniques and should be back in a couple weeks. I’m sure she’ll have a great presentation and some demonstrations for us when she returns. She better!

 

[iaabanag]

Dr. Liz is, um, tied up right now and is unable to attend. Let alone move. The good doctor is traveling and holding seminars on advanced restraint techniques and should be back in a couple weeks. I’m sure she’ll have a great presentation and some demonstrations for us when she returns. She better!

Slight bump. I hope Dr. Liz is doing well. It's been a while and all her patients are really missing her. cheers

 

[LizVegas79]

Dr. Liz is, um, tied up right now and is unable to attend. Let alone move. The good doctor is traveling and holding seminars on advanced restraint techniques and should be back in a couple weeks. I’m sure she’ll have a great presentation and some demonstrations for us when she returns. She better!

OH MY GOODNESS!!!

That was some seminar believe you me!!!

So. Where were we?

 

[goldenpalomino]

One of my partners would have tried swinging if I asked her, but I wasn't ready yet. Later when I was ready, I asked my partner (who had previously wanted a threesome with another girl) to swing - man or woman, or multiple people, whatever she preferred - and I got turned down.

I like reading about the experiences of others because I want to try this lifestyle someday and need to learn more so I am not taken advantage of or something.

I am just single now, unfortunately I guess, but I think it is hot to see my partner get shared with others, or to watch another couple fuck while I/we watch and fuck for them.

Hello Everyone - I'm hoping those of you who have been to swingers clubs or shared a partner at a swinger's party will join in the discussion on this thread because I can tell my husband and I are going to need some advice.

This past Saturday night and Sunday morning my husband and I spent some quality time with two couples friends of ours openly and freely discussing our sexual bucket lists in regards to both this coronavirus pandemic and the fact that we're all starting to get a little older.

We knew that was the agenda for the party in advance because it all started from a conversation my husband and one of his best friends had at work last week.

It turned out to be a wonderful and amazing eye opening (and eye popping! ) experience for all six of us.

It was not the first time my husband and I looked into the swinger's scene here in Las Vegas. But it was the first time we participated in it.

I can tell already that it has not only changed our relationship with our friends I previously felt we already knew, but that it has and will continue to also change our own relationship as husband and wife.

It's all good. We broke down some barriers (especially a few of his) and I expect we will be breaking down a few more in the coming weeks and months.

It turns out that within our circle of friends more of them have been enjoying each other's company quite a bit more that I previously knew. I guess that old saying is true, "You never really know someone until you sleep with them."

https://66.media.tumblr.com/7bd4c476b58d4bf872096f3163a5ddc2/tumblr_pjqpoqI2861w0d0on_500.jpg

(mmmm, I can still feel that first tentative touch of one of my husband's best friends reaching out and caressing me for the first time )

With all that said, I'm hoping that some of you who have more experience with "the lifestyle" will share your own thoughts and experiences sharing your S.O.'s (significant others) with friends and/or strangers. Because I can tell already that this is going to be a bit of a tricky dance but at the same time I am soooooo looking forward to it!

I guess what I'm most interested in learning about is:

- What are some of the unexpected challenges that can arise within an active group of swingers?

and

- What are some of the things to look out for or discuss with your S.O. in order to keep the lines of communication open?

Thank you all in advance for sharing your wisdom! I can't think of a better way to talk about the joys and challenges of swinging and partner swapping than with a group of other people!

 

[curiouschattycouple]

"Swinging" isn't really our interest, but we have discussed it as the intro to MFM, maybe as soft swap just to see how comfortable we are with expanding boundaries beyond fantasy. Some of the couples we talked to online are also very much interested in the bi-wife aspect and my wife really isn't into the other ladies.

 

[Shi_One81]

We’ve been attending the local swingers club since March 2019, there are a lot of things I liked about it and a lot that I don’t.

In May of this year, I went to the club solo - hubs was on the road and I was bored. Long story short, I went in a room with a guy who ended up roughing me up. I kept telling him no, stop it, that hurts.... he ended up ripping out my hair, split my lip, and bruised my breasts and upper torso. I immediately found the owner and the man was kicked out.

I was under the impression he was banned.

Fast forward to this past Saturday. We were at a club hosted hotel takeover. Hubs and I were walking down the hall when I heard him say my attacker’s name. I looked up, and there he was right in front of me. I started shaking all over and then came the tears. I got in his face and screamed, “you’ll never touch me again” and I ran off to find security. I found out that night that he wasn’t banned because the incident happened behind closed doors which made it a he said she said situation (even though I have photos of my injuries).

I no longer feel safe attending their events.

