What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[BadAmy]

I'm nosey about things you try to do yourself but really need two to do right.

Sexual or otherwise. Have you tried smacking your own butt with a wooden spoon? Tried to build the IKEA wardrobe yourself and found yourself holding a ton and a half of chipboard and needing a third hand to reach the bolts (J) and locking nuts (Q)?

..otherwise it takes me just about a nanosecond to realize something is too much for me to handle. Like, I look at that thing, and think, yeah I could pick it up, then ...nope. I try to be hyper aware of my limitations.
Sexually....I think I push myself but still am conservative of my limits. Unless they really tweak my buttons. Then, I'll push it.
Most things I do to myself, I'm good with managing.

 

[saustin5432]

Oooh alright.since you are answering...here it is:

I am curious on your take, and or position on the pandemic? What's happening In your location? Are you following guidelines if any? Or is the whole thing so 20 min ago?
I know this can be a hard topic to discuss for some, and people I am guessing have strong opinions on the matter. But what are you thinking about it?

Representing Illinois, things haven't been terrible in the greater Chicago area. Most people seemed to be respectful about things like masks and distancing up until very recently. When we were locked down last year, it was pretty locked down. I had to travel into Chicago every day due to an "essential" project I was working on and could literally go days without seeing someone on the street in the Chicago loop. Vaccination rates are meh. I think people are giving up now though and just saying fuck it.

Personally, I was vaccinated the minute I was eligible. I wear my mask when I'm around people. I believe the science that says vaccination, mask wearing and distancing works. I did start to travel a bit more after I was vaccinated, but I still wear my mask (even when everyone is looking at my like I'm a fool...I'm looking at you Arizona) and try to be respectful of other people's space. I'm about as big an anti-anti-vaxxer as you'll find, and not just for COVID. Get your vaccinations people...and your kids too. Don't listen to the anti-hype.

Bigger picture...this pandemic changed me and not in a single good way. I have lost all respect for a huge portion of the US population. I hate how divisive this has made us (and the political culture that has been thrust upon us). I wish harm on people who spread misinformation. I have dropped nearly all social media because it just makes me sad or angry. My streaming bills are off the charts and for a while there, I thought I was on a payment plan to purchase the local liquor store.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm nosey about things you try to do yourself but really need two to do right.

Sexual or otherwise. Have you tried smacking your own butt with a wooden spoon? Tried to build the IKEA wardrobe yourself and found yourself holding a ton and a half of chipboard and needing a third hand to reach the bolts (J) and locking nuts (Q)?

I don't need nobody for nothing! Except for carrying the groceries in...

 

[AlpineFresco]

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

 

[Dribble]

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

Who they vote for clearly demonstrates their morals. Why would I even want to talk with a person, let alone fuck, with someone who supports a party that believes rapists have more rights than their victims? Or that believes cow wormer is better than getting vaccinated? Or anything the Republican Party believes in?

Although I will interact with a Democrat that keeps Republicans as friends...I would never trust them either. Morals are everything. Trust is everything.

 

[AveryElle]

I'm nosey about things you try to do yourself but really need two to do right.

Sexual or otherwise. Have you tried smacking your own butt with a wooden spoon? Tried to build the IKEA wardrobe yourself and found yourself holding a ton and a half of chipboard and needing a third hand to reach the bolts (J) and locking nuts (Q)?

I outsource anything I need another person for. Spanking and ikea, which is just the Swedish word for divorce anyway.

 

[AveryElle]

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

It didn’t matter as much to me before 2015. Even W gave foreign aid to combat HIV in Africa so I could find something moderately redeeming about blowing a Republican back then. However, I worked in congress and didn’t want Republican stank on me.

Now? Absolutely not. Same goes for rabid lefties. I’m really much more aware of how much the far left wishes we didn’t exist in addition to already knowing how incompatible the right and out is to my values. Being conservative is probably the biggest reason I wouldn’t be with someone. I can’t fuck someone I don’t respect. I dated one Republican and it wasn’t fun. But him losing his race for congress was!

 

[AveryElle]

I’m nosey about what Halloween candy you’re giving out this year. Small or full size? Do you give to all kids equally or more to your neighbors/kids you know?

 

[AveryElle]

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

I’ll also add that I think it’s a real point of privilege to not care about politics because it means your fundamental rights (sexuality or gender identity, reproductive, access to schools, not having to worry about police brutality, etc) aren’t the ones being trampled on. It’s hard for me to connect with someone who can’t see how the power structures are hurting others. Or worse, sees and doesn’t care.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I'm nosey about things you try to do yourself but really need two to do right.

