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How to compliment a woman
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lycan_hitch
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Well..its hard to give a compliment regarding a certain feature..infact, the only way one can truly compliment is to tell his perception of the whole view.. 
.. forsooth it will be a compliment worth a 1000 words
.. forsooth it will be a compliment worth a 1000 words
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Well.. the feeling is mutual , somehow your dp reminds me of Winter's Tale.. the red head miracle.. was she for someone? or was someone for her?
, somehow your dp reminds me of Winter's Tale.. the red head miracle.. was she for someone? or was someone for her?
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Cisboy?
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I don't snicker, I chortle.
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*RAWWWWR *
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I feel like I've missed an entire season of Young and the Restless!
(anytime there are more than 3 pages of catchup in a day away from the How To board, you know it's a hot thread)
It's been beautiful, intimate, awkward, depressing. Aside from the name calling (and the next time one of you posts that a person is being ignored, it would probably be a good idea to actually do that) - it's been an interesting thread.
I didn't like the comments such as, "men think…; men do…; men treat…
Similarly, as Fire mentioned, I don't think that it was fair to lump women into one category. The few times a woman came on here and stated that she appreciated compliments, she was hazed and essentially accused of being ignorant to what really goes on in the world.
That being said, it took a lot of courage to share the way some people have. I have gained perspective, not in how I am treated, but in how others might perceive their own surroundings. It's good to hear what other people think. It broadens our vision. When someone says that someone else is a "c***" - I tend to think it reflects negatively on the person doing the talking. I never think, "uh oh.. my pussy must be awful"
We come to our own conclusions about our environments. Right or wrong.
Again, I appreciate those who have commented about creating an awareness so that our sons and daughters appreciate who they are without being bitter toward the other side.
Please don't try to tell me (again) why I don't understand, or why I'm wrong, or how I'm perpetuating a horrific existence for women.
I am a woman...
I am strong.. and smart.. and capable…
and I run like a girl
(anytime there are more than 3 pages of catchup in a day away from the How To board, you know it's a hot thread)
It's been beautiful, intimate, awkward, depressing. Aside from the name calling (and the next time one of you posts that a person is being ignored, it would probably be a good idea to actually do that) - it's been an interesting thread.
I didn't like the comments such as, "men think…; men do…; men treat…
Similarly, as Fire mentioned, I don't think that it was fair to lump women into one category. The few times a woman came on here and stated that she appreciated compliments, she was hazed and essentially accused of being ignorant to what really goes on in the world.
That being said, it took a lot of courage to share the way some people have. I have gained perspective, not in how I am treated, but in how others might perceive their own surroundings. It's good to hear what other people think. It broadens our vision. When someone says that someone else is a "c***" - I tend to think it reflects negatively on the person doing the talking. I never think, "uh oh.. my pussy must be awful"
We come to our own conclusions about our environments. Right or wrong.
Again, I appreciate those who have commented about creating an awareness so that our sons and daughters appreciate who they are without being bitter toward the other side.
Please don't try to tell me (again) why I don't understand, or why I'm wrong, or how I'm perpetuating a horrific existence for women.
I am a woman...
I am strong.. and smart.. and capable…
and I run like a girl
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I do have one other topic I would like to discuss. Abortion.
Just kidding. But I thought it's the only thing this thread didn't have. That and unicorns.
Just kidding. But I thought it's the only thing this thread didn't have. That and unicorns.
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I don't believe you run like a girl. Video proof please! Two camera angles, front and rear.
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See, cisladies, ChemicallyChallengedCaucasianAmericanCisBoy HAS learned so much from this thread. Its a good thing my dickish behaviour showed him how NOT to behave. Otherwise he may say something weird.
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How did pm Ann know I have a chemical imbalance? Is he psychotic?
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Very well said Gigglegasm.
It's been an amusing thread.
At the end of the day, what I draw from it is simply this:
If I feel a compliment is deserved and appropriate, then, personally I am still going to deliver the compliment to the stranger. I also strike up conversations with strangers all the time in public - I get to meet some cool and interesting people whom I otherwise would never get a chance to meet. How that person takes the compliment in their decision. I must have good intuitions because I've never had a negative reaction.