I had the worst panic attack I’ve ever had in my life and my week has been awful. I just keep thinking about what happened and that this guy got off scott free. The club told me I couldn’t go to police because then I’d be in violation of the non disclosure agreement I signed. I’m stuck. And I’m a wreck.

I’ve decided to step away from the lifestyle. It might be for a few weeks or it might be forever. I really don’t know. I just know I don’t want anyone but my husband touching me.

 

[mortis]

We’ve been attending the local swingers club since March 2019, there are a lot of things I liked about it and a lot that I don’t.

In May of this year, I went to the club solo - hubs was on the road and I was bored. Long story short, I went in a room with a guy who ended up roughing me up. I kept telling him no, stop it, that hurts.... he ended up ripping out my hair, split my lip, and bruised my breasts and upper torso. I immediately found the owner and the man was kicked out.

I was under the impression he was banned.

Fast forward to this past Saturday. We were at a club hosted hotel takeover. Hubs and I were walking down the hall when I heard him say my attacker’s name. I looked up, and there he was right in front of me. I started shaking all over and then came the tears. I got in his face and screamed, “you’ll never touch me again” and I ran off to find security. I found out that night that he wasn’t banned because the incident happened behind closed doors which made it a he said she said situation (even though I have photos of my injuries).

I no longer feel safe attending their events.

I had the worst panic attack I’ve ever had in my life and my week has been awful. I just keep thinking about what happened and that this guy got off scott free. The club told me I couldn’t go to police because then I’d be in violation of the non disclosure agreement I signed. I’m stuck. And I’m a wreck.

I’ve decided to step away from the lifestyle. It might be for a few weeks or it might be forever. I really don’t know. I just know I don’t want anyone but my husband touching me.

What a horrible person and experience I'm so sorry that happened. There are so many bad sexual experiences. Hope you get some healing and have the trust of your partner.

 

[miska_darling]

We’ve been attending the local swingers club since March 2019, there are a lot of things I liked about it and a lot that I don’t.

In May of this year, I went to the club solo - hubs was on the road and I was bored. Long story short, I went in a room with a guy who ended up roughing me up. I kept telling him no, stop it, that hurts.... he ended up ripping out my hair, split my lip, and bruised my breasts and upper torso. I immediately found the owner and the man was kicked out.

I was under the impression he was banned.

Fast forward to this past Saturday. We were at a club hosted hotel takeover. Hubs and I were walking down the hall when I heard him say my attacker’s name. I looked up, and there he was right in front of me. I started shaking all over and then came the tears. I got in his face and screamed, “you’ll never touch me again” and I ran off to find security. I found out that night that he wasn’t banned because the incident happened behind closed doors which made it a he said she said situation (even though I have photos of my injuries).

I no longer feel safe attending their events.

I had the worst panic attack I’ve ever had in my life and my week has been awful. I just keep thinking about what happened and that this guy got off scott free. The club told me I couldn’t go to police because then I’d be in violation of the non disclosure agreement I signed. I’m stuck. And I’m a wreck.

I’ve decided to step away from the lifestyle. It might be for a few weeks or it might be forever. I really don’t know. I just know I don’t want anyone but my husband touching me.

This is horrible, and I'm sorry to hear it. It's definitely a bad and unsafe environment and badly managed if they can't even protect their guests (and especially women). They should have called the police on the guy themselves, the moment it happened!

And by the way, you can never sign your rights away, so that whole non-disclosure agreement thing they are referring to is BS and would have no legal standing. Besides what's the consequences, being banned from their premises? I think at this stage that wouldn't matter to you? Going to the police would certainly have been an idea cause you've been assaulted, and they are trying to cover a crime that happened at their venue. It might also bring to light that they are unlicensed or other issues.

Alternatively, I'd suggest you at least make a review online, to warn others about how unsafe this venue is. And it might reveals that others have had the same experience.

Out of curiosity, was it an actual club or just some people operating something in their own home?

Regardless, definitely avoid them!

Take care

 

[Shi_One81]

This is horrible, and I'm sorry to hear it. It's definitely a bad and unsafe environment and badly managed if they can't even protect their guests (and especially women). They should have called the police on the guy themselves, the moment it happened!

And by the way, you can never sign your rights away, so that whole non-disclosure agreement thing they are referring to is BS and would have no legal standing. Besides what's the consequences, being banned from their premises? I think at this stage that wouldn't matter to you? Going to the police would certainly have been an idea cause you've been assaulted, and they are trying to cover a crime that happened at their venue. It might also bring to light that they are unlicensed or other issues.

Alternatively, I'd suggest you at least make a review online, to warn others about how unsafe this venue is. And it might reveals that others have had the same experience.

Out of curiosity, was it an actual club or just some people operating something in their own home?

Regardless, definitely avoid them!

Take care

It’s an actual club