Sexual or otherwise. Have you tried smacking your own butt with a wooden spoon? Tried to build the IKEA wardrobe yourself and found yourself holding a ton and a half of chipboard and needing a third hand to reach the bolts (J) and locking nuts (Q)?

I'm pretty capable. I'll ask if I need help, but I'll have tried myself first multiple times. I don't like to think I rely on or need anyone else. But there are somethings I know I need someone else for. Multiple orgasms. I can get myself to a point where I'm nearly there, but I always ALWAYS lift off. Can't seem to help that. One day.

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

It depends. I couldn't be with someone who isn't empathetic. That can mean if your views are entrenched, we may not be the best fit. I like to chat and debate my politics. If you can't handle that, then again. Do one.

I’m nosey about what Halloween candy you’re giving out this year. Small or full size? Do you give to all kids equally or more to your neighbors/kids you know?

We buy the small. Dish out equally to all who come knocking.

 

[Rapha_79]

It depends. I couldn't be with someone who isn't empathetic. That can mean if your views are entrenched, we may not be the best fit. I like to chat and debate my politics. If you can't handle that, then again. Do one.

Exactly this. I don’t expect or want everyone to agree with my political views but I want them to respect my right to believe what I believe and I’ll respect theirs (within reason - clearly I don’t want to be associating with rabid racists). Political dogma is boring and indicative of an uninterested mind. That ain’t attractive.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

I'm becoming more flexible in my ability to tolerate people with different viewpoints because I've spent the past year practicing setting and enforcing boundaries. I'm very comfortable with my viewpoints and understanding of the world. I'm also continually changing and expanding my perspective as I meet new people.

I doubt I could date someone with drastically different political views, but I also think I could handle it. It would depend on the person. If that person could accept me and my stance without a desire to change my mind- yeah, we'll work out.

One thing I won't stand for is the dehumanization of others. It's ugly, cruel and it's a tool out brains use to distance people from their humanity enough to hurt them. Unfortunately I see that behavior in every aspect of our political and religious landscape. Maybe it's because I have more left leaning friends, or those friends feel safer around me, but it's my liberal friends who are the most offensive with dehumanization and othering.

I am committed to staying curious and listening until I have an understanding of where the person across from me is coming from. I'm not nearly evolved enough to think that I have any idea what another person has been through, what they've seen and how that shapes their perspective. I may not agree, but I also know it's not my job to change their minds. I'm not a political missionary.

And fuck missionaries! The audacity it takes to go to someone's home and tell them to change is beyond me. Stay home and talk to Jesus on your own #thankyouverymuch

 

[cheekygirl75]

I’ll also add that I think it’s a real point of privilege to not care about politics because it means your fundamental rights (sexuality or gender identity, reproductive, access to schools, not having to worry about police brutality, etc) aren’t the ones being trampled on. It’s hard for me to connect with someone who can’t see how the power structures are hurting others. Or worse, sees and doesn’t care.

I’m nodding at everything Avery has said on this!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Exactly this. I don’t expect or want everyone to agree with my political views but I want them to respect my right to believe what I believe and I’ll respect theirs (within reason - clearly I don’t want to be associating with rabid racists). Political dogma is boring and indicative of an uninterested mind. That ain’t attractive.

Nods

You get me.

 

[AveryElle]

One thing I won't stand for is the dehumanization of others. It's ugly, cruel and it's a tool out brains use to distance people from their humanity enough to hurt them. Unfortunately I see that behavior in every aspect of our political and religious landscape. Maybe it's because I have more left leaning friends, or those friends feel safer around me, but it's my liberal friends who are the most offensive with dehumanization and othering.

Having worked in an office full of conservatives before trump*, they are talking about you. And everyone who isn’t a white christian male. Even when they know you’re listening. I would stay quiet and listen. But especially when they think you aren’t. And I cycled through enough coworkers since it was a military office to know it wasn’t a blip.

*I was surrounded by them when DADT was repealed and when same sex marriage bans were struck down. Those were fun times.

 

[AveryElle]

Exactly this. I don’t expect or want everyone to agree with my political views but I want them to respect my right to believe what I believe and I’ll respect theirs (within reason - clearly I don’t want to be associating with rabid racists). Political dogma is boring and indicative of an uninterested mind. That ain’t attractive.

Dogma of any kind is basic and boring - everyone has a right to their own beliefs and opinion, but not their own facts. The ‘I’m doing my own research’ crowd, regardless of the topic, is very dangerous. There is a reason scientists - including social scientists - are trained in research methods. ‘I’m gonna collect data!’ Is fine. Not knowing how to analyze that data? Super helpful.