Does that make me a bad person? LOL - I've always wanted to be a bad person, but fortunately or unfortunately, I am not. (Just joking of course, I enjoy being me.)
It's been an amusing thread.
At the end of the day, what I draw from it is simply this:
If I feel a compliment is deserved and appropriate, then, personally I am still going to deliver the compliment to the stranger. I also strike up conversations with strangers all the time in public - I get to meet some cool and interesting people whom I otherwise would never get a chance to meet. How that person takes the compliment in their decision. I must have good intuitions because I've never had a negative reaction.
Does that make me a bad person? LOL - I've always wanted to be a bad person, but fortunately or unfortunately, I am not. (Just joking of course, I enjoy being me.)
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I'm going to preface this post by saying that I'm aware that there are many who have grown weary of this thread. To them, I offer my apologies. But I've also received PM's from some who would like for the conversation to continue. For that reason, I'm answering Query here instead of PM.
This is true. And I think this kind of goes back to that white elephant that Shiny mentioned. I'm not saying that I think men should refrain from initiating contact with someone in whom they have an interest. I would just like for more men to do so with more sensitivity to the problems many women frequently encounter from disrespectful jerks. That may sound highly idealistic to some people. That's fine. I'll own it.
I think you and I have touched on this before, and I'm sorry, but I think that's hogwash. I will admit my perspective might be skewed based upon where I am in life. I have no time or patience for head games, and I say what I mean. That said, in listening to my younger female cousins, I get the feeling they operate in the same manner. Granted, it's not exactly a large enough group to be classified as a scientific sample, but it's what I have to work with.
Are there some women out there who like to act coy and hard to get? Sure. I, personally, have a problem with this. Why? Because for the guys that are aggressive jerks, this feeds into the justification they offer for being persistent after being told to buzz off. It's often a justification offered by those who endorse PUA tactics. "Well, ya know, she probably really wants you, but you have to help her get over her socialization to say no."
Yeah, no. Bollocks to that. That way of thinking is a very slippery slope to tread. Take it to it's most extreme conclusion. When you read accounts from women who have been attacked, and who were told some variant of "C'mon, baby. You know you really want this?" No. It is not ok. No means no. If a woman rejects a man simply to act coy, and he takes her at her word (as he should, IMO), that's on her, not on him. I know that sounds judgmental, but I don't know how to word it any more delicately.
I think that's the heart of this issue. I think many women are unsure of how to disengage in a manner that's effective most of the time. I know I don't.
I don't want to give the impression that I walk about cringing from every man who is unknown to me. That's ridiculous. I have many wonderful encounters that leave me smiling, some to the extent that I facebook it. There are times I can read the context pretty well. But there are times when it fails me. And when an aggressive jerk steps beyond my comfort zone, I'm unsure of how to disengage without setting him off even further. Someone said to puff up, to make yourself seem as threatening as possible. I would *love* to know how to do that. I'm 5'2" and I weigh 100 lbs on my best day. If they so chose, most people could take me down in a heartbeat.
This is true. And I think this kind of goes back to that white elephant that Shiny mentioned. I'm not saying that I think men should refrain from initiating contact with someone in whom they have an interest. I would just like for more men to do so with more sensitivity to the problems many women frequently encounter from disrespectful jerks. That may sound highly idealistic to some people. That's fine. I'll own it.
I think you and I have touched on this before, and I'm sorry, but I think that's hogwash. I will admit my perspective might be skewed based upon where I am in life. I have no time or patience for head games, and I say what I mean. That said, in listening to my younger female cousins, I get the feeling they operate in the same manner. Granted, it's not exactly a large enough group to be classified as a scientific sample, but it's what I have to work with.
Are there some women out there who like to act coy and hard to get? Sure. I, personally, have a problem with this. Why? Because for the guys that are aggressive jerks, this feeds into the justification they offer for being persistent after being told to buzz off. It's often a justification offered by those who endorse PUA tactics. "Well, ya know, she probably really wants you, but you have to help her get over her socialization to say no."
