What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[ydahecnot]

I don't *hate* math and science. I respect them greatly. I just don't fully understand them. I'm with you on the history, literature, and languages.



Yeah, I did marching band.

Did you do band camp?

 

[Azuldrgon]

I love how Americans call it Math.

What do you call it?
*morning hugs*

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Did you do band camp?

I did lots of band camp.

I love how Americans call it Math.

Yes. Math. Singular. One math is plenty.

 

[Sundayschild]

Oh, I know all about the extra curricular stuff. It was me.

*covers mouth in mock shock

Happens though. I've had approaches from several ladies in litlationships (not Fara I hasten to add), and I'm sure it goes both ways. It is a big part of the site, and people get hornay.

 

[ydahecnot]

*covers mouth in mock shock

Happens though. I've had approaches from several ladies in litlationships (not Fara I hasten to add), and I'm sure it goes both ways. It is a big part of the site, and people get hornay.

Whatta humblebrag!

 

[Sundayschild]

Whatta humblebrag!

When the same applies to literally everyone here it's not really a brag. I have nothing to boast about in this place, small fish etc

 

[AmberLGreen]

I love maths and science. Logical always an answer. I really never liked the arty fArty subjects. Li need logic.

Tipsy and going to dance to Heaven must have sent you

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’m into the arty farty. I did fine arts all the through school and into University.

Creating has always been my jam.

You science/maths brain folk speak a whole other language to me.

You know you love the science minds. Don’t make me sing to you again honey

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’m feeling nosey about getting your Elsa on and letting it go.

Be it if of a relationship, a history, a grudge, a bad habit, a person, a dream?

How do you do your letting go? Clean break? Cold Turkey? Slow withdrawal? Do you take a long time to recover or can you bounce back quickly? When was the last time you really struggled with a letting go scenario? How do you know when it is time to let it go?!

https://voca.ro/14doDGe9L0rQ

 

[WerdNerd]

https://voca.ro/14doDGe9L0rQ

Great advice! Listen to your Auntie Amber.

 

[cheekygirl75]

https://voca.ro/17Ft4y8PvFQp

 

[BadAmy]

I’m feeling nosey about getting your Elsa on and letting it go.

Be it if of a relationship, a history, a grudge, a bad habit, a person, a dream?

How do you do your letting go? Clean break? Cold Turkey? Slow withdrawal? Do you take a long time to recover or can you bounce back quickly? When was the last time you really struggled with a letting go scenario? How do you know when it is time to let it go?!

https://voca.ro/1njeAQlZ0pq2

cuz Amber did it.

 

[ydahecnot]

I’m feeling nosey about getting your Elsa on and letting it go.

Be it if of a relationship, a history, a grudge, a bad habit, a person, a dream?

How do you do your letting go? Clean break? Cold Turkey? Slow withdrawal? Do you take a long time to recover or can you bounce back quickly? When was the last time you really struggled with a letting go scenario? How do you know when it is time to let it go?!

As I discussed with someone today, I don’t believe in letting someone live rent free in your head. So I try to let go of stuff that didn’t work out and focus on the people who think I am not so bad. Not always easy, and I posted once that time only numbs, not heals, some wounds. About the only one that still stings is a friendship that ended up being collateral damage and a ghosting. I try to be that way in real life too; my profession does help me to have a spirit of adjusting on the fly, looking for a third way.

tl/dr: what Amber said

 

[aussiegeekygal]

https://voca.ro/1njeAQlZ0pq2

cuz Amber did it.

You said "Fuck it!" And I was hooked. This is amazing

You're my new favorite person in the world.

 

[Orchidea73]

As far as PDA goes (as someone engages in a fair bit of it) l, I think if it's fun and flirty it can be an important part of a Lit relationship. An occasional sweet message can be nice BUT...

There are definitely people who take this way too far and make everyone uncomfortable. I try hard never to be that person or at least me affectionate towards everyone but hey... feel free to send me PM rolled up newspaper to the nose if it bothers you.

I would have never thought that you were awkward in private.
It just shows that perception and knowing are two different things really.