 

[Rapha_79]

Nods

You get me.

Ah, one of my favourite Lit ladies. How’s it going Aussie? Long time no speak.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Dogma of any kind is basic and boring - everyone has a right to their own beliefs and opinion, but not their own facts. The ‘I’m doing my own research’ crowd, regardless of the topic, is very dangerous. There is a reason scientists - including social scientists - are trained in research methods. ‘I’m gonna collect data!’ Is fine. Not knowing how to analyze that data? Super helpful.

Good point!

And those of us who are criticizing some of the scientific norms aren't doing so in an attempt to give the anti-science crowd ammunition.

I'm fairly outspoken in my opinion that drug trial results should be punished regardless of favorability. If we only get positive data sets, we're missing out of other meaningful connections. We're also wasting time and energy because that knowledge was hoarded.

I have noticed that one "side" is willing to criticize their own views as well as others

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Ah, one of my favourite Lit ladies. How’s it going Aussie? Long time no speak.

Ok.

I'm deep in that pandemic flux.

God. On this site that sounds kinda sexy... Lol.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

How Rainshine feels about Covid is about how I feel about politics right now. I'm over it. And the idea that it's a privileged stand point is a bit hypocritical to me. The privilege to have the time and mental health to deal with what is essentially a malfunctioning sewer system at this point is real too. One person can only champion so many things at a time without going completely insane.


I think there are extremes that should be outright shunned but I think discarding people who don't agree with you automatically and refusing to even have the conversation or pursue any type of relationship is only reinforcing divisions. It doesn't bring anyone closer to understanding or unity, it doesn't change hearts and minds, and it doesn't create change.

I'm not saying a person's politics don't say a lot about them but it doesn't always say what we think it does. It sometimes just says "I don't have enough information or another perspective to the argument". I'm personally thankful I've had relationships that have changed my perspective and challenged my preconceptions.

Of course, my partner shares core beliefs but those beliefs have also shifted and grown and hopefully will continue to do so. I think the narcissism it requires to be a politician or be committed fangirling/fanboying politicians is a huge part of the problem. There is no right answer for everyone just one that does the least harm to as many people as possible.

In conclusion (to this rant no one cares about), there are plenty of people i agree with point for point but the way they convey their positions make me want to jump off a bridge.

 

[saustin5432]

I'm nosey about how people view the politics of a potential new partner. What's the point where a difference becomes a deal breaker? How different is your view for casual partners vs longer-term?

I'm pretty open for discussion and actually enjoy a good discussion. For casual partners, I don't think it matters one iota. I've gotten pretty good at just moving the conversation along if I think it could devolve.

Longer term partners. I'm down for a good debate and like to hear different opinions. As long you hold a defensible position, I'm not going to get all up in arms about many topics. That being said, I have a few hot button issues that I'm passionate about that would be non-starters if you held the opposite belief. Feel free to check in with me ahead of time before we get too attached.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

How Rainshine feels about Covid is about how I feel about politics right now. I'm over it. And the idea that it's a privileged stand point is a bit hypocritical to me. The privilege to have the time and mental health to deal with what is essentially a malfunctioning sewer system at this point is real too. One person can only champion so many things at a time without going completely insane.


I think there are extremes that should be outright shunned but I think discarding people who don't agree with you automatically and refusing to even have the conversation or pursue any type of relationship is only reinforcing divisions. It doesn't bring anyone closer to understanding or unity, it doesn't change hearts and minds, and it doesn't create change.

I'm not saying a person's politics don't say a lot about them but it doesn't always say what we think it does. It sometimes just says "I don't have enough information or another perspective to the argument". I'm personally thankful I've had relationships that have changed my perspective and challenged my preconceptions.

Of course, my partner shares core beliefs but those beliefs have also shifted and grown and hopefully will continue to do so. I think the narcissism it requires to be a politician or be committed fangirling/fanboying politicians is a huge part of the problem. There is no right answer for everyone just one that does the least harm to as many people as possible.

In conclusion (to this rant no one cares about), there are plenty of people i agree with point for point but the way they convey their positions make me want to jump off a bridge.

I care, and this resonates.

When did political ideology become synonymous with identity?

 

[Rapha_79]

Ok.

I'm deep in that pandemic flux.

God. On this site that sounds kinda sexy... Lol.

I think pandemic flux might be my new fantasy.

 

[AveryElle]

I think pandemic flux might be my new fantasy.

There are probably lingerie styles for it already

 

[aussiegeekygal]

There are probably lingerie styles for it already

I looked really hard. Couldn't find an image. I'm shocked! Rule 34 of the internet has let me down.