Yeah, no. Bollocks to that. That way of thinking is a very slippery slope to tread. Take it to it's most extreme conclusion. When you read accounts from women who have been attacked, and who were told some variant of "C'mon, baby. You know you really want this?" No. It is not ok. No means no. If a woman rejects a man simply to act coy, and he takes her at her word (as he should, IMO), that's on her, not on him. I know that sounds judgmental, but I don't know how to word it any more delicately.
I think that's the heart of this issue. I think many women are unsure of how to disengage in a manner that's effective most of the time. I know I don't.
I don't want to give the impression that I walk about cringing from every man who is unknown to me. That's ridiculous. I have many wonderful encounters that leave me smiling, some to the extent that I facebook it. There are times I can read the context pretty well. But there are times when it fails me. And when an aggressive jerk steps beyond my comfort zone, I'm unsure of how to disengage without setting him off even further. Someone said to puff up, to make yourself seem as threatening as possible. I would *love* to know how to do that. I'm 5'2" and I weigh 100 lbs on my best day. If they so chose, most people could take me down in a heartbeat.
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The thread is interesting and entertaining to say the least. The way I see it, is if people don't like it, they don't have to keep clicking on it. It's not spewing everywhere else on the boards. It's contained in one place.
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Ordinarily, I would take a compliment coming out of the blue as somewhat creepy. I figured there was always some sort of hidden agenda behind it. But I have to tell you about something that happened the other day when I was in Trader Joe's. A man gave me an appreciative look and said "That dress you're wearing is the PERFECT dress!" At the time, I thought it was a compliment to my sense of taste and style. That's how I took it, and I smiled and said "Thank you!" And that was that.
Afterwards, it occurred to me that he might have been complimenting the figure inside the dress, not the dress itself (which was silk and very clingy). That made it creepier. But I enjoyed the compliment anyway. And did seem to brighten up his day, too. No harm, no foul.
Afterwards, it occurred to me that he might have been complimenting the figure inside the dress, not the dress itself (which was silk and very clingy). That made it creepier. But I enjoyed the compliment anyway. And did seem to brighten up his day, too. No harm, no foul.
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Hold the phone, call the press, alert the president, contact NATO. Things just got real. A woman was given a compliment and she liked it. My god, what are we to do?
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f^_^;
Seems to me there's a misunderstanding. I can accept a compliment. To be clear, there is a difference between a compliment and harassment. Also, the environment has a major affect on how I react. If the area has people and seems fairly safe (as in I'm not cornered or completely alone) and it's worded appropriately, I will of course smile and say thank you. Believe it or not, it's happened.
Most of the tangents were about street harassment, which is often more crude and sometimes threatening. I know that with my admission in this thread it sounds like I'm a weird, paranoid squirrel of a person, but I'm perfectly capable of being friendly.
I'm even capable if complimenting people when I'm out and about. ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ
d(^_^o) You betcha I tell guys "nice bulge!" Or "look at the buns on him!"
I kid, I kid!
Seems to me there's a misunderstanding. I can accept a compliment. To be clear, there is a difference between a compliment and harassment. Also, the environment has a major affect on how I react. If the area has people and seems fairly safe (as in I'm not cornered or completely alone) and it's worded appropriately, I will of course smile and say thank you. Believe it or not, it's happened.
Most of the tangents were about street harassment, which is often more crude and sometimes threatening. I know that with my admission in this thread it sounds like I'm a weird, paranoid squirrel of a person, but I'm perfectly capable of being friendly.
I'm even capable if complimenting people when I'm out and about. ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ
d(^_^o) You betcha I tell guys "nice bulge!" Or "look at the buns on him!"
I kid, I kid!
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*sighs* I never get a compliment. I'd normally have a bigger bulge but it's cold...err...really cold brrrr it's winter, right?
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For half of the world, yes, it is winter.
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This reminded me of something I've been meaning to raise: the other side of the situation bailadora describes, how to make an approach to somebody that doesn't leave them trying to answer these questions. Since this thread is already getting unwieldy without adding a new topic of discussion, I've started a new thread for discussing that topic.
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if you want to trick her into having sex, use compliments that are disarming and ambiguous. think on your feet...is she wearing a hat? You could say: "That's a nice hat"
