ASSHAT AWARDS: Even more of the Best of the Worst PMs & emails received

[Mypssypls]

Chill!!!

I got a very long and detailed description of a porn shoot someone would like to do with me. It included everything: the place, what we're both wearing, my hair and make up, even the color of my nails, what would happen and in which order and even the back story.

I was to be a warrior princess wearing chainmail lingerie, he was a slave I had captured in a battle and taken on a small deserted island right outside the castle where I lived so that I can use and abuse him without others knowing about it. The island is where the shoot was gonna take place, the castle would act as a pretty backdrop. (The castle really exists, maybe the island too?)

The whole sex thing was described very meticulously and included things like "you pull out a silver hair comb that was holding your luscious locks up in a messy bun, you let your auburn hair fall onto my chest and I can see it still has signs of the battle in it in the form of dust and dried blood". (Ew.)

He also described how I would "skillfully use my diamond embellished sword to cut his simple leather clothes into pieces", but he never mentioned me removing my chainmail underwear. So for example the copious amounts of face sitting was just him licking my chainmail.

I sent him a message to point out this flaw, and he replied by sending the same thing again, only this time he had added a line telling I remove my clothes.

It didn't happen on Lit and sadly my English skills completely fail to portray the true poetry of his vision, but if anybody's interested in shooting medieval chainmail porn on location, I can hook you up!

Sooo… I clicked on this forum expecting to read things like this and be semi entertained…
Instead I walked into a very heated discussion…

This is a sex website. Anonymous and would remain anonymous — that we can control, whatever gender you are.
Creeps and asshats are present/ expected in PM on a sex website.
I would personally just delete and block and carry on.
It shouldnt be any deeper than that.

Now let me go back to the Fetish forum.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Nothing like mansplaining in this particular thread. *facepalm*

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Sooo… I clicked on this forum expecting to read things like this and be semi entertained…
Instead I walked into a very heated discussion…

This is a sex website. Anonymous and would remain anonymous — that we can control, whatever gender you are.
Creeps and asshats are present/ expected in PM on a sex website.
I would personally just delete and block and carry on.
It shouldnt be any deeper than that.

Now let me go back to the Fetish forum.

See ya.

 

[cookiecat]

My real name isn't Lincoln Duncan and I'm going to assume that your real name isn't Vail Indigo. We are all anonymous. So unless you post your real name or any other personal information, you probably have no real danger from "threats of violence."

I know several people from this site who were outed. No violence involved, but the threat of job security, family and neighbors knowing. In one case, it became a larger issue for this person's kink community because of the exposure.

Grow up.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

I mean, if you consider ignoring everything I’ve said, and that other women have said, and spoken out of ignorance, being helpful, then I guess. But also, I have not actually asked for your help.

I'm curious to know how you came to the conclusion that I have ignored everything you've said and what other women said?

I am aware that you did not ask me for help but this is a public forum in which I am entitled to post without discrimination based upon an assumption of my sexual gender. You don't have to specifically ask me for help in order for me to engage in the discussion. It is my right as a human being!

 

[cheekygirl75]

I'm curious to know how you came to the conclusion that I have ignored everything you've said and what other women said?

I am aware that you did not ask me for help but this is a public forum in which I am entitled to post without discrimination based upon an assumption of my sexual gender. You don't have to specifically ask me for help in order for me to engage in the discussion. It is my right as a human being!

Then why are you butthurt that she a) doesn't want your help and b) doesn't find your "help" actually helpful?

It was a suggestion for your benefit, not a direction.

I've tried to be helpful but I think you don't want answers, you just want combat.

*bolding is mine

 

[cheekygirl75]

Anyway…

I got a message from an asshat today…

It’s not bad as this recent conversation.

LOLOLOLOL

 

[LincolnDuncan]

I know several people from this site who were outed. No violence involved, but the threat of job security, family and neighbors knowing. In one case, it became a larger issue for this person's kink community because of the exposure.

Grow up.

I think that the site owners encourage people to resist posting any private information.

I'm curious about your advice to me to "grow up."

Please identify what I have posted which you find immature.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

Then why are you butthurt that she a) doesn't want your help and b) doesn't find your "help" actually helpful?



*bolding is mine

Butthurt? Not at all. I'm just engaging in a conversation in a civilized manner on a porn board. I haven't insulted anyone but several people are attempting to insult me.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Butthurt? Not at all. I'm just engaging in a conversation in a civilized manner on a porn board. I haven't insulted anyone but several people are attempting to insult me.

