What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Fingerfuxs]

Am I the only one here that Lit drops out on about every 3rd or 4th post?

Not happening here ,

 

[Mei5ter]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

I don't have a clear enough view of the dynamic here, let alone my perceived place in them, to answer this for myself.

But I freely admit to doing the thrusting. There are two people I've met on Lit who, in my view, are really pretty ghastly. If one of them is clearly a good friend of yours, I'm more likely to be cautious in whether and how I engage with you. Does that make me judgey and awful, or sensible?

 

[AbsintheFather]

I don't have a clear enough view of the dynamic here, let alone my perceived place in them, to answer this for myself.

But I freely admit to doing the thrusting. There are two people I've met on Lit who, in my view, are really pretty ghastly. If one of them is clearly a good friend of yours, I'm more likely to be cautious in whether and how I engage with you. Does that make me judgey and awful, or sensible?

I vote sensible. We all judge people by the company they keep. It's harder to judge people in an online setting than offline too, so guilt by association is a good initial litmus test.

On the other hand, ICT there are people who I have not associated with for this reason and have some regrets for my behavior/misjudgment. This conversation has me thinking about sending a pm of apology.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I don't have a clear enough view of the dynamic here, let alone my perceived place in them, to answer this for myself.

But I freely admit to doing the thrusting. There are two people I've met on Lit who, in my view, are really pretty ghastly. If one of them is clearly a good friend of yours, I'm more likely to be cautious in whether and how I engage with you. Does that make me judgey and awful, or sensible?

I vote sensible. We all judge people by the company they keep. It's harder to judge people in an online setting than offline too, so guilt by association is a good initial litmus test.

On the other hand, ICT there are people who I have not associated with for this reason and have some regrets for my behavior/misjudgment. This conversation has me thinking about sending a pm of apology.

I am just test something I read today about how to multiple post quote user posts. Those two post do speak volumes tho.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I am nosey about your Lit firsts. For example, my first proper PM conversation was with 4nk8, the first Litster I had on Skype was Fara, the first Litster who made me really laugh was y, the first Litster who made me cry with their story was Sassy.

What are your firsts. I know this is going to be easier for the newcomers like myself but for the long termers, you can always put the first ones you remember.

The first Litster I PM’d with is DJo789 (I think that’s right).
My first Lit crush was cruelsmile. He was my first of many many things and if you’ve ever seen my kinky side, you can thank him.
My first female friend here I believe was Sweet Lara. She’s a real gem.
The first and only Litster I ever reported was DragonTits (I believe) for a PM so vile and disgusting it left me shaken.
The first Litster I ever met in person is topwish.

Only Jif creamy peanut butter for me.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I vote sensible. We all judge people by the company they keep. It's harder to judge people in an online setting than offline too, so guilt by association is a good initial litmus test.

On the other hand, ICT there are people who I have not associated with for this reason and have some regrets for my behavior/misjudgment. This conversation has me thinking about sending a pm of apology.

I have received 2 apologies here from people who misjudged me. I appreciated that they reached out and I believed they were sincere. So, I think you should do it if it’s on your mind. I bet they will appreciate your apology.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Today I am nosy about what is missing in your life. What are the voids you try to fill? In any area of your life…sex, marriage, career, relationships…whatever.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I’m nosey about what makes a weekend a great weekend for you?

Time outside? Socializing? Getting shit done? Sleeping? Cooking? What makes for an excellent weekend?

It entirely depends on the weekend. For example, I didn't get much done this weekend or do a lot of the things I would have wanted to, but I had a long talk tonight with a good friend, so that makes it a great weekend in the end.

Today I am nosy about what is missing in your life. What are the voids you try to fill? In any area of your life…sex, marriage, career, relationships…whatever.

I'm missing having at least one close relationship with someone who really gets me and who actually lives close to me. Even better to have two of those relationships - one with a person I also want to have sex with and one with someone who is just a friend. Which means I'm also missing sex, although not necessarily that as much as just physical closeness.

I'm starting to miss having a real career where I know I'm helping people somehow. I need to sort that out.

Marriage I could take or leave... I think, anyway. That might change if I find a serious relationship & fall in love

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

This happens a lot. I have been told I can’t be trusted because of who I talk to, they can’t talk to me because my “friends” wouldn’t like it, I am not interested in anything they say because they aren’t one of the popular people. It is childish and pathetic. We are not children for fucks sake! I will point out that it is the very needy men that these comments have come from.

There is often talk about “groups” or “cliques” and in all honesty I don’t see it. There are the people that will often comment on each other’s posts and I see this happening because they post a lot so there is more to comment on. This leads to inside jokes and therefore more commenting on each other’s posts. It isn’t because they are shutting other people out. Also, because those people post a lot, it is easier to start a personal conversation with them which means a friendship builds. And then there are the people that will make nasty remarks about those people perceived to be popular just to get the attention of that person. A little tip would be get their attention by saying nice things rather than nasty things,

Just let people be who they want to be and friends with who they want to be. If they are not hurting anybody then does it really matter?

 

[AmberLGreen]

Today I am nosy about what is missing in your life. What are the voids you try to fill? In any area of your life…sex, marriage, career, relationships…whatever.

I will just say I need actual physical sex. That is all!

 

[AveryElle]

Anyone else glad that windbag Fara isn’t around?

I’m pretty nosey about that.
Actually...nm...I could give a fuck. I’m just glad that ball of malice and spite is gone.