Other people PDA doesn't bother me one bit. It is their relationship and they are entitled to live the experience the way they want. They are not hurting anyone and it's nobody's business. It's just that sometimes when that story ends, the private drama tends to be brought on the boards too and that is not a good spectacle, IMO. But ultimately, each of us have their own way to deal with things. I'm just not good with PDA, whether in RL or online, and I like to keep my private life separate from the Piazza. But I am a big flirt and I like that.

As for you, I've rarely seen you engaged in PDA. I remember last year, when I came here, you posted a msg on the Dear Litster, and I think it was a "thank you" one for anniversary. I thought that was sweet and very nice thing to share.

I love your attitude in general here. The way you interact with people and how you carry yourself.

 

[Orchidea73]

I’m feeling nosey about getting your Elsa on and letting it go.

Be it if of a relationship, a history, a grudge, a bad habit, a person, a dream?

How do you do your letting go? Clean break? Cold Turkey? Slow withdrawal? Do you take a long time to recover or can you bounce back quickly? When was the last time you really struggled with a letting go scenario? How do you know when it is time to let it go?!

Context is everything. It depends from people and the kind of relationship you have with them. Is it a friend, a long time boyfriend/partner, or someone you have just started to date etc. The time of recovery it depends from that mainly. Sometimes I need a long time to process the loss and detox. I call that mourning time.

I prefer a clean break but sometimes this is not always possible. We've all been there. But ultimately, I always turn inward and have a real, no punch held back conversation with me about me. I find that is the only reliable place and the source of strength.

 

[Orchidea73]

https://voca.ro/12uhr9NvIYNu

https://voca.ro/1HZOL4RODsL7

I went on for far too long, I’m afraid.
Sorry about that. Lol

Edit: I see it's cut halfway through for some weird reason. Sorry again, this was a mess. *shakes head and eyeroll*

Anyway, just wanted to let you know that although we don't know each other outside the forums, my PM is open. Take your time and take care of yourself. Try do things that gives you pleasure and free your mind. This is a shitty period and external factors like all these restrictions and Covid situation are affecting us in a negative way.

 

[hotcpu]

https://voca.ro/12uhr9NvIYNu

Breathe and enjoy your time away. And when you get back I need you to record my voicemail message .... Your voice and accent are sent from heaven

 

[Dribble]

Reading the other messages, I can only infer you are taking a break from here since the voice message timed out or was taken down. Wishing you strength and guidance.

Story time. As a child, I walked the fields of NW Ohio for arrowheads...but I would look at anything that caught my eye. One day, I found this perfectly smooth, amazingly green stone. It went into my pocket. After researching it, I discovered it came down from over a thousand miles from Canada in the last glaciers. I carried it for the next 20 years. It was my guide. It saw me through my bad days of drug abuse. It saw me through my days of being alone. I lost so much during those days...but I kept my rock. It was me. I was it. It was always in my pocket...God i washed it more times than I can count.

My grandmother raised me. When I reached out for help to get clean...I was so afraid she had died during my drug use. I was so embarrassed by what I had become...it was easier not to talk with those I loved. But luck was what it was. She saw me celebrate 5 years clean before she did die. As we filed up to the casket to say our goodbyes, the rock felt heavy. It called. I reached in and took out of my pocket...and I immediately knew it was no longer mine...but hers. So I placed it in her hand...to guide her to safety. To happiness. My wife asked me...you sure? Yes. I have found my way. I no longer need it.

I look at my shelves today, they are lined with hundreds of rocks. I can tell you where each were found...what I was going through...and how each have helped me get from here to there. Find your guide Rainshine. You probably already have it and don't know why. Use it to remind you of who you are and that you are deserving of your happiness. It is there for us all.

 

[Orchidea73]

Reading the other messages, I can only infer you are taking a break from here since the voice message timed out or was taken down. Wishing you strength and guidance.

Story time. As a child, I walked the fields of NW Ohio for arrowheads...but I would look at anything that caught my eye. One day, I found this perfectly smooth, amazingly green stone. It went into my pocket. After researching it, I discovered it came down from over a thousand miles from Canada in the last glaciers. I carried it for the next 20 years. It was my guide. It saw me through my bad days of drug abuse. It saw me through my days of being alone. I lost so much during those days...but I kept my rock. It was me. I was it. It was always in my pocket...God i washed it more times than I can count.