Complaining that someone isn't accepting your "help" because she doesn't find it helpful and wouldn't want it anyway is civilized? Maybe for elementary school... I know my twin nieces in kindergarten are learning lessons like that.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

You can't ignore and discount what people who have a very different experience in the world than you say and then claim you haven't insulted them.
That's a pretty solid definition of an insult.

What specifically did I post for you to draw that conclusion? I have carefully read each post and chose my words very carefully in response. I have not name-called or insulted anyone. On the other hand, regardless of what I posted, you have had to perform mental gymnastics to reinterpret my posts.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

Complaining that someone isn't accepting your "help" because she doesn't find it helpful and wouldn't want it anyway is civilized? Maybe for elementary school... I know my twin nieces in kindergarten are learning lessons like that.

Show me my complaint.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Show me my complaint.

I did. I even bolded it! Kinda discounts your assertion that you're reading every post carefully.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

If what is being said of me were true, I'm certain that a moderator would have banned me by now. Just like cops, never around when needed.

 

[cheekygirl75]

If what is being said of me were true, I'm certain that a moderator would have banned me by now. Just like cops, never around when needed.

And now you're ignoring my answer to your question, where you clearly were complaining as I stated. Kinda discounts your assertion that you aren't ignoring any posts.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

Being a tool on Literotica seldom has consequences

So, you believe that name calling is the best way to make your point?

 

[LincolnDuncan]

And now you're ignoring my answer to your question, where you clearly were complaining as I stated. Kinda discounts your assertion that you aren't ignoring any posts.

I carefully read what you said, but it made no sense so it wasn't possible to respond in an intelligent manner.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

He’s just a nice guy, genuinely trying to understand.
…
Women are so perplexing, dang it.

Thank you

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It wasn't a PM but there was a guy -

He kept insisting on defending and explaining himself unnecessarily.
He insisted on having the last word no matter how much worse it made him appear.
He wasn't reading comments to engage, understand or empathize.
He had the overwhelming urge to be RIGHT about everything amd didn't understand no matter how many times and ways he restated his opinion it wasn't going to change anything.

Assets abound. *
Smart ladies make me wet.

 

[MeekMe]

It’s amazing how many times I see women point out a problem, and in this case we found a solution for venting (this thread) and men still come around to tell us we’re doing it wrong. Ignoring the problem does nothing to prevent it from happening so we’ve taken to bringing awareness in hopes that it will eventually stick that we’re not responsible for the actions of men. Men are fully responsible for what they choose to do and may end up here (name redacted) for sending often bizarre messages to non-consenting recipients. Wearing a skirt isn’t an invitation to be touched the same way that being a woman on an erotic literature forum isn’t an invitation to be sexually harassed via PM. Being a woman on a site like this is not consent.

This thread brings awareness and is working as intended. No need to debate with people that aren’t doing so in good faith. They don’t intend to understand and are only here to throw a tantrum and cause a scene.

 

[jaF0]

I know several people from this site who were outed. No violence involved, but the threat of job security, family and neighbors knowing. In one case, it became a larger issue for this person's kink community because of the exposure.

Grow up.

The best way to protect your personal information is to not give it to others n the web somewhere. NO one on this or any other website even knows the general part of the world I'm in.

 

[jaF0]

It’s amazing how many times I see women point out a problem, and in this case we found a solution for venting (this thread) ...

Ways have been suggested for you to stop it from happening. You choose to not use those ways and continue to whine about it.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Ways have been suggested for you to stop it from happening. You choose to not use those ways and continue to whine about it.

And there's pretty much the definition of victim blaming. The victim should change their behavior instead of the perpetrator. We "whiners" should cut ourselves off from the good PMs that we get, because it's too hard to teach jerks to be decent people.

 

[MeekMe]

Ways have been suggested for you to stop it from happening. You choose to not use those ways and continue to whine about it.

You can ignore this thread and stop whining about it.

Bringing awareness to an issue is not “whining.” You should probably take your own advice and leave this thread.


Anyone else get the feeling the real whiners are authors of some of these posted atrocities?

 

[jaF0]

And there's pretty much the definition of victim blaming. The victim should change their behavior instead of the perpetrator. We "whiners" should cut ourselves off from the good PMs that we get, because it's too hard to teach jerks to be decent people.

So, there's no reason to have locks on your doors at home, right? Because it's the bad guys' fault for coming into your house, so there's no reason to make any attempt to protect your self, home or family.