She’s around. She just has a life away from her computer. Perhaps try it?

 

[AbsintheFather]

Anyone else glad that windbag Fara isn’t around?

I’m pretty nosey about that.
Actually...nm...I could give a fuck. I’m just glad that ball of malice and spite is gone.

She’s around. She just has a life away from her computer. Perhaps try it?

And, Esshole, because it's especially relevant to today's conversation, I'm gonna add that in spite of the fact that you're such douche and so full of shit that I am somehow still able to accept as good people the one or two Litsters who somehow seem to accept your oversized ego, your bloated self-worth and your dumbass blather.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Anyone else glad that windbag Fara isn’t around?

I’m pretty nosey about that.
Actually...nm...I could give a fuck. I’m just glad that ball of malice and spite is gone.

We know you like the attention and I am in a giving mood tonight.

I think she is doing that thing called life. You should give it a go, apparently it can be quite therapeutic for the needy.

I would give up on your quest for Fara because she is way out of your league. Don’t give up hope though because there is bound to be some sad, desperate fucker out there that likes your type.

 

[BadAmy]

Anyone else glad that windbag Fara isn’t around?

I’m pretty nosey about that.
Actually...nm...I could give a fuck. I’m just glad that ball of malice and spite is gone.

That is really a horrible thing to say.
Such a bad horrible mean thing.

 

[AveryElle]

That is really a horrible thing to say.
Such a bad horrible mean thing.

It’s also moronic grammar. He COULDN’T give a fuck.

 

[Stillrandy]

I will just say I need actual physical sex. That is all!

I think that is going around....same here!

 

[Dribble]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

Yes.

There are people here that I don't like or respect, and yet if they needed help...I would do it cause that is the right thing to do. Then there are people like you describe...they can go fuck themselves. But they are still worth something. You can use them to potentially identify others you can't trust cause like attracts like

 

[Silk_Princess]

I am nosey about what prompts certain (straight, cis) men to use photos of women as their avatars, and whether other women find this appealing. I don't recall seeing any/many female posters using photos of men as their AVs, so am genuinely curious about the thinking behind this.

 

[NeonSubtlety]

I am nosey about what prompts certain (straight, cis) men to use photos of women as their avatars, and whether other women find this appealing. I don't recall seeing any/many female posters using photos of men as their AVs, so am genuinely curious about the thinking behind this.

Speaking only for myself, I don’t actually consider my avatar picture a picture of a woman, as much as it is a picture of lighting. Lighting/color is a thing for me. The calves and heels were just ancillary to what I wanted to put there — which was what I found beautiful.

I do understand the confusion, though…which is why I commented (hopefully explicitly) that I’m not a woman. I’ve gotten enough pm’s assuming the opposite that I realized the issue with the avatar.

 

[ydahecnot]

I am nosey about what prompts certain (straight, cis) men to use photos of women as their avatars, and whether other women find this appealing. I don't recall seeing any/many female posters using photos of men as their AVs, so am genuinely curious about the thinking behind this.

I have had a few guys hit on me over the years, apparently thinking the dopey drawing was a feminine thing. Is it? I just picked it as something different, as something cheerful

 

[Silk_Princess]

Speaking only for myself, I don’t actually consider my avatar picture a picture of a woman, as much as it is a picture of lighting. Lighting/color is a thing for me. The calves and heels were just ancillary to what I wanted to put there — which was what I found beautiful.
. . .

Yes, fwiw yours “reads” more like an abstract landscape to me as well, at least on my small screen, though I can also see how others might be confused. I had in mind some of the more obvious photos of women, but your answer is interesting nonetheless. Thank you.

I have had a few guys hit on me over the years, apparently thinking the dopey drawing was a feminine thing. Is it? I just picked it as something different, as something cheerful

Interesting. Fwiw, to me your name and avatar both seem gender neutral.

 

[NeonSubtlety]

Wait. You’re not a woman?

A real crying game moment going on right now…

we won’t win an Oscar.

 

[Dribble]

Speaking only for myself, I don’t actually consider my avatar picture a picture of a woman, as much as it is a picture of lighting. Lighting/color is a thing for me. The calves and heels were just ancillary to what I wanted to put there — which was what I found beautiful.

I do understand the confusion, though…which is why I commented (hopefully explicitly) that I’m not a woman. I’ve gotten enough pm’s assuming the opposite that I realized the issue with the avatar.

Once, long ago, in a World still being created...I thought you were a girl. Not because of the avatar...but because of the name using "subtlety". Looking at the av...it confounded the incorrect belief. Then I figured you were a cross dresser. Strike 2. I stopped thinking after that.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Today I am nosy about what is missing in your life. What are the voids you try to fill? In any area of your life…sex, marriage, career, relationships…whatever.

I can honestly say I don’t have any voids.

Maybe my next adventure. That being defined as a conversation , PM or voice. Or a munch meeting or swinger meet and greet with mutual attraction being the starting point of going down that path. That’s not a void per say , but a lust for , a want , but not a void.

FF

 

[AlexBailey]

Wait. You’re not a woman?

It’s funny how easily that can happen. The brain picks up on context and subtle clues… It’s like how we’re pre-wired to recognize facial patterns - in clouds, rock formations, trees… A few word choices, hair styles, and body parts accentuated with clothing styles and your brain runs with assumptions and fills in the blanks.