My grandmother raised me. When I reached out for help to get clean...I was so afraid she had died during my drug use. I was so embarrassed by what I had become...it was easier not to talk with those I loved. But luck was what it was. She saw me celebrate 5 years clean before she did die. As we filed up to the casket to say our goodbyes, the rock felt heavy. It called. I reached in and took out of my pocket...and I immediately knew it was no longer mine...but hers. So I placed it in her hand...to guide her to safety. To happiness. My wife asked me...you sure? Yes. I have found my way. I no longer need it.

I look at my shelves today, they are lined with hundreds of rocks. I can tell you where each were found...what I was going through...and how each have helped me get from here to there. Find your guide Rainshine. You probably already have it and don't know why. Use it to remind you of who you are and that you are deserving of your happiness. It is there for us all.

Thank you for sharing this, D.
It's a painful, moving, uplifting and beautiful story.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm not sure what I missed. I haven't been alone enough to listen to all the recordings, but I did see the comments, and I'm sorry Rainshine needed a break. I think we all do at times.

There are so many people that are able to treat Lit as just an outlet, not get involved, just use this as a day, to day, distraction. I envy the fuck out of you.
I will admit, through my Cancer, Lit has become more of a place to feel "normal"

But I get too attached to people. They become part of my daily life, I miss them when we don't talk.
My family knows of my closest friends. Hell. Even Fara calls herself "Aunt Fara" to my kids.

Letting go depends on so many things. The level of friendship/relationship. How long they were around etc.
The easiest ones to let go of, regardless of the relationship, are the ones who did something to hurt me.
Most take a while no matter what. You "mourn" the loss of the role they played in your daily life.
Phone calls/texts/emails/messenger. You get used to a routine. Waking up to them. Falling asleep to them. Talking at a certain time of the day etc.

It becomes easier when you fill that void, but there are always memories.

Here at Lit. It can be harder than the real life some times. This is a place you see them, even if you can no longer interact with them.

The last relationship I lost was harder than it should have been. But I realized it was because he was there for me every day while I went through all my Cancer stuff. So when he left. It felt like a bigger void.
So sometimes. You can attach reasons to why it was harder than normal.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'm not sure what I missed. I haven't been alone enough to listen to all the recordings, but I did see the comments, and I'm sorry Rainshine needed a break. I think we all do at times.

There are so many people that are able to treat Lit as just an outlet, not get involved, just use this as a day, to day, distraction. I envy the fuck out of you.
I will admit, through my Cancer, Lit has become more of a place to feel "normal"

But I get too attached to people. They become part of my daily life, I miss them when we don't talk.
My family knows of my closest friends. Hell. Even Fara calls herself "Aunt Fara" to my kids.

Letting go depends on so many things. The level of friendship/relationship. How long they were around etc.
The easiest ones to let go of, regardless of the relationship, are the ones who did something to hurt me.
Most take a while no matter what. You "mourn" the loss of the role they played in your daily life.
Phone calls/texts/emails/messenger. You get used to a routine. Waking up to them. Falling asleep to them. Talking at a certain time of the day etc.

It becomes easier when you fill that void, but there are always memories.

Here at Lit. It can be harder than the real life some times. This is a place you see them, even if you can no longer interact with them.

The last relationship I lost was harder than it should have been. But I realized it was because he was there for me every day while I went through all my Cancer stuff. So when he left. It felt like a bigger void.
So sometimes. You can attach reasons to why it was harder than normal.

*hugs*

I like the fact there are folks I can talk to/chat to/message with off here.
Some of my Lit friends in the past have become friends in other places and it's nice to catch up with them.
However I have been hurt before. A few times.
And those times make me close up more.
But the memories do help sometimes.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I’m nosey bout what’s for Sunday dinner today.

 

[BadAmy]

Here at Lit. It can be harder than the real life some times. This is a place you see them, even if you can no longer interact with them.

This right here. So very much.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Both my kids are home, they are watching football all day, and they’ve asked for chili with all the fixings.

Yum , I’m a sour cream fan with a-good thick chili , if it’s more the soupy kind not so much.


we still haven’t decided yet. The weather is gorgeous so odds are we will be outside all day. I’m the cook here and am thinking pressed sandwiches actually sound pretty good , with some veggy soup I pre cooked then portioned and froze last week.